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hello.. im 14, and i've been having a lot of problems lately.. my parents have been fighting a lot for a while now and its mostly about me and my sister.. i always get yelled at for nothing and my dad gets mad so easily.. most of their fights r my fault cuz i always seem to do things to make them mad.. they yell at me for being on here too much but when i go by them they start fighting over something i say or just about anything.. also my sister has won herself the reputation of a whore.. and it bothers me because, arent u supposed to look up to ur sister? how am i supposed to look up to mine if she makes all these bad choices and lies all the time.. on top of all that my best friend found out i said something about her and shes pissed, i'm so stressed out over all this and when i get stressed i cut my wrists (any of u that read this.. dont start, i have sucha bad habit of cutting and it makes u emotionally depressed and it just makes everything worse) i no cutting is wrong but its sucha bad habit now i cant stop.. my head says it makes everything better but inside i because more depressed.. i think about suicide a lot but luckily i'm too chicken right now, i hate my life and sometimes i think that it would be easier to just pay someone to kill me.. my friends help me out and this guy that really likes me and i like is so worried about me and he said next time i cut hes telling my parents so the puts a lot of stress on me too.. its hard to quit such bad habits
i guess my question for u is.. what do i do with myself.. i need ur help.. please
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First of all, just because she's your sister doesn't mean you HAVE to look up to her. I can see where that'd be really hard, and I can tell that you know what she's doing is wrong. You also admit that your cutting is a problem. "First step to stopping and recovering is admitting it." This sounds a lot like what happened with my friend, the whole parents fighting over/with siblings and you gettting caught in the middle. My best advice there is to simply stay out of your parent's way, especially if they seem at all mad. Go to a friend's house after school, go out in the evenings, be with people who DON'T stress you out, and who know that you're cutting, and can be there for you. If you can, try to talk to your parents about how they make you feel. Maybe it's best if your parents find out, perhaps you should let him tell. If you parents learn how you feel, it may change them, and they may stop blaming you for everything.
I won't promise anything I told you will help for sure, but I'm hoping it'll at least give you an idea of where to go. Best of luck.
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Well, about the sister thing been there. It's really hard when it's not a good thing to look up to your sister. But try to talk to her about it and tell her that she's giving you a bad example maybe it will work a little ( it sorta did for me.) and don't cut your wrists it's dangerous
(no offense but some people find it weird.) you could cut a major vain and then KABOOM!!! blood everywherer and you get rushed to the hospital. It must be hard to quit, idk never tried it but i bet it is. You have to be strong. Find something to do that will relieve you stress when your stressed. For example i have a passion for dancing and when i'm stressed i dance and it makes it all bettter. So find something of that sort it will help A LOT! Good luck!
-hope my advice helped
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Dont' be home alot. Don't look up to your sister. Don't talk about your friends. Don't cut, it does nothing but leave scars. Try finding something else to do when your stressed. Sorry to hear about your situation and good luck!
-xXoBrianna
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ok. i know how that is.. i can really relate to ur problems. First of all, there are so many people that care about you. you dont realize it but they do. If that guy realy likes you you shud go out with him! he could really make things seem alot better! i know that cutting is a bad habbit.. and its like smoking, its soo hard to stop. But just think of this, in the future when you get ur physical, they will see your scars, and they will send you into rehab! so if you dont stop just count on that. Your scars will fade, but never go away. you will regret it! anyways, tell ur best friend ur really sorry for what you said and tell her ur situation, if you cant look up to your sister find somone else to look up to!
*i really hope i helped*
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Dear "Confused,"
I think you should really stop cutting. Even if it is a habit. One wrong cut on your wrist and you could kill yourself. About your parents you should really try talking to them and tell them how stressed out you are and that you're feeling really depressed. I'm sorry to hear about your sister's "reputation". Right now I don't think you should concern yourself with her problems. Just think about your health right now. You should think about the positive things going on in your life right now. Like that guy that likes you. Maybe a relationship can grow between the two of you. Even though he says he's going to tell your parents if you cut again he's only trying to look out for you the only way he knows how. Give him a chance.
Good Luck and I hope you get better :)
**Latina Gurl**
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gurl, you need god in your life. i kno i kn o, that sounds REALLY corny, but its true. I kno, caue i used to cutr and think that i was a screw up. Sometimes i feelo real guilty now, because He really helps you to realize that taking your life is a sin. i dont know your exact position, and im not going to act like i kno exactly what your feeling. But if you need more help, then you can email me at alissag4@excite.com . Cutting yourself doesnt help, and by hating your life, your just preparing yourself for DEPRESSION, and that is one the worst things you could do!!
You can always talk to me! XoxO ALissa-Marie
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