Hi. My name is Alissa-marie, by friends call me Alissa or lis. I'm really open to comments and questions, because i get them alot. OK, Im supposed to give some sob story of why im here. But thats not gonna happen. Because im here because i feel the need to help some one, and i like to do it. You dont like what i say, oh well. I am an up front person. I know how to beat around the bush and i know how to jump into it.(perferably, jumpin, lol)So, now u know a little bit about me. But this is all you need to know. Why? Because this column isnt about me and my woes-you can go to my live journal for that. This is about you. Ask intelligible questions, and you get one back. If you ask a dumb question -and i dont always have a sence of humor- dont expect an answer.**There is a wonderfull button called 'reject'...**
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Ok HeReS HoW It StArTeD:
I WaS OvEr At My FrIeNdS HoUsE(aka person) AnD ThIs iS OuR CoNvO.
Person: Ummm I need To Tell you Sumin Serious But you Cant Tell AnYbOdY!!!
Me: Ok You Can TrUsT Me
Person: I think I mite Be bi
Me: Bi as in Bisexual
Person: Duh
Me: Wow
PersOn: I kno
Me: So r you atrracted to any of our friends?
Person: yea
ME: Are you attracted to me?
Person: Maybe
So Thats It. So Im confused cuz it kinda grosses me out cuz what if she invites me to sleepover and since i cant tell anybody about it she'll get invited to sleepoers nd stuff so she could try to make a move on me nd my friends i need help
ill rate!!
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tell her since your not bi, you are not really interested in her like that. You want to still be her friend, but you dont want to worry about you making a move on anybody whos not this way. It will kinda freak you out. Also, the cosmo girl for september has an article on when they tell you that!Hope i helped.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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the past year me and my mom have been fighting a lot and im sick of it! i always think that things will get better but they dont. yesterday she was supposed to go on a couple of erins but before me and my sister were fighting (which is normal i mean we were just getting annoyed by each other) so then she just stays home and a little later says that she wants us to come w/ her. so rite when we're about to leave my friend calls and asks if i can go swimming w/ her and i asked my mom and she said ok. then like 5 seconds after i hung up i asked her where my swim suit was and she starts screaming at me that i cant go and that shes late for what she wanted to do today so she was gonna leave me and my sister alone while she goes out and said i have to call my friend back up and say i cant go. i said that i couldnt do that cuz i just told her i could go so i started screaming to her how i hate the way shes always screaming at me and how she always changes her mind and that i hated my life. then she told me that i needed to go to a doctor but what i need is for her to stop all of this (which is never going to happen). then she starts watching tv and i said how come you aren't leaving and she said that she couldnt leave me alone the way i was acting and i told her that its not me or my sister's fault that she didnt go before cuz we told her that it was fine and we wouldnt fight before, but she just keeps saying how its our fault because we were fighting. finally she says that i can go so she wouldnt have to deal w/ me so as i was putting my swim suit on she starts screaming at me that i have to get downstairs in 10 seconds so when i was goin out the door she starts really really screaming at me w/ a mean glare that im grounded for everything. that nite when i got home she was a little bit better so i wanted to walk my dog but she wanted to come on a walk to so she was there but when we were on the driveway i asked if she was mad at me and she said yes so i went inside and didnt go on the walk. also that nite at dinner i asked if she hated me and she didnt answer. i really dont like her but i just wish she would stop all of this. this kind of thing happens like every day and i hate it! sorry this is so long, but id appreciate any advice. (link)
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You guys both need to go to a doctor. Try to figure out what is wrong. You might need to actually move away from your mother. i kno how it is to be yelled at constantly by your mom. Shewigs out a lot, too. But you really need to get proffesional help. Everything will not get solved in your firs visit, but talking it over with your mom doesnt help either. Talk to a guidance counselor at school, then they can help you find help. Feel free to ask me any questions if you need more help.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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i have this friend who i met last year, and when we first met we liked each other.. now we're just friends and we are supposed to hang out soon cuz i havent seen him all summer. well, yesterday one of his friends asked me if i was still going out with my ex and i said no and then he was like "so, you're hanging out with matt soon?" and i was like yah and he asked if i thought we might start to like each other again and i told him i still like my ex....could that mean matt still likes me? (link)
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Probably so. you can ask him why he asked you. if you want to have a reationship with matt, then this would be a good tim. But if youre not, you have to make sure that he knows that you guys are FRIENDS and just FRIENDS.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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okay well i have 3 best friends one is emily i've had for 3 years and the other two brittany and meghyn and i spent the night with meghyn and brittany this weekend, and emily is always like your ditching me.. sometimes i feel like i have more fun with brittany and meghyn then emily well see meghyn and brittany are popular and brittany is in my class so we hang out alot.. so hanging out with them makes me popular but emily is not so popular... what do i do about it? me and emily are good friends but sometimes it gets annoying we have been best friends for 3 years.. what do i do? mods please dont delete i really need help. (link)
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there is nothing wrong than wanting to have more than one best friend. Its healthier. You need to tellyour friend that she shouldnt be selfish. You, on the other hand, shouldnt hang out with ppl just because they might make you popular doesnt mean that you should leave a friend behind!
Xoxo Alissa-marie
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I love my bf but im in love with my best friend.. I wanna stay with my bf and i cant have my best friend.. i dont even know how he feels about me... but i cant stand it what do i DO?!
you know I think i can answer this myself... if i love my bf i'd stay with him right.. well Im gunna of course... but i just wanna know how to just stop and forget about the love and just be his best friend and stay in love with my bf.. cuz my bf means the world to me (link)
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Be honest with yourself... if you really love your bf, then you have to keep the promise you made to stay true. Your best friend should stay just that. If you try to break up with your bf to go out with your friend, then everything can get really messed up. You have to make sacrifices in every relationship- if you want to be faithfull, that is.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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I have faith in my relationship and I love him alot.. but we go to different schools and I live in another city but I'm only like 5-10 mins away so it's not that far. We see each other at sk8in and my friends houses... and like we can go to the movies or the mall or something... but i duno wut to do i wanna be with him.. I wanna go to his school and be there.. i trust him and i know he wont do nething.. but since school has come and the summer has faded away we cant spend as much time together.. fridays and saturdays are like the only times we can each other now.. I was planning on going to frightfest at six flags with him and acouple friends, but i duno..
Im still gunna ask him to go, but he never answers his phone :-/ welll... wut am i gunna do im so lost without him... :'(
I was about to cry when i heard i couldnt go to his school... well it's ok... I just need someone to talk to.. if u got any advice plz give. signed depressed lover (link)
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you should find a way to talk to him. When you guys finally conect, tell him that you guys should find a way to hangout a little bit more. Find a cool cafe or something and go there once or twice a week. Bring friends. That way you can all hang out, but if you were supposed to be at the lbrary..... you have friends to back you up. :p. Hope I helped!!
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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ok i have an open diary thing and ik that wen u r reading other peoples u can go to diary circles or topics and pick between one. example: maybe depression..eating disorders..etc. i want to see which category my diary is under but i dont kno how. help if u can! thanks! (link)
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ask your friend to log in under hers and then take a look at your to see what it is. If you dont see one, then you probably dont have one!! However, there should still be options for you to change it. You should probably check every single option that they give you, since the online diaries, like livejournal.com, are usually complex.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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hello.. im 14, and i've been having a lot of problems lately.. my parents have been fighting a lot for a while now and its mostly about me and my sister.. i always get yelled at for nothing and my dad gets mad so easily.. most of their fights r my fault cuz i always seem to do things to make them mad.. they yell at me for being on here too much but when i go by them they start fighting over something i say or just about anything.. also my sister has won herself the reputation of a whore.. and it bothers me because, arent u supposed to look up to ur sister? how am i supposed to look up to mine if she makes all these bad choices and lies all the time.. on top of all that my best friend found out i said something about her and shes pissed, i'm so stressed out over all this and when i get stressed i cut my wrists (any of u that read this.. dont start, i have sucha bad habit of cutting and it makes u emotionally depressed and it just makes everything worse) i no cutting is wrong but its sucha bad habit now i cant stop.. my head says it makes everything better but inside i because more depressed.. i think about suicide a lot but luckily i'm too chicken right now, i hate my life and sometimes i think that it would be easier to just pay someone to kill me.. my friends help me out and this guy that really likes me and i like is so worried about me and he said next time i cut hes telling my parents so the puts a lot of stress on me too.. its hard to quit such bad habits
i guess my question for u is.. what do i do with myself.. i need ur help.. please (link)
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gurl, you need god in your life. i kno i kn o, that sounds REALLY corny, but its true. I kno, caue i used to cutr and think that i was a screw up. Sometimes i feelo real guilty now, because He really helps you to realize that taking your life is a sin. i dont know your exact position, and im not going to act like i kno exactly what your feeling. But if you need more help, then you can email me at alissag4@excite.com . Cutting yourself doesnt help, and by hating your life, your just preparing yourself for DEPRESSION, and that is one the worst things you could do!!
You can always talk to me! XoxO ALissa-Marie
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Okay here's my problem...I slept with my best friend, but he doesn't remember, and now I might be pregnant. Maybe I should explain...About a month & a half ago, my best friend/roommate and I went to a party and when we got home we kinda started making out (we had both been drinking). When he said he something that he really needed to tell me, and said that he was in love with me. It was so sweet and we ended up sleeping together. The next morning I woke up before him and cooked breakfast for him. But when he woke up, he was really confused, and he said he couldn't remember how he got home, and he really didn't remember anything since the beginning of the party the night before. I was freaking out and I didn't say anything about what happened between us. We later found out that someone had put something in the drinks at the party and a bunch of people couldn't remember stuff. I had decided that I wasn't going to tell him about out night together because it would be to weird. Then I didn't get my period this month, so now I'm really freaking out. I know I need to tell him but I don't know how. Then to make matters worse, I was trying to tell him yesterday, and he said that he wanted to tell me something (I thought he was gonna say he loved me) and he said that he was still a virgin and he was saving himself for the person that he was gonna spend the rest of his life with. I didn't think it was possible to feel any worse. I'm 22 and he's 20.
Can anyone help me please? I don't know what to do... (link)
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You need to tell him the truth. You HAVE to, since he'll find out sooner or later. If you havent had you period, then it might be late, but still, you always want to go to the doctor and check it out. Always be on the safe side. And you have to make sure that he understands that you are telling the truth, not just trying to freak him out. Hope I helped!!
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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hey can anyone tell me what you think when i tell you that i call my friend all the time and he dont call me and i asked him all the time why he dont call and then sence recently i havent called for like a week he asked me why i dont call and when i kept on asking him why he dont call he said well stop asking me why i dont call does that make sence that he would do the same and ask why i havent called and to mention i call him mosly because i like him and i wanna build a stongrer frinedship (link)
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call him once, and then the nex time ask him about it. if u wanna be his friend, then u have to be upfront and tell him the truth. i want to be your frind, but u have 2 want to be mine 2! tell him that and it should be a succes!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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ok Tori (my BF) has this friend (mike) who asked her out.Then mikes friend tyler likes me. so mike was like put your arm around amy and ask her out. now tyler is mad a mike for doing that and im mad a mike to. and tyler is ok but i dont like Him ALOT ALOT. i like him as a friend. Should i go out with him? (link)
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no. you should never try to do something like that. Then you might feel forced to go out with a friend. Then, when u guys break up, you'll have one less friend. And then u'll be angry at mike... its to much trouble. Tell him that your his friend, and that it should stay that way untill you know him a little bit better.
Hope I helped Alissa-Marie
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me and my friends have a so called"friend" named jodi.weve known her for like half a year.at first she seemed cool.but then she got really annoying.she started acting like a bytch and only do what she would wanna do.so should we keep talking behind her baq and acing like were her friend.or confront her and tell her we dont wanna be her friend
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confront her. Only bad things can come from acting like your here friends. Like a totally bad reputation! and you dont really want to be that mean to jodi, do you?
Alissa-marie XoxO
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one of my friends can never stay single for more than a week! when i first met her she had this boyfriend then they broke up and in a few days she went out with someone else then they broke up (but she swore she loved him) and then she goes out with another guy the next day. then when they broke up shes already planning to hook up with her friend. ugh! it pisses me off that she can never stay single while all my other friends don't care about guys! how can i explain this to her that she does not always need a boyfriend!!!!!! (link)
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Give her a dare- to be on a dating hiatus for one week! If she can not stay away from the boys for one full day, then tell her that she has a problem. If she can talk to her and tell her that she can do this more often. People will start t hinking of her as a hoe. That will be a problem for her!
Hope i helped!!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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ok so my mom found out something i did with my bf long story but i got in trouble and got this whole thing about how i broke my trust with her. so tommroow i am going to my friends n my bf will be there i really wana go and idk how to ask cuz she said i wouldnt be doen anything for a while cuz of what i did. please help i want her to trust me i wish i could just talk to her more all i want is to have fun and to be pushed aside a little. im just a teenager...i make mistakes. please help me soon (link)
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if you want to earn her trust, dont go. Tell her, you know, i wanted to go over her house, but since hes their, i dont want to go because its more important to get your trust back. Just let her know that you have been listening. She'll cut you some slack eventually!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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ok, i was the one who asked the question about what happens after a breakup. i saw my ex tonight and he seemed really pissed. he would talk to e or my friend which is his friend too. which in turn made her mad at me. what should i do? i find myself liking him again. and not liking the guy i've liked all year. what's going on and what should i do. (link)
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honey, you put yourself in a bad position by breaking up with him. But you should atleast put peace with him and the friend. You can not think romanticallyuntill u solve the social part. Friends should be important, so make ammends, then make boyfriends. That is the rule!!
ALissa-marie XoxO
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I'm 'sort of' a shy person. Especially when it comes to the guy I like. : p
I don't even know if you can call it shy..I just get nervous around him and just mummble. Whaaaaaaaat can I do? I never have the confidence to tell him anything, and I never know what to talk about. Help? : ] (link)
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Talk to other ppl, guys, and start to get your confidence. Talk to him, just small talk; hi in the hallway, whats up as you walk past him in the classroom, just the basics. As you talk to him more, you get bolder without really tring!
Hope i helped- keep me updated as u lose the shy
Alissa
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I know the subject is wrong... anyways, over the summer i got a lot of freckles on my face and I never really noticed it until someone mentioned it today. How can you make them disapear, besides massive makeup? (link)
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there is some concealor at sally's that really works- and its not all powery and heavy. It lightly covers blemishes and frekles. i 4got what its called, but they should know. Sally's is the bomb in that kind of stuff!
Alissa-marie
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Hey! okay well heres my problem! School starts in like 10days so i dont have alot of time!! i originally was going to get homeschooled cuz i get teased alot about my weight n etc... but then my mom said no!! I was then going to attend a boarding school in Fresno, Ca.. but that was too expensive.. now I'm stuff with a public highschool or a private school.. im gonna start working on my weight once school starts bu i was htinki9ng fo to highschoo (my reg. one) in 10th n shock alot of ppl!! lol .. but now, should i go to a Private school or what is there any other ideas, alternatives, suggestions??? Thanks alot!! Also, if you go to a private school.. do u think I'd get judged more there or what??!?!?!? Thanks Again, xOxOxO (link)
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honey, dont let them get to you. let them be friends with you for who you are. And if you feel uncomfortable, drees comfortable and with clothes that fit. If you come looking all gross and stuff, theyll make fun of you. If you come looking perfectly normal-and u dont to be thin to be normal- theyll want to be your friend; friends will stick up for you; you eill have less ppl making fun of you; u will have more confidence, which is something every one needs just enough of, just not too much.
Hope i helped- dont rate me if you dont like me. Alissa-marie
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lately my boobs have been killing me. they itch sumtimes on the nipple and then the rest of my boob feels like sum1 hit me 100 times. they just hurt! wut can i do and is it normal? (link)
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they might be two big for your body, or they could be rubbing against your shirts and then you sleep directly on them. If its not one that has been mentioned, go to your doctor. You never know if its early signs of breast cancer.....but you always want to be and stay aware!!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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Ok so im going out with this guy... lets call him Aaron. And well idk i really like him but im not sure if he likes me at all. He always hangs out with this group of girls and they all r nice to me but 1. And thats fine with me cuz i dont like her either but anyways... im not sure if he likes me . but i hav another problem. His bestfriend um... lets say Bob. likes me he is my Ex. and so like everytime he sees me or talks to me online he is like "hey Sexy" and im mean is that bad. Him and my boyfriend are like bestfriends. and i kno "aaron" is gonna get mad.
but the thing is i kinda like "bob" too. idk wut to do im so confused. help
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if you really love "aaron", then you cant give "bob" a second thought. that is what your relationship is about. You have to dedicate yourself to him, and cant say you love him, and be really thinking about"bob". But if you realize that aaron isnt the one for you, then you have to be totally sure. You could dump him....but that would get very messy, as a lot of girls with columns here will tell you. If it doesnt work out, oh well, but dont force it to go down the toilet. Always check your options.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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