whats the point of a hickey? why do people do them?
LOL!!! I've ALWAYS wondered that myself. I think that some people do it as a form of 'possession'. "Once they see that hickey on my girlfriend they'll know she's taken" etc. Kinda like a dog peeing on a fire hydrant lol..just making their mark. I, however, HATE them and I make sure it's known. I'm lucky that my BF feels the same way about them.
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16/f
i hate my body. and i try so hard to loose weight. the past 2 weeks i've been eating so healthy. salads everyday. lunch and dinner. and i was running in the morning. and active through out the day. nothing...didn't loose any kind of weight. my stomach still looks like a fat piece of flab and i still have love handles...i was hoping to maybe loose a pound or 2 but not even that. i stayed the same.
i'm so tempted to go bulimic and i know thats not the answer but its so tempting because i know i would loose weight doing that. i've thought about it and i would only try to do it 2 times a week....
**besides the past 2 weeks. i've been working out since march and i do eat healthy. sometimes i do cheat and eat junk. but thats barely ever...
Oh hon..I hope by all means that you do NOT choose to become Bulimic or Anorexic. These not only aren't healthy, but they aren't as attractive as some may think. It sounds to me like you are doing really good for yourself. Unfortunately, these things take time. Like Court said, I would get with a nutritionist, or if you are working out, talking to a personal trainer might also help. Most gyms you go to, you can speak with the personal trainer the first time for free. That way you can find out what excercises you need to do to pin point the places you are uncomfortable with. The worse thing you can do is get discouraged. When I first started trying to lose weight, I tried so hard that it stressed me out, and what did stress do?! Led to weight gain so I was right back at square 1. Then I started drinking sprite and coke zero and not worrying about what I ate. The main thing is to STOP when you are full. Don't make yourself think that you have to 'finish what's on your plate'. Give yourself small portions and eat slow. Chew every bite (ever seen the french eat..it's extremely slow..now I know why they are so thin) =) I hope that I've been a little help, sorry so long! Let me know how things go and always remember...NOBODY can be you better than you can. Your beautiful..whether you believe it or not!
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16/f. my boyfriend(17) and i have only been dating for about two months but we've known each other for about two years so we tell each other everything. he's been having some family problems lately. he lives with his dad, step mom and four siblings. his parents are really strict with him and hes always miserable because he never has time to do anything and hes always grounded for things that he cant help with. he works two jobs and when hes not working he has to stay at home with his brothers and sisters. im always trying to make him feel better but i just dont know what to tell him anymore. i tell him that things will get better but he doesnt believe it anymore and im not sure that i do either. his step mom tells everyone to clean and he does so that we can hang out but he ends up being the only one to clean and then he gets yelled at for the house not being in perfect condition when she gets home. i mean when hes the only one doing anything the house isnt going to be perfect in just a few hours. i really have no idea what to tell him anymore. i want to make him feel better but i have no idea how to comfort him. i let him know that im here for him and everything but i just dont know. any advice will help. thanks so much for reading this and sorry about the length.
Court is completely right! You are doing everything that a girlfriend can do to help him out. I feel so bad that he's having to take on so much responsibility at such a young age. He's 17 now, so less than a year to go before he is a free man. He's working two jobs?! Wow! Tell him to save up some of that money so that he has a good start on getting an apartment. I'm sorry but there really isn't much more I can tell you or that you can tell him. It's very admirable that you are trying so hard to help him. I hope, for the sake of both of you, that things get better. Good luck and remember...what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.
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what are the charges if you get into a car accident while drunk. and what are some drunk driving story survivers?
The charges/punishment depends on your crime (and many other things) for instance..first time offender, was anyone injured, kids in the car, of age, etc.
One of my really good friends made the mistake of getting into a car drunk and got into an accident with another vehicle. The person in the other car was in the hospital for almost 3 weeks. Luckily he didn't kill anyone, but he spent 1 year in jail (was actually sentenced to 3) for attempted vehicular homicide. Even though he did not intend on hurting anyone, he knew when he got behind the wheel that that was a possibility. He still to this day hasn't forgiven himself for the pain he caused so many people.
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okay. so i want to give my boyfriend a blowjob. but im scared to get an STD. but theres only been one girl he's been "with" and thats one of my bestfriends. they used to go out. but i know for a fact that shes clean & has been tested because she has only been "with" him to. can i be sure he still doesnt have an STD even though i know for a fact my bestfriends been tested?
I'll keep this short and simple. You can NEVER be sure about anyone except yourself (and only then if you've been tested). It's amazing that you are so aware of the things that could happen. How long have you and your boyfriend been going out? Long enough for you to be comfortable asking him to get tested? If not than it is up to you to decide whether or not it is worth the risk (no matter how slim the chances may be). Good luck babe and please continue to be as conscious about these things as you are now. That's VERY responsible.
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okay so i got my first serious boyfriend in december... and we dated for almost 4 months...but he was the first guy ive ever felt that way about...all the other guys from my past its never felt right which is why i would never pursue a relationship...but with this one it was different. he was so perfect.
well we broke up about a week before our 4 month because it was a long distance relationship and the stress was just really getting to him. it was really hard for me because i love him. i tried to pull myself together but i cried all the time which only led to more fights with him.
then i decided that if i cant have him as my boyfriend i still want to have him as a friend because he knows me better than anyone. so i pulled myself together and acted like i was fine and things were going good, and we still talked all the time...probably just as much as when we were dating.
then we got into another fight and things were just bad. he told me not to call him or text him and if i did then i could delete his number from my phone. so it was hard but we didnt talk for 4 days. then he called me and we talked about it and he said he just needs to focus on other things and he cant have a relationship with me right now...but maybe in the future. i know he still loves me and i obviously am very much in love with him and he tells me that he doesnt want me to get over him but he doesnt want to be with me and we barely talk now which is super hard for me.
its so hard for me to be his "friend" when i still have all these feelings for him and he is so good at showing that he doesnt even care. anyway, i dont know what to do. im not ready to move on but its so hard keeping my feelings inside. i just love him so much but i dont want to keep making his life worse because of what i want.
First thing is first, you aren't making his life worse because of the feelings you have, it's yours that's getting hard to handle. Don't think for a second that you are hurting him. You seem like a good hearted person and I know that these situations are rough. I'm here to be honest to you, I'm not going to be the one to tell you what you want to hear because that wouldn't be helping at all. You said yourself it's hard to be his "friend" because of your feelings for him, then stop. Easier said than done I know. You need to tell him that you agree you all both need to focus on other things. Tell him straight up that you care about him too much to be around him and push those feelings to the side. Try out the "no contact" calender. Don't talk to him, don't text him, don't go out of your way to see him. You need to take some time to figure out what it is you want and what you are willing to go through for it. I mean I know that he is what you want, but is it worth putting your life on hold and breaking your heart everytime you see him? Whether or not he still cares is irrelevant. You need to look out for your best interest, no one else is going to. I'm not telling you go out and find another man, Im just saying leave this one alone for a bit. Give him the time and space he wants and take the time and space you need. Go out with your friends, have a good time living the single life. You need to just be yourself for a while. Babe no matter what happens I wish you teh best of luck and hope that all works out well for you. Let me know how things go.
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ZMy latest boy troubles. I've never had a boyfriend, and I'm beginning to believe that it's all my fault, all the time.
But another part of me wonders why guys don't ever come after me? Why am I always the one who has to make the first step forward?
I liked a guy, and he found out from a friend of mine. We sort of talked about it over text (this was on Sunday), in which he made some vague comments about how weird it was to find out "stuff" like that. That was about it.
The next day, when I saw him at first, he smiled at me, and said "hey". But that didn't last long, because I saw him a lot for the rest of the day, and it was kind of awkward.
Today, maybe it's just my imagination, but I swear he was staring at me. We were playing a buzzer game in class, I was up, and he was in the audience. After a while of losing horribly, I was just like "Anyone, take my place." and I went back down in the audience. As soon as I get up, he moves too. Not next to me or anything, but he moves. This happened a couple of times.
What I should do is text him and say "Why are things still weird between us? What is going on?"
I don't want to screw this up, but I don't know what to do. I don't know if he likes me, I don't know what he thinks, and there is only 5 more days I will see him (10 more days of school left).
I need a miracle or something.
Wow! First off lets relieve some stress by saying you can't "screw this up" because "this" doesn't even exist yet. You have 5 days to get out everything you want to get out so you have to decide which is more important to you...a)making sure he knows how you feel inspite of what he is feeling or b)Fear of rejection. It's a common problem (especially in girls). We do NOT like to hear no and because of this we miss out on some great opportunities. Look at it this way. Things are awkward now, right? If so then why not just come out and tell him how you feel. This way worse case scenario, things are awkward (so nothing changes) and best case scenario, you find out he feels the way you do. Hearing the word no is not easy, but I promise you that it is easier to get over when you hear "no" than it is constantly wondering "what if". I say go ahead. Put yourself out there. You win some, you lose some and once you realize this your life will be sooo much better. Hope I could help and I wish you the best of luck!!!!
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Me and my ex boyfriend were dating for like 5 months. he's the first guy i really ever fell in love with and i was so open towards him. also he was the first guy that i had ever done sexual stuff with. we never actually had sex but we talked about it all the time, never got the chance. but we did other stuff. Well ever since we broke up i have been so depressed and down in the dumps. i want him back so bad.
He broke up with me because he thought that i was cheating on him. which i definitaly WAS NOT. But a day or two after he decided it was over, he called me and we talked. he said that he was so stupid for breaking up with me and hurting me again. (we had broken up a few times before.) he said that he missed me so much and he's never really cried in his life but the thought of losing me made tears swell up in his eyes. he was devistated. i was as well. I never wanted to lose him, not again.
I am still in love with him, and it's been more that a month since we split. i want him to hold me again. i want to feel his sweet touch. his warm kisses and loving hugs. is there any way at all that i could possibly get him back? ANY advice would help. thanks. :)
Well first off, according to your second paragraph he wants you back also. Now you have to think..this is not the first time he has left you. Are you willing to go through that again? Take a step back and look at everything that has happened so far while you all were together. I know that it's easier said than done, but I honestly think that you should move on with your life, and without him. I'm afraid that the way he keeps breaking up with you and getting back together is his way of "keeping you close". His way of making sure that he knows he can have you when he wants, and in addition he can leave to do his thing and you will wait for him. If you truly want to get back together I suggest making this the LAST time and make sure he knows it. Tell him straight up that if it doesn't work this time then it's over for good. Honey you can't keep putting yourself through this heartache. I don't even know you and can still say I think that you are worth sooo much more than that. So either way you decide, make it the last, however I strongly suggest telling him he had his chance and blew it. Tell him you plan to move on. If he waits for YOU this time (instead of the other way around) than you know he is serious. If not...your better off without him because he doesn't deserve you. Good luck sweetie, I wish you the best! I hope I was of atleast a little help!
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so for junior year Mandy came to my high school. She is known as a slut but our school is really chill so everyone was eager for her arrival. me and mandy became really close. shared secrets and instantlyclicked. she was knwn to be a social climber but i ignroed that. then she became friends with the prettiest girl in my grade, Rose (who is also best friends with the hot seniors) and kind of stopped talking to be an my friends. but wtrv we were still friends. then i heard she hooked up with this senior. she never told me about it so i called ehr and kind of hinted it out of her. she got mad that i didnt straght out tlel her but wtvr. then we had a lseep over. that sat night there was a senior party. i am not friends with the seniors but she and Rose did so i came. we all amde a pack to not leave me but they did. i got drunk and bad stuff happened. after the party things were never the same. she stopped tlaing to me and is was really sad. we are going ont he sam summer program so i decided to cal her to clear the air. she was such a b***h!!!!!!!!! like sayingall my bad qulities and stuff and i like was just shocked at how soemone who i was bets friends could htink of me liek that!!! i was like are you kidding me? she said that she views me in a bad light now ever since th party. i was like fi my friend made a mistake iw ould never hold a grudge how dare you! she also said that her and her friedsn could make my friend (who she doesn;t like, who is also going on this summer prigram) life a living hell!! who the hell does she htink she is. i am realllly nervious for summer now. i still have schol time with her which will be awkward but i could handle that. i feel since she is SOOOO manipulative that she will befriend everyone and eveyone will be firneds with ehr and i will have a terriable summer. please help. give me advice that you persoannly would take bc just syaing "ignore her" wont help.
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Wow you are in a sticky situation!!! First thing is first, she definitely is not a true friend so as for being friends again, I wouldn't try it. Secondly, you said your friend is going too right? Well atleast right off the bat you know you have one person there that you click with. You seem like a really cool, outgoing person. Just go there and be yourself and DON'T forget that you do have your true friend going also. If you walk into this camp thinking that it's going to be a bad experience then you will walk out realizing you were right. However, if you go in determined not to let anything or anyone get you down, it'll be the best time ever. Remember the only way you and your friend can truly get back at this girl is to NOT let her win. I'm not saying ignore her, but don't give her any special attention. If you are a happy, outgoing person, you will attract more happy and outgoing people. Good luck and I hope that i've helped you out a little.
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im 16/f
he is 19
when we went out i was 14. he was my first boyfriend and it lasted 4 months and i started to lose the spark in the relationship. i loved him but i didnt like him anymore if that made sense. i think the stress of everyone thinking he was too old for me and being so judgemental about it just made me not want to have to deal with it anymore so i told him "i have to talk to you" and he said "i have to talk to you first" and i told him to go first and he told me that there was another girl who told him she liked him and he had always liked her and he said he would absolutely stay with me and tell her to back off if i wanted to stay together but with all the stress i broke it off. within an hour he was going out with this other girl. realizing i truly did still love him i flipped out on him because i felt like he didnt care. i think i had an understandable reason to be upset....it was only an hour! we ended up getting into this big screaming fight and we didnt talk for a year and a half. then one day he texted me. i had no idea he still had my number becasue when we were going out he didnt have a cell phone so its not like he had it saved in there. so that was around christmas time and we've just been talking ever since. by the way he's still going out with the girl "he left me for" (i dont know what else to call it). so we gradually started talking more and more and now we talk about twice a day. still texting because he's shy and would probably have a heart attack if he called me.
so on to the real situation. in the 4 or 5 months that we've been talking to each other its just like all my other friendships except that i havent seen him in two years and we dont talk about our relationship and our girlfriends/boyfriends. even though i've been single ever since. so today he says "i have a question" and he asked if i thought it was weird that we can have such a good relationship after having a serious dating relationship and then a heated break up and i said it was fine and i enjoy having someone to talk to. the conversation kept going and now he's going to visit me at work while im on break which im excited about but nervous all at the same time. and he said he was excited too. then we started talking about our relationship and how we were so shy that we barely talked to each other in the begining and how i was the first and only girl (to this day) that he ever had butterflies for. and then we started talking about the break up and he told me that for a week he didnt care that we broke up but then after that week he totally broke down and realized what had happened and what he lost. even while he had this new girlfriend who he had always liked. and he thought i didn't care that we broke up and i "didnt give a F***" so i told him that i had loved him a lot and i really did care when we broke up and it took me a year to get over it.
im just wondering why someone would say this. and take two years to say it. and why would they say this, to their ex girlfriend after being with a girl for two years???
i'm not sure what to make of the situation. i wasn't expecting this at all!!
As said below, it sounds that you both did the same thing. You both seem to have had stronger feelings for eachother than you realized. However, he is with someone else now. You have to make sure you don't find yourself being the "other girl." There isn't anything wrong with being friends with him or even him visiting you at work, but you have to make sure he knows that it has to stay completely platonic. If you let him believe that you are willing to be the 'other girl' than he is having his cake and eating it too. Just make sure boundaries are set.
As for your question concerning what would make him say this now..well it could be for many reasons. Maybe he truly does miss you and wish that he'd done things differently. Or maybe it's his way to make sure you still have feelings for him in case something happens him and this other girl split. I don't say that to sound mean, but know that there is always the possibility of him simply wanting to make sure you continue to wait on him. For your sake I hope this isn't the case. I wish you the best of luck and hope that i've helped u out a little.
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i'm 15/f and i have never had an actual boyfriend and i've never kissed a guy. I feel so behind from all the other girls at school. I just don't feel like i want to take on all the drama that comes with a relationship.
I'm not ugly or anything and i think guys don't ask me out because i'm kind of one of them. I love video games and playing guitar, and skateboarding. The dresses and stuff don't really get me.
I'm worried about being single for the rest of my life! I want to keep my guy friends though, they're like my brothers and i'm worried that if i ever get a guy he won't let me hang out with my boys!
I know exactly how you feel. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 17. I was always "one of the guys" and I still am. When I did start my first relationship though, I laid it all out on the table. I told him I have guy friends that have been there for me and I plan to be there for them no matter what. I let him know that nothing will make me stop hanging with them. Then I told him if he didn't think he could handle that, then that was fine, but he needed to let me know so that I knew that a relationship was not an option with him. Don't rush the "boyfriend" thing just because it seems everyone else is. Live your life for you. If something happens later down the road and you decide to start a relationship than great, but until then, I wouldn't stress it. I'm sure you are a beautiful person and have a beautiful heart! You'll find the guy for you, I promise. And odds are, you'll find him when you aren't even looking.
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Okay well I am a 15 year old girl and there is this guy his name is Matthew. I really like him and we had been friends awhile back, but than I moved away. I recently got back in touch with him. He kinda remembers me, but I really remember him. I like him so much and think he likes me too. When he calls me we talk for like ever and he always ask if I am doing okay. He tries to remember stuff about me and asks me alot of questions, it seems like he is trying to get to know me all over. Well he has asked me if i would go out with him, but never actually asked me out. I really really like him still and have told him that right out. I think i should just ask him out because I think he may just be too shy, but than I am too shy and afraid of rejection. It seems like he wants to go out with me..Should I just ask him out?
I think you should definitely ask him out. I had problems with Fear of Rejection when I was your age (and in all honesty still do at times). In fact my F.O.R. could have kept me from meeting some great people and from enjoying a relationship with someone who might have had a lot to offer. The way I look at it now is, worse case scenario it doesn't work out, but atleast then you know. You can move on from heartbreak, you can work through it (even if it seems hard at times), however if you don't ask, you'll never know. If you don't give yourself that chance than you may always look back wondering what if. I say ask him out. Put yourself out there. If it doesn't work out atleast you've given yourself that opportunity. I wish you the best of luck and hope that I've helped.
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Okay, I'm kinda in the phase of my life where I'd like a boyfriend (:
I'm not totally desperate, and I'm 'taking life as it comes' however that doesn't really land you one.
Where are places I should go to at least FLIRT with guys.
Places guys would go if they don't have girlfriends would help heaps, the most nerve wracking thing about flirting in my opinion is the fact they might have girlfriends. I know it's a common thing, but since I've never really done it before it would really discourage me. Haha.
Well I guess it kinda depends on your age. First off, think of things that you enjoy. If you like music, go to a concert. It doesn't have to be a big concert, just somewhere a band is playing. If you put yourself somewhere that you enjoy (and other people there enjoy it too) then it makes striking up conversation a lot easier. Tell you what, let me know how old you are and some of the things you enjoy and I will be able to be a lot more helpful. Sorry, hope I atleast helped a little. I wish you luck!!
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what are all kkinds or types of rock music like pop rock soft rock what else
also:
what is emo rock
bubble gum rock
music?
Ok, first we'll do the easy part...
Bubblegum Rock- I want to say this was mostly music from the late 60's and through the 70's (maybe a little in the 80's). It's my understanding that it was referred to as "bubble gum rock" because it was mostly rock hits that were written to appeal to a younger age group than had before.
Emo Rock- Emo is short for "emotional". Most Emo songs are punk and based mostly on emotions of a singer as opposed to kick a** cars, getting laid, and going to the club.
Now for some other forms of rock. Wow, rock is such a broad genre.
You have classic rock, punk rock, alternative rock, etc. I'm not sure if you are asking for songs dealing with each genre, if so, let me know and I will go more in detail.
Hope I helped a little.
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okay so the last time i had sex was in february. Its now coming to the end of april. Ive missed my period since january or february won or the other dont remember but i think it was february. I havent had it since. Could i be preganent or is it the stressn about it thats making me miss my periods =/ has ne one else been through this?
I agree with both posts below. It sounds as thought there could be a possibility of pregnancy. You can buy an accurate pregnancy test at any store from Walmart-CVS. If you are worried someone will see it then there is also a place called Planned Pregnancy that have locations in many places. If you go there it's free and 100% confidential. Whatever you do, don't ignore it. Sometimes it seems like if you don't know it can't be true, but if you aren't then there could possibly be something further wrong. If the test shows you are, then you need to sit down and weigh out your options, if you aren't u need to go to a doctor and make sure everything is alright. Good luck babe!
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i am president of the freshman class and this year freshman is planning the field day for the high school...i was thinking of battle of the sexes but i would need game ideas...please help me...do you know any ideas i can do
If you are doing a battle of the sexes (which I think is a GREAT idea BTW =P) then here are a few ideas just off the top of my head..
3 LEGGED RACE-this is a good battle of the sexes because most would agree that the guys are stronger athletes, but when it comes down to it, being able to successfully work with a partner is the idea of the game.
SACK RACES-these are just a good time no matter what. Who doesn't like to see someone crash and burn lmao.
TUG-A-WAR-no explanation needed there =P
RELAY RACE-always a good time. The best thing about relay races is that you can get creative. It may be that each racer just has to run and tag their partner, or it could go as far as the first racer running to a chair and sitting on a water balloon to pop it..once it pops the second racer must do the same.
Good luck with everything and I hope I helped atleast a little.
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Is it true guys think about sex every 7 seconds?
haha i never thought about asking this but now that someone mentioned it .....
LMAO. Well I guess all in all it depends on the guy =P Ok, lets be honest every 7 seconds is a bit unrealistic. Lets give guys more credit than that...I say every 9 seconds *wink*
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im 16/f, okay so i have a boyfriend who really loves me and i was in love with him but im more in love with his personality than looks. but i know you shouldn't go by looks in a relationship but it helps. we've been going out for 6 months and i recently became friends with this guy i like knew about before i was going out with my boyfriend and hes extremely attractive. he even likes me and ive hung out with him a few times and we have a lot of fun. i know ive been going out with my boyfriend and i would never cheat on him because im not like that but i feel like i want to be able to like flirt with people and explore, but i feel like im not able to with a boyfriend. Like sometimes i love having a boyfriend and sometimes i feel like i wish i didn't have one. but my boyfriend is in love with me and i don't want to break his heart. he got mad at me for hanging out with this other really hot guy who likes me, but i feel like i should be able to hang out with whoever i want. i dont know what i should say to my boyfriend or what i should do. this is a tough situation because i know my boyfriend will be there for me but this hot guy i kind of like but i don't know if he just wants to just get with me, be friends or anything more or less. this other guy seems really nice and likes me and im attracted to him. i dont know what to do, please help me.
Doesn't sound like a very easy situation that you are in. I've been here before, and I made the wrong choice, but we live and learn. My advice to you is to break up with your current boyfriend. I don't think that you should, however, jump into a realtionship with 'guy 2'. It sounds like what you want to enjoy is the single life, and at 16, I think that you are right to do so. Have fun being single.
You are right that a relationship shouldn't be based on looks, but lets be honest here, looks count for something. You have to be physically attracted to the other person on some level.
I think you just need a break to be yourself. You sound like the type of person that likes to go out and have a good time. Explain to your current boyfriend how you feel and tell him that you just need to be by yourself so that you can BE yourself. It may hurt him at first, but in the long run he will appreciate you giving him the chance to find someone who feels the same way about him that he feels about you.
I wish you the best of luck and I'm truly sorry it took me so long to get this message to you. I've been going through a few problems also.
Take care and please please please write me to let me know how things are going. Good luck!
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okay so theres this reallyyyyy hot kid whos ive been obsessed about for like ever and now im finally friends with him. one problem, i have a boyfriend and we've been going out for almost 6 months. btw im in 10th and theyre in 11th. umm and i really llike my bf but idk now im kinda feeling like restrained and i cant do anything if you know what i mean, cause this really hot kid thats im now friends with i think likes me. would you rather be with the one you love or the one who loves you? so idk what to dooooo! someone please help me
It sounds like instead of picking one of these guys you need to be single for a bit. Give yourself time to figure out what you want. It's unfair to you and your boyfriend that you are staying with him when you have feelings for someone else. However, you don't want to break up with him and then jump right back into another relationship. I think you should take a break from relationships and enjoy the single life. Enjoy that freedom that you seem to long for. Talk to who you want, when you want. This will give you the opportunity to find out who it is you want to be with. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you drop me a line sometime to let me know how it went.
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okayyyyyyy
so i like this kid ; lets call him "aaron"
and ive been liking him ever since the beginning of the school year;and thats pretty LONG.
i know he likes me. and he knows i like him.
but hes really shy.
and that led to - hmm. 2 sentences said to eachother .. twice a week?
Yeah if im lucky maybe 3 times.
and its been like that ever since.
we would hang out occasionally and talk on the phone, but i heard hes planning to ask me out.
Hes been saying that for the loongest time, or so i heard ( but i know its true), and now that its getting to the end of the year; i KNOW hes going to ask me out
problem;
If he cant even talk to me now.. how is he going to talk to me when we go out?
Another problem:
Also. uhhh. ha, im falling for his close buddy.
lets call him "Dave"
Me and Dave always talkkkk.
And im never nervous with him, i tell him everything and im always myself and he actually TALKS to me.
the other day i hung out with "Dave" and .. things happened.
We got realllyyy close.
And thats how i got my first kiss...
Yeahh..
but uh; im not sure if i still like "aaron"
.. i do and i dont.
And i told one of my best friends about it; and shes not supporting me..
well.. she kinda liked him for a year and when Dave was going to ask her out, she decided she didnt like him- and then went out with another guy.
So, she thinks its weird and it wont work out.
Also all my other friends say "it will ruin everything"
and .. how bad does it sound when im going out with - the guys that likes me and i liked him-'s best friend?
UGHHH.
so me and dave have been keeping it a secret.
and i only told like 3 people about it.
im screwed.
How do i prove my point that its NOT a big deal if i DO like him- shes the one who REJECTED him and moved on. why is this a big deal?
.... i like two guys and that cant be good.
just someone..
help me. give me some good long advice.
its eating at my bones; i NEED to figure this out.
thanks.
I need help!
Oh dear..sounds like you are between a rock and a hard place. I'll see if I can help you. Ok first off, it's not uncommon to have feelings for two guys. Secondly...your friends are making me mad (and I don't even know them). If they are truly your friends than they would want you to make the decision that would make you happy. She had her chance and chose to turn it down. It may be different if her and him had a long term relationship, but they didn't. Next you need to decide if something happens your friends turn against you for this (even if its not right) is it worth getting that chance at happiness with 'Dave'. Is it worth not looking back and wondering 'what if'. Your friend doesn't even seem to be into him but instead like the "thrill of the chase". Once she found out he liked her, she was no longer interested. Now that she knows he likes you...crazy...she's interested again. She needs to back off and let you have your shot. As for the choice between Aaron and Dave...as you said, you and 'dave' can talk about anything, you are comfortable with him, etc. As for you and Aaron..you like him but as far as communication is concerned, well there is none. Communication is extremely important. So here is my opinion (and remember it is JUST an opinion)...you give Dave a shot. You seem to like him a lot. If your friends are truly your friends than they will let you have this chance. Good luck hon and I hope I helped atleast a little. Sorry so long =)
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