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HUGE problems ( Fat problems)
I think that i am fat. my mom does to. she calls me fat all of the time, and now my sister does. honestly i hate myself and the way that i am. ive always wanted to be an actress or a singer, but my mom told me that i wont make it because i am way to fat. she tells me that i will never get a boyfriend if i am this big. i way less than 160 and am about 5'4". i kno that i am huge, but i cant lose the weight. i used to cut myself becuase of how terrible i am, and now i am giving up at life all together. if i have to be fat all of my life, than i dont want to live at all. please help. if you can give me ways to lose the wait. i thinking of suicide, and am only thirteen. my family and all guys hate me. i need help and fast.
thanx for listening..........
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Well I can tell you that nobody gets anywhere in this game of health and fitness with hatred and sadness as the primary motivating factors. You need to look yourself in the mirror and say "This is who I am now" and then picture yourself into the future after the hard work and see what you want to become.
Negative vibes suck- I used to be told constantly that I couldn't break the 300 lb bench mark by the time I was 17. I used that as motivation; but didn't take it too serious because I knew that I was going to do it because I willed myself to do it.
Don't hate yourself for how you look now- you didn't know any better; and now you realize that there is a problem that needs to be fixed and you really have to have the desire to want to fix it. I won't lie- it isn't easy but it also isn't impossible. Trust me- you CAN lose the weight - but it's all up to you to have the right mind frame and do the necessary work. Once you start to see that the pants you have now are beginning to become a bit more loose- you will feel great and if you continue to work at it- soon they will be too big for you and then you will feel and look like a totally different person.
You are the boss of your body- own up now to how you look and say "You know what- I can change and I WILL change"
I don't mean to sound like Richard Simmons; I certainly don't want to look like him- that's for sure :-P But put your best foot forward- erase these negative thoughts and get yourself in the right mind frame- I'll give you some guidelines to help you get started in the right direction if you're interested.
Let's tackle this problem and see what we can do to make it better- what do you say? :-)
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i found this interesting, and it's not even a diet, it's just how to eat right.
i'm not the skinniest person either, but i have some tips for you. after i watched MTV's Made True life: i'm obese, i realized that it doesnt matter if i have a little extra flab. One of the girls in the show was obese and was a struggling model. it showed her going to an audition, and she was the only fat girl there, and she made it. she was pretty AND fat. it is possible.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) << i did this diet, and i lost 7 pounds in 6 days. it's an unhealthy diet since you don't eat carbs, but you should only do it for 1 week at a time.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) << you may want to read that
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) << if you want to become a plus-size model, which would hopefully boost your self-esteem, here's where you get started.
you might also want to try to search for a summer plus-size or "fat" camp that you could go to for people your age. that would be cool, and you could make friends who are going through the same thing as you.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) <<another modeling site
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) << heres a site that can help you boost your self-esteem.
this site can too:
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so can this site: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
also, here in NY in malls there is a plus size shop called Torrid that has super cute styles for plus size teens. its such a cute store! i've seen it before.
is your BMI (Body Mass Index) in an overweight or obese rating? you can check it here:
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heres some encouraging words from me:
you know what?? screw what other people say, you know you're beautiful and you should take pride that you have curvy hips and are full figured and not annorexic. take pride in who you are, God made you this way, he made you beautiful, you just have to let the world know that, and shine like the star you are. You dont need to be thin to succeed in life!
i really hope i helped. if you ever need anything, shoot the inbox.
xo
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body image is about the hardest thing to cope with out there. in my past i've struggled w/ coping with my body in the complete opposite way & revisted my friend "MIA". it wasn't a good time in my life, and i'm not proud. A lot of people around me would joke about me being fat, when really i was completly under weight. that was about 8 months ago, and now, I'm completely healed. It took me a while to be comfortable with my body again, and love what God gave me. It was also hard because at my worst point, i chose to break the news to my boyfriend, who dumped me, and it was alot of stress. Suicide, eating disorders, drugs. its all bad. It may sound like the best solution, because trust me i know it does. but when you look back you see that the people who truly love and care about you will not judge you & say mean things to you. Try confronting your mom & sister. Tell them that you really don't appriciate the put-downs, and as hard as it might be, tell them what your thinking. I told my mom, and she helped me cope, and luckly i never had to go to a doctor or counsler. Moms are supposed to be there for you. But if she continues, remember she IS verbaly ABUSING you. & honey, thats NOT okay. Seek help.
God Bless, & hope i helped.
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Ok... first, describe to me exactly what fat and skinny is. Honestly everyone is different in their own way, if everyone was just skinny or everyone was just fat there would be no variation!You are seeing it as black&white, your either fat or skinny. Right now i do not think much of your mother, no one should tell that to their child no matter what they look like or who they want to be. You can be anything you want to, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself! Just beleive in yourself and see what happens. And if you are really worried about being fat, do pialtes or something trust me it works! it tones you and everything, but only do it if YOU want to... dont do it for anyone else
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