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They're too scared to say what they really feel
I have to cousins and their parents are seperated. Both of their parents are alcoholics. They live with their mother, who treats them unkindly. One of my cousins, Rachel, she's always upset and crying because of my aunt. My other cousin, Matt, he will argue with my aunt unlike rachel but he ends up angry and upset also. They refuse to admit that my aunt has a problem. Rachel and Matt do EVERYTHING! They washes the dishes, does the laundry, cooks every meal, cleans the windows, vacuums, dusts, and many other things while my aunt, she just sits there drunk, while screaming at them and making fun of them! Rachel is too scared to argue with my aunt about doing these things. Matt argues every now and then but not a lot. He also has always been very pale and thin because he is so upset all the time. They won't talk to anyone about this. They are scared of their own mother! I don't know what I can say to them to help them through this. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do or say?
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They're probably don't want to be put into foster care.
Contact Social Services but before you do that, find a better place for them to live. Maybe they could stay with you while their mom gets treated?
It's a delicate situation. You should discuss it with an adult before you make any moves so they can guide you through the process and help you find numbers for your location.
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It may be that they're afraid to say anything because they're scared they'll end up with their father, whom you also describe as an alcoholic. They're also likely scared of what may happen to their mother, who is still their mother despite everything.
You didn't mention their ages, but this does seem like a clear case of neglect and abuse. You should make the situation known to an adult like a teacher. They could then call your state's Children Protective Services unit to investigate.
This doesn't automatically mean that they'll be taken away and put into foster care or something like that, but you aunt may be ordered to get treatment for her alcoholism and to take parenting classes.
Good luck and be strong. I know you can do the right thing for your cousins.
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its sad too say but you really cant do too much... i mean you could probably have a sit down with your cousin one day and tell her how you feel, but if she cant admit her mom is a screw up it probabaly wont do much. also, yelling and arguing with their mom wont make things any better.
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there is alot of this happening all the time most kids find it hard for them to go to child services because they dont want to lose their parents have someone call child services for them and see if your parents wouldnt mind them living with you guys till their mom goes to a rehabilitaion center and until then she cant have them back im sorry this has to happen to your cousins because if you care that much for them means you love them very much i love everyone because no one deserves to grow up with a mother like that
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I think the reason why your cousins refuse to admit to someone that their has a problem is due to the fact that they maybe scared of what could happen to them next. I would like to know if your cousins live with their aunt? Do both the mom and aunt live together? Also, where's the father? Rachel is scared to argue because she thinks that she may get hurt physically and emotionally. If they are that scared, then you should see if they could go and get some counseling. This maybe a very hard task, but must be done. These kids can't live there being afraid of their mother and aunt all the time. It is unhealthy for both of your cousins. Hopefully all works out. If you have any instant messengers, please let me know as well. e-mail me at pcdoc2@gmail.com
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