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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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is a 13 year old and 15 year old realtionship wrong?

of course not!!!! my uncle is 40 and his girlfriend is 22... i mean look at your parents age.. there problemby at lease 1 or 2 years apart... 13 and 15 year old relationship is deffidenly not wrong!

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OK...
i want out with this guy, he was cool and stuff and yeah..then after we broke up my friend (lets call him billy) well billy told me that he talks crap about me all the time and then when i talk to (ex) he says" No i don't" but billy is a really good friend of mine...and my ex lets call him joe..well i still like joe but then billy and other people say he's stupid and a fag and stuff and says all this stuff about him, i still like him but like he thinks i'm stupid or something and he told me he doesnt like me...i told him everything one night and he never anwered me back...i just let it go...anyway billy keeps telling me stuff about what joe says about me, i dont wanna get worked up into things but i dont wanna loose a good friend like billy, Who do i believe? What do i do!!!? help me please. xoX

well if joe is a loser and a lot of people don't like him then most likely you shoudl listen to billy.. billy is your friend and would be true to you joe is just an ex who you still have a crush on.. from what your telling me joe is very unpopular with you friends (meaning they do not like hime) and if lots of your friends don't like him you should go to your friends side not your ex's also... they are your friends... why woudl billy want to lie to you.. it would just hurt you and im sure he wouldn't want that.. hope i helped!

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I'm really bored, and sick of the websites I've been viewing. Does anyone know any cool websites that I can go to? Thanks! I rate 5's for helpful answers!

funny sites are really fun to go onto!! like maybe www.albinoblacksheep.com

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well ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months. we're both 14 and pretty conservative. im not sure what everyone else does but im not sure where we should be in our relationship. if you have any experience with this at all, any help is greatly appreciated.

where you should be is completely and entirely up to you and your boyfriend.. some people by this time yes, have kissed but there is no limit to where you should or shouldn't be!.. if you are ready and your boyfriend is ready to kiss or not do or don't do it..! this this completly up to you to! hope i helped... anymore questions let me know!!

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okay. i like this guy alot! And my friend asked him if he likes me. He he said "no.....just as a friend". but she says he said it funny (like he was lieing)
And, i dunno 2 move on. or keep flirting. *because when he flirts-i flirt/when i flirt-he flirts.
Do i give up or what?

deffidently keep flirting with him.. if you dont' know for sure... then you need to keep going and try to get him to like you.. flirt .. kidd around etc. make everything fun and a game when your around him.. but DO NOT GIVE UP!!! hope i helped!

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wheres a good place to get cute cheap underwear [if u can list the styles they sell too thnx]

well i don't know if you have a DEB near you but they sell great underwear... all kinds.. thongs.. string... full... boyshorts.. etc. they have a sale always for buy 2 get the third free! so i would say there pretty cheap.. each pair costs about 3-4 dollars.. hope this helps!..

ps. don't go to victoria secret.. there expencive there... there is a rack by 5 for 25 there 5$ each witch is still sorta expencive..

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there's this thing at school where its a week dedicated to reading and writting so there were some requirements. one of them was writting a letter so i got my bf to write one to me and i would write one to him. well i told him this wednesday toward the begining of our convo on the phone. i wrote the letter and i havent really gotten a chance to talk to him since. well the things is, i dont know if he remembers! i dont wanna push him into doing it cuz i was the one to mention it in the first place. what should i do?

ask him... say "you know that letter right?... who are you writting yours to?" if he remembers then there you go! but if not maybe say "i'm wrote mine to you, maybe we could write on to eachother, how does that sound?" or something around those lines... hope he remembers :-)

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What do you say to a friend that is mad at you and you really want them to be unmad at you? I really want to tell them that i am sorry but i am not sure how and when to bring it up. :\ plz help me!!!

okay.. any time is a good time to bring it up usually.. you need to tell them that you are sorry.. and you didn't mean to get them mad at you... just be like "remember about the other day... i am really terribly sorry for what happened..." etc. hope everything works out fine..

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Okaii well ii wouldn`t normally ask//tell sumbodiie ii diidn`t knOe alla thiis but sumbodiie qave meh yOur liink nd tOld meh tO ask yOOh fOr adviice Or w/e. SO here qOeSz ..

Okaii. ii`M biisexual nd alOtta mii friiends dumped meh nd diitched meh b/c Of iit. Well, ii had thiis qurlfriiend whO ii lOved-even thO ii had just prettiie much met. Liike ii was always happiie nd errthanq ! nd then One daii she dumped meh ( here about 4daiis aqO ). Nd liike ever siince ii`ve been reeliie suiiciidal.

Well, nOt Onliie iis that One Of mii prOblemSz, but mii mOm beatSz meeh, pretty much alla the tiime.

okay well... if they ditch you just because you are bi then they aren't really true friends.. you need to tell this girl how you felt.. because if she doesn't know how you felt she will never come running back to you... sucicide is not the answer either.. you need to try and let go.. there will be other people out there for you and one day you will get married and have a nice life with this person.. you need to get out of your house.. if you mom is beating you that just isn't right... one day she might really hurt you and then your not going to know what to do... if you get into a fight with your mother you need to run to a true friends house or a family member.. they will take you in.. in no time! hope i help.. and if you need anymore help or support let me now...

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ok..well here i go..im in MAJOR need of some advice..sooooo..here it is..well i met this guy this year and we hit it off really well..i broke up with my boyfriend for him..and he broke up with his girlfriend..(so he told me)..but we made out and did some other stuff..then i find out he never broke up with her..first off..im 14 hes 18...and yeah he was playing me the whole time and my parents told me i could date him and he wanted to date me..but then one night he IM's me on the computer and says he wasnts to be with his girlfriend..not me...so im really sad..and now in school i cant face him..i cry all night..its really hard for me..and whenever i talk to him he is always talking about the good things he does with his girlfriend..and now i dont no how i can get close with anyone else...im afraid of getting hurt again...PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!PLEASE!!

okay i have the same problem... your afraid to get close because you ARE right you are too afraid of getting hurt.. actually i think he is trying on purpose to make you jealous... maybe he might be trying to get you to do other things with him instead of the things that you did... and at 18 if you had sex with him it is illegal and he could go to jail for "raping" you even if you did want it.. what you need to tell yourself is that "he isn't worth my tear he is an ***hole.. and i deserve better!" hunny you do deserve better! you deserve to be treated like an angel and like the world revolves around YOU! and you only in his life.. i can't really help you get over being hurt because i myself have the same problem.. what you have to do is wait and find another guy that you adore and try and forget about your ex.if you need any more help just let me know! hope you can get over it!! :-) :-(

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Okay im a 14-year-old girl and im soon gettin a 4-wheeler. I just learned to use a clutch --The one where it has 5 gears and you hold in the clutch and shift with your foot-- and i was wondering if anybody in here knows of a good 4-wheeler for me. Not automatic, not too expensive, and no mix-gas. No oil injectors either. What is better..4 or 2 stroke? And nothing like a banshee becasue i drove them and they have too much power for me to handle :-p. Plzz answer, thanx so muchhh!

try a 4 stroke... your not going to find many 4 wheelers that are not expencive unless you get one used and they are still a lot ... try a yamaha or something.. those are really good and should last a while... longer than the other less known brands.. unless if they are too much.. then take some one with you who knows a lot about them and let them pick out a good one for you!

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im looking for some help/advice as to why i always have to buy things in large amounts. for example i cant buy just one pen i have to get 4 or 5 at a time its the same with everything. if i go to a store to buy one thing i buy at least 5-6 things that i dont really need but buy anyway. any help or ideas would be appreciated.

well... there isn't much to say but you are a shopper!! you love to shop.. if you see a great deal you have to buy it! ... it's just something in your conciousness that is say to you buy more buy more! next time when your at the store try and stop yourself.. say " i only need one of these... " or try saying in sadness "i am buying all this stuff and poor children have nothing!" etc. hope this helps.. sorry i could get that well into detail!

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I know this is long but please bare with me, here. I think it's a pretty simply thing, but I am not sure so I am asking. I don't know what to put this under..so the closest I could get was under families.

Anyways, in mid- March my dad had got a Nokia 6015i with a Verizon plan for him and my mom. He gave me his Nokia 1100 phone, which is pre-paid and I like it and all. I want a LG VX6100, I asked if I could be part of the plan as well, since I can basically have my own phone line on the weekends and all, because of the free nights and weekends. I can't use the cell I have now because it's pre-paid and I am only suppose to use it for emergencis (sp?) , or if I am outside or they can't find me in Wal*Mart or somthing. I think you get the idea. My dad said he would think about it.

My question is if I paid for the phone it self with my birthday money since it was back in late March and I stil have about 80 bucks in checks that need to be cashed. Could my dad put me in the plan? and will it make a difference in the bill plan my parents have? or no?..-Thanks in advance to those who answer

okay well that phone i have no clue have much it costs... but in some stores you can get rebates.. yes it would deffidently cost a lot to get the phone and put you in his plan...maybe ask him if you can get the family plan where you can talk to your family for free.. etc. but one plan costs about 49.99 that is about 50 dollars a month... plus if you go over the plans given minutes it costs a lot extra... so in other words your parents would be paying instead of a 100$ plan every month a 150$ plan... also. activating a plan costs A LOT !! about 115 or even more dollars... just to activate your phone that you are going to buy.. so think it over and make your decision... :-D

ps. some phones you can get free so if you want one of them you could pay for like half of the activation fee...

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well ya see i want to get black streaks in my hair... idk how i should do it tho... my parents dont want me to say they wouldnt take me to get it done... so im gona do it without asking them...
my hair comes a TINY bit bellow my shoulders in the front...its layerd like crazy...and it gets longer in the back...and its naturally wavy and really thick... oh yea and i also have bangs down a tiny bit pasmy eyes... and its a bunch of different colors ( naturally)... mostly dirtly blonde, light brown... how should i get it done? should i go to a salon anyways? if i dont... what product should i use? also... if i do it myslef... how? also if i go to a salon... how much is it?
PS if it helps... i like the way Xtina Agularas hair looked when it had black streaks

xtina's hair is really unique.. im pretty sure that she got a really expencive hair stylist.. if you go to a salon it will cost pretty much.. usually when i got mine done it costed from 77-110 dollars... if you do it at your house it should only cost like 10 dollars or so.. you could try and get one of those hair things that have the highlighting styling comb.. my mom did my sisters at home with one.. it came out real good! xtinas hair was kinda funky looking because she had like chains in her hair and it was braided thats why it looked so cool... her hair was like mostly the same way most people get there hair highlighted but she had like a lot of black at the ends of her hair.. a stylist could problemby get it most acurate look here is a picture of her if you actually go to a salon and want to print it out... http://www.mydreamsite.de/Jan/Xtina/Downloads/Wallpaper/casual_candy_1024x768.jpg

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well there is this boy that told me he likes me, but i only liked him as a friend then....and now that i saw him again, he acted totally the same but then somehow i am madly in love with him now...i am pretty sure that he still like me but i am not really sure...how can i know...and also, he doesn't go to the same skool as me so would it be bad or weird if i was his gf?

i think it would be really hard for you to go out with this kid... because he doesn't go to the same school you woulnd't be able to see him and long distance relationships are hard... but you could try it out.. see how it goes.. nothing really to loose... but it will be very hard... well you can ask him to find out... or you can look at his body actions soemtimes you can tell.. plus flirting if he flirts that sometimes means he likes you.. but there is not really great way to find out for sure if he likes you unless you ask him yourself

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There's this boy i really like but... i have a boyfriend and im going to be going out with him for 6 months this friday and I already had sex with him and I really like this kid named josh and we have 2 classes together and he’s in my grade. My friend asked him if he liked and and he was like ummmmmmmmmm ummmmmmm ummmm and asked who? And she said my name and he said ummmm no. how do I know if he likes me.??????!!!!!! Really need to know!! He’s moving to California in July and all I want is just a lil piece of him lol and I like in ny so we would NEVER see each other

hunny, if your going to have sex with this kid you need to break it off wiht your boyfriend... it will cause major, MAJOR problems... plus , if i were you i wouldn't take a little piece of him because you are never goign to see him again and it is kinda like a one night stand.. plus you will get labeled as a slut or some other sort of nasty names.. soo im telling you if you really love your boyfriend you will not do anything to josh.. you will break your boyfriends heart into many pieces...

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i dont usually do this but ok..im in love with this one guy that i've been with for 11 months, and he claims he is in love with me, but when we get in an arguement he says he doesnt love me right now, which is weird bc i thought that if you was in love with someoen you would love them unconditionally, he makes all the rules and doesnt let me have input on anything.every timei talk to him i end up crying bc he hurts me so bad emotionally..the only time he acts good to me is when he is about to get something(you know what i mean) after that he's back to his normal self.what should i do? i try leaving him but i always get weak and run back to him.i love him alot and i dnt know what i should do.i try telling him how i feel and he gets pissed so i just keep it to myself..im getting really close with this other guy who feels the same way about me as i do my guy, and i dont know what i should do, i love the guy im with, not the one who treats me like a goddess,..*confused*..what should i do..sorry its so long..forgive me lol

if this guy treats yuou like crap forget about him. you want some one who will treat you like a queen.. not someone who loves you one moment and doesn't the next.. it should be unconditional love.... not one second 2 second love...but remember if you break up with this guy he may not come running back to you.. so you need to make sure if your goign to do it!... and make sure you let him know why you are soo if he comes running back to you, you and you want him back you can say only under these circumstances! "........" and make sure you really like this guy first..

my advice is dump him.. he is a loser to you! he treats you like dirt when you should be treated like a princess

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It feels like me and my friend are getting farther apart... we are in 10th grade and we met when we were in 4th... we became like best friends in like around 8th... idk... she has been hanging out with diff ppl... her boyfriends friends and these older ppl... they smoke and drink and such... she wanted me to hang with her and them but i'm not like that... i use to drink and i have tried smoking but its w/e... her mom let's her go out with them and such... im scared one day something is going to happen... like she will get hurt and i didn't do anything to help her... like all if em or most of em drive and i'm scared that she will get into a car accident and i didn't tell her anything... she told me for her boyfriends b-day present she was going to give him her virginity... she asked me and i told her idk cause im waiting till i get married and such... but i just need to knw what to do... honest please... none of that "just talk to her crap"... no offense but i've heard of that and tried but i have gotten no luck... i love her to death but idk what to do...

~Please help~

you need to talk to her!! i know you've tried.. but you have to try again.. let see what else you can do.. maybe tell her mom... her mom deserves to know what is goign on.. tell her that you are scared for her.. and you don't want anythign to happen.. if you can't get through to her maybe her mom can... maybe one time you should go with her so you can keep her safe from the drugs and all that.. then she won't get into a car with a drunk driver you could maybe get her away from it and call your mom to pick the both of you up... hope i helped

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sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her?

aww hunny!! well try and use your pregnancy test and show you mom and tell her that you have never had sex and that you don't know what to do.. tell her if you do have the baby you want it to have a blood sample taken out and taken out of your step bro's and his friend.. you can not deal with it.. tell your mom that your are not kidding and if she truly knows you like you think then she should now that you are not lying that it is the deffinet truth... tell her that she has to trust you on this.. look into her eyes to show her that you actually are telling the truth... i am with you 100%... i never saw my dad either...

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I went to a sleepover recently and got around three hours of sleep. The next day, my parents took me to a concert that they really wanted to go to, and it was terribly tiring for me, but I held through it. Suddenly, my mother decides to tell me that we are going to a dinner party, and I almost started crying because I was just so tired and I didn't want the guests to see me that way. Of course, I was stupid and decided to be moody and upset, and my mom gave me a lecture afterwards and told me that a lot of people at the party knew I was acting up, and the older girl at the party was being so sweet and nice even though she was probably tired too. I feel really guilty, even though I apologized to my mom, because these other people who saw me probably think I'm whack, and the other girl was so sweet and kind and inviting. Is there anything that will make me feel better?

well.. your mother knows how you feel and how bad you feel about being so tired.. tell her that you had a really tough night and let her know that you are sorry and maybe try and make up for it maybe make a dinner for them and clean up ... so then you can kind of even it out... plus.. your mom most likely knows how you feel... and that you didn't mean it.. mothers know everything! hope i helped

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