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My high guy.
My name is Januari. I am thirteen, female, and I have an issue. Now I know all about the bads of drugs and what not but can we forget about them for a second. My best guy friend Derek got high for the first time last Friday. This usually wouldn’t be a big deal because me and most of my friends smoke pot but Derek said he wanted to for the first time with me there. Though this was not the case he did meet up with me that night while riding his bike and this is what happened: He comes up to me while I'm with a group of people and I know right away he's high, they don't. I ask him if he did it with so and so etc. he answers all of my questions with a giggle, a shrug, and a direct answer. He was acting a little different but not too much until he decided to get off his bike and lay on the grass. As a joke my friend Ashley goes I bet Januari wants to lie down next to Derek which is a reasonable comment considering I've had a huge crush on Derek since the beginning of time. But regardless he answers "I wouldn't mind that." with a smirk. I don't lie down just giggle and then walk away. He gets back on his bike comes over to me and in a sing song voice says "my dearest Januari,” At this point his two friends who got high with him are saying lets go and he’s standing there singing to me. Then I notice he is giving me this meaningful look and I want more than anything to kiss him but I don't. Then our lips are about a foot apart and he shrugs. Then I shrug and this continues for about one min. with each shrug our lips get closer. Just when it's about to happen I say you better go. He doesn’t get angry or anything just giggles and starts leaving and I walk away. But as he leaves he starts yelling my name but I pretend not to hear him. The thing is I know from experience and story of ear that you don't get high the first time you smoke. So there is this possibility that he was faking it all. And also Ashley thinks he is repressing his feelings through the substance unlike when he’s sober because then he acts just friends with me especially in front of his friends. I can't tell if he likes me and I thought maybe you could input something. If you bothered to read all of this say anything and I will rate high.
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First of all, I don't know where you got the idea you can't get stoned the first time you do weed because you can and I can tell you that without a shadow of doubt in my mind.
The problem is, you can't really trust a person's feelings when they are under the influence of drink or drugs because whatever friends and so on say it does to you, both alcohol and drugs can alter the way we perceive things.
By saying this, I'm not detracting from the notion he might like you because there's every chance he might but what I am saying is that mind altering substances can make us friendlier to people than we may normally be so I want you to be aware that it could be the effects of the drug that made him so flirtatious.
I think that really, if you want to know once and for all how he feels about you, you need to tell him you like him and ask how he feels about you. I know it's a horrifying thought. After all, what if he says he doesn't feel the same way? But trust me, if you leave this school or he leaves school without you having told him, you will regret it for a very long time. However, you need to bear in mind that if he does take these drugs, there's every possibility it might lead him to another while he is stoned. Believe me, it's not unheard of. You may like him but please consider this before you risk heartbreak over him.
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People can get high the first time they smoke.
That being said, there are two possibilities:
1. Through the drugs, he was able to express his hidden feelings for you.
And now the more likely of the possibilities.
2. He was just high. Trust me, people do that kind of just when they are high.
If you must know, ask him about it when he isn't high. For now, don't think much of it.
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I think you guys should forget about that for now until something like that happens when he's not high or under the influence of anything. you can get high the first time you smoke. "highs" vary from person to person. some people get really horny and happy and some are calm, relaxed and kinda sleepy. some people, of course, exaggerate the whole experience. (like with alcohol too). i think he knew something like this would happen...especially since he wanted you to light up with him for the first sign. i think he figured if you both got high, it wouldn't be as akward for friends to hook up. he was probably thinking, yes, but not completely straight. it's a lot to decipher... but maybe you should wait a while and see what happens with the 2 of you. <3
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Wow! that was alot to read. anyways, no its not true that you dont get high the first time you smoke. mabe some people dont but theres no really way to know unless you ask them. Not all people act the same as everyone else when they are high. some may act weird , and some may act calm. Yes mabe he was trying to give you a hint he likes you because he figured this would be the time. [ when he was high] ! most likely he was acting like he liked you when he was high because he was to shy to tell you when he wasnt high. You should just ask him. when hes not high! if he likes you. I dont see whats so good about getting high . i only do it when im under alot of stress and yes it helps. but other then that i believe it kills brain cells and all the other stuff that they say. but whatever floats your boat.
hope i helpd
love kayla
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weel i know wat its like that happened 2 me alittle differentley though u need 2 talk to him 1 on 1 and make sure hes sober and ask him to tell u and if his answer come sout as excpected tell him how you feel and let the mood take over your body wat i mean is if you both lean in 2 kiss then kiss but watever you do dont take it farther than a tongue kiss ok !
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wow thats a tough situation. first of all, you should not be smoking pot. its addictive and can take a toll on you like no other. but enough about that. i know you may want to think that he likes you, but from what your saying its half and half, very hard to tell. most guys are not going to be googly eyed over a girl in front of their friends either tho, and most guys around 12-13 are shy too. rite now i dont see many options but there is one option i always like going with. get it out in the open that you like him. then, if he likes you things pick up from there. if he doesnt like you, he could most definetly warm up to you and start seeing you in other ways as he would now. (guys are blind hehe) so i hope things work out dont rush it. i hope i hope i helped much luck <3
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