This is classic first heart break, well minus the parents and financial problems, when your first boyfriend breaks up with you it feels like the whole world is crumbling all around you. You feel like nothing will ever be any better and like you just can't go on, but there is one thing to remember, you don't need a man. Being in a great relationship with a man that you love is amazing, but it doesn't make you who you are. I know you hurt like hell right now, but things can only get better. I think the best thing that you can do about your heartbreak, is to stay away from him truthfully. Being around him is only going to open up some old wounds, and remind you of how things used to be. Also, it may make him realize that he does care about you, not saying he will just saying that there is a chance. Let your girlfriends now how you are feeling and I'm sure that they will take you out for a girls' night to take your mind off of it. Also get a hobby, find something that takes your mind off of the break-up, whether its writing(which can be very helpful is sorting out your emotions) or model cars just something to keep you busy.
As for the parents and money problems, this cannot be easy and although I didn't have a drug addict parent, I am close to someone who did and I know he struggles with it even to this day. The sad thing is that there is nothing that you can do about this, they have to help theirselves. As for the money, this could be the reason your parents relapsed stress paired with addiction can be totally a bad combination. They feel trapped and like they can't support their family, they don't want to feel helpless so they turn to their addiction. I do know what its like to be scared that you won't have enough money to pay the bills, wondering where your next meal is coming from, it is a very scary feeling and has made me uberly paranoid about my own finances, but really until you can work or want to work the only thing you can do is try and help your parents to realize that drugs aren't the answer and that no matter what you will make it through together.
Being a teenager is never easy, but add it these extra issues to being a teen girl and heartache, I can't even imagine how alone and helpless you must feel. Just remember that you control your future, remember that if he doesn't know how amazing and special you are then you deserve better, you can only depend on yourself and you can change how you and your children live.
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Repetition and routine are the 2 most important things to remember when dealing with potty training a new puppy. When they are young, like 6 weeks, they need to go out about every 2 hours, the longer you have him the more familiar you will get with the signs that he gives when he needs to go out. As he gets older he will be able to hold it longer and longer, there will be accidents at first. Don't punish him if you just find it afterwards, if you catch him in the act simply give a firm no and take him to the place where you would like him to relieve himself. When he goes in this place throw a little 'potty party,' filled with lots and lots of affection and celebration and even a treat.
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First of all what do you mean, 'may or may not' have had sex? Do you not remember? Uhm as for the period thing, I think that if you had sex like the day before your period that you would have your period but mix next month. So yes there is a chance that you could be pregnant or get pregnant.
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Maybe just don't think about it, picture it as just another person watching you because really thats kinda what it is. Or think of funny things to relax you before you turn it on, picture you at the beach, calming images will help you to relax and be more yourself once the camera is on. Also the more you do it the more you should get used to the camera being on you.
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Are you talking actual tanning lotions that you use in the tanning bed or self-tanners? If you are talkimg about actual tanning bed lotions then Wal-Mart has a really good one that I use, called Raspberry Creme. It smells really good gets you tan but doesn't turn you orange, another thing that you need to make sure you do is not lay too much once you are tan because that can turn you orange as well, my mother does that sometimes. As for like self-tanners, I really haven't seen any of those that don't turn you orange so sorry can't help you if thats what you are talking about.
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You are not a bad person at all, you cannot help you love just as you can't help who you don't. Your family doesn't know how you feel or how your boyfriend is with you, they are probably just worried about you and because he made a suicide attempt they may fear that he may convince you to do the same with him(unreasonable yes, but parents often panic about small things). I think the best thing for you to do is sit down and talk to your family about how you feel about him, tell them WHY you feel this way about him. Its very difficult when the people around you do not understand your feelings and try to take away the thing that you care about, but in the end you have to do what makes you happy and what is best for you. If you really love him, then I say stay with him, yes you will get lots of crap from your family, but if you really love him they will start to see.
Its great that you found someone that really makes you happy, but keep this in mind you ARE young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Trust me on this, I have been a serious relationship for the past almost 7 years(2 different relationships totaling in 7 years) and I married my husband when I was 18, we have been married for almost 8 months. Now I love my husband more than anyone in this world, and he is always there for me and understands me, but I really missed out on some crucial things in the relationship before this one, I don't regret it. I just think you need to think about all of this, you are 14 years old, you don't need to be tied down right now. Be a kid, go to parties, have a good time, spend time with your friends, because you are going to turn around and its all going to be gone and it will be too late for any of this. You don't have to find 'the One' right now, in fact very few high school sweethears stay together, not saying its impossible but unlikely. Don't limit yourself :) Think about everything and make your own decision.
Now as for your boyfriends suicide attempt and cutting, I know you didn't ask about it but I feel like I must address it, this is very very dangerous and I think that if he isn't/hasn't spoken to a professional that he definatly needs to. It seems like he has some emotions that he needs to get out in the open and sort through, a counselor will be able to help him find a way to sort through them in a healthy way.
Good Luck, I know being a teen sucks, but trust me you'll get through it :)

Absolutely not, to guys you getting wet means that they are doing a good job. The person below me is right, some women would give an arm and a leg to get wet at all, let only without much effort. Enjoy it :)

Maybe your body and mind are trying to tell you something, maybe you aren't ready to take that next step just yet. If it continues you may want to consider talking to a professional, there may be something that is upsetting you that not even you are aware of, but subconsciously its there. A counselor/therapist may be able to help you sort through your feelings so you can take the next step in your relationship. That must be stressful for the both of you, for you not to be really in control of your emotions and not know why you are reacting the way you are.
The best advice that I can give you is to see a professional, but maybe you can do some like meditation to try and just get some control over your breathing, a professional will be better but I don't know your situation and maybe you can't afford one right now or are uncomfortable with it. But therapists/counselors are a great way to go, they are very helpful and cannot tell anyone what the 2 of you speak about.
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I was dual-enrolled in my junior and senior year of high school, through the local community college, although we didnt have to write an essay. I would include something about wanting to be ahead whenever you get into college, I am ahead of a lot of people who go to the same college I do but weren't dual-enrolled. You could also add that you are trying to acclimate yourself to what college is going to be like before you get there.
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Its really hard to say if he really just needs time or he is just saying it, because I don't know him. As for getting him back, the best thing for you to do is just give him the space that he is asking for. Don't crowd him, don't txt him constantly, don't pressure him to hang out with you, make him think that you are that upset about it. Guys hate it when a girl gets all obsessed with them once they break up, they just want their space. There is really nothing that you can to him to make him come back, he either really cares about you and will come back when he realizes what he is missing, or he doesn't. Nothing you do or say can change how he feels, you can't make someone love you.
If he doesn't realize how amazing you are then you deserve better, you are beautiful in your own way and if he doesn't see that then he isn't worht your time of day. Go find someone who really cares about you and wants to be with you.
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Leaving someone you love is never ever easy, not matter how much you realize it is for the best for both of you. The best thing for you to do is to sit down and really think about whats best for the both of you in the long run. Its really hard for me to give you advice on this because I am not sure about the situation and how things are between you and your significant other. But I do know how difficult it can be to leave someone that you care about, I had to do it with my last ex, we were together for 3 years but in the end we were just going in two different directions and it was in the best interest for the both of us to just go our separate ways. Now I am married and going to college fulltime and he is working fulltime, we are both extremely happy and the best of friends(although we do have a strange relationship).
As for knowing if you leaving will mess them up more than staying, you can never really be sure of that. Most people are alot stronger than they or anyone else gives them credit for, yes they will probably be very very upset about it and they may have a hard time dealing with it for a while, but sooner or later they will realize that they have to get on with their lives. Some people say that if you really love someone you have to let them go, and if they come back then its meant to be. You have to make your own decision based on everything that is going on with you and them. In the end, only you know what is best for yourself and if you think going away from your significant other is best for the both of you then do it. Don't stay in a relationship if you are unhappy.
If you would like to talk some more about it, maybe give some more details about the situation, then maybe I can give some further assistance.
My email is bacardii_caddy@yahoo.com.
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I would just go to your local clinic, in fact most of the time you can get them for free if you are a student, I know I did when I was in highschool. But the best thing for you to do is to probably speak to your parents about it, if you are wanting to take them simply because you want to have a less trying period, larger breasts, and clearer skin then I'm pretty sure that your parents will not object. If you do use their insurance they will find out, because insurances send out explanation of benefits, showing how much they paid and how much you may owe the provider.
Also your mother may want you to begin going to a gynecologist, now is a good time to begin going and getting your yearly pap smears too. They can then discuss with you what type of birth control is best for you, what they risks are, and which dosage of hormones are best for you. I have found that they usually are a little more helpful at your own gynecologist than at a clinic, because they can be so swamped.
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Heck no, I love board shorts and I think they look really cute with a bikini top or a tank. In the end it doesn't matter what everyone around you thinks, you should wear whatever makes you comfortable. If you think you look good and are confident about it, then screw everyone else. You are beautiful in your own way, never let anyone tell you different. I tend to get a little self conscious and I do have love handles (which annoy the crap out of me) & I too am trying to get in better shape for the beach, but as long as I am comfortable with myself thats all that really matters. I bought board shorts and a tube top for the beach when I go :)
Good Luck and be confident in who you are and how you look!

Dress nicely, jeans and a polo or a nice t-shirt, like the person below said nothing ratty. Speak clearly and correctly, act mature, parents want someone who can think clearly and someone they can entrust their childrens' lives too. Make sure to smile and be polite, and be confident in yourself, confidence shows and makes a huge difference.
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Totally know how you feel, my mother was the librarian at my school, but we made a deal that she would not chaperone whenever I was going to an event lol. As for if your mom would approve, I think the only thing you can do there is to sit down and ask her about it. Tell her why you want to go with him and that you are going to be smart and careful, assure her that you are mature and can handle it.
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Cum is the liquid that comes out when a man has an orgasim, it carries the sperm which fertilizes the egg. Thats pretty much all I know to tell you about it.
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I'm not very sure what your question is, are you saying that your cousin likes your boyfriend and you are worried about catching the 2 of them together. Well trust is the basis for every relationship, if you feel as though you can't trust your boyfriend (or your cousin/friend for that matter) then it doesn't seem like either of them are very good friend/boyfriend. If your boyfriend cares about you then he won't cheat on you and if your cousin/friend cares about you then she won't put him in that situation. Basically, you have to trust the people around you, if you don't then you are going to be paranoid that they are always plotting against you and in the end it is going to tear both relationships apart. Calm down, the worst thing that could happen is that they would cheat, okay you move on and get over it. If this happens, then neither of them are really worth much, and you should surround yourself with some better people. Hope you don't think I am being rude, I am just trying to show you that if you keep thinking this way then you will never truly be happy with him, and Im sure you don't want that. Have faith in him and if he screws it up, lose him and find someone who is worth it and will treat you right.
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You really don't have to come out and say "I'm on the rag!" lol, just say 'ya know its that time of the month.' Well you could dry hump if you are into that kind of thing, or he could rub your through your clothes(which may be bad because it may make you want to do it more HAHA). Other than that, if you do not want to have sex, you can just learn to give some stellar head and make it very interesting for that week :)
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Okay, first of all if you are NOT ready to have sex, then you probably are putting yourself in a really bad situation with your boyfriend. He is a boy and when those hormones get raging they completely forget about you and how you are feeling about it. Now as for if you had sex, I think that depends on translation, different people are going to tell you different things. Sex is classified as penis inside vagina to most people, and the head of his penis did go inside of you, but others may say if your cherry did not burst(unless it already has because of him fingering you or some sort of activity) then you are still a virgin. I would say that yes you did sorta have sex, although not full on. And yes you could get pregnant, if his sprem even gets near your vagina then there is a chance, sperm is crafty and has one goal, to get to your egg. If you have your period already then yes there is chance that you can get pregnant.
I advise sitting down and really thinking about whether or not you are ready to have sex, if not, then do NOT put yourself in this position with your boyfriend again. Let him know where you stand and if he starts to go too far(like it seems he did this time) stop him. If he really cares about you he will understand, if not he isn't worth it. Also, if you are thinking of becoming sexually active please please please think about protection, such as the birth control pill, patch, or shot, and condoms. If you feel as though you are not ready, let your boyfriend know and stand your ground.
If you need to talk further you may email me at bacardii_caddy@yahoo.com.
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Well that really depends on you and the girl, I think it would be best to start throwing out subtle hints, like flirting when you are with her, flirt through text messages etc. Then you can ask her out with a group of friends, that way there is no pressure on either of you, but it will give you a chance to get to know one another better and to show her how sweet you are. Then if that goes well ask her to go to the movies and to dinner, take small steps and see how she reacts :)
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