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Ok, so I have this friend, we'll call him Nick. I've liked Nick for five years (yes, 5 years) and I think I'm really starting to like him beyond the high school standards...like I might actually be falling in love. But see, the problem is, he's my best friend. I mean, he's my ABSOLUTE BEST friend. We talk 24/7 and share everything with eachother. The other problem is, he has a girlfriend (we'll call her Meredith), who he likes more than anything in the world, and who also happens to be one of my best girl friends. Yeah, I know, big problem. The other other problem is, his girlfriend doesn't like him nearly as much. I mean, he puts sooooooo much effort into their relationship, and she sits around and does absolutely nothing, doesn't try at all. That's making him frustrated, and is causing him to like someone else, who also happens to be a best girl friend (we'll call her Annie). My luck stinks, but anyway...he says the only reason he likes Annie is because she's exactly like Meredith, only more serious when it comes to relationships. She's everything he wants Meredith to be. Annie has a boyfriend, who just happnes to be one of Nick's best guy friends...now that I type this out, I realize it's like a giant web of confusion, lol. So anyway, I have no earthly idea what to do. I know I can't tell Nick how I feel, it would freak him out...but then again, I don't think I can handle him g/o with yet ANOTHER best friend. Everytime he talks about Meredith or Annie, it drives a knife deeper and deeper into my heart. Eventually, I won't be able to handle it anymore, and that day is approching faster than it should be. I'm so lost. Someone please help me.
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if you don't mind me asking...what's your name cuz one of my good friends has the same prob and her best bud's name is Nick. just wondering
modelkate11 (Katelyn)
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i know a boy named nick. HEY I KNOW A GIRL NAMED MEREDITH TOO!!! hehe that sucks for you.
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It sounds like you and Nick trust each other and are good friends. Ask him: hey have you noticed how you like my best friends but they like your best friends [or whatever the case may be]. You don't want to tell him, but wether you like it or not will have to tell him eventually. Talk to Annie and see if she really does like her boyfriend - don't try to find out in the wrong way, making you seem suspicious. Use your own observations to see if things will last long with Annie and Nick's best friend. Since Annie is a friend of yours, and Nick seems to like her, ask Nick what it is he likes about her. Then try and find out if you have that, or even something better. I wouldn't suggest the 'ol "get a boyfriend to make him jealous and like me" routine - it might make things worse. As much as it might hurt, I do suggest that you stick by Nick for whenever he may need you. I don't see why telling Nick that you like him as more than just a friend would freak him out. If you are honest about it, and don't make it seem like a big deal, like: we've been friends for so long and im beginning to think I like you as more than just a friend, but still respect you and won't push for a relationship and totally ok with whoever you go out with or like. If you say it to him that way, then you are simply letting him know without making it seem like you are asking for a relationship or saying that you don't want him going out with your best friends. You said you did not want him going out with them, but telling him you like him and that at the same time might be a little too much - take one step at a time. See how he reacts to that, don't expect the worst either because he is your best friend and would understand. Don't push for a relationship, have him be the one to come to you and tell you he likes you too. It might take some time, but with honesty, trust, and some patience you might find that your luck doesn't stink as much as you thought. So yes, you should tell Nick how you feel about everything, but take it one step at a time, because he might jump to the wrong conclusions if you tell him everything at once [I'm sure you would want him to tell you if he liked too]. As for him talking about your best friends...try to be there and listen. Don't take it personal or let any of it get to you, but be there for him because everybody needs somebody to talk to about their relationship [you'll be doing him the favor of being more of a friend for him]. I hope that helps and good luck.
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Look if this i hurting you so bad then you have to tell him. You don't know if he'll freak out or not. If he does than he is no good for you. Trust me I know what I'm sayn' Write to me to tell me what happens. Cathy
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