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I am 16 almost 17 in a few months ( female) and i met this guy bryan at a party and we started going out together and meeting up with eachother and sum frends every saturday night. he doesnt go to my school so we would basically spend every sat. nite together. we began to get pretty close and we kissed.. then hooked up.. but the problem is. .he is one year and a few months younger than me.. it doesnt really bother me.. but he is a grade younger than me too. that is mainly the problem.. i defiantely would consider making this a more serious relationship except that he is in a grade younger then me.. i am going to 11th grade and he is going to 10th. it seems like such a big defference bc wen we used to "date" he was still in 9th grade adn i was in tenth. 9th grade seems sooo young ..the problem is not that he is immature or anything.. bc he defiantely is not.. if anything he may know more about a long term relationship than me. I went out with my other bf for 6 months and he had a gf for about 2 yrs on and off.. but more on.. .. they broke up about 2 months before me and him startted talking.. what i was mainly worried about was that people would find out weve been seeing eachother and think that we are going out and that is mainly wats bothering me. he is younger than me and it makes me look bad.. i dont want that reputatiion:"that i go for younger guys" and i no that people always say that i shouldnt care wat other people think, but the reality is that you should.. bc that is wat matters.. its like going around sleeping with guys not caring wat people will say about you.. like if they would say ur a slutt or a whore.. but the truth is that you do have to care wat other ppl think bc if you dont then you will fuck up your reputation and i dont want to do that. we are currently not talking or communicating anymore but i do no this. he is now with his ex gf.. they are bak together but i honestly dont understand why.. like i dont.. she looks like she doesnt shower.. and i gues shes just like somone he nos he can go bak to.. she seriosuly is obssessed with him and even wen they werent together she'd always be hinting things like.. - i want to be wih you- she'd basically be all up on him and i thikn she is his comfort and thats why he went bak to her.. they really probably had sumtihng.. 2yrs.. like damn, i totally understand wow.. but thats not what really bothers me.. i diidnt really like him thattt much to like cry over him bc i was "with him" for like 2 months and thats bc i wanted to have sombody.. and i realizedc i just wanted SOMEBODY.. even if it wasnt him,.. i just wanted somone..my question is .. if an opportunity to be with him or another younger guy than me comes along.. should i take it even if it may fuck up my rep? ( bc i really feel like he would have been such a good bf.. ) but i dno if hes worth my rep ( or if any guy is)
also,my other question is- how do i act around him if i see him one day
like we ended really weirdly... we jsut stopped ccalling eachother and that was the end of it. do i say hi to him? or wat? like if i run into him shoulkd i hugg him? how shuold i act? (link)
Allow me to point out a few things before I answer your question:

You seem to be saying that...

(1) you were basically ashamed of dating this guy, because he was too young,

(2) you didn't want other people to know about your relationship,

(3) you thought he would give you a bad reputation,

(4) people would assume you were a slut for dating him,

(5) you didn't like him enough to get all that upset over his leaving,

(6) you didn't much care whether you were with him, as long as you were with SOMEBODY.

Of COURSE he's going to stop calling you! Guys don't like to date girls who are ashamed of them and who care more about their reputation than their relationships. I'm guessing that the reason why he went back to his former girlfriend is because he would rather be around someone who values him, is glad to be with him, and doesn't care who knows it.

That being the case, here's how you should react when you see him: Apologize for being so self-centered, and hope he forgives you. But don't get your hopes up about being his girlfriend again.


Okay I have been having sex with this guy for a year and a half off and on but it seems more frequent now. I Love it but there is one problem everytime we have sex because he is huge i can feel him hit something inside and I dont know what it could be does anyone know if that is safe or not? (link)
If it doesn't hurt, it's probably harmless. I'm not an expert on female genital anatomy, however. You probably ought to ask a gynecologist.


does organic foods mean they don't have anything sweet in it? like, there's this organic store here, and they sell cake and anything and everything organic. i'm eating this dessert thing and i just to thinking if it will maybe give you like calories like regular desserts and stuff. (link)
Organic generally means all-natural, raised without chemical fertilizers, free-roaming chickens, that kind of thing.

However, be aware that the USFDA actually has no standard for what "organic" MUST mean. Theoretically, you could be eating a hamburger from a genetically-modified cow raised in a climate-controlled box on a vitamin/protein/carbohydrate pulp grown in a test tube, and they could call it "organic" just because they feel like it.

Organic doesn't automatically mean healthy or natural. Often, it just means more expensive.


How do I put a tampon in??? (link)
How should I know? I'm a man.


where can i buy two nice rings for me and my boyfriend. I only have 80 bucks (link)
Try a pawn shop. No guarantee about the actual quality of the merchandise, but you can certainly find some nice-looking rings in such places.


My boyfriend and i has been together for two weeks, and we had dry sex with our clothes on. His penis had touched my vagina, but we had pants on, he wore boy shorts and i wore my sleeping shorts, and i wore underwear and he wore boxers under his shorts. So then, the question is am i pregnate? im scared as usual about this. I havent gotten my period yet because it should be coming soon, if it doesnt come yet, I don't know what should i do. Am i pregnate? Please help me ! (link)
It would be next to impossible for you to become pregnant through four layers of cloth. A period can be late or missed for other reasons besides pregnancy.

Get a test at the drugstore if you want some peace of mind, but I really don't think you have anything to worry about.


My friend told me he started smoking weed so I want to know how bad it is. Is smoking weed considered a drug? And is it worse then ciggarettes? And is it addictive? Any more info about it would be appreciated! (link)
(1) It is a drug. It has a definite, measurable effect on the brain and body.

(2) It's hard to say whether it's better or worse than cigarettes. However, it's safe to say that any kind of smoke in your lungs is a bad thing. There is also the fact that marijuana is a totally unregulated product, meaning that you have no idea what you're getting when you light up. Who's to say that someone hasn't added PCP to the joint you take?

(3) Marijuana has been described as psychologically addictive, putting it in the same category as compulsive gambling. To my knowledge, there has been no study to find a chemical addiction (and if there had been, you can bet the results would be shouted from the highest hills!)

Contrary to the last responder, I would say that there are some proven health benefits, but unless you're on chemotherapy or have progressive glaucoma, you're not likely to need those benefits. It can also be shown to reduce stress and induce relaxation, but there are ways to do that which (a) are legal, and (b) do not involve smoke inhalation.

Also, age makes a difference. Roughly until the age of 18 or 20, one's brain is still growing and developing, and there have been few studies that can be practically done on marijuana's effect on the developing brain (one can't exactly give teenagers measured amounts of controlled substances to check the results!). Bottom line: It's probably not worth the risk just for a cheap high.


My boyfriend and I are completely in love. We've been dating for 3 and a half years. I really see a future with him..but we don't agree on a lot of things. For example, I don't want kids and he does. I want to someday live in another country and he doesn't. He's Jewish and I'm Christian. These are HUGE differences that we share, but we really love each other. What should we do?

~Age 26 (link)
I think there are too many basic incompatibilities for your relationship to work as marriage. Compromise is fine and good, but no one should be compelled to change their religion for the sake of another, and certainly no one should be having kids who doesn't really want them.

If it is part of your plan in life to get married someday, you're going to have to make it someone besides this man you're in love with. Love is wonderful, but if it's the only thing you have, it may not be enough.


Well, I have to shorten this a bit, as I could go on and on, but basically the story goes like this: One day, as I was sitting in my apartment, I began to hear some teenage girls talking about me throug the walls of the building. I found this strange, but stranger as I came to find they were discussing my thoughts. As time went on, I started hearing them in the shower, then at work and while doing other things. They told me they were psychics at first, and that I was psychic as well. I started hearing family and friends drop by every once in a while in my mind as well. It took me a while, but I finally realized the whole thing was a sham, and that I was being spoken to not by man, but by spirits. At that point, I addressed them as demonic, but having little faith in the idea (Christianity being abandoned due to a hypocritical upbringing), was NOT able to banish them in the name of the Lord. Their words are mostly torment, or "taunting" as they once put it, but at times they are nice, and joke around or have even encouraged me. The thing is, they are liars, and always have been, and they will NOT leave. I don't see any good here, I'm sure these spirits are unclean. Any advice? Looking for something unconventional, if possible. Thanks. (link)
I think you should put on headphones and listen to classical music at high volume whenever they get too loud. I hear Bach is particularly good for exorcising taunting demons. If nothing else, you will gain a good working knowledge of great symphonies that you can use to make yourself sound cultured and educated while at parties.

You might also try looking at lots and lots of pornography. It probably won't help, but you can say that it does and call it a good excuse to look at porn. And, if the demons are in fact teenage girls, it might bother them to the point where they leave (unless they're lesbian demons, in which case you might consider trying to arrange a spiritual threesome).

Here's another thought - get drunk. Maybe not all the time, but try it just once and see if it gets them drunk too. If you're lucky, they'll be the kind of demons who hate being hung over, and they'll go torment someone else.

Anyway, there are three unconventional suggestions. Good luck to all of you!


i have i guess a stupid question but if u can stick 3 fingers in your vagina well my bf does but umm and he goes deep and fast and ya...will it hurt when we have sex? and i am a vergin but because when i was little well long story but i dont no if i popped my cherry or not.....and if i can stick 3 fingers in ther and he goes as deep as he can....is my cherry already popped and if so how can i tell him withough him being upset?p.s. he has a bad anger problemb so i dont want to make him madder. thanks foe the help

~trisha~ (link)
Wait a second... you're dealing with a guy who, likely as not, broke your hymen while fingering you (not that there's anything wrong with that, as long as it was consensual) and now you're worried about mentioning it because he has an "anger problem"?

What's he going to do, smack you?

If the answer to that question is, "yes, he might," then GET RID OF HIM. If he's someone with whom you cannot be totally honest because you're afraid of making him mad, then it is time to END this relationship before it goes any further. Any man who hits or even intimidates a woman is a cowardly, vicious bastard who certainly does not deserve the gift of your virginity, or anything else you might offer except a cold shoulder.

If he is not man enough to control his anger, then he is too immature to be having sex. Do not let the relationship progress to that stage until he has these problems under control.

_____________________

In response to the question posed in the rating:

You don't ask him anything. If you feel you have reason to fear him, leave. Women have died because they didn't listen to the inner voice that told them to get out while they could.


Are there any sites that you can make a site for free with your own name? Like instead of:
www.example.freewebs.com But I want:
www.example.com for free!

FREE. I have no money but I wanna make that site really bad. Plz help. (link)
No, you can't do that. It costs money to register a domain name, which is what you're trying to do.


i had sex tonight.. and i had it unprotected. he said he took it out when he cummed and then put it back in.. could i get pregnant still?? im scared (link)
Yes, you certainly could get pregnant. "Pulling out" doesn't work. Your odds of conception with that method are about one in four, all other things being equal.

Get a test right away!


The question is simple but the answer might be abit more complex! "Is life fair"? And please no answers lile "it's as fair as you make it"!! (link)
No.


There is this really nice guy who likes me and wants to go to the movies with me (he thinks I like him because I used to), but I don't really like him in that way, so how do I tell him I don't want to go to the movies and that I just want to be firends???
Thanks!! (link)
By all means, tell him you want to be friends if that's what you want. However, I frequently go to the movies with my friends, so it seems to me that you aren't actually seeking friendship here. I may be off-base, but I think you may be using "just friends" as a euphamism for "I don't want to hang out with you at all."

You can't sugar-coat a rejection. He deserves honesty. Instead of saying you want to be "friends", say something like this:

"I get the idea that you want a dating relationship. I'm afraid I just don't feel the same way, and I can't give you what you want from me."

That is really all the explanation you owe. It's honest and a decent guy will respect that. If he can't respect it, then he's not as nice a guy as you're giving him credit for, and you can tell him more directly that you don't care to spend time with him.


My boyfriend has self-harm issues. On three occasions when we have had an argument, hes physically hurt himself (scrabbed, cut, bruise). It hurts so much, and we have discussed it, he told me it wouldnt happen again, but it has. I have went to friends (close friends) for guidance and advice. My boyfriend tells me that this is wrong in the past,and that we should sort things out among ourselves. But when I am hurt,annoyed, afraid over situations, is it wrong to talk to close friends? I am slightly ascared incase it gets out that I have had to talk to friends.
On one occasion after a fight I was scared, put him on loud speaker to talk,with my friends there,just to let them know what I have to go through, and he threatened to hurt himself.
I dont know what to do sometimes,how can I make him stop? And is it wrong to talk to friends about issues of this manner. I know nothing is gonna be said, but its in my head.I am SO afraid incase he hurts himself, he said he never would do it again, and he did...I threatened to tell his mother, to make him see sense. (link)
He may have issues with harming himself, but the bigger issue is that he is using this to control you. You do not have to put up with that, and you should tell him so.

Do not allow him to get away with his emotional manipulation any longer. You need to end this relationship NOW, while he is still merely bruising himself instead of threatening suicide. I would strongly recommend that you inform his mother of what he is doing so that she can get him some help.

When you break up with him, he's probably going to hurt himself and make you feel guilty about it. Do NOT go back to him! It will only validate his methods and make things worse.

You erred slightly when you involved your friends. It isn't any of their business. That is a small thing compared to what he is doing, though, so don't concern yourself too much with it.

Perhaps after he deals with his self-punishment issues, you can have a relationship again, but he obviously can't handle it right now.


okay i'm confused this fall will the new season of gilmore girls be at 8:00 on Tuesdays or Wednesdays? (link)
By typing "Gilmore Girls Fall Schedule" into Google, I came up with this information in about five seconds:

Tuesday, September 26
8:00-9:00 p.m. "GILMORE GIRLS"
(Eastern Time)

Since this is an advice site and not a TV Guide, I'm going to offer the following free advice: THIS IS AN ADVICE SITE, NOT A TV GUIDE. Learn to tell the difference.


Mm, okay. I'm fifteen years old, around 5'6", and my weight ranges from 97 to 100 pounds. And because of this, I'm a little smaller in the chest than I'd like to be. My self confidence already is a bit low, so that doesn't help at all. Its not that other people have made comments, but I just think that I'd look better with a fuller chest. Is there any way I can increase size in my chest without gaining weight all over? Because I'd love to fill out my clothes more. Or is there any way I can boost my self confidence and not worry about it?
Please help.
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There are two simple things you can do to enhance your chest. Three, if you include things like padded bras and clothing designed to draw attention to the bustline, but that's not "real" enhancement.

(1) You can exercise the pectoral muscles. Push-ups and bench pressing are the preferred methods. A little effort may give you half a cup size, and of course exercise has other benefits as well.

(2) Just wait a few years. At fifteen, you're not finished growing breasts yet. They are almost certain to get bigger.

To boost your self-confidence, stop worrying about it so much (I was fifteen once too - I know that's a lot easier said than done!). Breast size is really not as big a deal as it's made out to be.


I have been friends with a guy, Justin, for two years. We have always been good friends but this summer we started to hang out a LOT and I like him a lot (as more than a friend)

I suspected that he liked me too, and two days ago when he asked who I liked I told him that I liked him. And he said he likes me too.

Since then we have hung out twice (with other people too) and we always walk with eachother, tease eachother (as usual) and hug when we leave. However, I'm afraid that nothing will happen between us if it doesn't happen soon.

Should I make a move? If so what could I do?
Will it just happen with time?

If I don't see him tonight I won't for two weeks because I am going on vacation.

I think it would be amazing if we dated and that it would last a really long time, and I already know he likes me too. He doesn't even talk to other girls when I'm with him. (link)
Next time you get him alone, say this word for word:

"Justin, I've been thinking about you a lot. I've been thinking about kissing you."

(step very close to him at this point and look him in the eyes, then whisper the next part)

"Would you, please? Kiss me?"

(close eyes and wait)


You will get kissed, 99.5% guaranteed.

If he says no, he's likely gay. Feel free to write off the idea of a romantic relationship at that point.


15.f

Okay so last night i stayed at my boyfriends house.. I didn't sleep in the same room as him.. i was in his sisters room.. anyways..
We was watching a movie in the lounge and we started kissing and then we was touching each other like.. had our hands down each others trousers and underwear etc.. He got an erection.. and then he layed on top of me, still fully clothed and we kissed some more..
I am worrying that i could be pregnant even though we were fully clothed.. Because i no you can get pregnant through clothes etc..

But what is the possibility of me getting pregnant through his jeans and boxers AND my combats and thong? Like.. is this likely?
I dont know whether he came or not or anything.. and i didnt notice or feel anything wet\sticky on my combats.. But when i went to the toilet i noticed a tiny, tiny little stain, mark type thing kinda just above my private area but i dont think it went through.. infact it may of been something i spilt on there?

What do you think?
Also..
When i came home today i noticed my urine is a really dark colour and very warm to pass.. and i have been discharging a bit aswell.. My period isnt due for another week at MINIMUM.. and i am not or never have been sexually active

Any suggestions? i just really need to stop worrying or have some kind of reassurence or to know the truth about if this is possible because otherwise it might delay my period and i'll think the worst!
Sorry its long!
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It is possible to become pregnant through a couple of layers of underwear, which is usually pretty thin and porous material.

But through jeans? Not a chance. You have nothing to worry about along those lines.

This is not to say that everything is fine, of course. Blood in the urine is hardly a good sign. You may have kidney stones or a UTI. It would be a good idea to see a doctor and have a urinalysis done.


Is it possable to seperate sex from love and feelings. I really love this guy alot he is my ex boyfriend and i want to have sex with him but i never have because he broke up with me. I want to have sex with him but im afraid that if i do i will only fall for him more and it will only hurt me more (link)
"I feel that sex is the most wonderful, loving, intimate thing that money can buy." - Emo Phillips


It is theoretically possible to consider sex separate from love and other emotions. Likewise, it is possible to shoot someone and not feel any sort of remorse or regret. But do you really want to be either of those kinds of people?

Having sex with a guy you've broken up with is a bad idea in a lot of ways. It probably won't get you back together. It's very likely to mess with your head and your heart, and possibly his as well. And consider the consequences should your birth control fail...

There is a way to describe the act of having sex with someone without consideration of love and affection - it's known as "using them". Don't be that kind of person!




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