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whats sup im kierra. i luv to give my advice to people becuase im good at it. i will try and answer ever ones questions as they are giving or asked. now some question i cant answer becuase the answer us always in yall face but hey some people cant see. i aint mean but i will tell it like it is so dont ask a question if you know you anit goin to like the answer holla!!!!!!!!!!!!
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is it legal for a fifteen year old and an eighteen year old to have sex?
no hun its not. that is statitory rape and he could get put in to jail becuase of it.
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My first boyfriend (12 years ago) I was with for over 3 years just passed away of cancer. After we dated a couple years he ended up working with my Dad & sister. My other sister became very close w/ him & all his friends & when we broke up became great buddies w/ all his friends. The wake is tomorrow night & I think it'd be appropriate for me to show my condolances. However, he got married a few months ago & his wife'll be there too. What do you think I should do? Go or not? Won't it be awkward if my sister went & I didn't?
i think you should go. you guys had a great friendship it seems like. just becuase he was married dont mean he dont want you to come. he is looking down on you and i know he wants you to come and pay your last respects. i know it will seem akward but hey you are all there becuase someone you loved died and you all want to show him how much you all cared and loved him. i think that is what he wanted. but to be honest it would be kinda strange if your sister went and you stayed becuase then people will think okay she did not care about so and so. so i think you should go. it would be your last time to see him
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can you please help me? i want to tell my boyfriend or should i say try to get to him and let him know i love him and i dont want him to throw his life away. you see my boyfriend smokes alot and i just want him to stop and it seems every time i try to tell him he gets mad and tells me that if he dies from it thats just gonna be how it goes and stuff like that i need advice can you help me?
sweety your boyfriend seem like a hardhead guy. your going to have to show him what will happen if he keeps smoking. what does our boyfriend smoke n e ways? but show him things on the internet. tell him that every puff it takes 7 seconds off his life this is a true fact to. when you smoke your lungs get dark and then it gets harder to breath. he could get lung cancer so he needs to stop. show him all the good things he has to live for
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So,the boy I like came to the basketball court.And me and my friend were the first one's there.So then like 4 or 5 of his friends come too.And then we were all like chillin and playing some basketball.Then the whole time I was there, frome when I got to the court and he left he was trying to make me laugh,he kept looking at me,he tried to impress me,and he was laughing with me.Are those signs of flirting?I want to know what it means.Thanks for anyones advice.
girl all signs of flirting. i say play games with him more and he should ask you out
14/f..HELP ME!!!
i went out with this guy, last may then in august i dupted him because he started to like my best friend (ex-bestfriend now). i really loved him but he cheated on me so i hate him, but everytime i try to forget about him, he text me then i have all these feelings for him again, then we start going back out again on and off. he barely talks to me. it seems like he only text me because he wants to do "stuff" with me. and i really try to get over him but it seems like i cant. HOW CAN I GET OVER HIM??
hun i think you should stop taking his text thats the first step. he is trying to play with your mind becuase he knows he can. you have to show him you dont need him and that you can do better by yourself or with someone who desevers your time. if he cheated once trust me he will cheat again so if he wants another steady relationship tell him no. stop doing "stuff" with him. this is only telling him that if he could he can have you with one word. a guy that is with you and starts feeling your bf then you should have been known he was not a true person. im guessing he might have tried somthing with your bf but im not sure thats your story. go out on some new dates find a new guy thats better then that grimmy boy. you just have to trust and believe in yourself. you wont get over him untill all feelings are gone so try and keep a distance from him and get closer to another guy and trust me you will be over him in no time
hope i helped you. be strong i know you are
how do i make new friends easily at school?
dont be a shy person but at the same time your a individual. you dont want to make fake friends so make sure you be yourself. talk to people say hi ask people do they know where this class is even though you might already know where it is. be outgoing, interesting, couragous, and nice show them who you are and trust me you will have pleanty of friends
i know you cant control on how people look at you or i know you cant make people like you.... but how do i get a guy to like me??? or some advice on getting anyone to like me....
you dont want to come off as a friend when doing this but you should come around show them how sassy and sexy you can be. guys like girls that dont try to hard though so dont try that hard then you might seem desprate. be cool around them. when you come around make sure you look great though you dont want to look like one of the guys.
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hello,
i am 14 years old.
okay, well my boyfriend broke up with me because he liked my best friend, but she does not like him. she likes my ex boyfriends best friend. but now my ex is being really mean to me and my best friend. he is saying things that are not that nice. what should i do?
-Strawberry
well first of all he stupid for thinking your bestfriend would go out with him thats just nasty. he was never a good bf anyway if he did you like that. where im from we call boys like him and excuse this "grimmy dudes" meaning a slum dude who just want things his way. you should do notthing becuase if you sit down and really look at the problem he is the one hurting becuase he dont have what he though he was going to get. if however you do want to do somthing go off on him tell him how you feel and your friend need to let him know that he never had a chance so he was being very dumb for doing this to you. i dont want you to get mad over the problem becuase it seem like to me he wont be happy with any girl becuase he will think he can get his way.
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okay well this boy whom i've known not that well but hes on the football team and i'm on the cheerleading team and he keeps asking me to come over his house but does he mean to have sex or just to chill?? i think he means sex and if he does i want to but i dont want to have sex with him cause i really dont know him that well.should i go over there on friday xoxo gossipbabe
i think you should go but you should let him know that he has notthing comming his way becuase you dont know him that well. tell him you dont know what kinda girls he usally mess with but your diffrent and that you dont have sex with guys you dont know that well. if he go off about this then you know that that is what he wanted in the first place. now you said you want. i thing you want to becuase he is cute you should want to have sex with guys that are cute all the time thier are alot of desease out thier and its always the cute ones that have them so becarefull
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(Sorry, it's long. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP!)
Well I'm 17 & my girlfriend is 15. I am currently in college (I started school at an early age)in San Francisco & she's out in Anaheim. I have gotten into some trouble. Therefore, I can't leave school for 5 weeks. & I can't see my girlfriend. While I was out here, she found out things about me that I have never told her. She found out I have a kid, and that I have a criminal record. At first she was mad, but then she forgave me. Well that same week, I was told that if I behave, I can get out of the school in 2 1/2 weeks. I turned out I got into a fight the day after, and so now I'm back to 5 weeks. And my girlfriend got really mad. So mad, that she was about to break up with me. I told her, that I would make up all of the suffering she is going through. I've been with her for almost a month. But we've been best friends since May of last year. And when I was living in Anaheim, I always spent the night at her house. And I know that I am older than her, but we've been together at night. We haven't had sex. But what we have done together is: Dry sex, fingering, and I went down on her. Other than that, nothing else has happened. My parents, don't really like her. And her parents don't like me. All because we're from different backgrounds. She's mexican & I'm white with an Asian stepmom. Anyways, what I want some advice on is:
- What can I do to make up for what she's going through right now?
- How can I deal with her and my family?
- I'm almost turning 18 (in Decemember), is there any laws for being 18 & being with a 15 year old (16 in May)
- I'm ready to have sex with her. But I'm not sure, what she wants. She agreed to dry sex, fingering and me going down on her. And I really love her, and I want to be her first. What can I do.
Thanks in advance.
first let me say your both getting in deep. if the police were to find out about this you could go to jail trust me i seen it happen where im from. now on the whole parent thing your not dating her parents your dating her so who cares if they dont like you or if your parents dont like her its albout you two but i dont thing you should have sex that is believe it or not statitory rape and you could get some years for it wait till she is atlease 17 years of age. the sex thing you two doing now is just fine i mean what yall like 2 years apart right but wait for the sex thing so you to want get in trouble. to make up for what you have done send her gifts showing her you love her. i wounder though can she come see you, if she can then try and arrange that.
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i've developed stronger than friends feelings for this guy i like. i know you hear this A LOT. i asked him recently to check this restaurant out w/me,and he asked if i've asked anyone else amongst our group of friends,i said i hadn't and he said okay that's better anyway.so i left it up to him to set the date to meet,and we had dinner on saturday night.the thing is,we hung out from 7pm to 3 am!and there never was an awkward moment,we were so comfortable in each other's presence,i didn't even feel time pass until my parents called haha,so then he hugs me and we part ways.oh yeah and by the end of the night(or should i say early morning)i was secure enough to ask of his past relationships:he's only had 1,and that was 3 years ago.he called a few days later to make sure i didn't get in trouble,but he never said he had a good time we should hang out again.it's been 3 weeks and no sign.he hasn't called or mentioned another get together.but i thought he had a lot of fun,if not then why would he extend our dinner till 3 am?!if he was tired w/me he could have cut it short.there's a few more details,such as little favors and paying full attn.to me when i'm in the room,but i don't understand, is he interested?i've never been in a relationship before,so for me to initiate all this so far felt bold,and any advice would be great!thank you so much for taking the time to read,i'm sorry it's long lol.
I think he is in a very hard place right now. it seems to me like he is interrested in you but he dont know how to go about the problem. im guessing the relationship he was in before was deep and when he go out he was a little hurt. just give him time dont rush the issuse. from what you said i know he had a great time with you and no he is not bored with you. he might be kinda shy about what he wants to do. he dont know if he wants to move foward or not yet so just give him time. if to much time go by you should ask him these questions. i know you might be a little shy on the subject but trust he will want to talk as much as you want to.
good luck hope i helped
yeah i was wondering if it hurts to go to the gynocologist(dunno how to spell it)
no it does not hurt. it might seem a little akward becuase someone you dont know is looking at your private part lol. if they use the plastic things i forgot what they are called you should be alright but the metal ones can be a little cold. dont sweat the doctors will make sure you are alright and they wont hurt you.
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I never thought I would think that this very thing would happen to my family. Over 3 years ago, my father passed away from cancer. It was very quick and found out within a summer length of time. After my father passed away, my mom would start drinking. She would drink from 1-2 bottles of wine a night. To the point where she would be drunk and feel better about everything. It never really accord to us that she was having a drinking problem. But now 3 years later, shes been drinking almost a whole bottle of wine a night. She gets to the point where shes mean and cries. I try to talk to her, but she never listens. She says she only does it cause it helps her with the stress of work, financial problems, ect. I want to get her help, but I know she'll be angry with me at first. Because during any time I talk to someone else about the drinking problem or any other problems in her life, she denies it. When I confronted her tonight about drinking, she completely denied it. Should I research about it, seek help from a pastor at a local church, a hotline? Thank you for the advice.
it sound to me like she does have a drinking problem. when you drink you hurt your body. you start getting more and more depressed. you should let her know that drinking is not her solution but just another problem in her life. i think she does need a little help. you should talk to any aldult you think could help. look up on the inter net a few hotline numbers. you could save your mom from her own dis-struction. let her know that you care show her love. my uncle was a drunk i know what your going through but he drunk way more then your mom.
i hope i helped you can save her just pray and i will have you and your mom in mines :)
well i have this guy friend that lives an hour away from me and he has a gf but shes on house arest but when he came over to his moms house he asked for my number around christmas and i wrote him and gave him my number, but i also tolled him that i would try a long distance thing with him if he would brack up with his gf(and we both have liked each other since7th grade). i'm know in 9th and i don't know what to do, so please help.
girl if aint break it off with her then somethings make him stay with her. he might like you and want to be with you but his heart is else where you know. imma be honest long distance wont work becuase he got her closer. he might tell you he aint with her but who knows he could be creeping with her. you will not be around him alot so you would not know if he is cheating or not. if you do decide to be with this guy then i think you should ask to have a conversation with this girl to make sure he aint with her. if he rejects then he aint about his word.
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I think I have a problem it is this girl I like a lot, and I think that eveyone that looks at her is trying to fu#$ her, and sometimes I think that. For instance a friend of mine was leaving today, he always leaves 4:30, but she was leaing alos, do not know if she left at 4:30 exactly but It crossed my mind that they were hooking up.. I think I need to fall back off of this chick...
before you mess up your friendship i think you should ask your friend about her. dont just come out and say it that will make it seem alittle akward. if this chick have you so head over hills that your kinda in stalker mood i think you should back down a little im not saying alot though. who knows she might be the girl for you.
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how can i help my butt and breasts to grow bigger? im sick of guys not liking me because i dont have curves. and when does the growing of your boobs kick in? at what age? i got my period almost 2 full years ago. shouldnt i have started growing?
well what i always tell people who ask this is eat but exercise. when you eat you get bigger which can get you curves. i suggest you find a good soul food place and eat some corn bread and stuff on that tip. now your breast it will take sometime. it depends on your family history. ask your mom or anyone in your family what age thier breast started to grow. it might not be ment for you to have them to honest. just wait in time they will fill out and the guy will be all over you. but if you gotta wait for curves and breast for guys to like you then i think you need to find a guy who likes you for you girl.
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i've been dating this guy for a few months and he hasn't said "i love you" to me....when do you think he will? :/
17/f
guys have big egos he wont say it till he knows he mean it. he might be waiting on you to say it. you have to wait for it you can rush him. if you say it first you might freak him out a little. give him time i know he will say it. to be honest he mgiht not feel it though that could be a reason he aint saying it yet
Ok what is something i can get my girlfriend for valintines day besides jewery or flower?
go to victoria secret its alway nice stuff thier. my bf always go thier for me on v-day i think she will like any thing from thier. or you can get her a outfit and some shoes thats always a plus
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18/f
I've liked my friend for a while and at my christmas party we were talking about relationships and we'd both just come out of one. We both said that we just want to have fun cos we're young but then we ended up kissing. After we were talking on msn and he asked if i have feelings for anyone so i said him and he apologised for what happened at the party and said if he knew he wouldnt have kissed me. Then at my friends New Years party it happened again but neither of us have mentioned it to each other and we're just acting like friends. So do i carry on with the way things are or try and do something to further the relationship? But im not very confident and wouldnt feel comfortable asking him out or anything.
Thanks!
i think he likes you too. if he keeps kissing you then im sure thiers a spark somewhere. you should talk to him and ask him if he dont want to be with you then why dose he keep kissing you. im sure you should get and honest answer. guys are sometimes hard to read it might just have been that moment you know.
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17/f and he's 18
We've dated 2 years but took a 2 month break a year ago.
Okay.
We decided to take another break on Sunday night, he said we had nothing in common and his parents and friends dont like me. But what hurt the most was when he said "I dont really see you in my future so i dont see the point in still dating" He said how people never marry their first love and if they do that they end up getting divorced because they have never been with other people.
I feel like he would have wanted to break up right then but I convinced him to just spend some time apart. So I thought about our relationship and realized if we got back together I would be the only one trying to change things and he wouldnt want to compromise on anything. I think I would be miserable in that relationship.
So today he texted me and said "I love you" and then a few minutes later said "Lets try to fix things thats if you still want to"
Honestly I'm not sure what to do. He is my first love and I want to be with him, but he said some pretty hurtful things and I'm not sure if HE is willing to make changes.
What should I do?
well you guys will be guys. they never know what they really want they are sometimes like kids in a candy store. i think he loves you but he is afraid of what will happen if yall stay togather. he might think he will miss out on a lot of great girls. from what you told me i think he wants to be with you. give him a chance. if things dont change and he dose the same thing again just let him got becuase he might be just stringing you along becuase he dont know what he wants yet. i think a brek is good for you all though. it gives yall times to think and hang with other people. your first love is someone special but you know the person after them might be even better.
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