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I don't know what to tell him...
16/f. my boyfriend(17) and i have only been dating for about two months but we've known each other for about two years so we tell each other everything. he's been having some family problems lately. he lives with his dad, step mom and four siblings. his parents are really strict with him and hes always miserable because he never has time to do anything and hes always grounded for things that he cant help with. he works two jobs and when hes not working he has to stay at home with his brothers and sisters. im always trying to make him feel better but i just dont know what to tell him anymore. i tell him that things will get better but he doesnt believe it anymore and im not sure that i do either. his step mom tells everyone to clean and he does so that we can hang out but he ends up being the only one to clean and then he gets yelled at for the house not being in perfect condition when she gets home. i mean when hes the only one doing anything the house isnt going to be perfect in just a few hours. i really have no idea what to tell him anymore. i want to make him feel better but i have no idea how to comfort him. i let him know that im here for him and everything but i just dont know. any advice will help. thanks so much for reading this and sorry about the length.
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Honestly, you're doing everything that you can. Assuring him that it's going to get better isn't the best thing, because you don't know that for sure. And because he doesn't believe that himself. So all you can do is offer your help and be by his side. In one more year he won't have to deal with that anymore, but until then all you can do is continue to be the loving, caring girlfriend that you've been. If it gets really bad, he may want to see some help from some guidance counselors or something of that nature. But for now just be by his side. It's the most you can do -- and the best.
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Court is completely right! You are doing everything that a girlfriend can do to help him out. I feel so bad that he's having to take on so much responsibility at such a young age. He's 17 now, so less than a year to go before he is a free man. He's working two jobs?! Wow! Tell him to save up some of that money so that he has a good start on getting an apartment. I'm sorry but there really isn't much more I can tell you or that you can tell him. It's very admirable that you are trying so hard to help him. I hope, for the sake of both of you, that things get better. Good luck and remember...what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.
<3 Leslie
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This probably isn't what you wanted to hear...but that's all you really can do, is be there for him. You might also remind him that when he turns 18 he is free =D Sometimes family situations suck, believe me i know! All you really can do is hope that things get better and be there for him when he needs you. So far, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong.
Be strong,
and i wish you the best of luck!
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