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My friend came up to me and said "Party boy unce, unce, unce, unce" and I had no idea what that was so I just laughed. Who is "Party Boy" and is it a song? And what does "unce unce unce" mean? And now alot of people in my school are doing it. Please help.

its from wild boys ! the show you know ! i think it comes on MTV2 ... its the guy with long brown kinda curly hair ! he jumps around in a speedo and says that, in one episode. its basically just a stupid saying ! they dont mean nothing when they do it to you !

love kayla

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What is 8th and Ocean? Is it the new Laguna Beach?

no you tard .. its a wanna be laguna beach show ! it sux [ my opinion ... ] the next laguna beach is called the hills ! it dont all the exact same characters !

&&heart's;; kayla

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Me and and four other friends want to go to Six Flags for my birthday. Of course since there's a lot of us, my parents don't have enough room in the car to take them all and they don't want to have to take 2 cars. What are some ways me and 4 other people could go to Six Flags without my parents thinking it's too much work? And how much would the transportation or whatever cost? And my parents don't want to have to rent a limo just for one day. Please Help!

a taxi cab would be my best advise ... or have their parents take them ... :]

&&heart's;;kayla

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My bff is evil. I've known her since 2nd grade when she was nice, then in 5th grade she turned evil. Nobody likes her. She's mean to everybody including me for no reason. I try to help her out and I never get anything positive out of her. Everybody since 5th grade (even my parents) has been telling me to ditch her, but would it be too late? Should I continue being her friend? Should I tell her off? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

what does she do that is evil ? if shes so mean to you when you are around her just simply tell her she needs to have a better attitude towards everything and untill then just F the F off ! shes not going to get any where in life if shes mean to everybody around her. dont let her bring you down im pretty sure you have alot of other friends! and even though shes your bff just go find another one. Obviously she cant be a best friend if she doesnt know how to be one !! take my advise and just stay away from her untill she gets her act together !!

hope i helped

&&heart's;;kayla

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ok when it comes to guys... Im like horrible. Well for starters im 16/f just to let you know.
Anyways Im so confused... ok theres two guys... the first one is my ex. Now with him he cheated on me and then broke up with me... but he told me that he still likes me. But when it comes to people if you break my trust theres a part of me that cant let it go and I know thats bad but he really did hurt me. Well anyways Im pretty sure I dont like him anymore. I think its mainly because he doesnt know how to keep a promise like he'll tell me hes gonna call me and he NEVER does, so Im so confused cause now I'm just like w.e I dont really like you but I never told him that. And Im trying to make it seem like i dont like him like that anymore but I dont know how... ok well thats my first problem, now heres the second theres this other guy and what i like about him is hes the other way around if he says hes gonna call hell call me and when he doesnt hell text me and will be like im sorry ill call u even if its late just so i can say i called you. BUt the problem with him is that I think the only reason hes calling me is so he can forget about his ex, who like completely broke his heart and he told me all about it so i feel as if he wont get over her, and that i know too much about him to like him.

if you want your ex to know you dont like him then call him and tell him :/ that simple ! or tell him in person ! mabe if you find another boyfriend hell get the idea you dont have feelings for him anymore... !!

now about this other prob. this boy you are talking about might just be looking for some one to be his rebound. dont let him fool you. hes prob still in love with his ex! only move on to him when he is ready! but untill he gets over her and decides he wants to move on or be with you ... then just be a good buddy and help him through his problems ... :]


hope i helped
&&heart's;;kayla

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Well me and this guy have liked each other for about six months now but we arent really going out ... (he wants to keep his options open) and he recently met this really nice girl who is my new friend and is like exactly like him. sooo im gettin kind of jelous cause i feel he likes her more than me. I kno i shouldnt think like this cause we arent going out and he isnt attached to me, but he is the first guy who has ever liked me back (im pretty heavy and not tooo atractive) and she is beautiful and smart and [=they have soo much in common like what profession they want to go into, their sense of humor.... so yeah idk what to do. idk if she likes her much i kno i am not up to her standards, so should i just back out of his way and just be alone for ever or what please help. i will rate high!

I would just let him do what he wants. go find some one else , thers more boys out there :] ! and if your friend knows that you like him and she hooks up with him then shes deffently FAKE ! thats so mean. if shes so pretty why dont she just go find some other guy instead of trying to hit on yours ? ya mabe you and him arent going out and you like him alot but just let him do what he wants :/ be happy for him... if it turns out that him and her go out then it just wasnt meant to be between you and him !!

hope i helped ..

&&heart's;; kayla

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My principal caught me and my boyfriend having sex in the elevator after a feild trip. and now the whole school know's about it what should i do? and my boyfriend wants to do it again. but we are using safe sex.....

ok why would you have sex in the elevator anyhoo? thats a weird place ... well i dont see no prob. having sex again but i wouldnt do it in the elevator. and in plus the people at your school should just mind their own bussiness ... :]

hope i helped ..
&&heart's;;kayla

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About a year ago I fell in love with a very good friend of mine, she is in my classe and I didn't know how to tell her anther reason I remined quiet is she had a boyfriend, and when they broke up i helped her to get over it and fell even more in love with her...
After a while ,me for being such an idiot, I told her, things betwen us akwored for a while and later we talked and things went back to normal.She went back to her old boyfriend and again broke up with hum after half a year. Beacuse of all that I dicieded that It will be best for everyone that I would forget about her. It has been about a year since all that and I still can't get her out of my mind.....
Please help me, I really do want to forget her...

There are more girls out there. go try and find one! that will most likely get your mind off her. mabe not totally off her but it will help. Mabe its just meant to be between you and her? theres not really any other way i could think of that you can get over her, just go try and find some one else. :/ :]

&&heart's;;kayla

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i have six dogs. they are all pretty old. one of my dog is blind,and 3 of them are diabetics. my mom says that chow chow will have to be put to sleep because she is blind and she bites to many people. i'm not sur if i should keep all of them or give them away. i love all of my dogs and i don't want to put anyof them to sleep. should i put them to sleep? or should i keep them. by the way they all are in pain and i know it but their my best friends.
thank you i rate high

its better to put your dog to sleep then watch them die in your house or around you. eaither way yes it will be sad but they wont go through no pain when they die. they just die :/ ! my dog got ran over on march 23rd this yr and she died. unlike you i didnt have no other choice of how i wanted god to take her .. :[ giving your other dogs away shouldnt be a option because mabe the other people wont care for it as much as you do. and if they dont cause no troubly you can keep them. and plus its probably going to be hard to give 2 old dogs away exspeacilly if they are diabetic! either way if you put them to sleep it will be better because i dont think youd want to wake up one morning and see them dead ! or just find out they are dead somehow !

hope i helped ... best wishes
LOVE KAYLA

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thank you soooooooooo much for the answer.. we already exchanged our numbers and i have really no guts to tell him this in person.. so i will just tell him through text message.. but how would i tell him? what am i going to say without turning into embarassment? i really want to tell him because maybe i'll regret it if i won't.. but i'm also scared to lose his friendship, he's very sweet and nice guy.. sometimes i want to think that he like me too but i just think that he's just really nice that you will misunderstood that he likes you. thank you soo much....

i cant remember what question was yours that i answerd !! sorry ? if u repeat te question or copy and paste it then i will be glad to give u advice :]

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ok my school is having a dance this friday i'm going....but i have no idea what to wear, my friend and i are going to the mall on thursday (the day before the dance)and i want to buy somthing cute but cheap.
any ideas,pictures,links or advice please gime em' to me thx

a dress? you can get cheat dresses any where. probably not the mall but ya. target , walmart , umm kmart! ect. well if it was me id get mine from the mall but you said cheat. but ya if you change your mind then go to jcpennys and look at some dresses!

hope i helped.
love kayla

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HI,
Im currently talking to this girl who happens to be my friends ex. We dated for about a week and broke up because things were kinda complicated. She was scared of me losing all my friends. She went out with my friend for 9 months and they broke up 3 months ago cuz he cheated on her. I talked to him about it and he gave me the okay, and told me it would be akward. But im affriad of all my friends talking shit behind my back. Every time i talk to this girl i like her more and more, what should i do, is this right?
I dont want to lose her??? i know she really likes me, but she just doesnt want to be the cause of drama..... but i really think shes worth it?? what should i tell her??? what should i do????

if you really like this girl then you need to tell all your friends that will get mad at you or that you think will get mad at you. o well what they think... yes they are your friends but they should let you make the decisions. your friend cheated on her. thats like the most worst thing a boy could do besides break up with a girl for another girl. and i know. why? im a girl. :] she probably needs some one to love her at this moment.Sit down and have a talk with her. and tell her if anything goes down then it isnt her fault. because how could it be? what did she do to her ex? he cheated on her! thats so wrong. Look all im telling you. is TAKE the chance. treat her right.

hope i helped
&&heart's;;kayla

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I want to make my image just a little more punkish/skater, but I don`t know of any places where people get band tees, and things like that. Does anyone know of any?

hot topic and spencers... :]

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I know we all have insecurities, but I'm pretty sure no one is as paranoid as I am. I'm not fat, but I'm not really skinny either. All the girls in my school seriously look like they are anorexic and the guys are all over them. I thought guys like curvy girls. Anyway, my best friend is a freakin' twig, and she has all these guys all over her. Seriously. It doesn't stop. Two of them even came to her house when she was sick because they're like obsessed with her because she's so beautiful. And I know I'm not ugly, but something inside of me keeps telling me that I am, and I need to get skinnier and more slutty and wear more make-up or stop wearing my hear a certain way. I used to be a really confident girl, but it's all changed now. I know like 2 guys think I'm hot, but that's TWO guys out of the whole school. Everyone likes my best friend. I mean everyone. It makes me sick.

So, my question is, how do I make that little voice inside my head stop saying "you're so fat, you need to be more like Danielle" or "don't do your makeup like that, that looks gross"?

If your not too fat or not to skinny then that means your about average. which is good because you dont want to much meat on your bones, but you also dont want to look like a twig. and be able to get hurt easily. :/ Im about average too. and alot of boys like me but most the time its not a good thing. you always got all these boys crawling all over you. basically being on your nuts. if you know what i mean. And most the time all the ugly boys come to you and if the hot ones do then you end up liking two of the hot ones. I mean its not bad to have alot of boys liking you but believe it or not. it does get annoying.

you shouldnt have to wear makeup to get a boyfriend or to feel better about yourself. its just not right. if all those boys are hanging all over your friend because of how she looks and not her personality ... then who wants boys like that. they only want one thing. to get in your pants. let your friend make that mistake with one of them. just dont you do it. you should not be worried about all the boys liking her. it doesnt matter. yes possibly shes really skinny and if you ask me thats gross.

dont put on to much makeup or wear skanky clothes to get noticed. thats like asking to be called a hoe or having the reputation of one. The boys that only want sex will come to you if you dress like that. but if you dress proper like a girl then most likely you will find a hot boy thats not only in it for sexual stuff.

now if you are serious about loosing weight then exercise and eat healthy! they have good exercises in cosmo girl magazine. and you can also do them at home. and if you are to lazy to exercise just cut back on the sugar and soda . it will help.

just what ever you do dont starve yourself. i did that one time when i was 12. yes 12! it was crazy i starved myself for like 2 weeks and then i got sick of it. yes i did loose weight but once i started eating again i gained all the weight back and more!! and at some point i would of had to eat. if i wouldnt of i would of got sick or just died because humans cant go for eternity without eating. :/ just take care of your body. and respect it. who cares what other people think? just believe you are beautiful inside and out. which im pretty sure you are. just what ever you do dont do anything to harm your body in any way. it will do serious damage to you in the future and no boy wants a total skeleton for a gf.

i hope i helped you out.

love kayla

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I like this guy only one problem we dont exactly talk...occasionally we will talk online but i would like to get to know him better and become his friend only i don't know what to talk about and before you say talk abou classes i have another problem he's not in any of my classes! well my friend talks to him but teyy aren't like close friends and so getiing togtherwith just the two of them would be weird too. We have tried big group things ar even middle group things but they never seemt o work out :( well i am really hopin i can get some good ideas of how to start talkin to this guy and get to know him better! Thankss !!

just tell him what your doing on the weekend. And tell him how your day went and what you did. just tell him everything about you. when your bday is and what you like to do on your free time. its so easy to figure out what to say. well thats just my opinion. :/ if you try to keep the convo going and he puts no effort into it... then mabe hes just not the right boy ?:/

&&heart's;;kayla

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my friend told me to "pop a pill." is that a good thing? and what does it mean?

it depends on what situation you and her were in. if she said pop a pill because your stomach or head or any other body part hurts then it shouldnt mean anything bad. but make sure u take a pill your supposed to for what ever kind of pain you have. but dont just go randomly picking up anything and taking all of them. but on the other hand if you said you were stressed or you hated your life or whatever mabe she ment to just take a drug or something. dont do that though! she isnt a good friend if thats what she meant. never pop a pill for the hell of it? how stupid ?

hope i helped.
LOVE KAYLa

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What does it mean when someone says the phrase "I'm the sword inside your stone"? I'll rate anyone who knows! Thank you so so so much.

♥♥

mabe they like you? or they want to be your prince charming or whatever! lol

xO-kayla

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Hello... I have a problem, i hope that you can help me.. thanks in advance.. I really like this guy in my class. I only have one subject with him, my teacher lets him to sit beside me so that i can help him once in a while because he's a korean and he doesn't understand everything though he can speak english.. We became close, he's a really nice guy.. I really really like him... My problem is, he has a gf, but i'm not sure if she's here in the philippines or if she's in korea.. I don't want to ask because we don't talk about our love life and he doesn't talk about his gf either.. What would I do? I heard that koreans are not allowed to have a gf/bf of different race or nationality, and im filipina, is it true? I'm not sure if it's true.. And is it also a nice idea to tell him what i really feel about him? Please help... 6 days to go and we won't see each other anymore because it's nearly vacation and we have different course... I will surely miss him..
Thank you so much....

im not sure if its true that koreans are not alot to have a bf or gf. but the best advise i can give you is to ask him. if you like him the way you say you do thats probably the only way to find out. or ask one of your friends to ask him. :/

hope i helped.
love kayla

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alright, im 14 and am a girl.


my life seems to suck, my parents were diviorsed for many years. i live in new orleans, living with my dad. after the herrican(katrina) my mom moved in to help pay. my house was destroyed my the hurrican. my parents we back together. this guy asked me out who i really loved, seriously i would take a bullot for him anyday i love him so much. my mom was in a horrible car accednt with a drunk driver. she died. im going insane. my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday and i cannot talk to my dad about anything.


i also think im am way over weight. i tryed to throw up but i just could not gag myself. so being belimic did not help. i really need someone, or something to turn to, to help me get my mind off of things. i am failing almost everything in school. all my friends are backstabbers and they just don`t understand.


i really don`t have an adult that i can trust and my school counsilor is a really retard she makes problems worse. lately i have been on the computer because that kind of get my mind of things but in the past 2 weeks i gained 3 pounds. i am not very athletic, i am not good at basketball, softball, vollyball, or track. i LOVE cheerleading, but i can`t even do a cartwheel witch is way to imbaressing.

i just need somthing, anything to help get my mind off of things, and get back to normal AND to loose weight. thanks and sorry if this is long.


also for loosing weight, i can`t go to a gym, & i don`t have a bike, and i DONT want to run because i absolutly SUCK.


im 14 5'0 AND i weigh 150. last year i was about 4'10 & weighed 100.


sorry i know one topic ofr question but this kind of goes to the 1st question.

Yes it does seem like your life sux. :[

im really sorry about your mom dying. i know is has to be really painful to go through something like that. i dont know how it feels to lose a family member , as speacilly some one so close as your mom probably was to you. but i know when my dog got ran over on march 23rd 2006 and died. i felt like there was no reason to live. obviously you have it way worse then i did. i couldnt explain to you how sorry i am. and if i could do anything to help you i would. you just live to far.

now as for your weight problem , you are probably not fat. thats not alot at all. take people that are on talk shows that weigh 300 pounds for example. atleast you can walk. they cant do anything. they cant even walk , let alone move thereself. they have to rely on other people do stuff for them. :[ ! be glad god didnt make you live like that. if you are really serious about losing weight then cut back on the sugar and foods with alot of sugar and grease. just eat healthy basically. EX: vegtables , fruits , and other foods that you think are healthy. but if you really want to lose wait you have to pull through on it not just go 2 or 3 days with doing it. other thing is , dont REPEAT dont starve yourself , cut yourself , throw up , or doing anything else to harm your body or anyone else. it will believe it or not make things worse. you might want to starve your self or throw up but im telling you it wont help. youll have major problems in the future. deal with your problems , dont take the easy way out. it will only make you stronger. you can also pick up magazines like cosmo girl and seventeen and other stuff like that and they will have exersizes that you can do in your own home. or anywhere else you want to do them.

As for friends. Go to the closest one you have. and if you dont have a best friend or a close friend that you can talk to, then make new ones. if i was in your situation i would pick just some random person that is my age and looks nice on the street or in the store and start talking to them . never know! it could be the most best choice youll ever make.

boys? who needs them. yes u might of liked or still do like this boy ! but if hes going to hurt you , exspeacilly at a time like this then you dont need him. find some one else or just save yourself a heartbreak and dont get another boyfriend. thats basically all i can tell you about that. or you can just wait for a boy to ask you out ! let him come to you.

watchin tv and being on the computer is things that will get your mind of things. i know when i cry and i just look at the tv i stop. :] talk on the fone. do something you like. or just go walk in the park or something. :]

if i forgot anything im terribly sorry i just tryed to do the best i could. let me know if i did though and ill be sure to give you some more advise.
sorry if this is to long...:/

P.S ill send some money to you i only have 56 dollars though saved up. but ill send it to you if it helps. just give me all the information i need to send it in the mail ... :]

i really hope things work out for you. i know they will and i will be praying for you so much.
take care. and if it was up to me you could come live with me. :]

let me know how things go!
keep your head up and dont ever give up!!

&&heart's;;kayla

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My name is Januari. I am thirteen, female, and I have an issue. Now I know all about the bads of drugs and what not but can we forget about them for a second. My best guy friend Derek got high for the first time last Friday. This usually wouldn’t be a big deal because me and most of my friends smoke pot but Derek said he wanted to for the first time with me there. Though this was not the case he did meet up with me that night while riding his bike and this is what happened: He comes up to me while I'm with a group of people and I know right away he's high, they don't. I ask him if he did it with so and so etc. he answers all of my questions with a giggle, a shrug, and a direct answer. He was acting a little different but not too much until he decided to get off his bike and lay on the grass. As a joke my friend Ashley goes I bet Januari wants to lie down next to Derek which is a reasonable comment considering I've had a huge crush on Derek since the beginning of time. But regardless he answers "I wouldn't mind that." with a smirk. I don't lie down just giggle and then walk away. He gets back on his bike comes over to me and in a sing song voice says "my dearest Januari,” At this point his two friends who got high with him are saying lets go and he’s standing there singing to me. Then I notice he is giving me this meaningful look and I want more than anything to kiss him but I don't. Then our lips are about a foot apart and he shrugs. Then I shrug and this continues for about one min. with each shrug our lips get closer. Just when it's about to happen I say you better go. He doesn’t get angry or anything just giggles and starts leaving and I walk away. But as he leaves he starts yelling my name but I pretend not to hear him. The thing is I know from experience and story of ear that you don't get high the first time you smoke. So there is this possibility that he was faking it all. And also Ashley thinks he is repressing his feelings through the substance unlike when he’s sober because then he acts just friends with me especially in front of his friends. I can't tell if he likes me and I thought maybe you could input something. If you bothered to read all of this say anything and I will rate high.

Wow! that was alot to read. anyways, no its not true that you dont get high the first time you smoke. mabe some people dont but theres no really way to know unless you ask them. Not all people act the same as everyone else when they are high. some may act weird , and some may act calm. Yes mabe he was trying to give you a hint he likes you because he figured this would be the time. [ when he was high] ! most likely he was acting like he liked you when he was high because he was to shy to tell you when he wasnt high. You should just ask him. when hes not high! if he likes you. I dont see whats so good about getting high . i only do it when im under alot of stress and yes it helps. but other then that i believe it kills brain cells and all the other stuff that they say. but whatever floats your boat.

hope i helpd
love kayla

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