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Heyyy!!!! What's up everyone. I'M BACK!!! my name is Catherine. I am 15 years old. I may be a minor you will be surprised of what I know, especially things I haven't been trough. Just leave anything you want to talk about in my inbox.advice
My boyfriend wants to have sex. I think I love him, but I just don't feel ready yet. How can I tell him and not lose him?
Tell him that you love him and all but your not ready yet in a nice yet shy voice.
My older sister is 17 (Im about to turn 14 in a few days) and today I was hanging out with her in her room while she was looking through her drawers for a pair of shorts. I saw something that looked like a condom wrapper but she covered it up so quickly, i thought i must have seen it wrong because my sister told me shes a virgin. Well, when she left the house, I snooped & turns out .. it was condoms, a few of them. And about 3 were un opened. Im MAD. She lied to me. And shes told me repeatedly how she wants to save herself until marriage. I dont know what to do, do i tell anyone? Im afraid she'll get an STD, or pregnant. But I cant talk to HER. Or she'll freak out at me and deny it - i know.
Ok first of all she can't get pregnant if she uses a condem. Now what you need to do is tell somebody like a parent and if she denys it show proof(the condems of course). This affects not only her but her own family.
16/f... Lately I've been so pissed at my mom. She works from 9-5 but when she gets home, she's on the computer doing e-mails, ebay, or going to all these different meetings she chooses to be apart of. She wasn't always like this... where she's always gone, or on the computer. And now our house is so messy... and I clean it up. But we have so much junk lying around and a lot of it is hers and she's always saying "Get things cleaned up" well, I do the best I can and she thanks me for it... but everyday its "Get things cleaned up, blah blah blah". And I do what I can but its never clean enough and she never has time to help me because she's always on the stupid computer doing her "little business" on ebay and its stupid! She doesn't have time to cook anymore either. And I have a life too, I have to clean up, plus do stuff on my own whether its taking my cousins somewhere, school, or being a regular teenager. The problem with me is, that I tend to hold emotions in, and then I'll just attack you... and so today I did that with my mom. I attacked her with how I was feeling, but this hasn't been the first time... I've attacked her about this situation before. I'm tired of all this. Same thing with the plumbing back in February (which, btw is still not fixed, but I've given up on that and that was all because of the same thing... she doesn't have time for anything else or she "foregets" to call). Well, she's tired of me always doing this and being sarcastic. I'll start telling her how we're tired of her not having time for anything else. Our house is still messy (a lot of things I can't do... like where am I supposed to put all of the statements she keeps, papers, etc? we have ALOT of that kind of stuff), we have fast food all the time... I go and get my own food, otherwise I won't eat until like 9pm and I'm too tired to cook, and things like the plumbing, etc. So today as I was cleaning out the linen closet I told her how I was tired of this, how she can't do anything anymore and she kept saying "Oh knock it off!, I don't want to hear it, Stop being sarcastic, I'm tired of it" blah blah blah. So I left the room with tears running down my face. The main reason was because she wasn't listening to anything I had to say. She thinks I'm being sarcastic when I'm telling how I really feel. She left for a meeting and the entire time, I kept thinking about cutting. I have no other reason to get anything else out. She won't listen to me. I never tell her anything, I'm not close to her at all. Sure we have a good relationship... she's always been here. She's not the type that goes out drinking or whatever. But deep down, I'm not close to her. I don't "tell her everything" as most daughters and mothers are. Its too late for that, and I've excepted it. And my dad's here, but he doesn't do anything. When he gets off work, he goes downstairs and falls asleep or goes on the computer, then sleeps again. On weekends he'll mow the lawn sometimes, and he used to the the fixer guy... he would have fixed the plumbing, but its not the same anymore. He's just the regular couch potatoe and I'm sick of cleaning up after him and my mom. Yea, they pay me and while most kids think that thats awesome... to me its not all about the money. My parents won't let me have friends over when the house is messy and its ALWAYS messy. The majority of the time, I'd much rather have some friends over than 40 bucks. Money really can't buy happiness. I've only had people over about a total of 10 times in the 16 years I've lived. It sucks and I feel so alone. My mom would be pissed at me if I just came home from school and said "oh hey mom! so-and-so's here!". And those 10 times someone came over, the day before I spent cleaning the entire house. It sucks. I guess what I'm trying to say is, it scares me that I've been having thoughts about cutting. But I feel like theres no other way to get my feelings out. I told my mom before I left the room, that she won't listen to me so I'll just take my anger out in a different way. She just barely looks at me and screamed "Well, you need help then, like a councelor or something" so I finally said "Yea, get me a councelor". But she didn't seem too serious about that... she just said it to make me shut up. I guess my question is, do you have ANY advice? Is there any way you can help me? Give me some advice. I'm so sick of this. I'm sick of how my parents live, its not the way I want to live. And, it makes me mad that my mom won't even listen to how I feel. Just because I raise my voice when I'm mad, or I keep bringing up the same subject over and over again. She won't answer my questions like "When are we getting the plumbing fixed?" "Oh I don't know" "Thats what you said yesterday" "Well, I DON'T KNOW, stop asking..." I HATE IT SO MUCH. She won't talk about anything, make plans to get something fixed. What am I supposed to do? Sorry this is so long.
Listen if you need to talk to anybody is your own friends. There are so many ways of letting it out. You should really go to somebody who will listen to you. Have you tried talking to your father? Listen I know how you feel, how you feel like you don't have a mom or even a dad. I know cause I don't have a dad. Now I know I'm not the right person to help you deal with unfit parents but at least I'm trying. Ya see I haven't talked to my father because he was hardly ever there for I was mad, and sad and I don't want that to happen to you and both your parents so you you should talk to somebody who can talk to your parents.
Ok im 15 and ive been going out with my BF for about 7 months now... HE's great and everything, we hung out yesterday, went to the movies, and yeah it was great!!! ;)... Well this morning when i called him he never answered which was weird because he always does it for me but i was like "ok maybe hes sleeping or something"... So then later on i called him and still nothing but a lil while ago i IMED him when i came online and i was like "Oh hey whats up,blah,blah why didnt you pick up your celly when i called you" and he was like "Because i didnt feel like it".. SO im thinking ok maybe hes having a bad day or something, so i asked him if he was and he was like no im fine... So it made me upset because he didnt feel like talking to me, so i told him he was making me mad and he was like "So" and i just got mad hes never treated me like this before... I love him so much and i dont know why hes being so rude too me today :(... So i signed offline and when i did i told him that i hope hes in a better mood later and too call me and that i loved him' and he never answered me :(... Not even too say bye or i love you too.... ::GRR:: This is really making me upset, I dont know what too DO!!! He always tells me he loves me and today he blows me off like im a piece of shit, IM really pissed and ready too break up with him even though i really dont want too!! ugh PLEASE HELP... GIVE ME ADVICE
xConfusedx
Listen it was only a day. Give him another chance. You know how guys are they won't tell you whats bothering them, they to manly for that. Just give him one more chance. If you really love him you wouldn't break up with him cause of one day.
All right, I need help... I went out with this guy for 3 months... But we were friends 2 months before we started going out... He had a crush on me, and I ended up liking him and we went out (like I said) so our relationship was more like 5 months it's just, for the first 2 months we didn't do anything, and everything was going great, or, so I thought... He broke up with me ON our 3 month anniversary, and yesterday WOULD HAVE been our 6 month anniversary and, it made me really sad... The thing is, is that he verbally abused me... He would say something and I wouldn't understand how he meant it, so I'd get upset, and he would call me stupid and tell me it was all my fault. After he broke up with me he got drunk and messed around with this that liked him, but, he didn't really like her because, he never talks to her anymore... Well, we still talked after he made out with that girl but, about a month ago we got into quite a few arguments and he told me I am not worth it, I can't handle anything, I don't deserve him talking to me, and a lot of other things that really hurt. He's friends, that I am also friends with, tell me he doesn't care about me AT ALL... But yet I still care about him, and everything that happened still REALLY hurts... Oh, and now he likes the school slut and thinks she is "amazingly hot" and wants to do stuff with her... But, my question is, why? Why does it still hurt when I know he is a really mean person, and it's been 3 months since we broke up, so why can't I shake this? Please help... (Yes, I will rate high for serious and helpful answers. Thanks in advance and, sorry for making this so long.)
It hurts because he was your friend for two months, and I know its shocking but let me tell you something you really do deserve better than that fucking ass basterd. If I were you I would be hurt to but I would be happy to not having any man that I thought loved me be abusin' me like that. Sooner or later he will be crying back to you and ya know what I think you should do show him the door.
dear magz,
i like this girl but dont kno if she likes me back.we went out once and i felt a connection but i dont kno how to tell her or ask.plz help.
You like her than take the risk. There is nothing wrong with asking her out. And if she says no than she ain't right for you
ok this girl likes me. and i like her. but im in 9th and she is in 7th. is that kool ? should i go out with her. also she is hot lol all myu friends thing she is hot 2.
boy let me tell ya somthin, it shouldn't fuckin' matter what grade she in or what your guy friends think of her. You like her than I see no problem.
Cathy
Ok, so I have this friend, we'll call him Nick. I've liked Nick for five years (yes, 5 years) and I think I'm really starting to like him beyond the high school standards...like I might actually be falling in love. But see, the problem is, he's my best friend. I mean, he's my ABSOLUTE BEST friend. We talk 24/7 and share everything with eachother. The other problem is, he has a girlfriend (we'll call her Meredith), who he likes more than anything in the world, and who also happens to be one of my best girl friends. Yeah, I know, big problem. The other other problem is, his girlfriend doesn't like him nearly as much. I mean, he puts sooooooo much effort into their relationship, and she sits around and does absolutely nothing, doesn't try at all. That's making him frustrated, and is causing him to like someone else, who also happens to be a best girl friend (we'll call her Annie). My luck stinks, but anyway...he says the only reason he likes Annie is because she's exactly like Meredith, only more serious when it comes to relationships. She's everything he wants Meredith to be. Annie has a boyfriend, who just happnes to be one of Nick's best guy friends...now that I type this out, I realize it's like a giant web of confusion, lol. So anyway, I have no earthly idea what to do. I know I can't tell Nick how I feel, it would freak him out...but then again, I don't think I can handle him g/o with yet ANOTHER best friend. Everytime he talks about Meredith or Annie, it drives a knife deeper and deeper into my heart. Eventually, I won't be able to handle it anymore, and that day is approching faster than it should be. I'm so lost. Someone please help me.
Look if this i hurting you so bad then you have to tell him. You don't know if he'll freak out or not. If he does than he is no good for you. Trust me I know what I'm sayn' Write to me to tell me what happens. Cathy
the other day i met this guy.. all of my friends knew him.. and i had heard alot about him and i finally met him. he was soo sweet.. hes been talking to me online and stuff. and.. he doesnt really like to date girls that go to other schools (i go to a different school than him) and i think that if i saw him on weekends and school vacations and stuff..if maybe it would work out. he seems to like me.. either that or hes a huge flirt. but i really need to know what to do
I'd say go for it. Just tell him the ways that it could work out for you and him
Okay well i am 13\f and i havent made out yet and i want to REALLY bad. i have a bf but he doesnt live near me so yeah..i really love him and all that. but i have a friend who lives closer to me and hes really cool. we are supposed to hang out sometime and im afraid i might start doing stuff with him because i want to make out really bad..but i dont want to cheat on my bf. I would feel horrible if i did that to him. Should i just wait for liek a year till my bf comes to see me and wait. or what. because i want to REALLLLYYY badd. :P???
Yeah you should wait because if you really love him you would save your first kiss (or first MAKE OUT) for him.
hi, I am a girl who is 13. I always act mature for my age, and have friend's who are always older than me. Is this normal?
Yeah it is normal. when I was little, like say 8 I was smart I had friends older than me, the oldest was 18 years old. Now I have friends my age their all like my sisters and brothers I never had. Like I said it is normal.
Im 15/f and a senior in my school and I are friends. He figured out i was single agian and said stuff like "Oh i'm single too, you looking?" and said he wanted a chance but i assumed he was playing and was like Right right yeah yeah, of course u like me! whatever and such. But now i kind of like him more! I don't know if he was actually joking or not! He gave me his cell # but im to bashful to call it! do you think he was joking?
School starts tomorrow but i doubt i'll have classes with him, should i wait n see if he talks to me in hallways??? help???
girl you know what don't wait for him to TALK to you in the hallway since you know you like him you talk to him. Don't wait. He gave you his cellphone #. Call. Start a conversation.
Ok So I Met This Amazing Guy And I Actually Dumped My Ex Because Of Him (not for... i knew it was over long before he just helped ease it along)... But The Problem Is He Has Become One Of My Best Friends And Him, Me And Our Friend Marty Have Become Inseperable... I Know He Likes Me As Much As I Like Him (he has told me and marty both) But He Told Marty The Only Reason He Hasnt Asked Me Out Is Because Of How Tight We All Are And He Dosent Want To Mess That Up... But He Still Tells Me He Likes Me and Does All The Little Things Like Scoring Points With My Family And My Other Friends... But Im Not Sure If He Will Ever Ask Me Out... I Guess The Question Is... Should I Keep Liking Him And Keep Hoping... Or Give Up And Just Be His Friend??
Thanx
You know what you should you should look for somebody else. and you know what this can help you because it will show your true feelings to yourself. But if you really like him than I think you should ask him out. Tell him don't worry, after our break up we can still be friends. If you guys are as close as you say you are than there will be no problem either way. Tell me how it turns out. CATHY
ook...I am 13 and i've never had a b/f...And i know this boy that likess me... i met him last year we were in alot of classes together...And we always flirted with each other but he would never go out with me and i wouldn't go out with him last year either... But we are going into a differt school. I really want to go out with but im scared to ask him b/c hes like getto and his g/f is one of my friends...Idk what should i do???
Girl you crazy he is going out with your friend. Do you think its fair for her. You had a chance which means you can get another but you have to wait for that chance to happen.
okay i want to get my belly button pierced. and i hear it hurts so bad! like really bad. and i was just wondering if thats like really true and if someone could like give me hints on to make it not hurt like breathing techniques or something to make it hurt less.
Listen if you don't want it to hurt just don't think about it. But be careful cause you can get infected. Put warm water everyday so it won't get infected.
Whenever I eat a large amount of dairy products of any kind, particularly milk, I get this awful painful feeling internally right below my back...and then I get diarrhea. Could I be lactose intolerant?
Yes because if you get that much pain it's gotta mean your lactose intolerant. You should drink lactaid.
Hi, I was wondering what the buddhist bible was called... I've searched on Google but it doesn't come up... please help me I really want to read it!
Well, maybe you spelled it wrong. If that isn't the problem than try again find in either a book store or the library.