hey everyone! i'm from france. i'm in high school. i'm alright at giving advice so if you ever need any help i'll do the best i can! i'll check this pretty often so that i can be the best advice giver i can get, peace and love
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I'm 15/f in highschool and I know this girl who is pregnant. This isn't about wether its right or wrong, but, she's 15 also, and in my grade. I've known her since 4th grade(just about). She just found out she was pregnant, and I'm on good terms with her and everything, but were not best friends. Y'know? I was thinking I should go up to her and tell her that if she needs anything, I'd be there for her. Should I? Would it be inappropiate? -Sarah (link)
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hey. go up and tell her, if she ever needs someone, its now more than ever, she'll apreciate you caring for her. peace and love.
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please help me. im 14 and when i was 9 my mum left me and i was left with my dad but my dad blaimed me and he started hitting me and then he has been taken to court but he wont get sent to prison because i cant give evidence because i cut myself and im 'suicidal' so they say im mentally unstable what shall i do i want to die and im scared. (link)
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hey, i know that you have probably heard this lke a hundred times by now, but you have to stop cutting yourself, it doesnt do you any good, believe me, it doesnt. you might think that it does, but it really doesnt. dont kill yourself, because that wont help either. dont run away from your fears. talk to someone about this, a close friend/relative, someone you can trust. yuo have to tell on your dad again, its not your fault that your mom left, your dad just cant keep abusing you like this. tell someone about this, call for help, its the best way to go. talk to me if you need more help, i'll be glad to answer your questions, peace and love
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I was cleaning out my closet that I havn't cleaned for like a year and a half and I found the $125 gold necklace that my ex-boyfriend gave me last year. I remember throwing it in the closet when i broke up with him-----but now I found it. I don't have any jewelery that fine and I was thinking about wearing the necklace. Who's gonna know? My ex lives in N.Y.C. anyway and i'm like 2 hours north of the city, so I wont see him. Do you think its ok to wear it??? (link)
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hey! ofcourse its ok to wear it. people will most likely not notice who it is from anyways. and if they do, then dont feel ashamed, just tell them straight up. its your necklace, do anything you want with it, who cares what the others think! peace and love.
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you already answered one of my questions but i wanted to talk to you again...what is bothering me so much is i dont understand if he was just using me or not..cause like i said it always seemed like i liked him more than he did me..he never really opened up and showed me his emotions or told me how he felt..like i always told him how much i loved him and all that stuff..and we really did care for each other..like he would ALWAYS talk about "when we get married were gonna do this.."..and a week before he broke up with me i told him that if he didnt change i was going to leave him cause i wasnt getting treated right..well we talked on the phone and he practically begged me to stay..well a week later or so he broke up with me but he still acts like he likes me..i already told you what happened..well i think that he knew that however bad he treated me i would always come back to him..so he got things he didnt deserve all the time if you get what i mean...do you think that he really did like me and he knew that i always gave in to easily so he felt like he was using me and the reason why he broke up with me is cause he didnt feel right about doing that? or what..im confused (link)
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hey. i dont think that he used you, or if he did, maybe just a little. you seem to have been very attached to him and showing him what you feel a lot. maybe he didnt know how to do it back. some guys dont know how to show a lot of emotions, they keep it all inside, maybe thats what he did. but the fact he sometimes got more than he deserves because you easily came back to him could lead you to thinking that he did use you. i cant say if he did or not because different guys act different ways. but, if he still shows feelings for you, then maybe he just didnt know how to open up, but be careful, because guys can mess you up if you give them too much of your love. i am not trying to tell you what to think, but there are arguments that could mean that he did, and there are arguments that could mean that he didnt. for example, you coming back to him easily would make it very easy for him to use you. but that he begged you not to leave him and him talking about when you guys get married and that he still seems to like you could show that he just didnt know how to express his feelings towards you. what i would do, is not go to him again, even if you still like him. if he really does still like you, he should come back to you. so if he attempts to talk or flirt with you, show him than he can do that, answer back to his attempts. however, do not make it too easy for him to do. what i'm trying to say is that maybe you need to play hard to get a little, just to see if he really does care about you, do you get what i mean? dont worry, if he really does care, he'll come back, no matter how hard it is to get you (dont make it too hard for him though). and if he doesnt come back, then he either did use you, he lost interest/found someone else, or something like that. but dont lose hope, if he still flirts with you, then maybe he just needs to get some things straight. if you guys do go out again, dont come back to him so easily, but still open up. tell him how you feel about this whole thing, maybe that will help. well, i hope i helped more than last time, if you have any more questions, feel free to write back! peace and love
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im a 15/f see its like this all of my friends are all really fast i mean to tell the truth i kind of am fast too but i mean i havent lost my virginity yet but most of them have so yeah i dont know what to do like they kind of like leave me out of conversations and stuff and i think that i am ready to do it but i dont know what age you should be?? (link)
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hey. i dont really think that there is a time for age. but i think that you should be in love to have it, it may sound really cheesy, but thats what i think. in my opinion, 15 is too young to have sex, but it all depends on the guy that you're seeing and on how you feel about doing it. just be careful, cause it may bring something that might regret later on. if your friends leave you out of conversations, how good of friends are they? dont feel pressured to have sex just to fit in or not be left out when your friends talk about it. thats not what sex is about. hope this helped, peace and love
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well me and my boyfriend have been together 9 months now and everything is great i guess we hang out alot and everything and the first 4 months of our relationship we just talked on the phone alot and hung out a little now we hang out more and were talking on the phoen the same but its kinda like everytime we get on the phone we sit and listen to eachother breath!!! he complains about it alot but i just cant think of anything to talk to him about! i mean i love him alot and i dont want things to end but is this soposto be telling me somthing? do you have anything to tell me? talk topics? anything? (link)
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hey. maybe the phone is just not the greatest way for you guys to communicate, maybe its intimidating you guys, so then you just run out of things to say. maybe you guys should talk about good times you had with your friends, about how your day went, about stuff that you guys havent covered yet. sports, music, theres a lot to say there. ask him his opinion about random stuff, open up to him and say what you feel. he will too. just talk about childhood memories, or any broken bones, or funny or embarassing stuff that has ever happened you and ask him if he has any. once you do that, stuff will start to come and you wont have to think about what tos ay anymore. you'll just find something. peace and love!
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me and my ex went out for almost 9 months...he asked me out at the end of the school year and all summer long we never even saw each other..all we did was talk on the phone and he was always out with his friends partying and stuff and then school came and yeah things were great but it always seemed like i loved him more or i wanted to talk on the phone with him more than he wanted to talk to me...and like sometimes at school he would say we are definately hanging out this weekend..well the weekend would come and most of the time he would never call to say he was coming over so he practically ditched me...well i mean he wasnt that shitty but when we were together everything was so perfect and all our problems went away..and then when the 6th month came that we were going out is when we first actually started to do things with each other and have sex..and we argued over the stupidest stuff all the time and we would get over it..like it was an every day thing.. we would argue but we would talk about it and everything would be okay..and then all semester i was at home because i was grounded and i couldnt go anywhere but my parents let him come stay the night with me and stuff..yeah he did come over and hang out but it seemed like he liked his friends more than me..well he broke up with me 2 days after my birthday because he didnt want a girlfriend where we had sex everything would be okay and then we would fight again...he told me i could still share his locker with him and he still talks to me and flirts with me and i really like him and want to be with him again..and ill ask him if i get another chance but he always avoids that subject..but i know he still likes me because we talked on the phone one night and he was crying cause he missed me..and he wouldnt still be talking to me if he didnt like me, right? well what i wanna know is if you think he was just using me..cause i have to admit that he didnt give me the attention that i needed so i did throw myself at him and made myself to available..like no matter how shitty he treated me i would always come back to him...do you think he wants to get back together or what? im so confused cause for one i think he broke up with me for another reason and hes just not telling me..or sometimes i think he was just using me...he broke up with me for the stupidest reason..but he still acts like he likes me? i dont understand (link)
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hey! i have a friend, and she was going out with this guy, and she had the same problem as you. she always felt like she liked him more than he did. and when she actually was with him, which wasnt very often, because like you, he "didnt have time for her". but when she was with him, she always gave him everything she had. and he never showed that much passion for her in return. he ended breaking up with her after almost a year of going out with her. she was really sad, but then she thought back over it and saw that she was never that happy with him. she as only happy when he was with her, which he almost never was. he was never there for her when she needed him. she learned from this that if a guy doesnt pay attention to you, hes not worth it. so, what i'm trying to say is that, if he never payed that much attention, hes not worth it. you deserve a guy who cares about you. if he realizes now that he misses you, i mean, isnt it too late? you guys when out for almost 9 months, couldnt he realize then that you liked him a lot and that you were always there for him? i wouldnt try anything with him, cause if you guys would get back together, what makes you think that he would be any different? i know that it is hard to accept, but maybe hes just not good as a bf. hope this helped, leave me a message if you want to talk more about it. peace and love
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i have had the worsest day EVER my boy friend that got me preg(im about 9months)....was cheating on me and it was liek one of my bestest friends....and today is the day my dad died....and my mom is really mad at me..i dont no why tho...and when i found out that my b.f was cheating on me i told him that its over i have better things to do instead of crying and he hit me in my stomach...i dont no if my babies o0k im going to the doctors 2marow to check and my my ex said that he dont wnat to be the father of my child and that umm he dont wnat to marry me no more...i didnt want to marry that loser anways but umm....now this guy friend i met hes my brothers friend and he has liek me for a LONG TIME and i tihnk hes only 21 and i am 19 adn he has been helping me out alot now i mean he got me a car (hes rich to cause he is rich cause his parents are dead and hes an only child and they left everything to them and his dad was a Arectect nad his my was a phycologist how every you spell them and i liek him alot and stuff but he has a g.f and she is realyl sweet and i dont no if she nows that her b.f helps me out.... and he bout me alot of stuff for me and my child....and i want to go out with him and i want him to be my baby's daddi not some loser and i dont wnat to have this baby no more...but i kinda do cause i always wanted to be a mother.....and i dont no what to do help me please...
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heyy. well, its sad about your ex. hopefully your brothers friend will realize that you like him. maybe tell him? but the thing is that you dont want to have his gf mad at you. but if he likes you, then that may be why he helps you a lot with your baby. i mean, if he is this sweet to you, then he is either a very generous good friend of yours, or he likes (and is still generous). i say that you let him know how you feel, you'll regret it if you dont. good luck with your baby, i'm sure that everything is going to be great! peace and love.
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Ok there is this guy we have been friends now for like 2 months well the other day he asked me out and i said yes but like now i dont want to be with him i have no interest he annooys the crap out of me and i think im falling for his best friend and he is obssesed with making out with me and im not like that but like i dont know what to tell him please help me!!! (link)
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hey! be honest with him and with yourself. if you dont like him that much, then you shouldnt be going out with him cause you're leading him on. if you want to give it another shot, then just talk to him about the things that annoy you and the making out thing. if hes the right guy for you he'll understand, otherwise, hes not worht it. about his best friend, figure out if you do like him, and if you do, then figure out if you like him more than your bf. if you do, then go for him. hope this helped, peace and love!
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Hi! I'm Matt and I live in chicago! I just went to the movies with a few friends and I saw this girl who I used to have been MAJORLY crushin on her. Well, she was getting me super jealous by talking bout her friends and how cool THEY were and how hot THEY were! Not girl/friends but guys! That I knew! She seems to also be ignoring me kind of. Well, we dont go to the same schools and were about the same age. How can I get her to notice me and like me? By the way I think shes soo beautiful, funny, and when she talks to me nice. (link)
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hey! well, girls like guys to do some things such as:
- compliment them
- flirt with them if they do it back only
- talk nicely to them
- be nice and sweet and funny and all that stuff
- not get jealous (it might be a test or something like that)
- not show off
if you follow this, then you should be pretty well off, hope i helped, peace and love!
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um hey one of my friends is having a party at this place where our friends go for dances. i love going there, but (the dances are held twice a month) i have no beat and no rythem and usually i dont dance because im afraid people will laugh at my poor skills. i also dont know what to wear. im pretty much broke and my mom is pretty srict about what i wear. if anyone could help me. that would be great! thanx! (link)
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hey! people dont usually make fun of others because of the way they dance. i say that you should go, otherwise you might regret not going. just try to do simple moves and follow the others. i cant dance either, and i went to the dances at my school and no one made fun of me, or at least not to my face. just move to the music and let yourself flow. for the clothes. you could wear layers, thats "in" right now, and it covers up, so i guess your mom would be let you wear that. otherwise you could wear jeans with a cute shirt. if you're the skirt type, then where that with a cute sweater. that always looks great and fashionable. you could also wear a nice scarf around your neck which would make the outfit "complete". well hope this helped, have fun! peace and love!
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Is it possible to change certain characteristics that you don't like about yourself? Recently there have been things that I've done that I normally wouldn't do that have made me and my bf get into fights. They're little fights, and we always end up resolving them, but in the end I feel like a complete idiot for making such a big deal out of certain things. I want to change the way I react to things, and the way I think about certain things. Do you think that's possible?? Any suggestions? (link)
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hey! anything is possible as long as you believe that you can do it. since you seem to be having trouble controlling the way you react to things, try to always think about what you are going to do. this may sound lame, but i think it would work. if you think about it, then you'll realize that it is no big deal and then you wont get in a fight about it. you'll probably wont be able to change it everytime, cause it will be very hard in the beginning. but you may be able to do it if you concentrate on what you are saying and the way you react. we all react too much at some point, but its true that people who react too much tend to get a little bit annoying sometimes. well, i'm sure that you'll be able to do it if you really want to. if you need my help Im me or just leave me a message. peace and love!
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I am a fourten year old female.
How many times a week is it healthy to mastrubate? If you do it everyday, is it unhealthy then?
Thanks for listening
XxLostxAndxConfusedxX (link)
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hey! it doesnt really matter how many times you masterbate, it doesnt really affect you. hope i helped, peace and love!
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i have this friend...who i used to be bestestest friends with. but we got into a really big fight and now shes better friends with another friend. they always do stuff together, and she can talk to her more, and i dont know..i guess im sorta jealous..but MAD. what should i do? (link)
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hey ok, i have been in a somewhat similar situation. well, you should talk to your friend about it and maybe see if shes actually closer to that other friend or if you're just thinking that. maybe that friend cannot open up to you online or on the phone. try to make plans with her, open up to her, and see if she does it back. if she does, shes just too shy to open up first, if she doesnt, then maybe she doesnt feel confortable talking about that perticular thing. i dont think that you should be mad, jealous i would understand, but mad i wouldnt. but definitely talk to that friend about it ask her what she thinks about it. you guys getting in a fight might have gotten her closer to that other friend, but show her what shes missing by not being with you anymore: the good times you guys had together, you guys being bestestest friends and all, and you guys knowing so much about each other. hope she understands. talk to me more about it if you want to, hope i helped, peace and love!
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Hey well theres this one girl who is my bestest friend and shes really nice and pretty but when ever like we go tho the movies together she is always like huggin on her boyfriend and she is alway cancling thing with me to go do something with her boyfrind i hate it we like talk on the phone and stuff but i never get to do anything together cuz she is always doin thing with her boyfriend
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hey! talk to her, if you guys are bestest friends you should be able to talk about anything. i guess this is just one of those hard times to go through, but maybe she doesnt realize that shes doing that. sometimes when people start dating, then cant organize their schedule so that they're not with their boyfriend more than with their friends or vice versa. so definitely talk to her about it. if hse understands and does something about it, then you'll know she really is a true friend, if not maybe you expected too much of her? or maybe she thinks that you're jealous of her because she has a boyfriend. so when you talk to her, make sure that you're not telling her to stop hanging with her bf, just to have some time for you too. hope this helped, peace and love!
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My b-day party is coming up and i just switched skewls now i'm in a public skewl. Now the kids at my old skewl r more care free and like wut they like. The kids at my new skewl care about wut other people think accept some (key word some) of my friends. I'm a mix of both wen i'm with certain friends i'm care free, but with my other friends i'm not.I'm not having a theme party (thats just wrong for a kid my age altho i'm only 13) but i dont kno wut i should say or do. Please help me! (link)
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hey! i'm not trying to make you choose between one group of friends over the other, but i am guna tell you this: i have tried to mix different groups of friends before and it has never worked. people just end up feeling uncomfortable with each other. or atleast thats waht happened to me. just try to figure out which friends you like better i guess. but if you think it would work mixed, then you can try it, but be prepared for some akwardness, atleast at first. hope this helped, peace and love!
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do guys like it if girls ask them to dance or go out w/ them...ive always wondered. or does the guy have to do it all? (link)
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hey! although i'm not a guy, i'll try to answer your question. some guys like it when girls have enough guts to ask out a guy ro ask him to dance and some dont. i recently talked to one of my guy friends about it and he said that its nice when girls do that because some guys are shy and just dont feel comfortable doing it, or they just like girls who take the initiative to do it. i guess it also depends on what kind of guy you are looking for. if you're looking for a gentleman, the let him ask you, but you can show him that you like him. but if you're looking for a guy who doesnt really care about that kind of stuff, then go ahead. hope this helped, peace and love!
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i am 5 feet tall exactly. i weigh 135 pounds. is this overweight? (link)
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hey! its not overweight. if you feel comfortable in your body then dont worry about it, otherwise try exercising and watching what you eat. pounds dont mean anything, its just how you feel about yourself that counts. hope i helped, peace and love!
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the drugs in question are legal, OTC drugs, but my boyfriend is completely over-reacting on the matter. they are harmless but he has some kind of paranoia about them. what should i tell him to ease his fears so i can expand my mind? (link)
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hey! maybe he's right by not wanting you to do drugs. even though they are harmless, that does not mean that you should take it. hes just trying to protect you from them. maybe talk to him about it and see how it goes, and if he still doesnt want you to do them, just tell yourself that hes thinking about whats best for you. hope i helped, peace and love!
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Ok i guess this isnt really a definite true answer to this question but rather ur opinion. What is True LOVE? (link)
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hey! true love might be something different for everyone. for me it means that one cannot live without the other. both people are made for each other and they get along like best friends, but even closer sometimes. one doesnt judge the other, and vice versa. and i guess its like you never get bored of the other person and know that you never will and that nothing could come between them two. thats what i think. peace and love!
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