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my boyfriends my cousin
i asked for some advice earlier about my partner who is insecure about our relationship and i got an horrible answer off a women saying no wonder my partner is ashamed of the relationship and that cousins should not be together. should i end it or not i feel terrible?
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First cousins are the closest blood relatives permitted to marry in England and i believe the same is true of most American states. This is because the chance of genetic abnormalities arising from breeding within families is pretty low there.
In times gone by it was pretty standard practise to keep property in families and so on but nowadays it is more unusual and has aquired some stigma. Legally it's perfectly fine and if you, your boyfriend and your family don't have a problem with it there's really no reason the rest of the world should give a rats ass either. I am told relationships between cousins are often pretty successful as they obviously come from similar backgrounds and have often been brought up with similar values.
Ignore the mean stranger and do what's best for all of you.
** Had to add a quick irrelevent point: I saw you used "an" rather than "a" before a word beginning with "h" and you single handedly restored my faith in the idea there are other people out there who still care about stupid little grammatical rules like that!
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I agree with elipongo.
My grandparents were second cousins but I think that opened my eyes.
These days people are ignorant because the vast majority of the population dictates that it's "wrong".
We have to remember that a while ago, gay marriage was thought of as "wrong" too.
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Ok, if your blood related i think it`s wrong. If your step-cousins & if your not blood related than there is nothing wrong with it. honestly, end it because you will have to face so much with the society. =/
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There's nothing whatsoever wrong with having a relationship with your cousin. In the Western World, the United States is the only country that has any restrictions on first cousins getting married and even here a majority of the states (26) do allow first cousin marriage.
Despite some people's belief's to the contrary, there is NO biblical prohibition to marrying a first cousin- In fact in my strictly religious family my maternal grandparents and great-grandparents were both first cousins! I don't think a Rabbi would've married them if it was prohibited.
The risk of genetic defects in children of first cousins is increased by a very slight amount over that of the general population, genetic testing and counseling is available if you seek it. Actually, ladies who wait until their late 30's and 40's are at higher risk for babies with birth defects than first cousin couples.
And it's not even that unusual even here in the United States, about 1 couple in 1000 are first cousins. In Japan, that ratio is 4 in 1000.
To wrap things up, you have no reason to feel terrible over the misinformed and ignorant rantings of a intolerant person.
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