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Did i make the wrong choice?
Okay, about a month ago, me and my boyfreind did some stuff together. (more then kissing) I told him not to tell ANYONE because i really didn't wanted a bad reputation. I knew i made a mistake by doing this with him, but it was too late. Well just today, i found out that he told one of his freinds aaron and one of his freinds jimmy. Jimmy told me that him and aaron wernt the only ones who knew and that my boyfreind told alot of people! So when I confronted my boyfreind about all this, he denied it and said he didnt tell anyone that they were just rumors. I told him that even if they were rumors, they were still true and someone had to know about it. So i broke up with him and told him it was for my reputation and i didnt want people to think i was a big slut. He went off on me telling me i was wrong for doing this. Is breaking up with him a good or bad thing to do. Remember, this is what people will think about me for a while. I need help!
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Think about this. Outta all those highschool years of dating, how many of them do you think you will grow up and marry? NONE! You'll go out with some and dump them. Once you're an adult and out of school and you find someone, or better yet, you go to college, those rumors are gone. Do what you want.
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This is a tuff one. They could be rumors I suppose, but thats a little coincidental. The only way they could have details is if he were bragging, and most likely thats what happened. I do think you have every right to be angry about it. He broke a promise with you and that isn't good at all.Choosing to forgive him or not will be your decisiion, if you do decide to get back with him...Stick to just kissing until he is mature enough to keep his trap shut. :)
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Well basically do you like the guy? If you do and are upset about you two splitting up then you were probably wrong in breaking up with him as it shows that you value what other people think more than the relationship. It is also possible that he hasn't told anyone and it is just rumours. On the other hand if you would rather not be called a slut than go out with your boyfriend then yeah you made the right decision! Just think about whether you trust him or not as relationships are based on trust and if you really think he said what you two had been up to together to his friends then you can't really trust him and probably shouldn't be together until he learns some maturity. Good luck
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anonymous -
Are you that insecure to worry about what others think about you all the time?
If your boyfriend was a good guy, then yeah, you made a pretty bad choice. Keep in mind his friends might have lied and tried to get you to fess up yourself. Like they make up something and tell you about it, and when you say "OMG who told you???" that just confirms that what they said was right, regardless of if your boyfriend told anyone or not.
And besides, if you break up with your boyfriend while that rumor is going around, it'll make you appear like a bigger slut. It makes you look like you were only with him to do sexual favors, and you break up with him a few days later for whatever reason people may think.
Don't worry about what people think. Everyone makes mistakes.
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Good move in breaking up with him, but it should be for the main reason - he lied to you. Guys are guys and guaranteed that he told his friends. Since you broke up with him it sends the clear message that you don't take bullsh*t (and makes it look like the rumours are untrue). Just be wiser next time and don't even risk your reputation.. Good for you girlfriend!
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EF otheR people!!! Do *YOU* feel like a "big slut"? No, pRobably not. And does being intimate with someone make you a "big slut"? Absolutely not!! My question is, why do you caRe so much about what eveRyone else thinks!? Isn't the only opinion that MATTERS youRs and youR loved one's??? I think you most ceRtainly did the coRRect thing in ditching youR boyfRiend; he's obviously an immatuRe jeRk who's not Ready foR a Real classy Relationship, not to mention sexual activities! Why on EARTH would you eveR, eveR, EVER want to be with someone who holds no Respect foR you?? Obviously eveRything you two shaRed didn't mean jack to him, otheRwise he would have cheRished youR Relationship enough to keep it pRivate. Sounds to me like youR boyfRiend was just looking foR a way to look cool infRont of all his dweeby little fRiends!
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weel gey back 2 gether with him he did not do any thing rong u r confused i can tell but tell him
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