Iv been here for a few months and I belive that helping others is a way give others hope in there lives my advice is straight forward .I have my own problems like anyone eles out there but I keep looking for the answers .sometimes life isn't easy or not fair but you live and learn every day .I hope that anyone looking for the advice they need truly helps and if you need my advice I'm here for you .I might not have all the answers but I will do my best with this said good luck to all
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ive been feeling weird,drained,and hopeless since i got rejected because getting his attention wass my main goal but now i feel nothing.what is this feeling and what should i do (link)
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I'm with you girl .I get the same thing from my wife the fellings not there anymore with my wife we used to make love all the time now its been a year and nothing the fleng is just not there .I get rejected all the time and its not me its her .but the onlything I can sujest is talk to him tell him what's bothering you comunication is eveything .I don't know how long you have been with him but sometimes the flame burns out so to speak and sometimes you can spark the fire and sometimes you can't .like with me iv tried everything but nothing seems to work .I. need the love but get the cold sholder but don't let me bring you down just talk to him that's the only way to finde out what the problem is if he is true to you things will work out eventualy just have a little faith and a lot of patiance and if that won't work we can hook up lol
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whats a stud? i hear people people calling other kids studs...can someone please explain?? (link)
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Well there is different meanings for this one could mean he's well hung down there or it could mean he's. A knock out but all in all it has to do with sex or verry atractive
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Okay. So this is pretty big for me. I had a really bad break up three months ago. I'm still hurting from it, but I AM over my ex. I like this new guy. He's sixteen; a new junior and I am fifteen; a new sophomore. He's always been a pretty good friend. But he's a really really really good kid so I never really hung out with him much... He doesn't drink or smoke or hook up or anything. He's basically perfect... He's smart, sweet, athletic and really cute! I like him. A lot. We've kind of been talking... kind of. We've been texting a lot and being pretty flirty... But I'm worried becuause right after my ex and I broke up three months ago, I went for a rebound I thought I really liked too... True, its been a long time and I feel liek I'm in a much better place, but I'm still worried. I'm also worried that I might be too... I don't know. See I made a mistake with my ex. We went too far... physically and he told everyone about it. There were all sorts of messed up things that led up to me giving into his pressuring, and in some of the cases, it was physical force, and someday (when things get more serious) I will explain it to this new guy. I didn't want to go as far as I did... Ugh its really complicated. I don't want this new guy to judge me on what happened... I want to explain to him but it's not to the point yet that I feel comfortable telling him about it... So it's kind of a catch 22. What happened might keep me from getting to a level where I feel comfortable explaining to him what happened... Ya know?? So what do I do? I like him a lot... I just want it to work. (link)
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First of all you shouldn't have to answer to anybody you shouldn't have to explain yourself either this has nothing to do with this new guy and if he truly likes you that shouldnybother him if he finds out .you see people think to get to know someone or getting closer to someone you should be open and tell everything about your past but that's not so you don't have too the past is the past that doesn't have nothing to do with the future you don't have to go into detail with your life not unles you want too .that's the beauty of starting over to forget and move on .so with all that said and done go get your man don't let your past stop you
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so I cut my hair, and it looks AMAZING! its a scene style, and its medium length, but i still love it. the only problem is, on the left side, which is the same side I put the part on, I cut the middle layer a little too short. I also cut a little too much of my hair on that side. Are there any styles I can put my hair in to make the left side look the same as the right? (link)
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No you should have left it long when you cut it you screwed up now you will have to let it grow out shoulder hair length is not in long hair is axtualy the longer the better
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I have a friend to whome i am close to. He is one of my ultimate best friends and we talk on a regular basis. There has always been this "thing" between me and him and we both know its there. There is like a spark in the air but then again, we have NEVER kissed or anything . But we are so close mentally and emotionally.
He always talks abou what kind of girl he's gunna marry and how hell treat her. It just makes me think even more about how badly i want that life with him. They say that your husband is like your best friend. I think i do want my bestfriend to eventually become my husband. I have never really thought about is like that before but i legit think that we are almost perfect for eachother. And i do think that we could date very easily but I do beleive that the ONLY thing that is holding us back is me. My weight.Dont get it wrong he does love me but he also wants a "fitter " looking gf. And i honestly dont resent him for that. He is really into body building and fitness and he doesnt really judge me at all. I just have that gut feeling that that is what is holding him back from me. But me, i dont at ALL eat junk food. All my weight was put on when I was younger and now im just been kind of stuck with it for four years. For four years after i gradually began to eat healthier my weight still just kinda stayed the same. This summer i have been watching and kind of obsessing what i eat and i have lost about 15 pounds. All i drink is water and eat three times a day of mostly vegetables. But i dont only want to lose weight because i have this weird theory lol...but so i feel better about myself in general...im just getting sick of being fat.
anyway i guess i dont even really know what im asking i just kinda wonderr i guess what you think about all of this or just any advice. ... (link)
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First of all beauty is only skin deep and if this guy realy likes you he will like you for who you are not what you look like but I'm glad you are taking an aproch to lose weight .my wife at one time weighed 220lbs now she's down to 150 she lost a lot of weight in just one year but she has this problem with flab loose skin .I'm a skinny guy in 5/8 and weigh between 145 to 155 .so aperance to me is not everything it how you connect and the other person treats you .so anyways I would just ask him honestly how he feels about you if there is a chance on moving forward in your relationship tell him how you feel about him too .what do you got to loose that way you know where you stand and you might be suprised .if you don't take chances in life you won't ever know what the outcome might be and you will never gain anything either its worth it don't you think
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18/female.
I've never tried marijuana, i've obviously heard a lot about it from health class and that, but I'm very curious about it. pretty much everyone i know takes a hit once in a while, some more than others, but i'm never around when they do.
I guess i'm just wondering if it's really worth a try. I told myself I would never try it; that i want to be able to grow old and tell my grandkids that hey, it really is possible to be straightedge your whole life, and you CAN say no.
My sister says I would really like the feeling because I'm pretty chill to begin with.
Any opinions? (link)
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Well first of all just because there is a lot of people doing it doesn't mean its something you outa try I mean what's the point anyways you smoke it get high and then it goes away and what if you get hooked then one thing leads to another and then you want to try something eles .its a visous cycle .are you prepared for that ? Iv tryed marjuana cocane speed but it just wasn't for me yea to each his or her own .but if haven't started then don't ! You will thank me for it trust me you need to weigh the pros and cons and there realy isn't much pros to it .you might even get stoned one time at some party or somewhere and might get raped or no telling what nothing comes good out of getting stoned .so like I said if you haven't yet don't try it that's the best way to go and its illeagle to have it in your posestion I don't think I would want to go to jail for some dope and I don't think you do either
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k my boyfriend of two years and i have been rocky any way right now like we are fighting. well things were going good again until i go on facebook and see these pictures of these girls who are 15 16 with him but they were at his friends house and his friends little sister and her friend were taking pix now there were two that were just of the girls and him and he sees nothing wrong with them yet everytime i ask him who he is with its boys that he chills with and these were taken the other night and he said he told me but i think id remember him telling me that hes with a girl especially one im not to happy with. every time i see these i want to break up with him am i being stupid? and when something like that happends i want to approach it in a diffent way instead of straight bitching at him. idk what to do any more. (link)
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Well to me he sounds like a player .and I bet you if you ask around people will tell you what he's doing .there are a lot of guys that arnt satisfied with just one woman sad to say but if he's doing something behind your back he will slip up trust me and the only fool will be him .should you give him the benifit of the dout when he has pictures of him on facebook ?not likely the truth is in black and white and why is he not with you hmmm something don't sound right with that I bet you there's more than meets the eye here .you can ask him what's going on all day but you know he will denye it that's what players do until the slip up and are cought redhanded then there's no way out .all I'm saying is go with your gut feeling its always the best one .oh by the way I'm a guy and I know how guys work trust me and good luck
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Okay so my boyfriend came over and we made out and I got horny.. and My underwear was soaked but we didn't have sex, I wasn't even barely close to his private parts. He left and Now i'm like jizzing in my pants thinking about what happened. and Im having some pain In my lower abdomen it's the same pain I feel when I'm ovulating, is this a sign of anything Like pregnancy or Infections?! My back is kind of hurting to and I'm getting pains on one side of my hips then the other side, it's really wierd I mean no sexual intercourse happen I was wearing jeans and he was wearing shorts, but they werent jean shorts But i'm just wondering is this pain Im feeling normal? Oh and by the way im 13. And my period is supposed to be coming sooon so are these symptoms a sign of my period. Oh and i've been constipated lately so maybe are these symptoms coming from the lack of poop.? please help i'm scared. (link)
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Well let me start by saying this is probably normal .you see a man can get blue balls by getting excited about having sex but to where he thinks he's going to get it and then something happens like almost getting cought and he's all worked up that his testicals fill up with seman .but since you are a woman its like the same your ovares fill up with eggs and get swollen too .and the only way to relieve the presure is to masterbate .it sounds kinda weird but it works .iv had this problem before plenty of times it can be painful but if you do what I said it will go away trust me .I'm no doctor but been there before .its like filling a baloon with water the more you fill it the bigger it becomes to the poin where it exploeds its the same way with you or anyone eles to that matter you have to realease the presure .hope this helps
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how do i stop wearing my heart on my sleeve? all my life even when i was little i would try and still befriends with some one that has done me wrong, i always wanted to believe that people just make mistakes and not believe that the ones i care about would be this hate full towards me.
how do i teach my self not to care?
but as far as relationships go. and friend ships how do i stop being a push over? how can i toughen up and stop letting people walk all over me? my dad my mom and sister always tell me im to nice and people treat me the way they do because i allow it. and that nice people finish last, but how can i stop being who i am? my grandma always tough me to treat people the way i want to be treated but that doesn't work. I don't want to start any fights with people so I don't argue and the are usually bigger than me. I'm nice to them and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues cuz of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I havent done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I dont give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me cuz im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, I hate my first 2 classes and I think i'm starting to hate school. (link)
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You just have to think that people are pusovers and now days people that see a weakness in someone will take advantage of it and being nice is a weakness .and don't be afraid off what people think do or say because they are nothing .trust me call their bluff .I had the same problem at work where people would steal from me like my lunch my tea and anything eles I brought wih me they thought I was so nice I wouldn mind but in reality yes I did .so if I didn't bring anything the next day they would say you didn't bring no tea or lunch with you today I just replyed if you want something bring your own I don't owe you anything and of course they wouldn't talk to me the rest of the day .so what I'm saying is you know who your friends are .what I'm saying is put your foot down and stand your ground you do this one time it will become a. Habit don't give in too people because they will take advantage of you well I hope this gives you some courage to move on with your life .
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19/F. This is the third time this week I'm crying myself to sleep :/
If it weren't for work or school...I'd have nothing to do! I just feel really sad. I have some friends and they're all nice people, but none of them "get me". I just don't feel a connection with any of them.
I'm a friendly person and I'm not socially awkward (promise). However, I'm not a super social person. I'd much rather hang around with a few people I already know then continuously meet random people. What can I do to change my situation? (link)
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First of all do you think you might have social anxiaty disorder .I'm asking this because you say you don't connect with people .I have the same problem where I pretty much keep too myself other than at work .because I don't connect with people .I don't have any friends at all .I don't go out to the social seen cause I. Get nervous around a lot of people and don't know how to act .iv hadd this problem for a long time .but it might just be the type of person you are .it does get lonley at times but going to see a councelor might help you overcome your fellings and find a solution to your problem just keep in mind you are not alone
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so me and my boyfriend had sex together the first time like a week ago..and he didnt cum the whole time. and i asked him later about it and he said it was probably because he had just got off the day before. but than we had sex a couple days later and the same thing happened! i dont know whats wrong i dont really want to accuse him of having a problem but every other guy ive been with has cummed. its kind of annoying he says he has fun but i dont know and i woundered if it was because he masturbates alot but he rarely does. what could be the problem? (link)
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First of all there are plenty of reasons for this problem .it could be him or you .now your probably saying to yourself how could it be me .well you see my first wife would get supper wet during forplay so when it was time for intercourse she felt so loose 5hat I didn't feel anything .I'm not saying that's what's going on but I'm just narowing down the posabilities .it might be he does masterbate too much and you are not aware of it .it could be he might have a medical problem also but the only way you are going to find out is through comunication . You can also try forplay it helps to get him all worked up watch a porno together that always does the trick necause men focous on things they see and women are about emotion .talk dirty to him too he will get worked up to the point of extacy if none of this works. Then there's. Nothing eles you can do hope this helps
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how can i mastrabate ? i finger and it dont work besides an el. toothbr. how can i get off?
oh and im A 17 yr girl (link)
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I don't. Know for sure being I'm a guy but every womens different your libido is much different than a guys but in order to get off you have to experament not one way is better than the next some women need sex toys like a dildo or vibratosr .oh and I hope you arnt realy useing an electric tooth brush because there is bacterea in that that can cause you to have a yeast infection and that wouldn't be a good thing to have .next question is do you have a boyfriend to share your intament moments with .I sugest you get you some kind of vibrator of some sort that is desind for your special needs .try a store cald condom sents or condoms to go you can find what you need there their are a wide variaties to choose from .I hope iv been some help
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So I am in a relationship with a man that I really treasure and don't want to lose. We met in January, and we started out as friends with benefits but quickly became best friends and fell hard for each other.
My concern is that I've had a bit of a past, ie I've slept around. I've changed now, and I'm not sure if my boyfriend knows about my past or the extent of it, we never talked about it before. My question is should I tell him? In case he doesn't know, I don't want guys from school telling him that I've slept around, and then him to hold it against me. I want to know that he accepts me regardless of my past. I don't want it to come up in the future of our relationship, I want him to know that yes I do come with a not so likable past. So do I tell him? Or just hope he already knows?
Thanks, 19/f (link)
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Well the past is the past and what ever you did back then you wernt with him so it shouldn't matter .we all have a past some good some bad and I bet you anything he's no angel either I'm sure he's slept around too but hey like I said that's the past we are looking at the present and the future so if he doesn't except your past he doesn't except you and as for telling him about your past that's strickly up to you .the past you can't hide it always finde its way back to the surface you can't hide it but you can learn and move on .I think you owe it to him to be honest and up front if you plan on being tgogether .it will make you not have to wory if and when he will find out I hope you take my advice and I wish you all the luck
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Hey guys, I'm a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for four year in September.. Everyone around us is getting engaged and we have been together longer than anyone of them. I dont know if im jealous or worried. I have said to him I want to be engaged, he said no. It makes me feel like he doesnt love me that much to marry me. He says he wants to marry me but wants to wait. I want a big wedding, huge dress ect.. I understand to wait for the wedding, but why cant we be engaged? He says he wants to be able to buy me a huge ring and make sure its beautiful, but I dont want/need that right now, just a small right so show hes mine.. Because of this I have decided to go away to school in the fall. Maybe to test to see if he is my "one" or just to clear my head and enjoy being 19.. Im not sure. What are your intakes of this? Am i right to feel "not loved" or do you all agree with him? (link)
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Well I'm a guy and I agree with you me and my fiance have been engaged for three years we've been together for 6 but mearage is a scary thing for some people iv been maried once before and as soon as she got the ring on her finger things changed not on my behalf but hers she started doing things behinde my back and all the skelitons in the closet came out so to speak in realiity I didn't even know her and we where together for 8 years so mariage isn't for everyone
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Hi so i work at a daycare/private pre school. I work in the Young Toddlers class and i absolutely love it., except for there is ne problem. The eps teachers (early pre school teachers) One of them is nice but the other three are extremely rude. They talk about me behind my back all the time. Well i use to stare at them all the time because we have windows in our class so you can see what's going on in the other class. So i think a lot of that was the reason, but I've started to stare at them less. I know it's rude to stare at someone, but it's just a really bad habit. Well anyways i am really skinny so that is another reason. And even yesterday at a meeting we had for the new school year i had to sit at their table. And during the meeting my boss was reading to us our school mission statement about how we need to respect everyone, and as soon as she read that i looked up at one of the teachers (julie) and the lead teacher Irene thought i was looking at her and she started telling Ashley the other EPS teacher oh she looked at me when our boss was talking about respect. and they kept staring at me and laughing at me whenever i asked questions.I would look over and they would be laugh at me and i got mad and kept giving them the death stare, and Irene was like oh she's looking at us, and she needs to stop. I am really sick of them. I can't stand them. I know they do it because it really bothers me, but i just can't ignore it. I've always had this problem. I am just not confident. It's so difficult for me to not care what other people think. Everyone keeps telling me to have confidence in myself but i can't. It's impossible because I've been bullied my whole life. I have zero self confidence or self esteem. SO what should i do? Please help (link)
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Here's what u do kill them with kindness that always does the trick . I used to have the same problem years ago where I was parinoid about people talking about me and it woul eat at me to the point where I just wanted to stay to myself but every where I. Go it was always there especaly at work .what I had to do is try to ignore it and don't stare . They will eventualy get bored with talking about you and if you kill them with kindess they won't know what to do its a simmple way of stating that you are not what they think you are and it will turn a new leaf so to say .trust me it works what do you got to loose . Try it you will be suprised what the outcome will be
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So I've been feeling kind of down for about 4 years. Recently it has gotten worse...I just broke up with my boyfriend because I've been so stressed about everything. I snap at a lot of people it could be anyone...I have so much anger and I've been crying a lot. I've pushed away all my friends and have no determination or drive. I don't know what to possibly do.
Any advice? (link)
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Ok from what you are telling me you might be bipoler and you should get checked out by a doctor you might have a chemecal inbalance . People that are bipolar do things out of inpulse and can get angery one moment and ok the next and withdraw from people to . There are medications out there like SRI [seritoin reuptake inhibiters] that will help you along with counceling . But becareful about taking these medications because they cause side efects. But please don't. Let this go on without any help because your problem can get worse . Take my advice and go see a doctor you owe to your self and the people you care for
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what are a few things i can do to prep yourself before i receive oral from my boyfriend? i know he wants to do it, and i was iffy about it, but i'm about to give in. (link)
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Make sure the man is clean down there that's the first step and make sure you let him know that you are in charge take it slow at first when he's about to climax pull it out and masterbate him till he releves his load unless you want to swolow but if its your first time I sugest you don't. Swolow but always keep it clean of everything eles and if you give than he should also its a two way street but don't let him force you into anything that makes you uncomfortable because that's a big turn off hope iv been some help
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we already know kids / teens of all ages are having sex. but how do you know youre physically, emotionally, and mentally ready to have sex? (link)
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First of all how old are you ? And I think you realy need to search your heart you have all the time in the world to make that decision .don't rush it .you have to think about the what if's having sex should be special for the one person that you truly care for . Yes sex is a great thing only and I do say only if you plan on being with the person for a long time it something shared out of love not desier and if you do plan on it please use protection there are so many stds out there and you have to wory about pregnancy also don't give your verginity to just anyone make sure he or she is the right one .there are a lot of decisions to make . I can't make you decide only give you advice to the matter but take good care on making any decisions becase whatever you do you will live with it . I hope I have been some help
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My commpressor in my 2001 taurus runs fine and the coolant levels are good, but no cold air. I recently stoped the compressors cycling problem after a mechanic actually plugged in the power and control plug incorrectly and almost bent off a terminal, and i also jumpe the cycling switch once which lso helped fix my compressor which is running good now. Any idea why my air still isn't getting cold? (link)
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Well I think your problem is your orface tube is cloged up you might have it replaced and than get it recarged after its been vacumed down it should only cost you around 120$ that's what was wrong with my 1994 mazda pickup now my ac runs good
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Hey im 19/f and i really want to work in the medical field. I was going to become a nurse and i attended my first year of college but i dont have money for this years tuition so college is now out of the question sadly. My friend told me about EMT the schooling is $1000 and thats a little pricey for me. Then i thought about becoming a CNA but people have told me its a pretty crappy job. Is there any jobs that you know of that you dont have to go to college for and are decently priced? Any information would be greatly appreciated. Thanks everybody and i do rate. (link)
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Have you tried getting a pale grant. Its a grant from the government for 5000$ for schooling and its free money. My wife is 34 years old and decided to go back to school shed got the grant and of course the class was 16000$ shed would have to pay the differance. But over the course of 10yr. Have you tried becomeing a x-ray tech its only a two year course and. It starts out at 16$ an hour in mosy hospitals its an easy job and its demanding also that's what I do and I love my job very laid back . Well check your local comunity collage. For details they will get you on the right track hope iv been of help and good luck !
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