about

i'm melanie, call me melly ♥
i'm 18 years old & from long island
i go to University at Buffalo,im majoring in nursing and absolutely love it!

i have the big accent, the big smile and the even bigger heart :)


i love giving advice and helping people out, which is why i`m here. I also love getting feedback, it tells me if I did my job. =)


No question is stupid, ask away! ♥

....I might not always give you the answer you want to hear, but from me youll only hear the truth



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i did the cabbage diet, the original version from Poland, and i lost 7 pounds in 6 days. it's an unhealthy diet since you don't eat carbs, but you should only do it for 1 week at a time. And most people say its impossible to keep the weight off, but I prove them wrong.



advice

I am going on a trip and I want to get more things on my ipod. I have 80gb I-pod video, but thats beside the point. I was wondering if you could reccommend some good movies/tv-shows offered on I-tunes. I cant think of any to search also make sure it is available on i-tunes first thanks.
I was also wondering if you knew any good rock/ metal (but not yelling. something like some of nickelbacks songs, which are oddly considered metal) bands.
Anything you offer would be great, but I will be checking to make sure they are actually on i-tunes before giving ratings.
thanks :)

you didn't really specify the rating of the movies you wanted, but here's a list of good ones.

Comedies-
wedding crashers
white chicks
big mommas house
little man
The pirates of the caribeean 1+2
all the chucky movies
dumb and dumber
the 40 year old virgin
Napoleon Dynamite


Horror-
the amityville horror
saw 1
saw 2
the exorcist
pet cemetery(spelling?)
The hills have eyes
texas chainsaw massacre
Land of the dead
dawn of the dead(some funny parts)
Hide and seek


Love-
The notebook
Shallow Hal
King Kong (kinda love movie)
Grease
Brokeback Mountain
my summer of love


hope i helped
xo




tv shows-
degrassi (it's about kids in highschool)


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I would like some advice on what I should eat because I'm planning on going on a diet... I know some things I should avoid already like junk food, which isn't a problem. What else can I do to not slow down my metabolism and possibly gain more energy? I'm planning to lose maybe 20-30 pounds and I already have a way to exercise. I just need to know what things I can or should eat. Thanks in advance.

http://ifitandhealthy.com/polish-girls-do-it-right/
i found this interesting, and it's not even a diet, it's just how to eat right.

http://ifitandhealthy.com/cabbage-soup-diet-the-new-cabbage-soup-diet/

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i am 5 feet exactly, and i weigh 108 lbs. I know thats not like over weight, but i just want to flatten my stomach because in like... June, we go to a water park as a school fieldtrip, and we have to wear our bathingsuits. i want to look good.
how can i lose about 10-15 lbs before June? any help is appreciated=]

also... i know this is really random, but is there anything i can do to uhm...make my breasts bigger? like any excercises or foods i can eat?

thxx.

Hmm, since the only real thing you seem concerned about is your stomach, you should so about 30-50 crunches a night before you go to bed, and of course gradually increase the number, but you need to stick to it.

Oh, hunny, don't we all wish our breats were bigger? =)
but i do have a tip to make em look bigger in a bikini (a good one)

ok. push the left side of your bikini top out( the material that covers the nipple), and grap your boob and push it to the right, then let go of the bathing suit. Do the same to the right boob, except pull your boob to the left or inwards. Your top needs to be tight around the torso and around the neck. Walaa! your breasts look one whole size bigger! =) ha, it always works for me!
hope i helped
xo

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I have noticed a lot of people ask questions about weight loss. Would anyone like to form a support group/challenge? I am captain of one right now and as a group we lost 103 lbs. last week. It would be strictly based on healthy diet and exercise. So let me know!

that sounds really encouraging! 10lbs. wouldn't hurt...finally, maybe something i can commit to.
email me at princess17@email.com you can laugh, i made it in fourth grade. =)

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13/f

ok well my friends and i have like a lot of impromptu parties just like 6-10 people at different people's houses if we're bored one day.
well theres always one dry spot where we just dont know what to do.
we've gotten tired of seven minutes in heaven, spin the bottle, and truth or dare

what are some other good party games (kissing and also non-kissing ones)?

any and all help appreciated. thanks!

these are some super fun PG-13 games

1.theres three jars, one labled "person", (ex: james, janet, katie, ricky)
one labeled "body part" (legs, back, chest, lips, arm)

and one labeled "action" (lick, tickle, suck, touch, massage)

in a group of 4 people or more, each person has to choose one paper from each jar without looking.
Then everybody opens up the papers and does that "action" to this "body part" on this "person".




2.Consequences (sp) is fun it takes a while and you have to be in the right mood but you can get some really funny answers.
Basically you have a piece of paper each and you write down one line of the storty and the fold it over( so you can see the line) and pass it to the next person.
1) a male name (famous or school teachers are good)
2) female name (ditto)
3) where they met
4) what he said to her
5)what she said to him
6)what the did next (made out went scuba diving etc)
7) the consequence( the got married and had cats or brought as teapot and went to live on mars)

the best one are really surreal and very random.
and if you're completely crazy, like me and my mates, the line should be surreal too, like where they met- a marsh mallow.
so yea its kinda fun and quite a giggle.




3.Make a circle of chairs, one for each person minus one. Then pick a person to be "it" they stand in the middle. Have each person sit on a chair. Then the person in the middle says something (ex. you have a ponytail) and whoever that statement applies to moves one seat to the left- even if someone is sitting in it. I think my party record is about 16 people on one chair, it can get really rediculous but its soo much fun.




4.Well there is always 10 fingers: All gather around, and one person starts saying a statement that they have never done before( Ex. never been arrested). And all the people that have, have to put a finger up. You go around asking the questions, and the person that gets to 10 first is out. Good game to learn about your friend! err, this one is okay.




5.Some car game is *Sex*: If you are with a co-ed group of people in the car, the person who see's a car with either brake light, fountlight, taillight out you scream SEX and hit the top of the car. The person who did it last has to remove a piece of clothing. You can also play it if theres just one gender in the car, and insted of removing clothing, you have to tell a secret.
you can also do this with things in the room that they see like underwear, or something pink.it's really fun.




6.this one is the same as first just different categories:
5 Boys
5 Girls
5 Places
5 Things you can do to a lemon
5 Female body parts
&&
5 Favorite sayings.

I do that one all the time and its really fun.




7.There's another game like the consequence one... you still have to write only one line/answer and then fold it over and pass it to the next person when everyone gets done... the difference is that

Line 1: Who... name any random person girl or boy famous or not

Line 2: What... write down what the person did, can be anything (ex. jumped off the roof, etc.)

Line 3: When... write when that person did that thing above (ex. midnight, yesterday) or be creative

Line 4: Where... write where that person did that thing.. (under the bed, on top of the neighbors truck)

Line 5: Why... write why that person did that thing that they did..( cuz the devil told hiim so) anything...


as for songs, i'd say alot of upbeat dance to songs. i dont really know what type of music you listen to, but maybe Lose Control by miss elliot, smack that by akon and slimshady, cameltoe by i dont remember, maybe chillin at the holidae inn, and maybe cold hard bitch by jets and are you gonna be my girl by jets? hmmmmmm, theres alot of good dance songs by ying yang twins, these are really good songs you can grind too, you know, if its a couples sleep over. veryyyy hot.


hope i helped
xo

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Is being all over someone and hooking up with someone the same thing or different?

hmmmmm
it's different with every situation.
hooking up is making out with someone, and all over someone could be kissing/touching/fondling or lying on top of eachother.
hope i helped
xo

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okay so last year i was like pretty popular with a bunch of friends. and this one girl, lets call her layne, we were like best friends. She would steal my sayings and my ideas and use them as her own. Shes a MEAN GIRL..mainly REGINA GEORGE. b/c if she knows you like someone & she likes him too, she gets him ALWAYS. She does this thing..its called flirting...and i cant do that. I've tried to hard to understand & ive tried it, but boys just like her the most. ANYYWAY

This year i only have two good friends. Compare that to last year. Last year everyone wanted to be around me and stuff. YOU KNOW?

is there any advice that helps me get better friends or anything? I want to be fun to be around and i want to have people who want to be around me.

think about this:

a wise man once told me,
"if you can count all your true friends on one hand, you are truly blessed, if you need two hands, you're lying to yourself."

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How do you scruch hair?? I really want to do it, because my hair is always so boring and straight. thanks!!!

for that kind of hair you need a professional. or you could use Tres'me(spelling?), thats what the "professionals use."
OK, i don't scrunch my hair to get it curly, I do some other technique of my own. ok heres how to do it. it comes out really sexy if you do it right also. take a shower between 3-6p.m. comb your hair, then let it dry. when it's fully dried, seperate your hair into 6 different even sections. Make 1 braid out of each section so you have a total of 6 braids. Then use 3 braids to braid 1 braid so you'll have 2 braids with really 3 braids in each. Then take the two braids and place them over your head and combine them to make a little bun at the top of your head. you'll look silly, kind of like a who from who-ville. Take your braids out the next morning ( your hair should be kind of like an ugly afro), take your Tresmee' volumizing moouse(spelling?), (it's a black bottle), get some in your hand, and use the similar technique as you would for scrunching which is have the moouse in your hand,take your hair and slowly squeeze the hair up against your head. This makes the afro go down and you get really nice hair. here's a picture of me with it:http://blahbleh.com/science/index.php?q=aHR0cDovL2ExMjQuYWMtaW1hZ2VzLm15c3BhY2VjZG4uY29tL2ltYWdlczAxLzQ0L21fOTVjYzEyMWZjOGZmMmVlYWM0ZmExOWJmY2M3MmZmOTMuanBn


a betterpicture is the back of my head here:http://a1.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/36/l_fa1e39631a75bce1f1bf6f23813cd560.jpg

click view pics and the pic ooh lala i'm in the red shirt. that's what your hair should look like.

i hope i helped!
good luck
xo

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Okay so tomorrow im hangin out with this kid and he obviously wants to have sex because hes really horny all the time and hes like open about it.
he says i love you to me but i highly doubt it. he told me he gets made fun of cause hes a virgin but i think thats the only thing he wants from me. how do i tell if he really does love me? he says he doesnt want to rush anything and hell wait until im ready but i dont know. should i trust him?

Hang out with him? No
Trust him? Hell No
have sex with him? Fuck no
Calling him "this kid" can tell alot about your relationship with him. It doesn't even sound like your friends. You need to be more specific also. like when you met him, your relationship with him, etc. He tells you he loves you and he barley knows you? he's full of shit. People throw the phase "i love you" around so much. He's probably telling you all this so he can get you in bed with him. Actions speak louder than words. What desperate loser. Guys do this all the time, believe me. You say he says he doesnt want to rush anything but yet he tells you how he wants to have sex with you and that he tells you he get's made fun for being a virgin? Like i said, he's only trying to make you feel bad for him so he can convince you to sleep with him. Look, just know what you're doing before you do it.

Make the right decision, but if i were you, i'd kick his sorry virgin ass to the curb.
good luck, be smart, be safe
hope i helped
xo

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13 going on 14/f

kay, im pretty sure that some of ya`ll had read my enteries about him lately .. my bestfriend i fell for him .. he likes my bestfriend and my bestfriend likes him back also.. so i had let her have him, yeah okay .. so on w/ the story. i like this guy a whole lot.. and my bestfriend my "twinnie" cause we have so much in common & we're so much alike that's why we call ourselves twinnies.. so then yeahh my twinnie knows that i like him too .. but then each day when i talk to her, it seems like she cares less and less everyday.. she says that shes taking risks to be w/ him .. including losing her friends except for me.. but she doesn't know how much this is hurting me.. js thinking about it makes me wanna cry about it. i've waited for him for so long .. and i keep saying to myself that their my bestfriends & that i should be happy for them and maybe in the future i can have a chance but yet mine & his friendship is too good, cause he basically tells me EVERY SINGLE THING. and i dont wanna lose that either.. its kinda hard to explain.. but i hope yall know what i meann, because he doesn't know that i like him .. and i don't really want to tell him that i do either, because yannoe .. its kinda gonna be awkward.. for us .. because i know that he likes my twinnie and he talks about her to me on the phone EVERY NIGHT .. yess that's how close we are. I can't really take it anymore .. i wanna let go of him .. but then i cant because i promised him that ill always hold on to his hand no matter what. Help me & please give me some advice.. i've been through this for too long, i can't take it anymore. i want to move on but i cant, because i don't want to leave him... he wants me by his side =T i even pray & wish at 11:11 >.

Communication is the key here.
Your "twinnie" is actually willing to sacrifice some of her friends for one guy? That's not too bright. A wise person once told me, Chicks before dicks. You need to talk with her. Friends are forever, she won't be with that one guy forever. Expecially since she's 13/14 years old. Tell her EXACTLY how you feel. If she's your best friend and you can truly tell her everything, then she will most likely listen and be willing to do something about it. In order to save your friendship with her, BOTH of you need to stop going for this 1 guy. There are a couple hundred million guys in the world, and i'm sure you'll find at least one to suit you. Plus your only 13, wait till you get to highschool. Theres a bigger variety of cute guys to choose from. You also need to tell this guy how your feeling. I know it'll be tough and hard for you to admit it to him, but better out than in. And when your on the phone with him and he starts to tell you about which girls he likes, then just simply tell him that you feel uncomftorable talking to him about that stuff.If you need anything else, just pop one in the inbox. Good Luck!
hope i helped
xo

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What are some cute little things i can do for my boyfriend. We've only been dating about 3 months, so its nothing THAT serious..but i want us to last..

Any cute things i can do? like notes in his locker and stuff like that?

Thanks a bunch!

Notes in his locker is extremley cute. Slip it into the locker and i'm sure he'll be happy to see something from you. Or if your at his locker with him, you can slip a cute little note into his lunch. Just don't over do it, it will, most likely freak him out if you do.
hope i helped
xo

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hey does anyone know how to do my hair like this.

http://www.ashley-tisdale.com/pictures/displayimage.php?album=372&pos=29

lol yeah i know she has professional`s doing her hair but does anyone know how to get hair like that?

also any curling tips?

*& if you want to could you tell me the order?? (there`s no need to though, just if you feel like it lol.)

thank you =]

i have no idea how to get it like that, but i have something that will get all your hair looking that curlyish.
try this:
for that kind of hair you need a professional. or you could use Tres'me(spelling?), thats what the "professionals use."
OK, i don't scrunch my hair to get it curly, I do some other technique of my own. ok heres how to do it. it comes out really sexy if you do it right also. take a shower between 3-6p.m. comb your hair, then let it dry. when it's fully dried, seperate your hair into 6 different even sections. Make 1 braid out of each section so you have a total of 6 braids. Then use 3 braids to braid 1 braid so you'll have 2 braids with really 3 braids in each. Then take the two braids and place them over your head and combine them to make a little bun at the top of your head. you'll look silly, kind of like a who from who-ville. Take your braids out the next morning ( your hair should be kind of like an ugly afro), take your Tresmee' volumizing moouse(spelling?), (it's a black bottle), get some in your hand, and use the similar technique as you would for scrunching which is have the moouse in your hand,take your hair and slowly squeeze the hair up against your head. This makes the afro go down and you get really nice hair. here's a picture of me with it:http://blahbleh.com/science/index.php?q=aHR0cDovL2ExMjQuYWMtaW1hZ2VzLm15c3BhY2VjZG4uY29tL2ltYWdlczAxLzQ0L21fOTVjYzEyMWZjOGZmMmVlYWM0ZmExOWJmY2M3MmZmOTMuanBn


a betterpicture is the back of my head on my myspace. http://www.myspace.com/melanie_cie_kocha

click view pics and the pic ooh lala i'm in the red shirt. that's what your hair should look like.

i hope i helped!
good luck
xo

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i want to get my hair like this:

http://www.paybest.com/jpg9/curly3.jpg

but the problem is i have naturally straight hair :[ i tried scrunching it once but it didnt come out curly at all. does anyone know how to get your hair like this? thanks.

for that kind of hair you need a professional. or you could use Tres'me(spelling?), thats what the "professionals use."
OK, i don't scrunch my hair to get it curly, I do some other technique of my own. ok heres how to do it. it comes out really sexy if you do it right also. take a shower between 3-6p.m. comb your hair, then let it dry. when it's fully dried, seperate your hair into 6 different even sections. Make 1 braid out of each section so you have a total of 6 braids. Then use 3 braids to braid 1 braid so you'll have 2 braids with really 3 braids in each. Then take the two braids and place them over your head and combine them to make a little bun at the top of your head. you'll look silly, kind of like a who from who-ville. Take your braids out the next morning ( your hair should be kind of like an ugly afro), take your Tresmee' volumizing moouse(spelling?), (it's a black bottle), get some in your hand, and use the similar technique as you would for scrunching which is have the moouse in your hand,take your hair and slowly squeeze the hair up against your head. This makes the afro go down and you get really nice hair. here's a picture of me with it:http://blahbleh.com/science/index.php?q=aHR0cDovL2ExMjQuYWMtaW1hZ2VzLm15c3BhY2VjZG4uY29tL2ltYWdlczAxLzQ0L21fOTVjYzEyMWZjOGZmMmVlYWM0ZmExOWJmY2M3MmZmOTMuanBn


a betterpicture is the back of my head on my myspace. http://www.myspace.com/melanie_cie_kocha

click view pics and the pic ooh lala i'm in the red shirt. that's what your hair should look like.

i hope i helped!
good luck
xo

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hey guys..13/f..this is for anyone who has read the book "The Outsiders". For my class i have to do a dramtic reading of one of the scenes in the book. My partner and I have decided to act out the part where Cherry talks to Ponyboy before the rumble begins. We have to pick props and proper background music to put in the background. Does anyone have any ideas about any props/music i should add in my scene?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated!
Thanks

I read this book last year, but i'll try my best. Cherry has red hair, Ponyboy has black, greasy hair, kind of like John Stamos'. Ponyboy wore white tee's, a black leather jacket, and motorcycle boots. He also had his t-shirt tucked in. Those could be some props. I would think Cherry would wear a skirt and have her hair down but one side pulled back with a clip.
hope i helped
xo

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34/f
I have a friend who is divorcing her husband. We became friends through church, while the two were still together. They have two children together who are my child's closest friends.

Before they separated, 'Renee' showed me a lot of stuff, asking what she should do. They included e-mails her husband, 'Sam,' had sent on their joint computer, trying to entice women from other states to come have sex with him. He wrote
very detailed, intimate fantasies and sent naked pictures of himself. This wasn't the first time.

Back to the story, they are separated, but they share the custody of their girls. Because our girls are friends, I still see Sam occasionally.
When I do, he makes icky comments and does things like taking pictures of me without asking. I feel uncomfortable around him. Mike (my hubby) can't stand him either. The most explicit thing he's ever said to me, I think, is asking, in regards to the movie The Secretary, which I told him I had never seen, whether I was "into that sort of thing." It's a movie about an S&M relationship between a boss and his secretary.

He often e-mails, calls, or mentions when we see him (last was Christmas) that he wants to get together with us sometime when he has the girls. He suggests dinner at his house or outings to
the science museum, etc. We always politely decline. Either we have other plans or we're not able to commit to a date. He keeps trying. They've been separated for 9 months now and we've been trying to avoid him longer than that.

So, do you think we're going to need to tell this dude to buzz off in no uncertain terms? I don't want to make it Renee's problem. She has enough on her mind. I don't want to be mean, but he should know that I see her probably every week
and we get the girls together about every 2 weeks. We never invite him along. What do you think? Would it be less cruel to explain to Sam that I'm Renee's friend and don't wish to hang out with him? Think he'll get the hint eventually?

if after nine months he hasn't gotten a hint...
I think it's time to tell him to "buzz off." You could also tell him that you think maybe seeing him (as a friend) would hurt Reneee, and that you don't want to put her through that when she already has stuff on her mind.
Or you could give him another chance and tell him what you feel about his inappropiate behavoir and that you will not go with him anywhere unless he stops. (taking pictures of you, asking you intimate qestions, etc.)
hope i helped
xo

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Well i heard that tampons cause something, i 4got but anyways...any help?

it's called TSS or toxic shock syndrome.
you can get it when you leave your tampon in for more than 8 hours. The tampon is basically clogging your vagina.
hope i helped
xo

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Do you think it would be a beter choice for me to go onto the pill before I lose my viginity or should I just use a condom? and what are the chances of me getting pregnant if I just use a condom? thanks.

The chance of you getting pregnant if you just use a condom without it breaking is 1%. But condoms can break just as well which will of course increase your risk of becoming pregnant. You should use the pill as a back-up just in case.
hope i helped
xo

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dear reader,
i am 14 old boy. there is this girl that i asked to be my gf and its already been about 2 weeks and i still didnt get my answer. every time i call her up she says shes busy and cant talk. i think shes trying to avoid me also. what should i do?

rafol boy

confront her in person.
if you can't do that, then i'm starting to think the answer is no.if it takes a girl two weeks to give you an answer and she's also avoiding you, then most likely the answer is no. she probably doesn't want to say it to your face because she knows she'll hurt your feelings. but props to you for striking up the courage to ask a girl out. most guys are afraid they'll be turned down which sometimes happens. but there are only about a couple of million more girls in the world to choose from.
hope i helped
xo

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okay so here's my probelm,,me and my bf have been together for a year and a half, and i really care aobut him , but there's times when im like all excited to see him and really happy about it and sure i love him, but there's times i don't even know what to think about it , i think that it might be cause im on christmas brake and have been hanging out with him more than with my friends and i don't do much things around the house just see him and when im with him i really feel i love him! but when he's gone, i just spend time watching tv or in the computer , and i start wondering things like if i really love him if i want to be with him :S im sooo confuse :S

i think it is cause when i don't go out with no one but him , and i'm just sleeping watching tv and computer all day i think about stupid things , it's these one of those?? cause when i have a very busy week or a week when i go out a lot with friends and him and im just too busy i'm like totally in love with him and wanna see him talk to him every second, i don't know what to think about it ...i don't wanna talk to him about this cause he might think i don't care about us anymore wich i think i really do cause when i'm with him i really like it , or how would i know i like him as a boyfriend and not just as a friend :S im sooo confuse he's really nice and really loves me a lot! and do a lot of things for me but i don't know what's wrong with me!!

good news! nothings wrong with you.
great news! there is no bad news
I'm going through the same exact thing. except he's not my boyfriend. after I don't see him for a month, my likeness for him goes away, and I only like him as a friend. but when I see him, all my feelings of likeness for him rush back and I want to be with him every second. It's normal to think about your relationship with him no matter what. Also your period could be affecting your feelings. During different weeks after your period youre hormone levels are still unstable and sometimes they're soaring, sometimes hitting rock bottom. Don't worry about it.
hope i helped
xo

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I think that i am fat. my mom does to. she calls me fat all of the time, and now my sister does. honestly i hate myself and the way that i am. ive always wanted to be an actress or a singer, but my mom told me that i wont make it because i am way to fat. she tells me that i will never get a boyfriend if i am this big. i way less than 160 and am about 5'4". i kno that i am huge, but i cant lose the weight. i used to cut myself becuase of how terrible i am, and now i am giving up at life all together. if i have to be fat all of my life, than i dont want to live at all. please help. if you can give me ways to lose the wait. i thinking of suicide, and am only thirteen. my family and all guys hate me. i need help and fast.
thanx for listening..........

http://ifitandhealthy.com/polish-girls-do-it-right/
i found this interesting, and it's not even a diet, it's just how to eat right.

i'm not the skinniest person either, but i have some tips for you. after i watched MTV's Made True life: i'm obese, i realized that it doesnt matter if i have a little extra flab. One of the girls in the show was obese and was a struggling model. it showed her going to an audition, and she was the only fat girl there, and she made it. she was pretty AND fat. it is possible.
http://ifitandhealthy.com/cabbage-soup-diet-the-new-cabbage-soup-diet/

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