alright, im 13 and my mom put me on birth control pills...but im a vergin. she doesnt belive me so now im starting the pill on sunday. so i told my bf and he said that if his mom knew about it she would buy him condoms. so we both laughed....sigh...ok now my problem. does this mean that he wants to have sex? or wat? i mean i LOVE this kid...and i was thinking about having sex with him for awhile now. but im not sure if he wants to. i mean i know were like really young but i really do love him. so do you think i should have sex with him and do you think he wants to have it with me or is he just kidding around? and if we did have sex where would we have it? please help me im so freaking confused! I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!! sorry if this is too long.
anonymous -
He was only joking with you. Don't take it so seriously.
Trust me, if he wants to have sex, he'll tell you. He won't play it off as some double meaning with white fluff on top.
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Recently, I've been talking to a boy who is much more experienced than me. Not to sound like a prude, but does it hurt getting fingered for the first time?
anonymous -
Unless the guy doesn't know how to do it, yes. If he does, no, it shouldn't hurt.
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I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much.
anonymous -
Let the guy know how you feel. Gently tell him that you feel things are going too fast and you'd like it to slow down a tad. He should understand, and if he were a good guy, he'd follow through for you.
As for your personal problems with yourself, keep it to yourself. I feel the same way as you do with no self-esteem, and by boyfriend knows I feel that way and gets angry when I say bad things about myself because he thinks that I'm wrong. But when I shove it aside, things are ok between us. I'm not saying for you to totally ignore your problems, but figure out a way to solve it. Make a list of your qualities and acknowledge that they are far more important than any flow that you possess. Remember, nobody's perfect, and flaws are a part of what makes us who we are, it's what makes us unique. Be grateful.
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Ok..alot of the time when I call my friend she is "busy". It seems like she only hangs out with me when she wants to..What is her deal? And recently she got mad at me for the stupidest thing ever!! What is going on??
Thanks..
anonymous -
Probably because she really is busy and the dates you suggest may be inconvenient.
I know that I do that to my friends sometimes, but not on bad intention. I have to try and balance time with school, work, my boyfriend, and her in my week which is extremely hard.
Just understand where she's coming from. She probably got mad at you because she's really stressed out and doesn't want more burdens to deal with.
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Ahh Ok well..well..i'm only in 8th grade..and all i ever do is dump boys! I dont cheat or anything and people call me a slut for dumping tthem in such quick time!..Idk what to do!..
help!!=(((((((
anonymous -
Hmm...I know what you should do. Paste a picture of yourself next to the term "moron" in the dictionary.
Just to make ends meet, this isn't a fitness question.
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hey i think im fat...my bf thinks im fat......how do i get him to stop
anonymous -
Sit on him. Problem solved.
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well all of my friends wear special underwear, thongs, and i dont like them ,but i dont wanna tell them that, they'll call me granny, but im also not allowed to wear them, and when i do i feel uncomfortable and guilty thinking wut would my parents think if they know im wearing them, HELP ME!
anonymous -
Wear whatever feels comfortable for you. Sometimes people only wear thongs because they think it's sexy, not because of its comfort.
And if you don't like them, boyshorts are really trendy right now too. If anything, I think they're sexier than thongs, and they come in the cutest styles and don't reveal too much. I think you're parents would approve of those, at the least. I work in a department store and a week ago a grandma was buying a pair of character boyshorts for her 11 year old.
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ok... so my friend doesn't want me to go out with this guy. shes gone out with him and so have i. but i really do like him. she says that hes an ass hole. but i dont think so. she said that he is only nice until he has you as his gf. and then he will ignore you. she told me that if i went out with him she wouldn't talk to me for a long time. he doesn't live here, he lives in another town. she says that he will cheat on me if i go out with him. im worried that he might. part of me wants to go out with him but part of me doesn't at the same time. he has told me that he likes me and i told him i like him to but he hasn't asked me out. does he really like me? should i go out with him and lose my friend?
anonymous -
Your friend obviously still has some kind of emotions (good or bad) for this guy. I seriously think that she's telling you all these negative aspects to scare you away from dating him.
The truth is, guys don't always treat every girlfriend they have the exact same way. So there is no telling if he will cheat, ignore you, etc.
If you really like him, your friend should understand that and want to see you happy. But she's also looking out for you and doesn't want you hurt. If you want to date this guy so badly, tell your friend that you understand the risks you will take if you date him, and you're willing to take those risks. Also clarify that you don't want to lose her friendship over a silly boy, nothing should come between a friendship.
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..alright so this has been bugging me forever, and i cant really ask my friends this question because they are going to support me of course but here it goes. In the past, i've had really cruddy relationships with guys. I've been in relationship where i've been used & gotten really hurt from it. But recently i meet this new boy. The one thing that completely seperates him from the rest of the boys i've had interest in is that he's not all bout getting in the pants. I meet him thru a friend at the movies, and there was sparks.. so the next night he came over. && meet my family. They all adored him. And like we didnt even do nething. He didnt like have the urge to leave the family and be alone, which i totally liked because no parents were home & we could have easily gotten away with "gettin with eachother" the next night.. he came over and we layed on my couch and cuddled. And nothing happened. And we were alone. No one was home. He didnt even try anything. The next day he came over. We just made out and i called him a tease because he always tickled me by my pants line and never went down. && thats just what im used to.. boy just goin straight in. Soo when he didnt i was like wow, even tho i wanted him to. So the next day he came over again, and we were all aloneeee for about 4 hours. We didnt do anything til the last hour, and he asked me why i called him a tease, and i explained. And then he ended up fingering me. Because i wanted it. And i was all happy with it or wateva. Then lator i realized, wow maybe i relaly fucked this up. because he wasnt like that, and i provoked him to be. I told him how i felt and he felt bad and said that he wudnt do it ever again and thought i didnt mind. Not to mention while he was doing it he kept asking if i was okay with it. And i said yeha, cuz i was. And hes been over every night after that.. for the past 3 nights and he hasnt tried it again. Do you think he likes me, or just wants to "get iwht me" HELPPP please..sorry sooo longg.. but i will rate 5's for sure!
anonymous -
It sure does look like he's one of the good ones doesn't it? But to be quite honest, the possibility of him "wanting it" is just as likely.
I kid you not.
My current boyfriend of three years, he was the same way when I met him. He never made a move until maybe 7 months being with each other. But now since we know each other so well and we can communicate freely, I talked to him about it and he said that he was thinking about sex almost everytime he saw me, but he didn't want to say or do anything to give me the wrong impression. But still, he's a good guy today :)
In conclusion, most likely he's a good guy, but only time will tell. You'll know, trust me, you'll know if he only wants sex.
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Ok, I have this problem, I am WAY TOO NICE to my family. I give them advice, (after all, I do have an advice coulumn here)I'm supportive of them, and all they do is take advantage of me, then they ditch me. For example, my cousin has a weight issue, and I help her, and even doctors say my advice was good. She agrees, at the doctors office. She totally ignores me outside of it. When I bring it up she's always like "I have better things to do then talk to you" and on the phone I constantly have to call her name because she doesn't listen to me, and that's just 1 example. They ridicule me one minute, ditch me another minute, then ask me for advice like they are my best friend. What do I do? I turned to masturbation and porno as a getaway- masturbating while watching porno, but more masturbation then porno. Worst thing is that I'm a strong Christian, and their semi athiest ways are rubbing off on me.Help me! And don't tell me to talk to them and stuff, because I've done this in a civilized manner 1000 times, and everyone in my family is stubborn because they think I'm lying all the time because I'm the youngest,and I should suck it up and forget what they say. Help me plz, srry that its so long though.
anonymous -
First off, make sure that you aren't being nice ONLY to receive acknowledgement, gratitude, or vice versa. You should be doing it because you sincerely want to help.
And if you don't like the way your family treats you about it, simply don't help them. When they ask you for favors, just remind them of how bad they treated you and ask them to give you a good reason why you should offer to help.
Although you don't think it's useful in communicating with your family, don't let past failures misguide you. Prove it to them so that they can have a reason to trust you, and tell them that this situation is very important to you and you want to talk to them about it. During the discussion, lay out the facts excluding any exaggerations, pointing fingers, jumping to conclusions, etc.
Good luck.
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16/female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now, but he's been one of my closest friends for about 4 years. I truly am in love with him and I know this because I've never felt this feeling before. I won't get into that, however. He just graduated this year and is going to a college that is about 2 hours away. He promised me he'd be home as much as he can and I know he will, but I don't think I can go that long without him. He went on vacation for about 1 week out of the country and I was so upset. I couldn't stop thinking about him and was never happy during this time period. I think about him leaving all the time and how much I'll miss him. I don't know what I'll do without him..I've never had a boyfriend like him before. Should I try and overcome that feeling or try and find someone else. I really don't know what to do. I will greatly appriciate any other suggestions. Thank you.
anonymous -
If you two are really in love, you'd make arrangements to make things work. Like plan certain days out of the month to see each other so that you can have something to look forward to instead of getting upset.
If arrangements are not possible, I'd say just to stay in contact with each other whether via phone, cell, internet, etc. Talk to each other as often as you can to relieve the heartache of missing each other.
Now, if THAT isn't possible, drop a note in my inbox and I'll try and conjure up another plan :)
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can someone just give me a couple online photo albums for hosting images other then picturetrail and photobucket thanks much love...
anonymous -
http://www.fotki.com
It's great, you can organize them into albums too, and it's free :)
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okay me and my 2 friends..Miranda and Ashley are always known to be "best friends" and like no one can split us up..well that's what everyone tells me..anyways..oh yeah and they are neighbors and i live a little ways away from them and i always hang out with Miranda without Ashley sometimes and then Miranda and Ashley always hang out without me..but when me and Ashley try to hang out without Miranda she ALWAYS gets mad at us..like she's always telling us that she feels left out when it's just us 2 without her..but i don't get it because we're not leaving her out we just want to hang out alone or whatever but she doesn't get that..we don't know how else to explain it to her..how should we explain it to her that we aren't leaving her out because whenever Miranda and Ashley hang out i never feel left out or whenever me and Miranda hang out with out Ashley Ashley never feels left out but this happens every time and now we have to keep it on the down low whenever we hang out alone because Miranda gets pissed off..how can we tell her that we're not leaving her out?? help me please!!
anonymous -
Tell Miranda that all three of you share different interests with one another and all of those interests clash sometimes. The reason why you choose to spend time with only Ashley is because you want to hang out doing what you two are interested in, that Miranda might not be. The same goes for if you were to spend time with only Miranda.
Make it clear that you're not excluding her, it's just maybe some of the things you two do might not interest her. Tell her that, or just explain that because she comes up with these emotional outbursts, you're afraid to include her in with anything!
Whatever floats your boat! Good luck.
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okay, im 17 and ive had sex before and ive been fingered but like..im to emabarrased/scared to let the guy eat me out. If i was a guy i would never want to do that..it seems so nasty, bc of like discharge and stuff. im scared of what he'll say or think...anyone who had this problem or has it any advice would be great. thanks.
anonymous -
The only thing I can tell you hun, is that you're not alone. A lot of women feel that their vagina is disgusting, gross looking, and just bleh.
But if the guy is the one who volunteers to eat you out, he probably knows what to expect if he's the one asking for it.
To make the experience a little less icky to you, try showering and washing that area carefully beforehand so that it doesn't smell and that it's clean.
Hope this helps.
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is it normal for a girl to have an upset stomach during her period? Because my stomach feels naseaus(sp?)and i feel like i wanna puke and my stomach is all bubbly feeling..this is my 3rd time having my period so any suggestions what i can do. i dont have any medicine so that wont help. 14/f....thanks for neone who tries to help.
anonymous -
Yes it's normal to feel nauseous. It's one of the many symptoms us girls experience during our menstrual cycle.
To help relieve the pain, take Midol. It works wonders! If not, take Tylenol, Aleve, Advil...or try drinking 7up...it usually helps me feel better when i have a stomachache.
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I just got hired to work in a store, and I am really excited about this! However, at the orientation we watched these movies & one was about people who steal clothes professionaly. While I was wathcing it, I was like okay, whteer it's not going to happen to me while I am there. But then the managers started talking about how they use to work at the same store in a different town & they have had people like that before, and that those people are starting to catch on that a new store is open! They said they have even seen a few of them walk in before. I know the movie told us what we should do...go up to the person you suspect, ask if they need help, and then don't take your eyes of the front. But then there are these people who come in to distract you, so it said to make sure you get someone else to keep and eye. It also gave these code things you can use. HOWEVER I am so scared this will happen in front of me, and I will either a) not be able to stop it & get in trouble b) accuse someone wrongfully or c) freak out and not know what to do!!!! Has anything like this ever happened to anyone, and if so what did you do? Or if not, any advice on how to act?
anonymous -
I currently work at a department store, and we watched probably the same video.
What we've been told to do are any of these:
1) Dial the surveillance room to keep an eye on the suspicious people.
2) If you think you're being distracted, page another employee to help you watch your area and help one customer while you help the other.
3) Call security to walk around the area to scare off the people if they are there to steal.
These things do work, but trust me, if you get stolen from, it's not your fault. Things like that happen all the time at my store, but sometimes there isn't anything we can really do about it.
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Well I meet this guy(let’s call him e)in net 1 month ago and he is my bf now…But he hurt me twice coz of having sex with other gurlz bcoz he want me to be that gurl his having sex of…I couldn’t meet him coz im in the other side of the world im an Asian and he is an American. I already forgive him but what should I do, he didn’t know that I have a bf in real life(J) were gonna be 1 year on July 12 but I really like him coz I think his really perfect for me but in J side I don’t feel that we have any chemistry for each other now. I don’t wanna hurt J…plz help me!!!
jam~15~f
jam -
Dump both of them.
No chemistry = no future
Unfaithful American = asshole
Make enough sense?
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Okay, about a month ago, me and my boyfreind did some stuff together. (more then kissing) I told him not to tell ANYONE because i really didn't wanted a bad reputation. I knew i made a mistake by doing this with him, but it was too late. Well just today, i found out that he told one of his freinds aaron and one of his freinds jimmy. Jimmy told me that him and aaron wernt the only ones who knew and that my boyfreind told alot of people! So when I confronted my boyfreind about all this, he denied it and said he didnt tell anyone that they were just rumors. I told him that even if they were rumors, they were still true and someone had to know about it. So i broke up with him and told him it was for my reputation and i didnt want people to think i was a big slut. He went off on me telling me i was wrong for doing this. Is breaking up with him a good or bad thing to do. Remember, this is what people will think about me for a while. I need help!
anonymous -
Are you that insecure to worry about what others think about you all the time?
If your boyfriend was a good guy, then yeah, you made a pretty bad choice. Keep in mind his friends might have lied and tried to get you to fess up yourself. Like they make up something and tell you about it, and when you say "OMG who told you???" that just confirms that what they said was right, regardless of if your boyfriend told anyone or not.
And besides, if you break up with your boyfriend while that rumor is going around, it'll make you appear like a bigger slut. It makes you look like you were only with him to do sexual favors, and you break up with him a few days later for whatever reason people may think.
Don't worry about what people think. Everyone makes mistakes.
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I have so much on my plate right now. With the current school year ending soon i am applying for scholorships, running for vice-prez of my high school class, and dealing with all the extra school work. we have to write lots of essays, and do finals and stuff. I also have responsiblities at my church i am responsible for, and I'm cast in a play that will be opening in early june. Right now i'm also PMSing so i'm in physical pain with cramps and stuff and i'm in a really bad mood. I also get ance pretty bad sometimes... i use proactive, but right now i'm really breaking out and it's affecting my self esteem. i have too much to do each day, so i often dont get enough sleep. I also procastinate... alot. I have put soo much pressure on myself to get a 4.0 Gpa this sememster or at least mantain my 3.9, but i'm soo scared that i'll get below that. I'm a prefectionist and i get stressed easily. my room is a mess and i never have any time to clean it, so my parents are harping on me for that... and my other chores at home are lacking. I also feel like everyone in my life is changing, and becoming different. and i feel like i have no one to talk to. i'm going into high school next year, and i'm soo scared.. but i dont have anyone to talk to about it because i dont like letting people know my feelings, and i have trust issues when it comes to what i am really feeling and thinking. Anyways i just needed to get this off my chest and maybe talk to someone. and see if anyone has any advice about what to do to lessen my stress level, help me not procrastinate, stuff with my friends, and parents... or something. just umm help, please!!!! thanks soo much! i appreciate it, and this was long so thanks for even reading it!
-Dealing with life (13/f)
Dealing with life -
My best suggestion for you is to manage your time. What I like to do to get myself organized is get a few of those office paper trays. Buy maybe four, two for school related activities, the other for personal activities and chores.
Label two of them "To Complete" and the other two "Completed". When you get home from school, manage your trays accordingly. Stash all of your homework, essays, scholarships into one "To Complete" tray, and for personal activities and chores, write it down on a piece of notebook paper and put it in the other "To Complete" tray as well. Set aside times where you will complete each item, and when you're finished, put the completed papers into the "Completed" trays. You'll see the load in the to do tray start to go down dramatically once you get working, and this idea gives you a good look on how much left you have to complete for the rest of the day/night.
Also, take breaks in between. Reward yourself for completing each task.
As for the acne, Proactiv should work, but I've never tried. I used to have pretty bad acne too, but after a few years I grew out of it. Just wash your face every morning and every night before bed. Apply a acne ointment on your face after you wash, and you should be set.
I hope this helps.
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i go to a christian school and i got into some trouble with one of the male teachers, {he took my friends journal with her poems and personal thougfhts} and decided to give it to the vice pricipal because she has some problems and hes a overprotective jerk. so i stole it of his desk and they hid it and then he found later. my called and tried to help and said i did it and i got into trouble but now hes kinda picking on my friends who kinda helped and hes kinda being mean too me {maybe he really isnt but im kinda jaded towards him but still, every one calls him a jerk} anyway, i was with my coven {im a witch} and we decided to bind him, but the thing is im afriad he'll like sense satanism or whatever when i walked by him or something, i m scared ill be the nexet kid on his bash list...... please help
anonymous -
First off, I don't understand why you would be going to a Christian school if you practice witchcraft...?
My suggestion, drop out and go to a public school.
And by the way, unless he is like some kind of saint, he can't sense shit.
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