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hey everyone! im caitt♥ yes, im only 13, but trust me ive been through alot. from parents getting divorced, to bad relationships, to losing friends, to people from my family passing away, to my whole family being on a hitlist. so yeah you can pretty much ask me anything. i usually get a chance to get on this site at least once a day. dont hesitate to ask me questions. send me something in my inbox and your question will be answered the same day! also if you add me as a favorite columnist, i automatically add you because you added me =]. thanks for reading. byee♥

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OMG!! OMG!!! I am SSSSSOOOOOOO scared! I go to a very nice private school in the mountains with fountains, a good principal, etc. Well, whenever I walk alone to a class to another building, I always see this man with a beard and old clothes staring right at me about 8 feet away. I sware... it's just me and him!!!! This started around April last year and I started school last week and he's still there (doing the same thing)!!!!!!!!! He can't work there, right? Because he doesn't do anything and he's too ratty looking to work at this school!! HELP ME!!! WHAT SOULD I DO!1????

hey, report it to a trusted adult and principal. he probably doesnt mean any harm but just report it to be on the safe side.

-caitt♥

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I was at work yesterday at the college I go to and there was a high school recruitment thing going on. This girl and her friend asked me a question about the Ticketmaster we had and I gave them the number for it. When I found out they wanted tickets to a country concert, one of the girls said she hated country. When she said she like Pink Floyd and stuff, I jokingly said "Haha what's your number? J/K" Well a few minutes later, her friend gave it to me. This girl isn't that attractive and goes to a high school far away from the college I go to. I didn't know that at the time and asked her out for coffee. When I confronted her about the high school thing, she got all sad and shit and said you prolly won't talk to me again. I'm not that mean and I said we should still go for coffee. She will not stop text messaging me. I don't know how to politely tell her I don't want to do this anymore and to get her to leave me alone. I don't want to hurt feelings but this has to stop. Any little interest I may have had in getting to know this girl has quickly evaporated. How do I tell her to buzz off?

hey, well next time you should find out more info on a girl before telling her that you want to get to know you. telling a girl that your not interested in her because of where shes from is like a stab in the heart. just explain to her that you dont like her in "that way" and that you just want to be friends.

-caitt♥

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ive been goin out w/ my gf for about 6 months now. but yesturday i heard from 3 people that she liked this other guy from her church but she wont admit it can someone give me a good way to make her confess that she does like someone else

hey, what you hear sometimes isnt true. it sounds like you already questioned her about it. maybe you went about it all wrong? if you said something like "i heard you like someone else come on now admit it" thats wrong. say to her "i heard from the some friends that you like someone from your church, is it true?". also explain to her that if she tells you that she does you will not get mad. tell her that in the end it will ebe better for the both of you. also tell her that you might have to breakup with her if she does like someone else, and that it would be easier just to tell you if she does.

-caitt♥

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For sometime Ive been getting mad over tiny things. Like, someone will say something a little insesnitive without thinking and I get upset for hours. Even when they apologise I can't just, like, let it go. Then I get angry over the slightest thing.

How can I control my temper and stop myself from getting blue over everything? Its started to cause BIG problems with my friends and family.

hey, try to go to anger management. if you dont want to do that talk to a trusted adult about it.

-caitt♥

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There's this guy who says he likes me (on this site) and I have no idea how to talk to him. Because I don't know who he is...he sent me a personal question about a girl named milly, me thinking it was a quincedent answered and when he gave me feed-back he said i like YOU (my name is milly)...so what do?
I don't get in a relationship with someone I don't know and I don't meet with someone somewhere who I talked to over the Internet...I want to ask him why and a bunch of questions...
please help if you know what I'm talking about and trying to say...
help!

hey, well then just ask him. also explain to him what you just explained to us!

-caitt♥

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my name is Rachel and iam 17 female and iam not on my period or anything and there is like a couple of blood spots on my panties why is that?

hey, it might mean that your going to get your period for the month soon. it could also mean that you irrated yourself when you whipped.

-caitt♥

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I have serious hair issues and I'm on vacation! I have a hair straightener at home and I straighten my hair when I go out or if I need to. I decided not to bring mine on this vacation...and that was a bad mistake. I can't leave my hair open at all because it flies and it looks like Hagrid's hair from harry potter...and I mean it literally!!!! AAAH!

Is there anyway i can get it to look good down?

hey, buy garnier fructis smoothing milk. also scrunch your hair using herbal essences totally twisted moose.

-caitt♥

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Well I have dated this guy for about 3 months and i fell in lvoe with him but I had found out that one of my crushes from before liked me and i did stuff with him too and broke up with my ex because i felt so guilty. The thing is no one will ever treat me as well as he has or does but my feelings ffeel like they are fading yet I dont't want to lose him...I am so confused about what is going on and what i should do. I will always remember him and honestly NO ONE will EVER treat me well like he does

hey, the same thing happened to me like a week ago. i stayed with the one i loved not the crush. hang out with the one you love [ just you two ] and spend more time with him. build a solid relationship.

-caitt♥

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i used to see these shirts around but i never see them anymore.. the have like rips right across the chest and its like a tight shirt.. i dont knnow how to explain it but if anyone knows what im talking about, do you know where to get it?

hey, try hot topic. my cousin just recently got a hot pink one but it wasnt a whole shirt it was just like a half one.

-caitt♥

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what does the school do if they found out that you skipped a class or something??

hey, well my school calls your parents then you get dentention.

-caitt♥

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Okay- I'm 13/f-
I have this friend who moved away a year ago- at first she called me to talk to me but know she calls and has her friends talk on the phone and she know I don't like talking to people I don't know and haven't met face to face I tried telling her to stop but she woulnd't listen and last time she called she put her boyfriend on the phone and he said "hey babe wanna see my (you know what except he said it out right)" So I hung up- I hate that- I don't mind hearing my guy friends talking abbout that but they never say it to me- do you think I should talk to he anymore? I was going to tell her"I don't want to talk to your friends if YOU call so, if that's why your calling don't bother calling again"and hang up but I don't know now what do you think- my mom hhas said she would tell her I was busy If I wanted her to but I didn't say anything
TY in advance
Jeni

hey, well i wouldnt hang up on her thats rude/mean. maybe she wants to talk to you, but is afraid to call you alone becaues there might be akward silences? you should find out what the problem is and why she always call with other people. try to cater to her answer. after that you should tell her that you dont really like it when she calls you with her friends and you want her to stop or else she shouldnt call anymore.

-caitt♥

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I absolutely HATE my sister. Shes 14 and im 15..im female by the way. She always gets the attention from my parents. Shes the one whos always good at sports..and all that..and then im the one who is good at school..so therefore i come off as a nerd..and i really hate it..cuz im not a nerd at all. She doesnt really have any friends so she always wants to hang around with me and all my friends..and my friends like her more than i like my sister..and i hate that. Shes always so mean to me and stuff..and she always takes my stuff with out asking...theres alot more to it..but yeah i can barely stand being at home anymore. when i am home im always int he basement on the computer..far far away from her cuz i really hate her..what should i do about this? thanks..

hey, you should talk your mom and dad into getting counciling for you and your sister. it will make you too have a better relationship.

-caitt♥

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Hi,
ok well im trying to burn a cd off of itunes. Well everything was going great. I had a CD-R and i had evrything checked and ready to go. Everything was going smoothly until all of the sudden it said, cancelling cd burn, and it said it had an unknown error. Does anyone have any idea what happened? Can you please help me burn this cd????
thanks for your time.
-dumb blonde

hey, its because your trying to burn a cd from i-tunes. i-tunes doesnt like when you burn cds from there service. the reason is because you can just gieve the cd to a friend then your friend wouldnt have to buy any of those songs from i-tunes, so that means i-tunes is losing money. download limewire or bearshare then burn your cd.

-caitt♥

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i am 15/f. one of my best friends is 14/m. he told me last year that he liked me. i don't like him and have never liked him. i told him that. i thought he would get over it during the summer. however, last week school started and he's being very clingy to me and i'm uncomfortable with this. when we're standing in line for something, he'll stand really close to me and when he talks to me he'll get really close to me. this is really creeping me out. most of the time, i'll find a way to get away or go talk to another friend, but i can't seem to get rid of him. and i like him as a friend, but he won't realize that i don't like him in that way. i already told my best girl friends how i feel and they said that they would talk to him about it. am i doing the right thing, and if he doesn't stop, what should i do? i want to keep being friends with him. also, there is a big banquet in february every year for band students, and he asked me to it this year. i said yes as a friend (he asked me several months ago) because he shamed me into saying yes. how should i tell him that i don't want to go with him if he keeps being so clingy to me?

hey, first off i wouldnt have your friends talk to him about it. i would have you talk to him about it. you dont have to do it in person. you can do it on the phone or comptuer or whatever. tell him that you like him as a friend, but his clingyness is annoying and just plain creepy! i wouldnt tell him that you dont want to go to that school thing with him because thats mean [ how would you feel if you asked a guy to go and then he changed his mind? ] and you dont know how your going to feel about him in febuary.

-caitt♥

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everytime i go to the bathroom, there is this clear... like gooop. its clear and gooey. and its in my undies=( what is it? how can i get rid of it?



p.s. i have not had period.






hellppp=[

hey, its discharge. everyone gets it. its the way of cleaning your system. you usualy start getting discharge when your close to getting your period.

-caitt♥

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grr!! I don't understand this game at all!! Does anyone here play Law & Order: Criminal Intent on the computer??!? Well, I was doing the case where the guy got beat to death in his house and his daughter found him, and I'm at the baseball store and I give him a picture of every single one of my witnesses, and he's like "I don't know nothin about that." so I was S.T.U.C.K. So anyway, I started a new game, and did the one with the dead guy found in the river...and at sanches aunts house, and I said "I can help you and you can help me." So I was suppose to pull out something from my nokia to givee to her, so I gave her every piece of evidence that I have and every suspect, and she kept saying no!! Does anyone know what I'm suppose to give the guy at the baseball store, and what I'm suppose to give the girl at her apartment! PLEASE HELP!

Ally.

hey, i googled for some info and didnt find anything helpful. so im thinking that you should go to your local video store like blockbuster and look for a cheat book.

-caitt♥

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Well, I have to shorten this a bit, as I could go on and on, but basically the story goes like this: One day, as I was sitting in my apartment, I began to hear some teenage girls talking about me throug the walls of the building. I found this strange, but stranger as I came to find they were discussing my thoughts. As time went on, I started hearing them in the shower, then at work and while doing other things. They told me they were psychics at first, and that I was psychic as well. I started hearing family and friends drop by every once in a while in my mind as well. It took me a while, but I finally realized the whole thing was a sham, and that I was being spoken to not by man, but by spirits. At that point, I addressed them as demonic, but having little faith in the idea (Christianity being abandoned due to a hypocritical upbringing), was NOT able to banish them in the name of the Lord. Their words are mostly torment, or "taunting" as they once put it, but at times they are nice, and joke around or have even encouraged me. The thing is, they are liars, and always have been, and they will NOT leave. I don't see any good here, I'm sure these spirits are unclean. Any advice? Looking for something unconventional, if possible. Thanks.

hey, i think that you should go to an actual physic and see if they can tell you anything. get a reading and find out whats going on. keep me posted on what happens if you acutally do go, because i am interested in waht is happening to you.

-caitt♥

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i live in the south, and we always say ma'am and sir when speaking to adults. however, i recently met some students from northern states and they don't say that. they even said that adults from northern states think it's weird when they say ma'am and sir. but in the south, adults think it's disrespectful to not say ma'am and sir. why is this, and should i just say ma'am and sir to all adults because that's how i was brought up?

hey, you dont have to change your ways for anyone. but if you want to jst say mam and sir to the south people and something else to the north people.

-caitt

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I've always been fat...well most of my 14 years of exsistance I've been chubby but now I'm straight pointed FAT!
I'm 190 lbs now and I'm only 14! This really sucks because as much as I try to loose I end up putting on 5 lbs. And it hurts because I feel like I can't help it and I just end up giving in to the food.

My genes aren't the problem because my mom was thin before she had my brother and fairly small when she had me and my dad's really skinny and I feel like the unwanted one. I really want to lose the weight but I can't keep up with walking 5 miles a day because I'm still in school. I can do eating healthy and maybe walking for 30 mins-45mins. Please help me manage my time into a work out plan.

hey, well you didnt mention your height. so i cant tell if 190 pounds is fat. anyways well do soem sit-ups to tone you. run around the block as much as you can.

-caitt

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I am virgin, and i Have not come on my period for nearly 2 months. The boy didnt ejacuate cum on his finger and he didnt have pre-cum.. people said it is normal to miss some months of menstruation as i only started my period in june.. CAn i get pregnant?

hey, no sperm entered you. so your not pregnant. periods are irrgeular wheny ou first start them. so its common to miss.

-caitt

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