my middle name is laverne I hate my middle name becouse everybody picks on me about it somehow people found out what it was at school and started making fun of me about it,my mom tells me that my middle name was my dad's middle name that's the only good thing about it.what should I do?
Your classmates are picking on you because they've found something that gets a rise out of you. They'll keep picking and picking because they enjoy the reaction you give them.
I could tell you to ignore them, or to give back as good as you get. But I think there's a better way.
You say you hate your middle name because your classmates pick on you about it. If someone asked them, they would probably say that they pick on you *because* you hate your middle name.
Its what's called a vicious circle.
The solution is to break the circle.
You can't change what *they* do, but you can change what *you* do.
Learn to love your name.
Laverne means "Springtime", a time when pretty flowers are blooming and birds are singing after a long, cold winter.
It's a lovely name with a long history, and yes it's appropriate for both boys and girls.
Once you learn to like the name that your parents lovingly gave to you, your classmates' taunts won't bother you nearly so much.
Best wishes.
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Hey,
whenever I shave my legs I get cuts on my knees because I am really skinny and have kinda knobbly knees. My knees are really rough and bumpy with or without moisturizer and I cant get to the bottom of the hair when shaving without cutting myself.
Is there a technique or product I can use to get supersoft hair-free knees?
ty luv Rachel x
I don't shave my legs, but I used to massacre my face with a razor.
Then I discovered the joy of an electric shaver and my face has been happy ever since.
You have to use them more often since they don't go below the skin.
Also you have to keep them clean- your best bet is to get one of the self cleaning models.
Here's a site with some good reviews of ladies electric shavers:
http://www.consumersearch.com/www/family/womens_electric_shavers/index.html
Best wishes!
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okay well, im 14 years old and my bf does foreplay, where he sucks my breasts. and i was reading a magazine somewhere and it said that one time a girl did the same thing, and she started producing milk because her body thought something needed it, because her boyfriend was sucking it. im so scared im going to start producing milk, please help!
Well, my first answer was "Heck No!". But I decided to look it up because I certainly don't know everything about everything.
Much to my surprise, I found this section in the Wikipedia article about breastfeeding:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breastfeeding#Lactation_without_pregnancy
From what I can tell from that article, though, it would take a LOT of suckling to get your breasts to start lactating; something like several times a day, every day, for weeks.
If I were you, I wouldn't worry about it. I doubt you'll ever get them suckled enough.
However, be careful about that boyfriend of yours. Keep going the way you're going and you will be making milk... for his baby.
Best Wishes!
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the other week my boyfriend went all quiet for the day. i didnt think anything of it. then a couple of days later he told me that he was quiet because he was wondering if i was the right one for him. but then he said that he knows now that i am.
but today he went quiet again. i asked him what was up and he said 'nothing im just thinking.'
and so i said 'im scared now'... and he goes 'so am i'...
so obviously its scared the living day lights out of me. i love him 2 pieces and dont want to loose him.
i said to him ' i love you' and he usually says back. ' i love you too' but this time he said. ' i know you do'.....
just before he left he said 'dont worry.' cus he cud tell i wasnt right. and i said 'really' and he said yes. a few minuites later i told him that i was still well paranoid. and he said you should be.... but in a niceish way not as if he was trying 2 frighten me...
he still kept kissing me and hugging me and still said that he is coming over tomorrow. but i still feel really paranoid.
please say that is all it is i really dont want to loose him. he is the first person i have ever loved and i cant loose him. it would kill me.
please any help would be brilliant.
thank you.
Tread carefully here.
Your fear of losing him may make you try to *make* him love you. That won't work and may actually drive him away.
You can't make someone love you, it has to come from within themselves in response to the real you.
There's a saying that goes, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was."
The proper course should be to tell him that you love him and that you hope he loves you too, but that you'll respect whatever decision he might make and you'll always remain his friend even if his love for you should fade.
If you're strong like that, it may very well re-affirm his love for you.
But if it doesn't, don't try to make him stay by threats of your misery or otherwise. You want him to stay out of love, not out of guilt.
You have my best wishes, because there are no easy answers for this kind of thing.
Hopefully its simply a case of moodiness that all us males experience at times. If you give him his space, it should all work out.
Be strong.
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ooow I have molars growing in behind like, my 3rd molar I think? well they're growing in on both sides on the bottom and they hurt really bad. i thought they were wisdom teeth but my friend said those dont grow in until you're like, 20.(i'm 13)theres like, a flap of gums that i can lift up with my tounge and it hurts. soo first of all, what teeth are these, and is it supposed to hurt bad?
Wisdom teeth are your third molars, and there's no reason that you can't get them at 13.
However, whether they're your wisdom teeth or not is irrelevant. If they hurt, you should see your dentist.
It's very likely you could get an emergency appointment with him or her because of the very real possibility of permanent damage to your teeth.
The teeth you have now have to last you your whole life, take good care of them and have your parents call your dentist ASAP!
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i juss got verizon & im "in" & so is my bf. soo does that mean i can call him & text him (i have a texting plan) & it wont use any of my minutes?? can anyone explain the "in" feature?? lets say i had 700 mins & called him only & talked to him for 1000 minutes. on my bill, id still have 700 mins?? this works for text too??
thanks!
You should be able to call each other without using up any of your plan minutes.
For text messaging, however, you have to buy a separate plan as explained here;
http://getitnow.vzwshop.com/index.aspx?id=INMessaging
However, to make sure, you can dial 611 on your cell phone to call Verizon's customer service (airtime free) and ask them. You should have whomever opened the account for you with you because they'll ask some personal information to verify the account.
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ok, my like best friend, has told me weird things ever since we were in like 5th or 6th grade. Like about God. & she told me yesterday, that god told her to like walk through a closet & she would go to heaven. & she thought she saw a white sparkly light. & then she thought yesterday, late at night, she saw a red lightt. & like she thought shes seen like jesus before & stuff.. so my question is, is she like pyscho? or is she really seeing this stuff? like, it was just weird. & like her mom, takes sleeping pills to fall asleep, her dad is like weird.. he takes pills for everything. he tells her that shes fat, when she probaly only weighs like 90 pounds & shes 13. & like he just puts alot of pressure on his kids..
do you think that has anything to do with it? like she always gets so worked up. & i dont really know what to say to her.
G-d's ways are indeed mysterious to us mortals, but it seems unlikely to me that He would tell a 13 year old girl she could go to Heaven just by walking though a closet.
The symptoms you're describing, seeing things that aren't there and hearing voices that aren't there, sound a lot like the symptoms of Schizophrenia.
Schizophrenia often first manifests during adolescence, the theory being that the changes that are going on in the adolescent brain somehow don't quite go right.
Of course, a diagnosis by a non-doctor from a third party story over the Internet is very suspect. She should be seen by a doctor because there are several possible Physiological as well as Psychological problems that could be giving her these symptoms.
You should talk to your parents about it. Then they can go with you together to talk to her parents.
She needs to get the help she needs before she hears a voice tell her to do something more dangerous than walk through a closet.
Be strong.
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How do you know when you should go out with someone?
I'm afraid you'll likely find that the answers you get to your question are somewhat inadequate.
That's because the short answer is, "When you want to."
You should go out with someone when YOU want to, not because you think its expected of you by your friends or your parents.
When the time comes that you do want to go out with someone, you'll likely be assailed with self-doubts. We are all ambivalent about dating someone- dating takes work! There's also the possibility of heartbreak.
But, when the time comes, don't let your fears hold you back or you'll never get anywhere.
Life is about taking risks. The benefits of finding that special someone far outweigh a few broken hearts... believe me.
Best Wishes.
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I have to cousins and their parents are seperated. Both of their parents are alcoholics. They live with their mother, who treats them unkindly. One of my cousins, Rachel, she's always upset and crying because of my aunt. My other cousin, Matt, he will argue with my aunt unlike rachel but he ends up angry and upset also. They refuse to admit that my aunt has a problem. Rachel and Matt do EVERYTHING! They washes the dishes, does the laundry, cooks every meal, cleans the windows, vacuums, dusts, and many other things while my aunt, she just sits there drunk, while screaming at them and making fun of them! Rachel is too scared to argue with my aunt about doing these things. Matt argues every now and then but not a lot. He also has always been very pale and thin because he is so upset all the time. They won't talk to anyone about this. They are scared of their own mother! I don't know what I can say to them to help them through this. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do or say?
It may be that they're afraid to say anything because they're scared they'll end up with their father, whom you also describe as an alcoholic. They're also likely scared of what may happen to their mother, who is still their mother despite everything.
You didn't mention their ages, but this does seem like a clear case of neglect and abuse. You should make the situation known to an adult like a teacher. They could then call your state's Children Protective Services unit to investigate.
This doesn't automatically mean that they'll be taken away and put into foster care or something like that, but you aunt may be ordered to get treatment for her alcoholism and to take parenting classes.
Good luck and be strong. I know you can do the right thing for your cousins.
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is there a way to get your boobs bigger yet keep your stomach flat?
Chest exercises, like the previous columnist said, can increase the size of your chest muscles and push your breasts look bigger.
Besides that, or surgery, there's not much you can do that won't affect your stomach too.
As you get older, you breasts should fill in a bit.
But let me point out something. You shouldn't obsess about your bust size so much.
Not all guys are attracted to girls with large breasts. There are many guys (myself for example) who prefer more petite ladies to the Dolly Parton types.
Focus on dressing nicely and cultivating a good attitude and you'll attract the guys just fine.
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i asked for some advice earlier about my partner who is insecure about our relationship and i got an horrible answer off a women saying no wonder my partner is ashamed of the relationship and that cousins should not be together. should i end it or not i feel terrible?
There's nothing whatsoever wrong with having a relationship with your cousin. In the Western World, the United States is the only country that has any restrictions on first cousins getting married and even here a majority of the states (26) do allow first cousin marriage.
Despite some people's belief's to the contrary, there is NO biblical prohibition to marrying a first cousin- In fact in my strictly religious family my maternal grandparents and great-grandparents were both first cousins! I don't think a Rabbi would've married them if it was prohibited.
The risk of genetic defects in children of first cousins is increased by a very slight amount over that of the general population, genetic testing and counseling is available if you seek it. Actually, ladies who wait until their late 30's and 40's are at higher risk for babies with birth defects than first cousin couples.
And it's not even that unusual even here in the United States, about 1 couple in 1000 are first cousins. In Japan, that ratio is 4 in 1000.
To wrap things up, you have no reason to feel terrible over the misinformed and ignorant rantings of a intolerant person.
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my knee hurts. its the left side of my right knee. and like i would be sitting and not move it for a long time then, move it like straight and it will cramp up and feel like i pullled a muscle. but it doesnt hurt when i walk but cracks a lot. also like if you look at it, it doesnt look like anythings wrong with it, but like on the left side of my knee it hurts. its been like this for like a month
anything would be gratly appreciated
It's most likely due to stress on your knee from your daily activities. Do you bicycle a lot or participate in athletics? You might want to think about adjusting your technique to put less stress on your knees.
However, a certain amount of joint discomfort is pretty much inevitable for an active person. When my own knees and ankles get too uncomfortable, I use some Ibuprofen or sometimes an icy/hot patch to soothe the discomfort.
If these tips don't help you out, and/or the pain gets worse or spreads, you should consider seeing a doctor- specifically an orthopedic specialist. You'd probably need a referral from your regular doctor to go to one. The doctor may prescribe that you do something as simple as wearing a lace-up brace or an orthopedic support in your shoe.
Good luck, and I hope that you feel better soon!
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My friend is mad at me. We are both thirteen. And we are both girls. She has been calling me names. I keep telling her that she's acting like a five-year-old. And every time I email her she keeps saying I'm acting dumb and weird... and up until now she's stopped talking to me. What should I do?
Apologize.
Even if you don't think you did anything wrong, apologize.
I've found that saying something like, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings.", can really smooth a lot of things over.
Once you've told her that you're sorry for what happened, the onus is on her to rebuild your relationship. If she chooses not to, then you can go away knowing that you did the best you could and the right thing.
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OK I was wondering why New York is called The Big Apple. What does it mean & why does it mean that.
Thanks!
The Wikipedia has a nice article on this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Apple
Basically, they're not really sure. One prevailing theory is that it refers to a section of Manhattan where there were a lot of Jazz clubs that the Jazz players called "The Apple". That if a Jazz player got to be really successful, he got to play in the big apple.
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(14/f) I have three really close friends. One of them does not know the other two because i went to Elementary school with her, but Middle School with the other two. I am having my birthday party this Saturday and I just want a small party with my three good friends, but because they don't know eachother it might be awkward.
I want to go to a Fondue Restarant and then maybe a movie or come back to my house and swim. Do you think any of this will be awkward or wierd? My elementary friend is really different from my Middle school friends but I would really like for them to at least get along.
You should invite all three of your best friends to celebrate your birthday with you.
I'm betting they'll get along just fine. They all have at least one thing in common with each other... they're all friends with YOU! I should think that they have many other things in common as well.
So relax and enjoy your special day with you friends.
Happy Birthday!
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I'm in a relationship that's been steady for 2 years and we have a child together. Lately, all I do is just think about my ex (who lives on the same block as me). It's crazy cause my ex and I was dating on and off since I was 14-18. I'm now 21 but I still feel like something was there between us, it just happended too late. I know that he wanted us to be together but his timing was off. I be dreaming about him all the time, even when I spend a night with my man. My ex was really upset when he found out that I had a baby, but sometimes, I be wishing it was his.. I know it's wrong because I love my boyfriend, but you can't really fight feelings....Think I sould ignore them and just 4get about my ex?
My vote is for you to ignore those feelings.
You have a child now and you need to be thinking about what's best for him or her.
Children fare best, on average, if they're raised in a stable household with a father and a mother.
You're not just living your life for yourself anymore. Your baby is completely dependent on you and the decisions that you make can have lifelong impacts on him or her.
If the baby's father is abusive or dangerous in some other way, then you have a good reason for leaving him for another man. However, you didn't say anything about that, only about vague greener pastures yearnings on your part for the other guy.
I think you should work on improving your relationship with your baby's father, perhaps you should consider marriage?
I also think that you should do something to keep yourself occupied and increase your self esteem. Engage in volunteer activities for your church or other civic organizations. Or perhaps you could go back to school and earn a degree in something or other.
All of these things would help you to take better care of your child, which is really the most important job you have now.
Good luck!
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Sorry I didn't know what catergory to put this under but anyway.
I have bought a new magnetic sheet for my bed, it has pretty big magnets in it but I was wondering that if I was to lay on my bed with my phone and text people, will it ruin my phone with the radiation and stuff?
I know it wrecked my pop's watch battery because he has a magnetic sheet on his bed too but I was just wondering if it will happen with my phone as well?
Thanks :)
You should avoid putting your phone near any large magnets. The most likely part of the phone to be damaged is it's display, but magnetic fields could also damage its memory and programing.
I can't imagine why anyone would buy magnetic sheets unless they wanted to hang them on the refrigerator! And I imagine they must get into a real tangle in the washing machine and the dryer too!
The supposed health benefits of magnet therapy are bogus- unless you have a pacemaker that they can screw up, that is. Engineers & Physicists regularly work in and around magnetic fields thousands of times as strong as any you can get from a regular magnet. They have no documented health effects, even though OSHA and others have been watching for any for many years.
My advice: Leave the magnets on the refrigerator and feel confident about laying in bed and using your phone.
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what is oral sex?
There's an old joke that says that oral sex is when you shout, "F-ck You!" at each other... :-)
In reality oral sex is the process of using your mouth and lips to sexually stimulate the genitalia of your partner.
Performed on a man, it's called fellatio.
Performed on a woman, it's called cunnilingus.
While pregnancy is unlikely to result from oral sex, there is still a real risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases.
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does anybody know what love is? i have my own ideas about it, but i want to hear everyone
elses oppinion. So give me your definition of love, because i want to put them all together and come up with one definition!
thanks so much :)
I like Robert A Heinlein's definition the best: "Love" is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.
Robert A. Heinlein
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Who determines what is polite and what isn't? How does everyone begin to acknowledge these "rules"?
To answer this properly would take a whole semester's course in Sociology!
No person in particular chooses the rules of politeness that we follow, they are a consensus decision reached by all of us as a culture.
The rules do change as time goes on, and the rule are different for different groups and cultures.
However, what they mostly have in common is the sense that you're considering another person's feelings and not acting like the world revolves around yourself.
Saying "Please" and "Thank you" acknowledges that you're speaking to a real person, and not just a robotic slave there to fulfill your needs and wants.
Ignoring someone or interrupting them is the same as telling them that what they have to say isn't important to you.
For a more in depth discussion on how people arrive at a consensus for these rules we follow, you might want to start with a good Sociology text.
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