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Hey guys i want to put some post its on my bathroom mirror with little inspirational sayings or something to do with positive thinking. Just little reminders. So far i have "positive attitude creates positive results" "Where there is no struggle there is no strength" and "obstacles are what you see when you lose sight of your goal" Does anybody have any other suggestions.. Your help is greatly appreciated and i do rate :) (link)
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"Relax" is a good one because too many people forget to step back a bit when a problem presents itself and they end up acting too rashly or hastily.
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My best friend is going through a hard time with her family. Her mom is a homosexual, her father is going through a divorce with a bitch who was always mean to her. She is very protective of me and our other friend. She said that she " will enjoy every scream and every drop of blood someone spills that she causes after they try to hurt us. I've been really worried about her,and I insisted that we take her to a couseler since she won't let me help. She began cutting herself saying she "aches to see blood." She got mad at me for "thinking there was something wrong with her" but I'm just worried. She starts to go toward someone to hit them then stops. She always tries to help everyone else saying she comes last. She won't let me help, and she hates attention so why is she doing this? Whats wrong? Please help- Worried friend (link)
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She has a lot of anger issues over an unstable family situation and yet is wary of being a burden to her friends, perhaps being afraid of driving them away. While her mom and dad were dealing with their issues they neglected her and so she cuts herself to get the attention.
You're just going to have to tell her that you love her as a friend and that a counselor or therapist could help her sort out a lot of her anger and put her in a more constructive frame of mind. You guys actually kind of need to nurture her since her parents aren't really doing that. Keep reminding her that she is an important part of your life and, eventually, I think she will begin to calm down once she gets the emotional reinforcement she needs.
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I work at a flower shop after school and this guy texted me saying he was comming in to get a attachment of flowers for his mom stepmom and grandma for mothers day. So he stayed around there with me and helped pick out and arrange the flowers we talked lots and he asked lots of questions about me like where I'm going to college in September and what I like to do and stuff. I thought we connected, the next day he texted saying one arrangment wasnt quite right so he came by to fix it up and we talked for about an other hour. Three days later he texted me saying your not in class :p does he like me?? I want to aeast be friends and how should I start talking to him more it's been 4 days since he last texted me I think. :s any advice? :) (link)
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When guys spend that much time talking to you and take that kind of interest in you they want to be with you. So now it is up to you to make things happen. He doesn't want to seem too anxious by texting you every day. In fact, a lot of women are hotter for guys who seem like you kinda have to fight for their attention. So text him back and tell him when your next off day is and say that you don't have any plans unless he wants to get together and do something with you. If he doesn't take the hint after that he is really dense.
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Me and my girlfriend want to have sex. I'm 17 and she's 18. How do we do it ? (link)
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Environment and atmosphere is important to women. Wherever you do it, make sure it is clean and smells good or has no smell at all. The bed clothes should have been washed within the last day or two. She will probably be kinda shy if it is her first time, so get some candles and put them around the room and light them. Just make sure you aren't creating a fire hazard. This way, it sets a romantic mood and you will be able to see what you are doing while it won't be as stark as having the lights on.
Put on some nice romantic music. Al Green's greatest hits volume one is an excellent choice, the Stylistics greatest hits, some B.B. King, Judy Collins Wildflowers album, or mellow jazz like Russell Malone or Shirley Horn would also be good. George Benson's Breezin' album is good, too.
If you two drink, have a small glass of wine to help you relax.
First, you start off with some long, slow kissing. Cradle her faced in your palm and caress it as you kiss her. Tell her how beautiful she is and that your life is better for having her in it.
Then pull her top off slowly or unbutton her blouse and then reach behind her and unhook her bra. Usually, you just pull the hooks away from each other to undo them. Start lightly kissing and nibbling on her neck while you begin to stroke her naked back. Lightly run your fingernails over it. Enjoy the scent of her hair and the feel of her skin against your hands and your lips. Again, take it slow. Don't forget to keep kissing her every now and again on the lips. Tell her how amazing she looks in the candlelight.
Gently begin to massage her breast. Run the pad of a finger the length of her nipple and around it. Slide your body down and suck tenderly on her nipples. Listen to her responses. If she is wearing a skirt, start lightly running a hand up and down her naked thigh. If she is wearing pants, undo them and slowly pull them open. Slide your hand under her panties while you continue to suckle her nipples. Gently rub the area in the middle of her vaginal lips but at the top of them, the clitoris. Ask her if that feels good. Ask her if she wants you to rub it harder. You will feel her getting wet. Again, take your time. If she starts to moan, keep rubbing her clit and sucking and licking her nipples. Have patience, it will take some time for her to cum. Keep your hand relaxed so that it doesn't get tired. Rub her until she has an orgasm. Do not insert your fingers into her yet.
After she finishes her orgasm, pull her pants or skirt and panties off so that she is totally naked. Scoot down further and spread her legs open and crawl between them. Kiss and nibble her thighs. When your tongue finds her vagina, lick up and down the slit a few times. Keep your jaw, tongue and mouth relaxed so they don't fatigue. Find her clit. If you can't find it due to the dark, ask her to guide your mouth to it. Start licking it and listen to her reactions. Suck on it gently (note that some women don't like that; they prefer more indirect pressure) and alternate that with licking it. Encourage her to tell you what she wants you to do. Then take one finger and slip it into her vagina and begin to lightly rub the upper wall just inside the opening (the g spot). You will feel a group of spongy ridges there. When you rub it, she will initially feel an urge to urinate, but that will pass and become very pleasurable. Keep using your tongue and mouth on her clit while you do that. Enjoy the taste of her. Insert another finger and rub her g spot with it, too. Be gentle. Hopefully, she will eventually orgasm. When she does, don't stop licking and sucking her clit, Keep it up. Try to make her have multiples. Suck on the clit repeatedly in the same way you would want your cock sucked. If your mouth or jaw get sore, stop.
Move up on top of her and have her guide your penis to her opening. Then push it into her and slowly begin to thrust it in and out. Don't try to suppress the urge to cum. Instead, make your body limp as you pump your cock into her and keep your head empty. Become like a piston machine. Once she has had another orgasm then you can kinda switch your brain back on and cum. Hug her and kiss her while you are thrusting into her. Wen you hear her breathing get more rapid, start thrusting faster to try to push her over the edge.
Okay, after writing all that, it is possible that when you eat her for the first time she may not orgasm because you just need more time to really learn how to trip her trigger that way. No big deal. At least you made the effort. Also, if she tells you to fuck her, do it. That could be one polite way of telling you that your oral efforts aren't doing anything for her. Don't fret about this. This is only your first time.
After you have cum, have some tissues available to wipe her as the cum comes dripping out of her. Then cuddle her and tell her you love her. DO NOT ask her if she came! Women hate that question! Also, do not just roll over and go to sleep. Give her little kisses and tell her your glad to have such a wonderful girlfriend and that you wish what you were feeling with her would last forever.
Incidentally, just for reference, it would probably help if you masturbate before you meet her that night. It will help you last longer in bed if you've already popped a load.
Good luck! I hope this helps.
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I'm nearing the end of my first year of a Politics degree at a UK university. I've been pretty miserable the whole time I've been here for various reasons - I'm not enjoying the course, my flatmates are awful, I'm very lonely and I miss home badly.
Now I'm seriously considering dropping out, going home and getting a job. I've weighed up the pros/cons of both staying at university and leaving but either way it seems I get a bad deal. I can either spend another two years completing my degree and being miserable or I can go home and accept I will struggle to find a 'good' job.
The truth is, if someone said to me I could go home tomorrow and have a decent job ready and waiting for me then I'd go in a heartbeat. Deep down I know I would be happier at home but I'm scared of ruining my future prospects.
What should I do? (link)
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I'm not that familiar with how the education system works in the UK, but can you transfer to a different university?
Here's the thing: sometimes you find yourself in a place that just does not agree with your sensibility. I went through this my first semester of high school (thank God my family moved) and I am going through it with where I live now. So it is important for you to find a place where the atmosphere matches your outlook.
As for just quitting education altogether, you can do that and re-enter college later if the UK system permits that (one can do that in America). But given the state of the world economy, which looks to continue to be stagnant for the next few years, foregoing a college education is unlikely to be a wise decision. Again, if you can, move to a different school. Barring that, you are just going to have to tough it out for your own good. Then once you graduate, go live overseas for a while.
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i'll try to make this short: i'm going to school to become a medical assistant next month. i have a choice to either do the 9 month diploma program or the 2 yr. associate's degree program. my friend recently got her diploma and has a good job with a medical clinic. which program should i complete? my goal in life is to just work a couple years and then become a stay-at-home mom. i feel like 2 yrs is a long time and i'm not getting any younger. would i be able to get a decent job if i just went for the diploma? thanks to everyone in advance. (link)
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If you really want job security, be a nurse. They are very much in demand and make a lot more money than medical assistants. You can even emigrate based solely on the fact that you are a nurse, they are that much in demand in first world countries.
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well last year i got my first job at a camp and im met this guy he is such a big flirt, he was always touchy and had these nicknames and i liked all this attetion and i strated to like and i guess nothing happen and we havent talked this camp. so this summer im working at the same camp again and i know he'll be working thier too, so im wondering what do i do this summer do i got up to him first or do i wait for him to notice me ???? (link)
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If he is interested in you he will let you know it. Just be nice to him and smile a lot. Touch him on the arms and compliment him. Just make sure he isn't a player.
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At my school, it's required for seniors to do a senior project. It's done throughout the entire year, so I thought it would be great to do some sort of community service, since it's definitely something that can help with college admissions.
1. Do a clothing drive for kids and teens in Cameroon (my family is Cameroonian, so it really means something to me to help there), and also do the "30 hour famine" ( http://www.30hourfamine.org/ ) to raise money and food supplies for other poor Africans
2. Participate in "Jamie Oliver's food revolution" ( http://www.jamieoliver.com/us/foundation/jamies-food-revolution ) to change lunch in my school district. Nobody likes the food at my school, because it's bland, processed, etc. but we do have healthy sides, like vegetables and fruit, so I'm not sure whether I need to do it. the driving factor for me wanting to do this is so that my younger brother in elementary school can eat good food as he grows up, when he eats school lunch. I don't like the idea of him eating what we have now all the time. Also, school lunch at my school is exorbitantly expensive, so I'd love for the food to be better quality, but at a reasonable price, if possible. and no high fructose corn syrup in chocolate milk and our drink machines!
These are the 2 main ideas I have now. I really want something to have a big community impact, whether it's in my town or someplace else. Usually people pick projects that don't have much of an influence, like learning to play guitar or w/e, but I love to help people out, and understand how much work it's going to take, and seek it. (I'll have all year to do it, anyways)
If you have any other good ideas, please add! When I go to college I want to major in Economics.. but I couldn't think of a senior project relating to that. So if you can, I'd love to hear it! Or anything else! And my dream college is University of Chicago, by the way. If that affects anything!
Thanks so much if you can give your input. (link)
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Africa could very well be the future. So your project suggestion about a clothing drive for kids in Cameroon would be a good idea for a couple of reasons:
1. You are doing something selfless. When you discuss this with a future employer, talk about how you worked as part of a team and how you provided leadership during the project as well as what concrete accomplishments came out of your efforts.
2. Companies are increasingly global, so again, doing something in an overseas context looks better than doing something at home. Have a concrete explanation of what you learned during the whole experience, including what you learned about yourself.
You ever think about entering the foreign service? It's tough to get into, but given your background you could be very valuable to your country in that regard. You will have to know how to speak at least one foreign language to even get a look. Check into it and see if it's suitable for you.
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Im 17/male
I've been seeing this girl for the past few months
and all of a sudden, overnight, she transformed.
Why is this? HELP (link)
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You don't say how the transformation manifested itself, so it is tough to say. More information please.
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A few months ago, my best friend and I confessed our feelings for each other, and decided that we could try this out and see where it goes. We weren't that serious, and just had our "first date" 2 months ago. We were fine for a while, acting like we always do, when all of a sudden, he stops talking to me. For 5 weeks, he has been ignoring my texts and seems to be avoiding me. I have asked him a few times if I did something to upset him, but he's not telling me anything. What should I do? (link)
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He found somebody else and is too chicken to break up with you face to face. So it's time for you to ignore him and move on.
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i recently got on a (3 days ago) diet and have only been eating breakfast and nothing more. my periods a bit irregular; last time it started monday the time before that wednesday and before that thursday. so im not sure if i should get it tomorrow. and can the weight loss delay it? cause usually i already feel it in my tummy that im getting it and now im not. i am sexually active but me and my bf always use a condom and it never ripped or anything like that.. (link)
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The best way to diet is to eat several small meals during the day, which will keep your metabolism revved up.
When you only eat one meal a day, your metabolism tends to slow down as a genetically determined defense mechanism from famine.
There are also nutritious things you can eat a lot of and they have virtually no calorie load. Carrots, broccoli, cauliflower and other veggies (avocado, though, is high in fat) can be steamed and munched on through the day and give you needed nutrients while not packing much of a caloric impact.
You can have a piece of fruit 2-3 times a day, too, but those usually have natural sugars, so they do pack a calorie load, though not a huge amount and they have more nutrients that are good for you.
And if you add exercise to that you can burn up even more calories. Swimming works every muscle into the body and is good for tapering a woman's body. Doing an hour of laps every day will give you a smoking body and consume lots of calories.
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Ok so i am tired of people assuming i am emo and gothic, there's nothing wrong with gothics or emos, but i am soooo tired of people thinking i am when i am not. SO my question is How do i make people stop thinking i am gothic or emo?????? please help me (link)
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The main thing is to relax and know what makes you happy. If other people can't deal with it or misapprehend it that is their problem.
The other thing is that once everybody graduates high school, they will scatter to the four winds and you will find that whatever you experienced in high school really doesn't count for much. So what you are dealing with right now is kind of a temporary storm that will pass.
You're the only one who can live your life. Don't let others interfere with it. Half the planet has IQs under 100, so consider the source when people rag on you about how you dress or what lifestyle you lead. Most people are herd animals anyway and are actually really chickenshit because they don't want to be alienated from the crowd. So take control of your life and push forward toward a happy life.
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Okay I'm pregnant with my current boyfriends baby and I have three choices. My first choice is to move in with my sister while he gets a job and we both move in together. My second choice is move in with him and his family. My last choice which is giving me the biggest problems is staying with my mom and my other sister. The problem with that is that me and that sister don't get along and both her and my mom don't want me to be with my boyfriend until he gets a job. I love my boyfriend so much and I don't want to live with my mom and she is trying to force me into staying with her but I don't want to because I wont be able to see him. My question is out of the three which one would sound like the best choice for me right now? (btw I'm 19) (link)
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You're an adult. You can make your own decisions.
The first consideration, though, is what will be the best environment for the baby. Are his parents responsible people? Or are they flakes or worse? If they aren't the most stable people in the world then you should stay home.
Since the boyfriend doesn't have a job moving out with him (you guys getting your own apartment) is not a consideration.
You, your mom and your sister will have to sit down and have a discussion about creating a good atmosphere for raising a child. That means that both you and your sister will have to give up some of your native selfishness. Try to reach a meeting of the minds and then go from there.
Whatever you decide, good luck. Once your boyfriend finds employment either one or both of you should also start going to community college part time. You're going to need education to dig yourselves out of this hole you're in. My folks had me when they were teenagers and they sacrificed mightily to put each other through school and elevate us into the middle class. So you need to make longterm plans like my parents did.
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i get scared at night and im 13 and i wanted to cut my jeans into a skirt but my mom said no i kept saying please and she screamed at me and said NO!!! so i said when will i b ble to do things on my own and she said when you sleep in your own room and not act like a 3 year old nd i cried and ran in my room what should i do/say!!!! (link)
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Your mom is paying the bills. As long as you live in her house you follow her rules.
You're not going to like this, either: your brain will keep developing until about age 25. That means that you are still a long way from intellectual and emotional maturity. Don't take that as an attack because it isn't. It is just a physiological fact.
Your mom had a reason she didn't want you to do that and a mature person wouldn't pout about it, but ask why and then weigh the responses. Teens are very self centered with poor impulse control. But if you can step back and try to see things through the eyes of others (this is called empathy) you may understand why your mother feels it is in your and perhaps even her interest to rule the way she did. Learning to do that is part of the maturation process.
Finally, look at this this way: if you have a roof over your head, eat regularly and reside in a safe area you are doing far better than about half the planet. So you have to have a sense of proportion about things. Plus in five years you can legally leave home and make your own decisions and support yourself. So try to be patient. Your world isn't ruined by this minor conflict.
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if i have mono, can i kiss someone who also has mono? if i get over mono, can i kiss someone who has it? (link)
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Talk to an MD. I knew some people who had mono. It is definitely not fun to have and, iirc, you can relapse from it. But only a doctor can give you a clear picture.
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What is the best way for me to show my girl friend that she means the world to me and that i fully trust her and love her with all of my heart? (link)
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First, don't try so hard. I know you really like her, but women don't like guys who are kissing their butts all the time. So relax and look at it as you need someone who can enjoy life with you rather than being so concerned with pleasing her to the exclusion of what pleases you. You got to have a balance because, in truth, she wants you to effectively be a substitute father figure (I am really simplifying here, so be careful how you grok this point).
Okay, having said that, the main thing women want in a relationship is to be understood. When she complains about something she usually doesn't want you to solve the problem (she is more than smart enough to do it herself) for her, but to get feedback that you comprehend the depths of her feeling on the matter. Listen carefully to how she is phrasing it, ask her a couple of questions about it, and then basically use your own words to summarize what you are hearing emotionally from her. Women bond with each other through self disclosure and she is reaching out to you when she talks about something that is bothering her and wants you to understand so she will feel more connected to you.
You can also write her notes about how you felt while you were with her last. You don't have to write a novel. Just something concise and honest. Learn to pay attention to simple things and integrate them into your messages. Do this only occasionally, not all the time or it takes the spontaneity out of it for her.
Or when you can get an extended period of privacy, turn the lights off, light some candles, warm up some massage oil and give her a full body massage. Don't expect anything out of it, just throw yourself into pleasing her and take your time. Ask her questions about what feels good, where she wants to be rubbed or touched and try to get her super relaxed. Then take a hot shower together. After that, go back to bed and hold her while you feed her little chocolates or strawberries. Don't feel her up, just make it all about her. Kissing is okay, though. Tell her how lucky you are to be with her and how it makes your life brighter. Tell her what you like most about her personality and how her eyes are like little jewels and you never get enough of looking into them. If you liked something she was wearing the other day tell her how you reacted to it, but not in a crude way, but in a way that validates her as a whole human being.
I think that would be pretty good for starters. The rest is up to you.
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Ok, so i am 16/f and really confused about my sexuality. I have a big crush on a guy but I am also attracted to girls, like a few of my good looking friends.I think I might be BI but i really dont know how to tell. I am really confused and could use some advice. Also If i am BI, how do I tell my parents. There not homophobes or anything, but I just dont know how to say it to their faces. I feel like if i do turn out to be bi and i tell them Ill be letting them down as a daughter because i am suppose to be with men, not women. None of my friends no either. Please help, I am so confused (link)
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I would skip telling your parents until you have a more concrete fix on your sexuality.
At your age, sexual experimentation and curiosity are totally normal. So what your assignment in this regard is to relax and just acknowledge to yourself that you are also interested in women as well as guys. It definitely doubles your chances, as the old joke goes, of getting a date for Friday night. *lol
If it turns out you really are bi or even lesbian, that isn't a bad thing. It is just the way you're wired and it doesn't mean you're a bad person or dirty or whatever. And you are going to attract more people if you like yourself anyway. I hope you find a partner, whatever the sex, who will give you lots of love and who you can reciprocate that to.
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I've been talking to this guy since April, and we've seemed to have a good chemistry. He is very sweet and funny and he's told me he likes me a lot. And even though he lives in Illinois, we have built a pretty good flirty friendship. I know I have to know him in the flesh to really know him, but I feel really astonished by such a cool person. But lately, I feel like we've been drifting apart. We barely talk anymore. He says he's always busy, since he has a long hour job and is constantly studying for exams this week. But I am very insecure and paranoid. I wonder if I can fully trust him. He claims I can but I have trust issues. I try my best to trust him, but I am getting afraid he is doing something behind my back or maybe even ignoring me. But inside I know he wouldn't do that... Even if I don't know him fully. I feel like I'm a nuisance and I don't want to feel that way. (link)
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Long distance relationships are tough. Guys are also not really talkers like girls are. He probably feels that, providing that he hasn't lost interest or hasn't found someone else, he just doesn't really have anything more to say without repeating himself and boring the crap out of you.
At this point I think this dalliance is running out of gas (which happens; don't beat yourself up over it) anyway and you should look more locally for a boyfriend.
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im a teenage boy, and i go to highschool full of hot girls. and since i see like 50 hot girls in a 6-hour time period at school, all that horniness builds up and i go home instantly and masturbate. And this happens everyday. Is this normal? And is it normal for me to imagine a specific girl at school when i am masturbating? Is this all normal? (link)
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Totally normal. Just try to keep your masturbation to just once a day.
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Two nights ago, on May 11, my boyfriend and I had sex. We started off for a few minutes not using a condom because it feels better for him. I know it's not a good idea, but that's why I made him put on the condom after a few minutes. I figured as long as he wasn't close to cumming inside me, I would be fine. So then we followed our normal routine of him wearing the condom but pulling out anyways when he came. After we finished, we both to the bathroom to pee. Then about 30 minutes later, we spontaneously went at it again and didn't use a condom, but it was only for a few minutes and then we stopped and he didn't cum.
Yesterday morning, I was telling my friend about it and she got all upset saying that I could get pregnant because there is live sperm leftover in his urethra up to 72 hours after ejaculation and it could've gotten inside me when he had sex the second time without a condom. Is this true? She also said that because he peed after the first time, it probably cleaned out most of what could have been left over.
But should I get the Plan B pill to be safe? I know it works up to 3 days after an accident. I had to take it twice last year when our condoms failed, that's why we started pulling out even when he did wear a condom.
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Your friend might be right, but at the very least his precum contains sperm and you could get pregnant from it. The pullout method really isn't that effective. A guy I used to know in my old neighborhood became the father of twins using the pullout method.
So I hope you aren't pregnant. And yes, sperm does live for 3-5 days inside you before it all dies off. So get on the pill or the cervical cap/diaphragm/deproprovera shot and use condoms, too, just to increase your chances of emerging safely from your sexual experiences.
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