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Hey my name's Hayley, I'm 15 years old and i love to give advice and help! :) Don't be afraid to ask me anything ;) Thank you and I hope you enjoy everything.

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I cant ever find the right guy for me. Most guys get mad becuase i always turn them down and they think i do it to make myself look to good for them. I just want to be with someone that i can tlak to and someone i find attractive someone who can make me laugh and someone who i can have a good time with. I cant seem to find anyone out there.

Its perfectly normall. A lot of girls can be picky, and don't feel weird about it. If your uncomfortable with the way you are, maybe you should look @ urself and think of how YOU want to change yourself or other than that- just except who you are. And this isnt weird at all... it can be better in some cases becuase your finding what you truely want inside. Its good your not just dating som1 who you probably don't even care about that much or like... a person that fits you will come along- trust me. Don't worry.. have fun and just wait. Good luck

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I like this one girl and we use to go out. but she broke up with me. And I'm still in love with
her.what should I do?

you need to talk to her.. Lke seriously- i know whats its like to be in love, and you have to let her know exactly truely how you feel inside. thats the only way. Then maybe if that works a little, think of a way to show her you care. Buy her roses and write her a card w/ them maybe. Be yourself and it will tell you what to do, but if you want her, then you need to let her know, and let her know you care, and just how you feel about her. good luck

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im 14 going on 15/f. ive never had a b/f but ive had this one crush for 2 yrs. now! Were good friends now and lately all of my friends have had b/f. i kinda feel left out, but being single is fun 2! i kno this sounds wrong...to me it does 2, but lately all ive wanted 2 do is grab my crush and just kiss him! i think i have a problem...what should i do! please help!~

Hey ! im the same age- and i definitly say OMG GO FOR HIM RIGHT NOW! you need to take chances and definitly 100% try it out- if you dont want to kiss him, maybe give him a hug... but this time- a hug thats more sexual (so he might get the hint). [sry if that sounded gay but if you were too scared to kiss him, just a hug could do]. But also if every1 else has had a boyfriend and you feel leftout- this could be your chance- especialy if you guys are really good friends now. So goodluck with him, and take it easy- maybe he likes you too. But you should defintily try it out- don't be afraid to try somthing, because you might only have it once and when its gone- you might not have the chance again, and you might be missing out! but anyways, have fun and ask me a question if you need help! ;)

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Hey, I'm 13, and my bf wants to take it to the next level. I'm not sure what to say, I want to, but my parents would kill me. Pleaz help....

Definitly, if you have somthing inside you telling you that its not right- DO not do it. This could hurt your relationship, or you, or like you said- your parents. So absolutly be 100% certain on what you want to do. Your boyfriend should understand this completely.. and just talk to him about it- no worries. And when the time is right.. go for it. But Only if your ready.. and not what HE wants to do or w.e .. Good luck ! :-D

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okay. im still a virgin. but i think im ready to lose my virginity to my boyfriend of a year and 2 months. we have done nothing BUT kissing. and im so happy hes patient with me and doesnt push me to do anything i choose not too. but now i am ready BUT i want to go on birth conrol and use a condom just to be on the safe side. the thing is im not on the pill so what would be the best way to ask my parents to put me on the pill without them thinking imma have sex.? cuz they know im still a virgin and think imma stay one till marriage. which i was planning on doing, but i think im ready to lose it..and i've found that special one to lose it to

I know exactly what you mean, i was sorta of in the same situation.. but the only thing to do it tell your mom that you just wanna have a talk with her.. (make it as calm as you can.... and very understandable and make sure she knows that you know all about everything to do with sex and pregnancy so you want to be carefull because your ready- and that you wanted to let her know.) It will happen sooner or later and if your ready that just have a good conversation with your mom and be understanding, and have her be to. Your making the right dicision with the pill and condems cuz you wanna be safe. And you and your boyfriend sounds great :) GOodluck with everything

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Me and my boyfriend always end up in these steamy makeout sessions with either him on top of me or me on top of him... which ever way we end up we're usually rubbing our bodies together and i think you get the point... what would this be considered as? please tell me... and do you guys consider this bad? we're both virgins and we both believe in abstinence... we never "touched" eachother in inappropriate ways either.. except for maybe on the butt a few times.... but that's it!

I know exactly what you mean! Don't worry... this is just a set futher or more intimet with kissing and stuff. I did this with my boyfriend and it was just fun! I understand totally what you mean, and you could consider it as dry sex, or just more intimate makingout sessions lol. Its healthy and basically its just somthing to maybe spice it up more! ;) but remember- if your not comfortable with that and it feels weird, then i would sugest not doing that, but if its okay with the both of you then its totally normall and fun :)

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Hello. :)
14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :)

Aw i know what you mean sweetie. Well that totally depends on how YOu feel. If your okay with him doing that, and you love him, trust him, make sure he's not just doing that for fun or 'to get some'... just stuff like that. Its how You feel about it. And If you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable.. you should tell him that you like doing stuff with him but somtimes you feel uncomfortabl cuz its too fast or you just wanna wait a little while more so it can be special or somthing like that. Make sure you go with your inside feeling and not what you think he would like or want. He should respect that and maybe he glad that you respect yourself too! you never know.. but just do what your comfortable with and what feels right :)..Only if you love him ;)

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Does anyone know of any free picture sites (I mean for sharing photos)? NOT picture trail, I don't want a free trial, I want something that won't get rid of me after 30 days, lol...Thanks in advance. I'll rate.

yeah definitly! go to http://community.webshots.com all my friends go there... its awesome

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okay so .. i broke up with this guy a little while ago. But when i see him i still think about him. My friends say i should go back out with him .. but i dont want to .. i dont think im the type of girl to have a boyfriend but i also like having one too. I dont know what i should do. I dont even know if he still likes me. I think i just still have left over feelings for him but i dont think i could go back out with him. I kinda want to .. but then again im talking to another boy .. so i dont know what to do ..

The reason you broke up with him has a lot to do with this. You should think about what it was like with him.. and if your heart wants that and you do really like him. I would say talk to him about it and exlain to him your feelings. *follow your heart on how you feel. Don't be afraid to say that you want to take a break. Just go with your inside feelings towards him and do whats right for yourself. oxo good luck

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I am 14, in ninth grade, and I am female.

Okay, first I'm going to give a little backround information.

I had a boyfriend that tried to cheat on me with his ex girlfriend. I knew that I couldn't trust him ever again, so I broke up with him yesterday. Don't worry, I feel really good about it.

Well, a few days ago, I found out from one of my friends that another friend of mine, Ricky, likes me. At first, I wasn't sure I could trust the friend that told me, T.J., because T.J. is weird like that. Then, my best friend Megan told me yesterday that Ricky has liked me for a long time.

My question is, is it okay to go ahead and date Ricky so soon after dumping my previous boyfriend?

~ClarinetKtM

Yes definitly !! go for him babe.. i bet it would so cute cuz you too both like eachother, it will also clear your head form your ex and its always good to try new things =D good luck sweetie !

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Well a few months ago i broke up with the love of my life. I dont know wat to do. Shes beautiful and im so in love with her but her parents dont like me very much and they dont want me to be around her. What should i do? im so lost Im so in love with her and she loves me but we cant be together i dont know wat to do. I just know i love her and i want to be with her. Please help me.

Hey... well that sounds heart breaking, i know what its like to loose the love of your life too. Well i would say that you too should keep talking to eachother and let eachother know how you feel about the whole thing and maybe talk to her parents and REallllly let them know how the both of you are... then they should think about the situation if its that serious and you to are that in love. It sounds kinda serious, and i really really really hope you too get back together again too. I bet you guys love eachother so much it makes you crazy... expecially when you make eachother complete and love being around eachother becuase your so close and enjoy every second your with them. Parents suck so much somtimes and they just need to learn. Gook luck with your special somone because i know she feels the same way about you....

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My friend has has some things happen to her this year, and she cut herself afew days ago! She is the nicest person I have ever met in my entire life and I'm not even exaderating. What should I do?

Talk to her !!!!! definitly tell her how you feel and do it at the right time so its not weird, and so she doesnt feel embarresed or presured. But you said shes the nicest person you've ever met.. so maybe she needs to talk to some1 about it cuz its not normal for her to act like that. good luck

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I have a business plan to do and I'm opening a nail salon. Should I name it "Paint" or "Tips and Toes"? thanx for your input

Tips and toes !!!!!! good luck with your businedd :D

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If there is a fight between ur younger sister and her friends, should i help them by trying to fight with younger kids,or do i try and talk to them one by one in a place where no one can her u. Can u help me decide?

I would talk to them one at a time. That way its private and you get there attention. You can also say things to them that would be best if only They heard so no1's feelings could get hurt, and they'll listen better!

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What are some good ways to make your girlfriend feel special, like make her feel like you are the best guy in the world (well I know that's probably around impossible. So I am exaggerating a bit, haha.)? What do you girls think would make you special if your guy said them to you or things like that?

Some sugestions are
·kiss her cheeck and whisper in her ear Really cute things from your heart
·tickleing, cute jokes
·Presents- make her a book of memories you 2 have had, or maybe drame a picture of you 2 to give to her, roses, stuffed animals
(think of who she is and what SHE would like.. you should know best ;)
·give her tender kisses, and always let her know how much she means to you and how you feel about her ( But make sure its not like ALLL the time)

just make her smile and best of luck!

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okay in like 2 weeks my parents are goin outta town and im thinking about having my realllly realllly realllly close best guy friend over to sleep over. [ we are really close and its just like a friend sleepover thing] but yeah. i actually realy like him tho. ive started to have these feelings for him starting about 2 months ago..well, actually right when we started becoming close i started liking him but ive never let him known.. i duno if he feels the same tho..any tipz on how i should tell him without scaring him off? thanks!

Hey! well.. this can be a tricky one considering that guys can be funny/ different if he doesnt feel the same wayy- But since you too are really close, then it shouldnt be hard or weird because if your close, maybe he knows a lot about you and just tell him how you feel inside.. Don't make it like weird, just sit him down and tell him that you have had somthing on your mind.. BUt also your scared to let him know because of what he mite think... But just have a good conversation about it, and after you will feel good that he knows, (but also if you think that he would be freaked out, i dont think it would be the Best idea to tel him) But good luck and just be yourself and say that i hope this didnt mess up our relationship at all because i love having you as a friend :).. Who knows- maybe he feels the same way! Good luck ;)=D

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well im a guy and so far most of my friends have been girls, but recently i made a few guy friends and it jsut occured to me that i realy have no idea how to hang out with guys, what kind of activities etc...

don't worry about it! just be yourself and don't be tense on trying to like have a good time or be bored.. Just be a guy and do your thing haha- computer, video games, Talk about Girrlls, play sports or like go out somwhere or eat or fight or play games... Have fun

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i have this really good friend named Hayley. i love her alot and i consider her my best friend. and so i wanted to send her sumthing cuz i know she gets excited when she gets mail from ppl asking her questions...so i hope she doesnt get dissapointed when she reads this and theres no question :/
Love, your best friend ;)

Well.... this seems like a very good thing. Im sure that this Hayley girl is very lucky to be your friend.. you sound like an excellent talker when it comes to issues.. ;). Also, she was not dissapointed when she found out there wasnt a question, but she says that its always fun to give help to some1 she loves and cares about =D.. oXo

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months and we always have a good time when we are together and he does the littlest things that are so sweet and at times he just can really gett on my nerves.. hes constantly going to this girls house named whittney. but i guess he also plays ditch and then goes there. and these 2 girls were over at his house a couple days and ago and i dont remember very much but i think he said something about them hangin in his room.. but i dont know it was jus him n them in the house and all the sudden hes breakin out street lights and gettin the cops called on him for goin on pplz property late at night and makin loud noises wen playin ditch the hole ditch thing doesnt bother me but he is eggin houses and stuff but wen i did ask him if he was doin that just to b cool and try n fit in with other ppl.. but he jus sed he hadda go.. last night i asked if people say he flirts with others and he says people do say he does flirt but he doesnt know he's flirting.. so do i trust him? and alot of people say they dont know how me and him have held on so long.. my brothers are constantly telling me that.. its hard to let go of a long relationship and you may no that

Hey sweetie... I know how your feeling, it is extremely hard or even thinking about letting go of a boyfriend you've had for so long! Guys are always so used to flirting and making comments on girls.. (its what they do). But also, ppl would say to me and my Ex that they can't beleive we heald on so long either! Okay well- you should sit him down and be like "okay my love.. we need to talk about somthing thats been Really kinda bothering me lately.. and i just want to talk to you about it becuase you mean so much to me and i don't want somthing to go wrong or happen to us" and then explain evrything how you feel and just open up to him becuase you guys are probably close. SO have him listen to you, and then see what he has to say to it too [talking/ comunication is key to a relationship] and you guys should trust eachother. But on the other hand... if you feel that he's not being good to you and not a good boyfriend AFTer you talked.... then you should consider letting go- But thats only becuase its good for you, and it can teach him a lesson becuase he will be sad and miss you after. SO babe.. just talk to him and let him know how you feel.. be true to yourself and good luck! ;) :D

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(btw, we're 15, hes almost 16)ok well my bf and i have been going out for 14 months and recently his mom went to arazona to live and he moved in with his dad. lets call him..."Bob". ok so bob's dad doesnt like me very much. and we've had a long-distance relationship pretty much. and i never really got to see bob. well now his dad says that we're getting too serious and now he can only sleep over for one night ever OTHER weekend. like this wasnt hard enough. now i'll bairly get to see him. i used to cut too and bob is the only reason i stopped. now if his dad takes him away from me...i wont be able to handle things much anymore and i'll start doing it again. i really dont want to. but its just to much. so bob's dad is going to call my parents and talk about it (my parents were together since they were 15&16) but bob's dad is really stubborn. i dont know what to do. i really love "bob" and we really want to be together. i really dont want to lose him...but i dont know what to do...

Hey, don't feel so preusered... I know what its like going out with some1 for so long and not being able to see them often (becase thats exactly what happened to me) But..... since you too have been going out for so long.. you guys are probably really close. Now- i bet you guys love eachother so much... which means that this is a good thing- since you too don't get to see eachother so much... WHen you DO see eachother, it will be twice as special! trust me... it can be a good thing definitly. But honey don't cut yourself because you can be better than that.. hangout with your friends and do the things you like to do and then when you see your boyfriend- it will be SO special and fun! good luck with your bf's dad... somtimes we can't really do anything about parents haha... WEll best of luck :D hope i helped

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