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Hi, my name is Stephanie. I'm an average 18 year old from Southern Ontario who loves helping people and giving them advice on pretty much anything. I've been trough alot of things so most answers in the fields of relationships and life problems are based on personal experiences so I know what I'm talking about =]


I love to cook, I'm a big music fan and I play the guitar, the saxophone and the piano, I love art and my all-time favourite invention is internet, I'm on ALL the time. Whenever I'm on Advicenators I try to answer at least 3 questions unless I see many that are in my interest. Feel free to leave one in my inbox, it will be answered within the week.


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Enough said about me, what do you need advice with?


I do my best to answer anything else. I give honnest answers, sometimes a little to blunt but if I have no clue how to answer your question, I'm sorry but I'm not going to answer it. Hope I can help :)


Your friend, unluckychick ♥

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I think my myspace has getten deleted.. i dont know though

www.myspace.com/moshele6

can you look and see if you think it is deleted?

I opened the link and your site looks perfectly normal to me...no sense worrying about it hunn...


~unluckychick~

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I wasn't sure where to put this.

For those of you who have seen "Grease" would it be possible if you can find me a picture of the red dress with black polka dots that Rizzo wears at the dance??
Please && Thank You!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey, I love that movie soo much. Anyways here is a link...not totally of the full dress but yeah...

http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a135/wakingspirits/rizzo%20-%20grease/vlcsnap-1014592.png

hope this helps :)

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I like him.
He's got a girlfriend
Their relationship is fading and i dont think he likes her anymore .. whenever he talks to any girl or is with any girl i get jealous, even if its not his girlfriend.If i see him even looking at another girl , i get mad and jealous.
Yes, he knows who i am and we used to be like friends with benefits..
how can I overcome my jealousy?
and please dont say TALK TO HIM, i cant really talk to him anymore
And I've tried moving on, and i cant.
so please help!

From what I can understand you want to move on and get over this guy but you can't because you love him. If you go with avoidance you may feel jelousy even when not around him so don't totally block him out. I suggest you find another group of people to hang out with so you don't have to be with him but still chill and subtly flirt with him. If he doesn't catch on you should somehow tell him how you feel...hope everything goes well...♥


~unluckychick~

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14/m

a pretty good friend of mine told me she loved me last year and kinda asked me out. i told her it would be better if we were just really good friends and she said ok its cool. now im almost positive she moved on because at school dances and stuff shes dancing with other guys and flirting with other guys and she never used to do that when she liked me. but now i realized i have feelings for her and i wish i would've given her a chance. i just don't know what to do. i really really like her. any advice? like anything im so desperate.

If she had enough courage to actually tell you she loved you and ask you out, it will definately take her a while to truly get over you.
Girls usually use other guys to get over the ones they love if the feeling isn't returned. It seems as though your friendship has survived this situation once before, so I say go for it, just tell her you really like her and the odds are she's not completely over you and she'll give you another chance.
If you're a really shy person then you could always ask her to go to the movies or something, (alone or with other friends) and then while your waiting for the movie to start, tell her.
I think things should go for the best in your situation and I wish you luck. :)♥


~unluckychick~

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17/M

so yeah, this os probably going to end up being really long so you can just leave now if you want...so yeah, some little background.

...so up untill like the beginning of this year (senior year of highschool) i have always been reeeaalllly shy. i only had a few best friends (granted, they were mostly girls) but no one that ever LIKED me. then, as soon as i hit senior year, i changed, a LOT. its like my whole outlook on life changed completely, i figured that this is my last year in highschool so i might as well go all out. ive gotten really involved in school clubs and all that, im a LOT more confident, ican actually talk to my peers without being too shy...and i think people are starting to notice it...so far this year ive had three girlfriends, and ive flirted (which i NEVER did before) with tons of other girls...so now i have my girlfriend of three months nd i KNOW im not gonna leave her, i love her to death....but at my work (i work for a city park so i only have 7 coworkers, including my boss) but yeah, at my work theres these two girls that i talk to more than any others, and i flirt with them like crazy....their both kinda cute, but i couldnt really see myself going out with one of them...but the other one...thats where the confusion starts. so yeah, me and this girl flirt more than anyone else, including my girlfriend...it gets really bad. i know im not going to leave my girlfriend for this girl, but id still like to get to know this girl better and see what happens with that...is that normal? i mean me and this girl really kinda just "clicked" nd it seems to me that she really likes me. she knows that i have a gf, but shes always sayin that that doesnt matter. so the question i pose to anyone willing to answer...is it incredibly wrong to flirt with this girl? i KNOW that theyll never meet eachother because the ONLY way theyd meet eachother is through me, and im not about to let that happen...so is it okay that i keep flirting with the other girl? what should i do? keep in mind id like to hear arguments for both sides, to keep flirting with and to stop....so yeah, thank you sooo much in advance...

I think that as long as you and this girl are only flirting than w/e...but if things start to get serious you need to either tell your girlfriend or leave her because it isnt fair to her for you to cheat. but yeah...do what you want because you still have your whole life ahead of you and it's not likely that you will marry either of these girls...


~unluckychick~

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15/f

My school requires me to fulfill 24 community hours. I have only 3 and the hours are due by the end of January, but I don't know what to do for them. I got the three hours from camp, but it was from pulling weeds. PS it needs to be supervised like I can't go to the beach myself without anyone and clean it up and put that, it has to be through some function or organization

so basically what is a way to get more communtiy serivice hours I was thinking of an animal shelter but I'm too young for that.
PS. don't say babysitting please
thanks so much and I would love you if you could help.

ok well at my school we have to do 40 hours, for some ppl it's easy and others it's hard...and i think im safe by saying your one of the ppl who struggle...basically all you need to do is look up some voluntary organisations in your area such as a soup kitchen and call ahead to volunteer...I am in the oganasation of scouts canada and with this program i have accumulated almost 200 hours in 4 years and including my volunteering as a councellor at a summer camp i have about 500 hours...and im also on the yearbook comity at my school and i get hours for that as well...so just ask around and you should be able to get plenty of hours by january...


PS: alot of organisations appreciate help around christmas time :):)


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Ok so this is really a question but also advice.
So there’s this boy in my Church group and I think he likes me but I’m not sure.
This one time (the first time I laid eyes on him) he kept smiling at me. And even when he knew I was looking he was still smiling for a few moments and I did too. But then looked away. Then later he asked if he could trade spots with the guy next to me so he could “talk to the other guy next to him” the guy said no though. But anyway, today I came in and I all the seats were rounded in a circle and so I walked in and there was a seat right infrount of me. It looked like all the other seats were taken. And it was right by him. I don’t know if he was saving a seat for me because his stuff was there and he moved them when he saw me come in. But I’m not sure. So then I sat down. And he actually started talking to me. and he asked me "Is that liipgloss?" he was mentining my keychain that had lipgloss on it. and I answered "Maaaabey" beacuse I thought yes sounded to cheesy and no sounded well rude and whatever. he smiled and said "can I use some? I need some" he said joking ly. He was smiling I could tell he was joking.so I'm like "yea...sure!" I said sarcasticly with a smile. at that moment I liked him. also his full attenetion was on me smiling. Then the teacher told me I got to go o the trip friady. "your going?" he asked. then said cool. he put his hand up for a high five So i highfived him. He asked me questions and asked if he could see my phone. Then I cought him once or twice lookling at me. And I’m not sure but I THINK I saw him put his foot near mine. But I was looking up, but I think I saw it at the end of my eye but I’m not sure. So mabee that doesn’t count.later when I was bored I forgot about the lipgloss convo and put some on. "So it is lipgloss!" he said jokeingly. I smiled. " you know I still need some." he said then laughed. I laughed too. So does he like me???

Ok...personally if I were to say those kind of things to someone I would have to like them somewhat at least as a friend...
I'll try to give you some definitions of the signs...
Interest in you: Ok...this is a good sign that he does like you...I can't tell how much by your text, I'd have to see it.
Smiling: This is a number one sign of likeness...once again, I can't tell how much by your text, I'd have to see it.
High five: This is a typical friends gesture, we all do it...
Lauging: Depends on how he laughed, like if it was sarcastic, then no...but if it was really laughing or giggling in a guy way..then yes.
Footsies: This means he wants to get closer to you, in what way I'm not too sure.

All this to say that I think he does like you and if you think it will work out for you, ask him out to the movies or something like that. Hope this helped.


~unluckychick~

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ever wanted to decide for someone if they should get over someone? well here's your chance!
I will give you the background info, and then YOU guys decided, get over him or not.. if the majority says yes. then thats it. ill try to get over him.

You'll recognize the story because ive asked atleast 17 questions about this guy on here, since the year 2002 (yes ive had a crush on him for 4 years!)

I met this guy in june, 4 yrs ago, when i was on vacation with my parents. We live on different continents, but i visit his continent every year because my family lives there.

The first year when we met - we were watching a movie with my cousins and he said "damn, she's so hott! i love angelina jolie!" then he looked at me, winked..and said "you're hott too btw!" (sound cheesy, and sleezy, but he said it in a charming way)he left with one of my cousins and came back an hour later.. my cousin then told me "ehh, he thinks you like him!" (i had done nothing to make him belive that..except smile when he said "You're hott too!") but whateer, at this point i didnt really like him, i was more annoyed that he was hanging around while i was trying to spend some time iwth my cousins..
anyways, when he came back with my cousin, my cousin left to talk on the phone, and left me alone with this guy..he ssat down next to me on the porch and said "what's up? you look sad! why are you sitting alone instead of watching tv with the rest of the family?" i said; idk..it's nice outside. and he agreed. then he suddenly gave me a troubled look (which he had not had befofre) and said.. "damn im screwed" (he whispered this though..so i didnt hear it) i said "what?" and he repeated it.. and i asked why? and he explained that his gf of 5 months had crazy ocerprotective parents, and her sister (who is also very over protective) had seen them holding hand at the mall... i tried to give him advice on what to do since he seemed to really care about this girl, and then said.. aww its really cute how you talk about her, i can tell you're a sweettalker! and he said, yeah i guess.. then looked right into my eyes, and told me how beautiful they were.. after this we spent 4 hours togther, flirting and talking..basically just hanging out and getting to know eachother.. he found out i was leaving the next day, asked me for my email..and then said goodbye.
i didnt really start liking him, until after i left the country. thats when i started realiing it. and we talked online a couple of times but not a lot. One of the few times we did talk online he said "if i didnt have a gf, i would have kissed you when we met!" and on another occasion he told me "ive now been with my gf for 11 months and i love her soo much"
so he flirted with me but always made it clear that he had a gf he would never cheat on.
the last conversation we had before i met him the second year he said "if i break up with my gf this summer, are we set?" and i said "deal!" so we basically agreed on hooking up (just making out and getting to know eachother and stuff like that!)

when the day finally came that i saw him again, it happened to be the last day in his country AGAIN, we met..didnt talk to eachother for a while (he talked to my cousin, and made jokes the first few houres!) then we started asking eachother questions.. how've you been since last time? what's been going on? what's new?.. just the regular chit-chat.. and i asked him about his gf and he said "we had a fight yesterday, and we broke up.." and i said " aww really?" and he said "yah, otherwise i wouldnt be here!" (which shows that he thought of me as more than a friend..otherwise he wouldnt say that right?)
anyways, we hung out, flirted a bit (not as much as the year before..) and then he went home and we said "see you tomorrow!" but my family changed the plans.. so we left that same day, and i didnt get to say goodbye! after this i went to camp for 3 weeks, when i came back,, i had an email from him.. with two poems, and he said "i cant stop thinking about you, we never got to say goodbye! i didnt get to give you the present i bought you" and things along those lines, i answered..and we started emailing regurly.. then i for some reason got insecure and made up a story about how i cant email him anymore.. (dont ask, i dont really know why i did that) and we stopped emailing.. until this summer.. when i thought i was gonna meet him again, i went online, and we started IMing.. flirting, promising that we'd get together and have fun this summer, telling eachother how we feel about eachother and so on,.. until one night i found out i wasnt gonna get to see him because my parents had a fight with my cousins parents.. so i wasnt gonna get to cisit my cousins and see him. when i told him this he said "oh well, whatever, its not like its a big deal!" WTF? it is a huge deal! for me it was atleast.. and then i asked why his screenname was so sad...and his answer? its about my ex who im still in love with! he then sent me a 2 page email about who hes never cared for anyone else, how he loves her, how he'll never get over her, they're meant to be..and so on.
i cried, and told my friends.. they id "be honest with him!" so i was, i asked how he could say he loved me when all along he was in love with her? and he said "im sorry if i hurt you, but i didnt realize im still in love with her until recently,," i decided to get over him (of course) and didnt talk to him for a month..but now, we email again.. like nothing ever happened.. like we're just friends.. pen pals.. needles to say, i still have a crush on him, and pray everyday that we're gonna get to see eachother again this christmas! i keep praying he'll be over her by then..!!

so, what do you think?
should i try to get over him?
and HOW? stop emailing??
i dont think it will work..
unless i tell him that "ive chosen not to fall for you, so if i show up this christmas, i dont want to see you..andi cant keep in touch with you anymore!" but thas so awkward! maybe there's another way? what do you guys think?

First things first, you need to get over him as a crush, but you should remain friends or like you said it WILL be awkward when you visit your cousins every year. I think you need to be straightforward with him and tell him that if he's not over his ex-girlfriend than he needs to leave you alone with the flirting and all. Also, keep emailing him but keep it simple and friendly, not overly flirtatious if you know what I mean. Hope this helps.


~unluckychick~

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Ok so this is really a question but also advice.
So there’s this boy in my Church group and I think he likes me but I’m not sure.
This one time (the first time I laid eyes on him) he kept smiling at me. And even when he knew I was looking he was still smiling for a few moments and I did too. But then looked away. Then later he asked if he could trade spots with the guy next to me so he could “talk to the other guy next to him” the guy said no though. But anyway, today I came in and I all the seats were rounded in a circle and so I walked in and there was a seat right infrount of me. It looked like all the other seats were taken. And it was right by him. I don’t know if he was saving a seat for me because his stuff was there and he moved them when he saw me come in. But I’m not sure. So then I sat down. And he actually started talking to me. Full attention, and smiling. He asked me questions and asked if he could see my phone. Then I cought him once or twice lookling at me. And I’m not sure but I THINK I saw him put his foot near mine. But I was looking up, but I think I saw it at the end of my eye but I’m not sure. So mabee that doesn’t count. So does he like me???

Guys have wierd ways of showing a girl they like them but yes i think this guy likes you...Depending on if you like this guy back...if you do: you should hint to him that you do so he'll tell you straight out...or ask you out for that matter...
but if you dont: you should tell him that your not interested...that way he'll leave you alone...so to speak...
hope this helps...


~unluckchick~

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hey i real;ly want to see the movie shes the man, and its out onm dvd but i dont wanna buy it does any one know how i can watch it online or something? i checked youtube but all they have is clips. thnnx

What if you just rent it...or you could borrow it from someone who has bought it...


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I really like this guy David, we flirt alot too. I'm not sure if he realizes I'm into him, so I want to pump of my flirting moves if you get what I'm saying. We already hamg out, we talk all the time, I smile and totally giggle, and we say stupid stuff to make each other laugh. Sometimes he tickles me too, but what else should I do?

OMG this is sooo scary...I'm am in the exact same situation...I really like this guy named David too...wierd...anyways...I'm in as much cluelessness as you are as of him knowing I like him...but I CAN help you with the flirting part...like when you guys are close (like sitting next to eachother) try to do some subtle touching...like gently but not really lean on his arm and casually rub your hand down his arm "accidentally" lol...and if your sitting in front of him (with nothing between you) if he says someting funny tap his leg while laughing and say..."that's a good one"...kind of thing...and...my favourite but I'm too shy to acctually do it...stare into his eyes and pretend your not listening so when he asks you about what he just said say..."sorry, what was that?...i was looking at your eyes...I never noticed how (color) they are"...and yeah...hope this helps...lemme know how it goes...


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I really want to wear thongs because I tried my friends on once and it felt SO comfortable. I don't want one just because my friends wear them, because thats just stupid. I really like the feeling of them, but I'm afraid if I wear them, it'll seem like I'm a slut. The farthest I've gone with a guy is just a PECK on the lips, one time and thats it. So I'm no where near a slut. My mom doesn't care if I wear thongs, she actually even bought one for me. I want to wear it, but I don't want to feel slutty or people to think a slut. But I love the way they feel, they are good for when I wear tighter clothing, and my mom approves of them and I have one in my drawer already, so should I wear it or not? I'm 13 and female if it helps.

Anyone who thinks a girl is slutty because she wears a thong is a loser who has nothing better to do!...If you like the feeling hooray for you, not evryone does...besides it does wonders when your wearing tight pants and low-rise jeans...also, just a tip...never wear a thong with a skirt unless you have shorts on top...hope this helps...


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I am seriously getting stressed here! My best friend told me yesterday that she was through with life and she wanted to kill herself! I've been through this before with another one of my friends. It turned out that that friend wasn’t going to commit suicide she was just really depressed but I had told someone. Now it’s happening again with a different friend so I told my mom this time. I let her read the conversation we had and then my mom was just like "All I see here is a very angry child trying to get attention." I don’t see it that way though. My mom had said that out of the 100% of people that say there going to commit suicide, 98% don’t and 2% do. My friend said that sometime before high school is over she's going to kill herself. I have 4 years to convince her not to, but I tried a ton yesterday. She said its not helping and that I shouldn’t be her friend anymore. I love being her friend and I understand that she's trouble from home life (her mother doesn’t trust her!
Her brother doesn’t like her, and her dad abused her but has stopped). What should I do? I really don’t want my friend to kill herself but she doesn’t understand that!

Ok...well I can give you the point of view of your friend because I was once in a similar situation...If I were her I would hate it when people tried to "un-convince" me...and I would just want all the bad things happening to stop...so this is where you come in...find out what's really bothering her and try to fix it...if it's un-fixable try to make things better and more comfortable for her...Do something really special for her (like a suprise birthday party) and make her see that not everything is bad in life...and this is very important: if she needs help...always be availiable...I
f none of this helps...you should go to a help line and ask what you can do...sometimes you have to rat out your friends but only because you love them not because you want them to be in trouble...and she needs to understand that...that your trying to help her and not to make things worse...I know it took me a long time to realise but I eventually did...and look...here i am today helping someone else...all she needs is a kick in the ass the get her back on track...hope this helps...


~unluckychick~

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13/f

I like this guy named James. i have heard from everybody that he likes me. and then everyone knows that i like him and also ppl keep saying that he is going to ask me to be his gf. and then today he finaly asked me. and i said yes. and then now this other cute guy that is new came to my school today/ he is a major hottie! but im still thinking of wether i should stay with james or go with the new kid Jake. everone and all of my friends think that i should stay with with James. im not sure who to choose. should i stay with james sinse he already asked me to be his gf and use jake as a back up?

Thanks!! :)

I'm sorry but to use a guy as back-up is way rude...If you really like James stay with him because you WANT to and forget about Jake because you probobly don't even know him...like you said he's new and a major hottie...I don't want to be mean but Jake probobly doesn't even like you, like if he';s that hott than he's probobly got loads of other girls going for him...he has lots to choose from...the odds of him choosing you...not too big...so follow your heart and do whatever you want but you asked for advice and I'm telling you to stay with James...good luck with all this by the way...


~unluckychick~

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one time me and this boy I liked were one on one
at my house on my trampoline.
He said " you used to like me didnt you?"
and Im like "yeah" [which was akward enough]
then he said " i used to like you "
2 seconds later , he says " just kidding"
whats the deal?

omg...that was so mean of him...I think he just wanted to shove it in your face that you liked him but he never liked you so if I were you I would just let him go...If you still like him find out if he was just kidding or if he just wanted to know if you liked him...because sometimes guys just dont know how to say things...they find ways that at first seem perfectly fine but really they can be quite painfulto others...but yeah...do what you feel is right...:)


~unluckychick~

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does anybody on this site cut themselves ? i need to talk to someone who i can relate to .. PLEASE!! i/m me at x3MOxL0V3x thank you so much

ok...i only quit cutting a few months ago and well...if i can be of any help don't hesitate to email me at amasing_fun@hotmail.com ok...
amyways...to get to the point...cutting is bad you shouldn't do it...im not going to lecture you any more than that because I hated when people did that to me when they found out...ayways...you need to find something else to do other than cutting...me: i stated writting songs and playing them on guitar and it turns out im pretty good...depending on your personality you could try something else in that sense...as for the reason for cutting...you need to figure out why you did it...if you dont know...STOP!...if you think it will stop you from committing suicide...it's just as bad as risk...if you want attention...DO SOMETHING ELSE!...I hope you take this advice and if you have any questions or just simply want to talk...just email me...anything at all...i'll listen and if you need more advice just ask...hope this helped...♥


~unluckychick~

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17/f...

Is dating my best friend a bad choice to make...cause I really like him and I'm pretty sure he likes me too...I've dated one of my other friends and we broke up and we're still good friends...but this guy's diffrent cause we're like best friends...to as far guy/girl friendships go...

...A little help please...

(Thanks for the additional info...it helped me for this answer)...
I personally don't think it's a good idea because not only would you lose the friendship in breaking up but I think there has to be a spark somewhere in the beginning... I mean, if you're best friends but you don't really go out of your way to talk to each other or be with each other, then you should probably just stay friends and move on. Key words...moving on...this is because you don't want to dwell on someone for so long that it makes the whole situation a bit weird. Sorry for the bluntness...


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I have fallen for this man that i have known And crushed on for over a year. We worked together(he quit yesterday). I guess you can say he pretty much lead me on.When we worked together He would flirt constantly with me, throw little things at me, when i went on lunch break he would call the store on his cell phone and call me to the front of the store just to talk to me(i didnt realize it was him calling until i got up there) And i would spend the entire lunch break talking with him. He actually listened to every word i said and acted like he cared. Now that is why i have fallen for him.

Problem is hes 27 and im 17. He has a girlfriend that pretty much hates me(im guessing). I saw his girlfriend today and she gave me a reallly evil look. She doesnt know me outside of work.

Im really confused. I hate the fact that he quit because i absolutely love working with this guy. Not only because i get to see him but because hes the only person i work well with.

thank you. sorry its so long.

Ok...I know that many people would be like "Gross! You like a 27 year old...and your seventeen!"...well...I have a similar problem...I Am in love with a 36 year old married guy...for 2 years now...and I'm 16...So naturally...I can help you with this one...

First... Try your hardest to forget him... Then...Go out and meet new people to get your mind off him...I know this may me someting your hear alot but it's what you have to start with...I personally have never been able to completely get over him but if you can convert most of your feelings into a good friendship it works great...you end up forgeting that your in love with him...(I speak from experience)...♥


I really hope this helps...let me know if it does...(my e-mail is amasing_fun@hotmail.com)


~unluckychick~

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How do you cancel some of your email accounts if you have more than one email account?

Depending on what server you are currently using, there could be many ways to do so. On hotmail usually if you do not use it for a certain amount of time it will disactivate.

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hey every one im 16/m
well i wonted to know how can i stop a girl from likeing me i have tryed every thing from acting stupid but its not working at all she follows me to class every day and i dont wont to be mean but i dont wont her by me at all but tha bad thing about it is she wont say nothing at all all she will do is wave so i dont kno can some one plz tell me what to do

Personally I've been caught doing the same thing...not quite as bad but similiar. The thing is, I never knew. So what I'm saying is that you need to go up to her and just tell her that you don't like her and that you want her to leave you alone. Then, if she still follows you around, try hanging out with other girls so then she might understand better that you don't want to be with her.


~unluckychick~

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