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Hi, this is Kate and Kayla.This column is here to help you with your boy,girl, and anything else problems. Get advice from teens like you that have been there. We are pretty good at giving advice! Hope we helped!
XOXO
--always smile...
even if it's a sad smile
cuz wats even sadder
than a sad smile is
not smilin at all :)
Part of bein a champ is actin like a champ You have to learn how to win and not run away when u lose
I'm twisted cuz one side of me is tellin me to move on on the other side I wanna break down and cry!
Crushes only crush you,
Falling only hurts you,
Hearts will only break you,
If there is no love to save you.
Many people will walk in
and out of your life,
but only true friends will leave
footprints in your heart.
Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.
There's always that one person who will always have your heart.
advice
hi, i am going to the prom this year and I going by my slef with a couple of freinds.I dont know what to do i mean to feel if i dont get chance dance any guy i know i can ask or something. i like this guy he say he dance with me but i htink he forget its ok keep remineding him that he promise me? or let him figure out his self?
Remind the guy once more but don't chase after him. If he doesn't remember he is probably not interested. Don't hound him. It's his loss. Find someone else you like that you can ask. Even if they say no, live it up with your friends!
~oxkatekaylaxo
People tell me that i'm fine the way i am but i'm fat. i'm 5 7 and 188 lbs. i dont look seriously obese but am-i-fat.com says i am and i'm gonna trust their expertise. is there a way that the website's wrong or am i doomed of obesity?
You shouldn't let a website make you think any lower of yourself. As long as you are healthy and happy, you are NOT obese. If you still think you are over weight try eating healthier and excercising more often to burn calories. It will also be good for your health. But do not stop eating or deny yourself of something you love. Just take smaller portions.
~oxkatekaylaxo
I met a wonderful man one month ago. We were dating happily for 2 weeks when all of a sudden his ex-girlfriend now wants him back. They have 2 children together. He is now not sure what to do, he doesn't think she will ever commit, but he thinks he needs to try for the kids. He phones me every night and at the moment we are just friends. Do you think I stand a chance at keeping this man, and any advice on how I can keep him. Do you think I should be bold and tell him that I want him and that I would be the best thing for him ? He does really like me.
Well, he shouldn't let an ex hold him back. Tell your boyfriend or "friend" that he has a responsability towards his children, but not his now ex-girlfriend. If she is not going to commit, it is not fair that he should. Try to get to know his ex and ask him to bring the children by every once in a while, spending some quality time with them. He should think about paying social security to his ex and the kids, to help support them. Tell him how you feel!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo
ok, here's the story: i liked this guy (let's call him Bob) and my friend likes (or liked) this other guy (let's call him Bill). well, we told each other during spring break about who we liked. and we promised not to tell. and neither of us did.
But now i don't like Bob and i think she still likes Bill, because it's really obvious (she flirts with him and stuff), but now that i say i don't like Bob, she acts like she doens't like Bill and if i tell her it's really obvious, she threatens to say that i still like Bob to one of the school's blabbermouths.
i know she still likes Bill and i'm getting sick of agreeing that she doesn't like him.
(by the way, we're only in junior high)
This is VERY typical of a junior high friendship. She doesn't want to feel "left out".
This friend sounds like she definately does still like Bill, even if you don't like Bob. Tell her that she shouldn't threaten you because that is not what a BFF should do. If she is persistent about telling you she doesn't like Bill, then just learn to ignore it. It is her fault for not admiting to it.
~oxkatekaylaxo
Okay, so one of my friends is having a B-Day party on Friday. She's inviting a bunch of people. She claims that she is my BFF, and she loves me as a friend so much. The problem is that whenever i go to her parties, she ignores me and hangs around with her other friends, and NEVER talks to me. Should i go ?
tell your friend how you feel. She shouldn't dump you for her other friends. If she still ignores you or doesn't accept what you are feeling, then ask yourself, is she a true friend?
~oxkatekaylaxo
I dont know what to do. My dad lives in Georgia, and I live in Mass., with my mom. Ive been thinking about how much i miss my dad, and how i want to live with him. But, I dont want to leave my mom and my friends here. How should i bring this up, and what should i do?! PLEASE HELP ME!
Well, you are most definately in a predicament. My parents are divorced too, so i know how you feel. Luckily, my parents both live in Mass, so its not a big issue. That decision has to come from you. You can't ask someone else to make it for you, or you won't be truely happy. Why don't suggest taking a trip during the summer to visit your dad, that way, you will have an easier time choosing and get to see yboth of your parents. During the school year, write or call him often, so that you still talk to him. Or maybe you can just live with your dad during the summer if you decide you like it there! Let the decision come from your heart. Let me know how it turns out!
~oxkatekaylaxo
how can you get rid of cramps ***WHILE*** or BEFORE you are running?? I NEED to know soon! thanks!!!!!!!!!!
To get rid of cramps make sure you stretch before running. Don't drink a lot of water really fast-this can lead to more cramping. To stay hydrated, take shorter sips of water. Also, breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. To get rid of cramps, keep walking-don't sit down!!!
~oxkatekaylaxo
my father abuses me what should i do
What way does he abuse you(just wondering since it is under sex) Well, even if you love your father, you should call the abuse hotline, or talk to an adult about it. That way, they can help your dad. Abuse is almost like a mental illness, but it can be cured.
~oxkatekaylaxo
When does the "cycle" usually become regular?!?! Mine keeps coming at random times and now, it's not coming at all! The last time I got it was February 24???
That depends on how old you are. If you have just started getting them, then they might not come back for a while. It depends on who you are. Not everyone is the same. Talk to your parent/gaurdian about it, or try buying a book on puberty(the American Girl books are pretty helpful)
~oxkatekaylaxo
Ok. There us this guy named Josh. We have had plans to go out after my best friend had broken up with him (for the 50th time). We wanted to wait a while so she wouldnt get mad and so she would get over him. Well it turns out she isnt over him and hes not over her, but he still likes me. So i see him flirt with her all the time, and it really hurts. I know he still likes me because we always flirt together all the time. But i just dont know what to do. I don't think he can choose between me or her. I REALLY like him. But i dont want my best friend to hate me. And i am affraid that if she goes out with him again i will be really hurt and depressed, i have a funny feeling i wont want to hang out with her anymore. PLease help! I dont want to loose my best man or my best friend!!
Tell your best friend how you feel. It is not right for her to keep breaking it off, each time taking a peice of your heart with him. If she still doesn't understand or gets angry, you may want to hang out with some of your other friends for a while, until she realizes that boys aren't worth losing a friendship. When a boy is undecided between two girls, they usually see different qualities in both of those girls. Be flattered that he likes you, but find someone else to crush on. If he can't pick between you, then he is not worth it.
~oxkatekaylaxo
How do you make a nice healthy sorbet using a fruit smoothie or juice? Thanks.
I am not quite sure, but your best best for finding a recipe may be using google.
~oxkatekaylaxo
ok so i started shaving when i was in the 6th grade and my legs were fine then and all smooth but now i am getting ingrown hairs and shaving bumps && i use lotion and shaving cream so i dont kno what im doing wrong please help!!
Your legs might be getting irrated from the kind of cream or lotion that you use. Make sure your legs are wet before you shave-NEVER DRY-SHAVE! Try using and Intuition razor. They have built in soap and the blades are surrounded by moistureizors. Put lotion on after your legs have dried which will make them smoother and keep them looking their best ;)
~oxkatekaylaxo
This morning my boyfriend is being a major jerk. I don't know why, but it's like he doesn't even care how I feel today. I wish he would just talk to me. I am trying to send him hints, but it's not working! How can I get his attention?
It sounds like your boyfriend is having a bad day. Tell him how you feel, and if he is still acting like a jerk, give him some space and time to cool off. If he continues acting like this, you might want to take a 'TIME-OUT" in your relationship.
~oxkatekaylaxo