My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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Hi right well i went out with my two best friends today called k and m we went to a theme park! and some of the rides were two person seats! m always wanted to go with k she never seems to want to be with me on anything and im confused! my friends mean everything to me and i dont want to have a big argument! how do i sort this problem out becauses it kind of feels like she likes k more even though ive been best friend with them both same amount of time and i like them both the same!
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I would talk to k. Ask her what's up. Just say "I noticed the other day you were kinda ignoring me, is everything alright between us?". I think it'd be best to be honest with her about how you feel. Maybe she didn't notice what she was doing. Or maybe she feels her and m are closer. Hope everything works out!
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Ok for my birthdya this year(14) im going to have it at a theme park. I was only invite 5 friends intill my whole class some how found out.Should I tell them im not having one then invite only the ones i was gonan invite or ininvite all the girls, it really expensive and for sure we are going
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I would do what YOU want. Theme parks are very expensice, you're right. If it were me, I would invite the 5 I was originally going to invite. If the others have a problem, too bad, just explain that you can only invite 5 people.
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ok... this might be long... but i'll rate 5's for anyone who answers i swear!!!!! ok... theres this girl(taylor) on my boyfriends(rob) bus... and me and my friend (anna) think that taylor likes rob... so anna told rob that we thought taylor liked him... and i asked him if he thought she was pretty and i said i want an honest answer i won't be mad... so he told me he thought she was pretty, but not as pretty as me... and i started crying cauz lately theres just been so much stress on me and i just had to break down... then i asked if he would ever like her and he said "i dunno... but i wouldn't cheat on you" and i said ok... but the "i dunno" just broke my heart... so i keep reassuring him that im fine about it... but somewhere inside i no im not and i don't wanna keep bugging him about it... i really love him and i trust him... but i just get this bad feeling about him and her sitting together on the bus...and since he's in a year younger than me his parents won't let him go out on dates so i only get to see him like 3 times durring the day... and taylor gets to be with him more than i do and it just kills me to no that... i don't know what to do.. please help... or give encouraging words.. i luv him and he luvs me too... i trust him.. but i just can't get over it... (im a very sensitive person) (link)
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I think the only thing to do is tell him. It's best to have an honest, open relationship. Tell him what you told us, that you trust him, but it still hurt. It sounds like he loves you a lot, you said he did yourself. Just always remember he loves you, and don't let anyone or anything get in the way!
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does anyone know a site where i can get cute myspace layouts? (link)
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www.pimpmymyspace.com
Easy instructions and everything! When you're done post it in your interests.
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I was a cutter for about eh, a few months. Then all hell broke loose I was sent away, skip the drama. I've been clean for almost a year..but now more sucky drama is stirring about in my world. I've been thinking about selfharm, but I've still been clean.
Now that you ahve the background...
What can I do with all of my..'emotions'..(did that ever sound cheesy) I already am a poet and a novelest. I pound out on Bass, too...
Danke
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I would suggest talking to someone you trust, maybe your mom, best friend, guidance counselor, whomever. But holding things in can make things worse. You can IM me if you ever want to talk. Maybe you could consider asking your mom to take you to a counselor..
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Throughout my whole life, I've always been kind of 'pleasently plump' so to speak. Now, being thirteen, I was uber fat in elementary school, I've gained about twenty pounds since fifth grade, but I've grown a good seven inches. Is this healthy? My 'extra weight' evens out pretty well on my body..I'm five foot five and I weight about one fourty seven or so.
I have wide set hipbones, I'm a "WIDE" person..But I know I couldn't change that even if I tried, that's just my body type. SO should I even concider diet. Oh, I'm already a vegetarian...
Danke
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I, personally, don't think you need to lose any weight. You're still young, and your body is going through changes. The only thing I would suggest is maybe cutting down on junk food, and that's only if YOU feel you'd like to lose a little weight. Maybe you could eat fruits or vegetables. I would recommend exercising, I don't mean it to lose weight though. Idk if you exercise or not, but it's just good for your body in general.
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i have to do a oral presentation tomorrow and i am NOT good at this at all. when i start talking i usually forget and i dont know what to say next so i bascially stumble, so i need GOOD tips on how to focus and i do have notecards butt i cant use them alot so PLEASEE help me !!! (link)
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I know how you feel. I would practice tonight. Maybe you can practice in front of the mirror, or your family. It's hard doing oral presentations, just try to memorize it and know it inside and out. I'm sure you'll do just fine =)!
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my xboyfriends brother just died today, and i i'm not dealing with it very well. i just dont know what to do, it feels like no matter who i talk to i cant lift up my spirits. my boyfriend right now has been doing everything he can to help me, but its not working. even people who arent my friends are helping me, im just not making any progress. what should i do?? (link)
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Maybe you could talk to your parents, I'm sure they want to support you. If you feel you're really having a hard time coping, maybe you could ask your mom if she can take you to a counselor. Or maybe you could see your guidance counselor at school.
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okay so I'm 14 f. I haven't had a boy firend yet, is that weird. See I'm in french immersion, and theres only lik 3 guys in it and there nerds. so all of my friends are nerds. I moved here last year so I don't really no many other people, but still. I mean, I've been asked out a lot, but that was at my old school and I was in grade 5-6-7 so "going out" with someone was just holding their hand in school, so I don't count that. Is it sad that I've never been on a REAL date? How can I change? (link)
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There's nothing to worry about. You have your whole life ahead of you! Many teenagers your age, or even older, have never had a boyfriend, it's perfectly normal. Try meeting new guys in school, or maybe you could get their s/n from a friend and get to know each other better online, and then hang out sometime.
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Hi, heres what i have to say. Im in 8th grade and im 98 pounds and im 5'1 ish ? I know that isent a lot of pounds at all but thats because im short. But most girls in my class have "flat stomachs" mine isent. Mine is like not like humongous .. everyone thinks im wicked skinny. But my stomach is kinda big like.. its hard to exlpain lol. I dont have like rolls or anything but i want a flat stomach lol. Have any ideas. Oh and i dont really want to talk to my parents about it cuz its too embarassing. I just want to do it on my own. Any ideas?
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Honestly, your stomach probably isn't big at all. People view themselves in a different way than they actually look. I though my stomach was fat, so I tried to lose weight, and it all went downhill from there, and now I totally screwed myself up. Actually, I think 98 pounds for someone who's 5'1" and still growing is a little underweight, so make sure you don't lose anymore.
Well, back to your actual question, if you really feel you'd like to tone your stomach, try doing crunches or sit-ups. Or maybe 6-inches (If you don't know what 6-inches is, it's lying on the floor with your feet in the air about 6 inches. It sounds easy, but trust me, it hurts lol).
Hope I helped! Feel free to ask me anything else anytime, I'd be glad to help!
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Whenever i have like.. time to myself, i always seem sad, and sometimes even when im with friends, family, or people in groups im in.. i never talk..because.. well im just sad. sometiems there are no reasons, and i always wonder why.. but other times, its because since im adopted.. i never met my parents, and sometimes i just want to meet them so bad that i dream about who i would be if i never got adopted and stuff.. then i start crying... can you help me stop this, or find out.. why???
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I know how you feel, feeling sad all the time. I'm the same way, and I don't really know why either. The best thing to do is to talk to someone. Talk to whomever your guardian is, and tell them how you've been feeling. The best thing to do is to go to a counselor. There are anti-depressents too if it gets serious, and that helps most people become happier. And because you're adopted I think that could have a lot to do with it. I think it's be best if you went to a professional to tell them how you feel, and they can help you out. You can IM me anytime if you want! Hope everything gets better!
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I am not sure what i have but some times when im scared, doing nothing, or exercising my heart beats fast and i can feel the pressure of it and i when that happens i look down at my shirt and you can see my chest vibrating from my heart. Im afraid that this could be serious, either if it is or not i would like to know what it could be and how i can treat it or do things to help it.
thnx to whoever responds. (link)
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Like everyone else said, go to a doctor. That's the only safe way to go. It sounds like it could be serious, so I would get it checked out soon. Hope everything's ok!
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i am making a my space and for the header i need a quote.does anyone have any inspirational quotes they would like to share? thanks (link)
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I have a good quote site that has some good inspirational quotes.. hope this is what you wanted!
http://www.quotecraze.vzz.net/frames.html
(under advice, there's 8 pages)
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Hey, I like this guy alot, but he always wants me to do stuff with him more than kissing. Im 14 and I dont really want to b/c Im a Christian and I dont like to do stuff like that ..but I like him ALOT HELP ME! (link)
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Even if you feel you like him a lot, doing something you don't want to isn't right. I understand how you feel, a lot of teenage girls are pressured into doing things they don't want to with guys. If he truly loved you, he could wait. I know a good site you could go to, it's www.pureloveclub.com .. it has stuff on how waiting is the right thing to do and everything. Goodluck, and remember never do anything you don't feel comfortable with!
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I'm sorry if this is kind of long but please, please answer back
[13/F] I like this girl named Jackie and i just can't stop thinking about her. But i feel like...im in love. I liked her for 2 years and she knows that I like her. I talk to her online a lot and my friends know that I like. She knows i wrote about 10 poems about her and that i have a deep obsession about her and even made a journal about my feeling all about her. All my friends tell me to talk to her and that my poems show my true feelings about her. But I'm too scared to talk to her and . I get scared and start to panic when i stand around her, I just really want to say hi to her...even talk to her at school. The hardest thing is that we don't have any classes together and online, i asked her if i could be her boyfriend and she said that how could i be her b/f if i can't talk to her at school.
I'm just so confused and its killing me inside that i can't talk to her and time is running out until she might find a boyfriend that can talk to her. I'm just so depressed without her...I just can't explain most of the situation already, because no one don't know how i feel because i can't put it in words. Please help me. (link)
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Do you have lunch together? Maybe you could sit with her at lunch one day. I would take it one day at a time. Everyday get closer and closer to her. You can start off by just saying "Hey, how are you" or something like that. Talk to her online.. maybe you could say "Hey, I think we should hang out sometime, or get to know each other more. You seem really sweet and I want to get to know you." Or maybe you could show her a poem you wrote about her to show her how much you care. You seem like a really sweet guy, and I would love to have a guy like me as much as you like this girl. She doesn't know what she's missing, but she doesn't know how you feel about her! Like you said, if you don't say something soon she could get a boyfriend. You might regret not saying anything to her if you don't say anything soon. You can IM me sometime if you wanna talk.. my s/n is on my column. Goodluck with this girl, I hope everything works out!
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ok so last night i was supposed to go to the movies with my friends. well i found out i couldn't because i had to go to my grandma's 60th birthday. well my best friend said she didn't want to go to the movies. so i asked her if she wanted to come over and she said yea. so i get home and it turns out i have to stay home and watch my little brother. so i'm like yes now i have a better chance for margot to spend the night! so i ask my mom and she keep's sayin i don't know n that she'll call me. so at like 7 i call her for the last time and i ask, i'm not worried that margot won't be home because she didn't want to go to the movies. so my mom says yes and i call margot's house, but her mom says she's at the movies. so i'm kinda mad and i call her cell and say hey you can come over after the movies if you want to and she says ok i'll call you. well she calls at 10:30 and says that her mom said no because it's too late. and i'm like ok. and she says are you mad? and i say no, but inside i'm freakin pissed! what should i do? sorry it's so long. (link)
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I would tell her how you feel. Be like "hey remember when you asked if I was mad? Well, honestly, I was". To me it's not right. I mean, if she decided to go to the movies, she could've called you. Maybe you could ask why she didn't call you telling you her plans to going to the movies were back on. I would forgive her though, everyone makes mistakes.. And if you think about it, at least she eventually called... better late then never.. right?
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ok in my english class I have to write a paper on a assigned topic. My topic is abortions. I need opinions and any information that is good and bad about abortions. Please I need help on this. I have my own opinion but I need more than just what I think. (link)
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I answered a question earlier about my opinion on abortion, so I'll just paste it again.
I am pro-life. I feel that once the baby is in a women's womb, it is a living person. The baby has no choice as to whether or not it can live. I mean, at least have the baby and give it up for adoption, or (in MA anyways), they have something called "Safe Haven" (sp?). It allows you to bring your baby to a hospital, fire station, or police station without being charged. It's for the better of the baby, and it allows the baby to live. The ONLY way I am against it is if the doctor's know the baby is going to have birth effects (ex: down syndrome). The reason I think that is because I don't feel too many people would adopt a baby like that. Not necessarily because they're different, but because they take A LOT of work to take care of them. Somebody always has to watch over them in their life. I hope that made sense.
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Okay so my best friend is all of a sudden being a total jerk to me. She's saying I'm stupid when I'm an A- average student and she's a C average student. She's saying just because it took me a longer time to move up a level in gymnastics means I'm not as good as her when I'm the one who got her into it and she's only moving up a level because she wants to be better than me. I work my butt off to get the scores to move up but she gets a score 4 points lower than mine and she can move up. I have other friends but I spend more time with her. What should I do? (link)
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I think she might be jealous. Maybe she can't accept the fact that you're better than her in most things. You could try to confront her. But if you don't want to be friends with her, tell her you feel you two have become different and should go your seperate ways. You said you have other friends, just call them up more often. I'm sure they wouldn't mind hanging out with you =)! Goodluck.
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well like this boy a lot and ive known him 4 like 8 years and hes like a brother to me so its kinda weird that i like him.......i had something in my profile saying that i liked some one and my B.F.F. saw it and was like who do you like and i wouldnt tell her cause she dosnt like him and she would think i was weird and i dont want that but she keeps bugging me about it and it really annoying she keeps saying i should tell her because shes my bff..... but i dont want to tell anybody... including her even tho shes my bff......how can i tell her its not her bisness wothout being to harsh and coming off mean?? (link)
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Just tell her you'd rather keep it to yourself. Tell her it's nothing against her, but you'd rather not tell anyone. She should understand if she's your best friend, some things people would rather keep to themselves.
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My 14th birthday is coming up really soon, and I want to do something, but I don't know what. Just a small party type thing, with just my closest friends. Any ideas for what to do? (link)
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Well, it depends on what you like. Maybe go to the movies, and then sleepover your house. Or bowling/sleepover.
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