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something to help me geet my mind off of things
alright, im 14 and am a girl.
my life seems to suck, my parents were diviorsed for many years. i live in new orleans, living with my dad. after the herrican(katrina) my mom moved in to help pay. my house was destroyed my the hurrican. my parents we back together. this guy asked me out who i really loved, seriously i would take a bullot for him anyday i love him so much. my mom was in a horrible car accednt with a drunk driver. she died. im going insane. my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday and i cannot talk to my dad about anything.
i also think im am way over weight. i tryed to throw up but i just could not gag myself. so being belimic did not help. i really need someone, or something to turn to, to help me get my mind off of things. i am failing almost everything in school. all my friends are backstabbers and they just don`t understand.
i really don`t have an adult that i can trust and my school counsilor is a really retard she makes problems worse. lately i have been on the computer because that kind of get my mind of things but in the past 2 weeks i gained 3 pounds. i am not very athletic, i am not good at basketball, softball, vollyball, or track. i LOVE cheerleading, but i can`t even do a cartwheel witch is way to imbaressing.
i just need somthing, anything to help get my mind off of things, and get back to normal AND to loose weight. thanks and sorry if this is long.
also for loosing weight, i can`t go to a gym, & i don`t have a bike, and i DONT want to run because i absolutly SUCK.
im 14 5'0 AND i weigh 150. last year i was about 4'10 & weighed 100.
sorry i know one topic ofr question but this kind of goes to the 1st question.
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Yes it does seem like your life sux. :[
im really sorry about your mom dying. i know is has to be really painful to go through something like that. i dont know how it feels to lose a family member , as speacilly some one so close as your mom probably was to you. but i know when my dog got ran over on march 23rd 2006 and died. i felt like there was no reason to live. obviously you have it way worse then i did. i couldnt explain to you how sorry i am. and if i could do anything to help you i would. you just live to far.
now as for your weight problem , you are probably not fat. thats not alot at all. take people that are on talk shows that weigh 300 pounds for example. atleast you can walk. they cant do anything. they cant even walk , let alone move thereself. they have to rely on other people do stuff for them. :[ ! be glad god didnt make you live like that. if you are really serious about losing weight then cut back on the sugar and foods with alot of sugar and grease. just eat healthy basically. EX: vegtables , fruits , and other foods that you think are healthy. but if you really want to lose wait you have to pull through on it not just go 2 or 3 days with doing it. other thing is , dont REPEAT dont starve yourself , cut yourself , throw up , or doing anything else to harm your body or anyone else. it will believe it or not make things worse. you might want to starve your self or throw up but im telling you it wont help. youll have major problems in the future. deal with your problems , dont take the easy way out. it will only make you stronger. you can also pick up magazines like cosmo girl and seventeen and other stuff like that and they will have exersizes that you can do in your own home. or anywhere else you want to do them.
As for friends. Go to the closest one you have. and if you dont have a best friend or a close friend that you can talk to, then make new ones. if i was in your situation i would pick just some random person that is my age and looks nice on the street or in the store and start talking to them . never know! it could be the most best choice youll ever make.
boys? who needs them. yes u might of liked or still do like this boy ! but if hes going to hurt you , exspeacilly at a time like this then you dont need him. find some one else or just save yourself a heartbreak and dont get another boyfriend. thats basically all i can tell you about that. or you can just wait for a boy to ask you out ! let him come to you.
watchin tv and being on the computer is things that will get your mind of things. i know when i cry and i just look at the tv i stop. :] talk on the fone. do something you like. or just go walk in the park or something. :]
if i forgot anything im terribly sorry i just tryed to do the best i could. let me know if i did though and ill be sure to give you some more advise.
sorry if this is to long...:/
P.S ill send some money to you i only have 56 dollars though saved up. but ill send it to you if it helps. just give me all the information i need to send it in the mail ... :]
i really hope things work out for you. i know they will and i will be praying for you so much.
take care. and if it was up to me you could come live with me. :]
let me know how things go!
keep your head up and dont ever give up!!
&&heart's;;kayla
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I can't tell you how much it hurts to hear that you've went through a lot of bad in your life and you didn't deserve it at all.
You have really negative views on about yourself that's effecting a lot of how you are living. You won't consider cheerleading because you can't do a cartwheel, you won't consider running because you don't believe that you have what it takes. I don't think that you should decide not to try out for cheerleading just because you can't do a cartwheel. It may not be an easy task, but you can definetly find it in yourself to learn it from someone.
The reason you should take up a sport you really like is because you can make some really great friends and when you honestly need to escape your home life, your friends are right there for you. Don't shut out every option just because you believe that you aren't capable of doing it. You are capable of doing anything that you want to do. If you absolutely love cheerleading, then you can have what it takes to be one. When you love a sport, you dedicate your heart into it and that's how you get good at it. You put everything you've got in you into it.
Another great thing about having friends is being able to confide in them with secrets, or things that you really need to let out. But you need more than just a friend to talk to, after someone in your life dies, you really need to get into some serious therapy so that you can deal with this. I'm not talking about just a school counselor, you really need to ask your dad or someone you know to get you into therapy to deal with everything that you are dealing with everyday.
Stop worrying about your weight for just a while and try to get into therapy and cheerleading or some other hobby that you really love so that you can gain some confidence within yourself. If you are unable to get into a sport right now, then go for the therapy and start a plan for your life instead of feeling this way all of the time. I want you to read your question over and look at how much you are thinking down on yourself because of these life experiences. I know that you've said you don't want to be in counseling and you can't do a sport, but there is no other option for these situations. The key to getting better is surrounding yourself with friends, and getting outside and breathing the fresh air for a while.
You will never be able to keep yourself inside and not do anything to get better. You need to fill yourself with high self-esteem because that is the root to 90 percent of your problems. I really hope that you consider cheerleading and therapy or just one of them to get better and start fresh. I wish you all of the best. And if you need more personal advice concerning this situation, go ahead and contact me through my inbox.
-TheTeenGirl
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