I'm a woman in Texas. I'm married and have a school-aged child. I have a medical background. I'm quite liberal, socially. I love helping people with medical, parenting, and social questions. Don't ask me about tech stuff or finances, because I need advice on those things myself!
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im 13. i think i have endometriosis. my period hasnt gone away for 2 or 3 months now. i got pain in my lower back. and my period has gotten really heavy. i havent told anybody but my best friend. im not sure if i got it or not. but im kind of ambarrased to tell my mom and go to the doctors and stuff. im to scared. ive never thought of me as a wuss. but i dont want to be diagnosed with it cuz then i no it will never go away. help me get through this plz. all i need are some answers. (link)
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What you have is called menometorrhagia, ain and excessive bleeding with menstrual cycles. You don't necessarily have endometriosis (which is migration of endometrial cells outside of the walls of the uterus). You may have a hormonal imbalance. You should definitely be checked out by a doctor. It's possible s/he can fix this easily. I know it's embarassing to tell your mom, but she gave birth to you. She knows you. She probably already thinks it's weird you're going through so many sanitary products! If she's like I am with my daughter, she only wants to help you and knowing you have a medical problem would not make her think any differently of you.
As for not wanting to see the GYN, NONE OF US DO. But it's really not that bad. The doctor, if it's a male, would have to have a female escort in the room during an exam on you. If it's a female, then she goes through the same things you do. And we all pretty much look alike. Putting a label on what's wrong with you does not change the nature of the disease. If you were pregnant and didn't see a doctor, would the baby not come out in 9 months? Things which are going to happen are going to happen and you can't change it by choosing not to name it. Sorry.
Be well.
Sabine
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16/m I'm going to a dance at school next month. If you didn't see my profile, I'm a guy who wants to be a gurl so I'm goin to the dance dressed as a gurl. I'm gonna wear a pink and black corset type top and a black skirt. I'm looking for advice on what to get for shoes or any other accessories! Thanks (link)
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The shoes depend on the length and formality of the dress as well as its fabric. Is the skirt floor-length? Is it silky, leathery, poofy, straight? Are you going to wear heels? Are you concerned about being taller than your date if applicable? Strappy sandals and pumps are generally classic and versatile enough to be worn in formal or informal occasions.
Choose your style, girlfriend, and wear what makes you feel gorgeous.
Sabine
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on the vasaline it says not for internal use... could you still use it internally as in anal or vaginal sex? (link)
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Don't use Vaseline as a sex lube. It's dangerous in that it can give you and infection and interfere with your birth control/STD prevention products!
I'm ripping this off directly from this website:
http://nawtythings.com/lubs.html
OIL BASED LUBRICANTS
Oil based products have been used as lubricants for a very long time. Things like Vaseline and baby oil are petroleum based. The first problem is that they leave a coating on the vaginal wall that is very hard to get rid of - thus increasing the chance of bacteria and other infections. The second problem using an oil based lubricant is that the chemicals break down and destroy latex condoms, dental dams, gloves, diaphrams, cervical caps, sponges, as well as the protective coatings around some IUDs and any sexual device made of latex. This can also apply to body oils and creams which are never very good lubricants because they are absorbed into the skin too fast.
Safe, fun sex is best.
Sabine
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Okay so I had sex the other day...and I was really curious if its normal to have like ALOT of vaginal discharge..and I mean a lot..like today when I changed I realized my panties were almost completely soaked, and as I went to the bathroom and wiped myself a bunch of "Cum" or somthing was on the paper...I don't mean to be gross but this is a really weird thing for me...plz answer
_17 yr old female (link)
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No, having copious amounts of vaginal discharge a couple of days after sex is not normal. You should see a doctor. You probably have a yeast infection or possibly Pelvic Inflammatory Disease.
Sabine
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I'm 20, female. My psychologist informed me that I have EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified). I can see where she's coming from, but at the same time, I think she's wrong.
I know I have eating issues. I stay under 600 calories per day, lately it's been under 500. I think about food a lot. I've lost almost 60 pounds (but I'm still overweight--I was obese to begin with).
But I've only been doing this for five or six months. I AM still eating. So it hasn't been that long, and I haven't restricted that much.
First of all, can a psychologist actually diagnose an eating disorder, or is it unofficial unless it comes from a doctor?
Second, is it unfair to classify me as eating disordered? Does it not take away from those who are more severe, for longer? Did my therapist jump the gun?
I know what I'm doing is unhealthy. I just don't think it's as severe as everyone is making it out to be. (link)
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Perhaps you should change your impression of what an eating disorder means if you think that restricting to under 500 calories a day is not disordered eating. The obsessive thinking about food tells me that no matter what your weight, you may have a psychological issue with food. Without knowing your actual BMI, it's hard to say how far you are into denial, but you do seem to be in denial at least a little bit.
Look online in the DSM IV and see if you fit the criteria for EDNOS. If you disagree, you can see a medical doctor. Just the fact that you are seeing a therapist, however, tells me that you're admitting to yourself that you have a problem. Right now, you're just arguing over what to call it and how bad it is. Remember, your therapist has to put down some reason why you're being seen. Don't take it personally and remember that you're there to work on a behavior, not a label.
Be healthy.
Sabine
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Does anyone have any infornation or sources of information that would be useful in applying for a job in a preschool.
I am a 15 year old male, In a health and Child Care program at my high School (link)
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1) Ask your teachers. They should be preparing you to get a job in the field in which they teach.
2) Call a childcare center and ask what they look for in a successful applicant.
3) Learn to enjoy cleaning up urine.
:)
Good luck,
Sabine
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I'm really sorry about the lenght but I tend to include details (hopefully not unnecessary ones)
First I'd like to say that I know none of you are doctors (unless you actually are) and that I don't want to be prescribed anything or to be told what's wrong with me. I want your opinion on what YOU would do in this situation or anything that your parents have you do when you're in this situation. So don't tell me "well I'm not a doctor and you should see one..." Mainly because whatever is wrong with me isn't bad enough to see a doctor.
Today at school I didn't feel good and came home, that was around 9ish. I never actually threw up, I burped a bunch and I had to use the restroom a lot. I took a few walks outside to get some fresh air, not going too far because I felt a little faint. Anyway, my question is - I'm kind of hungry. I figure that if I eat I may get sick and I wanted to know that if my stomach is growling it means I want food right? (all I had to eat today was chick fil a hasbrowns and less than half that come in the box). So do you think I'd be able to eat, maybe just some crackers. I'm also thirsty - well, my mouth is really dry. I've been swishing with water and spitting it out because I know it's not good to drink water when you're sick. I have gatorade in the house and heard that was okay to drink, do you know? I would drink ginger ale but we don't have any in the house. We have milk, gatorade, capri-sun, sunny D, water, I could make hot tea/cold tea... any suggestions?
There's one other question where the "I know you're not a doctor" comes in. My mom is also home because she's REALLY sick. She has a doctors appointment tomorrow but talked to the doctor today. The doctor said it was going around and A LOT of people I know have gotten it. She came home last night after not feeling well. She got sick on the car ride home and pretty much only stopped throwing up an hour ago.
I know what she has is contagious (since it's going around) my question second question is, do you think that I'll be okay, or that I'll catch it. I get sick around Christmas time EVERY year and I was wondering if you guys thought that maybe what I have now is what my mom has, minus the throwing up. (I still feel light-headed a little bit and tired and pretty much everything she does minus the vomit) or if you guys think I may still have a chance of getting what she has. I ask this because tomorrow I have a really good extra credit opportunity if I stay after school in history to watch a movie and take notes so I'll be at school until 4:30 (getting home around 4:40ish) and I'm hoping I'll be okay to go because I REALLY need the extra credit. I know I can talk to my teacher and work out a way to get extra credit without staying after because he's really nice. But I thought that if I don't throw up at all past 7 tonight I'll probably be okay to go. Do you all think that that's logical thinking?
Again I'm sorry about the length but sometimes when I answer questions I feel I don't have enough details so I try to supply enough without supplying too many. Though I probably did give too many. Thankyou in advance! (link)
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You're probably getting what your mother has, which is likely an enterovirus (viral infection of the stomach/bowel). The light-headedness is probably due to dehydration. Please drink water. I don't know where you got the idea it's not good to drink water when you're sick. Water is a very good thing. I would DEFINITELY avoid the milk. The capri sun and gatorade have sugars which will increase diarrhea. Sunny D could be too acidic and could cause more nausea. Tea is a good idea also, and it doesn't matter if it's hot or cold except that cold could cause more stomach cramps. If you are hungry, try something bland, like dry toast. If that goes well, you can try something like applesauce. Stomach growling doesn't mean you're hungry. It means your intestines are active. That could be just your gut trying to digest, since you would normally have had a meal by then, or it could be more diarrhea on its way! Proceed with caution.
My thoughts on the extra-credit tomorrow? Skip it. If your Mom is contageous, you are likely contageous. Give yourself time to recover. If you're just ROCKIN' tomorrow and can't wait to go to school, make that decision tomorrow morning. A couple more things: take your temperature and think about whether you could possibly be pregnant. With food, start with a little bit of something bland and gradually increase the variety and amounts of food. Stay near a toilet if you need to.
Rest up, eat when you can, and don't push it. As a Mom, I support good grades, but I also support infection control and putting your health above an extra-credit assignment that you can do later.
I'm not a doctor, but I play one on television.;)
Sabine
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alright so i'm a guy, and i recently met this girl. and well things between us may have started off too fast. but you can't really undo what's been done. so we had a good thing going, we talked as much as we could, saw each other often, and things were blossoming between us quite well. we'd kissed, hugged, all that stuff, and life was going good. and then she leaves for a couple weeks on a cruise for her cousin's wedding (the cousin was the rich side of the family and paid for the whole family to go) and well we talked as much as we could while she was gone, things seemed to be going great between us. and we were fine. she got back from her trip saturday before this last one. and this is where things started getting lame.
it turns out all the text messaging and stuff we'd done got her a $400 phone bill, and all the offers i gave to help her out she would hear none of. so her parents take her cellphone, and we suddenly lose a major means of communication between us. and as last week went we saw each other once, hardly talked and didn't really do much together. well after the suckage that was last week i decided i had to come up with some way to see her more often one and two give her, her christmas present. so i go to her house this morning, no one's home. that's cool, i wait til the evening and call her house and talk for a few moments but she has to go as her mom needs to use the phone. i call back an hour later (it's 10PM by this time) and i get the it's too late to call thing from her. and that's understandable seeing as people go to bed around then. so i go and check her myspace and find that all the comments i've left her have been deleted, and that she hasn't responded to any of the messages i sent her.
so my question stems from this: could a girl i've been with for about two months lose total interest in me after a week of not talking much? could she be mad at me? am i just pushed out of the picture? what do i do? and how can i get her to realize that we're not gone, we're still on? or do i just take this as a breakup and leave it? she's hanging out with some other guy friend of hers tomorrow during which time we'd have normally hung out and quite frankly i'm pretty pissed about all this. it's like she's not even trying anymore. it's like she's given up on me. what do i do? (link)
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My impression of all of this is probably that her parents have asked/told her that you're not a good influence, etc.,(calling at 10:00) and that she was spending too much time and energy (and their money, with the $400 bill) on you and she needs to cool it. She's probably following orders.
You admit that things went too fast in the beginning. Probably her parents don't want her getting that attached at her age. My advice is to play it cool. I gather that you are young. This girl is probably not the last one you'll be with. If she felt a need to be with you, she'd be with you. So don't push it if she's not willing. You've done everything, including offering to help with the bill. You don't need to 'break up' with her - a 2-month relationship is not a binding contract. Just make sure that if you feel the need to put more effort into this relationship, you won't just end up irritating her or her parents more. If you *can* manage to get her alone, ask her point-blank what's going on. Otherwise, take the hint gracefully and move on to the next in line.
Good luck.
Sabine
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Ok well..
Im a healthy person normally, just like any other teen, I eat lots of chocolate and junk food although I stay very thin.
But recently,
I havent been eating atall..It just doesnt cross my mind too eat,
Im sticking with about half my dinner a day.
And my sleeping pattern has gone totally wrong.
I used too go to bed at around 12-1 2 the latest,
Now im either not sleeping at all or im going to bed about 6am and waking up about 5pm.
This isnt like me...
Im scared Ill lose too much weight, I lose weight quite easily and im already underweight.
Any ideas as too why?
p.s Ive quit college an dont have a job, so life is an all day bore at home on the computer. (link)
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Please see a doctor. The symptoms you list could be due to either clinical depression or an endocrine disorder, such as a thyroid problem. The fact that you're bored and 'sleeping your way around the clock' shows that you need to clear away whatever issues are keeping you from working or going to school so that you can start to take care of yourself again. That means getting plenty of exercise, social stimulation, and appropriate rest. It's so easy to fall into this cycle, but if you do not correct it, it will not allow you to move on in your life. The emotions may cause the eating and sleeping problems. The eating and sleeping problems cause more emotional issues. It's a feedback loop and it's going to take discipline and effort, and possibly medical help, to escape the destructive cycle.
I hope it gets better.
Sabine
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My friend asked this boy before taking a sip of his soda does he have mono? what is that? (link)
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Take a look at this website:
http://familydoctor.org/077.xml
Mononucleosis (Mono) is a viral illness which is easily transmitted through contact with another person's saliva (thus the thing about not sharing cups). Some people are not affected at all, but it makes some people very ill for a few months with fevers, sore throats, and overwhelming fatigue (tiredness).
Try to avoid it! :)
Sabine
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You answered my question regaurding of "when to go". Well my relationship is ok. I didnt want to tell him when i started having my period but he didnt really react at all. I want to go to make sure i am healthy and since i get horrible cramps during my period i want to go for birth control because i have done research that said there are birth control pills that help with cramps and a shorter period. I just dont know how to approach the topic of going to the gynocologist. I dont want him to get freaked out or anything like that. I think he thinks i talk about stuff like that with my 2 sisters but i have already talked 2 them and they say that i dont need birth control pills and that i am to young. (link)
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It's great to have sisters. In this case, however, I think they're jumping to conclusions. I think you should tell your father that you're having heavy bleeding and cramping and explain to him how it's affecting your life (Do you have to sit out in gym class? Do you get stains on your clothes? Do you have to take Tylenol/Ibuprofen? Do you have to leave school sometimes?). Explain to Dad how miserable this is making you. Additionally, you don't necessarily need to see the GYN doctor. Your family doctor or pediatrician can usually treat these problems as well and will refer you to a GYN if it's appropriate. I think you should reassure your father (if it's true) that you are not sexually active and I would not bring up the issue of birth control, but just say I wanted to speak with the doctor regarding heavy periods, PMS, cramping, or whatever your problem may be. Let the doctor decide whether you need birth control pills or whether there is a more appropriate treatment.
I hope you find the answer. It's hard enough being 13 without having period issues. :(
Sabine
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okay so heres the story.. My boyfriends best friend is his ex girlfriend and he has left me for her then comes back to me. but his ex is his best friend and i am always a little worried on what could happen.. because he is always at her house but i dont want to accuse him of anything. what should i do about this? is there anything i can say to him with out him getting angry? (link)
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Let me see... this guy is hanging out with his ex-girlfriend. He has, in the past, dumped you for her and then come back to you. You say he's "always at her house."
What's in it for you? You don't trust him. How can you have a relationship without trust? Why worry about angering him? If you can't speak with him about his relationship with his best friend without him getting angry, he's probably defensive because he's guilty. I think you should let him know that you are not getting what you need from the relationship and you should move on. There are many, many guys out there who do not keep bouncing between two girls and breaking their hearts. Protect yours until you find someone worthy of it.
Sabine
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What age should you start going to a gynocologist? I just turned 13 and i have had my period for about 1 3/4 years. And how would i aproach the subject with my dad since i live with him and not my mother. (link)
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A woman should have her first GYN exam as soon as she first thinks of becoming sexually active or when she reaches the age of 18 - whichever happens first.
Go earlier if you have problems like excessive cramping, heavy bleeding, yeast infections, rash, skin sores, etc.
How to approach your dad all depends on your relationship with him. Is he open and modern? Does he usually take an active role in your healthcare in general? Do you share secrets with him? How did he react when you first started menstruating? It also depends on why you want to go to the GYN. If you want to go for birth control pills, make sure you can safely talk with your father before you bring it up or speak with a trusted female relative who can be present when you speak with your Dad. Remember, you are a minor and while laws may vary by state, most doctors will still feel a need to share *some* information about your exam with your father. If you have questions about sexuality or need clarification about your body and its functions, you can consult your school nurse or possibly Planned Parenthood.
Sabine
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15/f
so i'm not sure what to do about hair removal down there, do guys like it when it's all shaved? or just a little? a friend of mine told me she got waxed in SHAPES! like a heart or a diamond? i don't get it, can someone please give me tips and explain, i'm nervous about this (link)
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Okay, I'm not your mother, but if you are a 15-year-old female, as suggested above, you shouldn't be thinking about shaping your pubic hair to please boys in general. If you are intimate enough with A BOY to let him down there, ask him what he wants. Sister, always make changes to your appearance only to please yourself and express who *you* are. The boys will either like it or not.
Also, know that waxing is painful and potentially embarrassing, as well as expensive. Shaving is more private and inexpensive, but you have to maintain it every day or you get scratchy stubble. Either way, you have increased risk of ingrown hairs and irritation.
Good luck.
Sabine
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Hi guys... I got this really old rolex from the 1960's which belonged to my grandpa, he died to years back, so i thought i would get it repaired and have it as a memory. Yesterday, i went to this shop to know if i could get it repaired they asked for $400-$600 depending on the work, which i really cannot afford but i really want to have it done. what could b done? I would never wanna sell it for the world... (link)
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Save back a little money each month until you're able to fix this heirloom. Take on a small, part-time job or do odd jobs until you have the money. If your family asks you what you'd like for Christmas/Birthday, etc., let them know that you'd like donations toward work on the watch. Anyway, the watch can still hold memories without being in working condition. I hope you get it done.
Sabine
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