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I'm feeling super isolated right about now.
19/F. This is the third time this week I'm crying myself to sleep :/
If it weren't for work or school...I'd have nothing to do! I just feel really sad. I have some friends and they're all nice people, but none of them "get me". I just don't feel a connection with any of them.
I'm a friendly person and I'm not socially awkward (promise). However, I'm not a super social person. I'd much rather hang around with a few people I already know then continuously meet random people. What can I do to change my situation?
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I am in the same situation as you. 18 female and all I do is work and school. I have a few friends but I know what you mean when you say that you don't connect with them. I don't think that it's your fault. I don't know about you, but I live a pretty sheltered life and I've been stuck with the same class since Kindergarten, and I feel like they are all the same. But I want to tell you that there ARE people in the world that are different. I recently met some; so I KNOW that you will. There's nothing wrong with not being a super social person. I think you are just looking for long lasting meaningful friendships with people that you have a connection with, and how could you be expected to want anything less? That's what friendship is all about. Don't stress about it because true friends will come with time, and the best friends are the ones that aren't forced; they just pop up out of nowhere. I suggest that you try and talk to people that share your interests - like maybe your college major. I definitely don't think that this is your fault though. Good luck and just don't forget that there are other people like you !:)
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You may or may not have a social disorder...that's something we can't tell you over the internet. The only way to know for sure is to seek medical attention.
It sounds to me like you may be a little bit shy around new people, which can be normal for some people.
Either way, here is my suggestion for you. You have work and school. Your current friends are quite cutting it. Sometimes that's just what happens as we grow up. You may have simply outgrown the friends you have at the moment and that's okay too. Find something that you have a passion for and volunteer in that area. It could be working with underprivileged children, terminal patients, the elderly, the homeless, an animal shelter, abused women...you get my drift. Find something new that you can really put something into of yourself and I believe you'll make some new friends along the way. Friends that do 'get' you and share some of the same ideas and passions in life.
The easiest way to get over feeling sad, depressed, or sorry for yourself is to find someone who is worse off and make it your mission to figure out how to help them. Making new friends in the process is an added benefit.
Good luck to you,
Jada
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First of all do you think you might have social anxiaty disorder .I'm asking this because you say you don't connect with people .I have the same problem where I pretty much keep too myself other than at work .because I don't connect with people .I don't have any friends at all .I don't go out to the social seen cause I. Get nervous around a lot of people and don't know how to act .iv hadd this problem for a long time .but it might just be the type of person you are .it does get lonley at times but going to see a councelor might help you overcome your fellings and find a solution to your problem just keep in mind you are not alone
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