I never turn away a question no matter how long,short,or stupid you think it might be.If you need an opinon i will give you mine from my experiences, and will let you know what i know.
Website: Tatianna
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This guy he used to flirt with me and I thought he liked me so I asked him out and he just wanted to be friends. Well now he doesnt really flirt with me no more and I feel like he hates me now and I want him to flirt with me and atleast talk to me and be my friend, how do I do that? (link)
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well first of all sit him down and tell him whyb dont you talk to me anymore okay i know i asked you out and you said you just want to be friends and im okay with that. but latley its like your trying to avoid me? and see what he says.
P.S (it might be a little akward but i can assure you that it will work)
good luck
tatianna
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I'm 21/f, he's 23.
So, there's this guy. We dated for awhile, then "broke up" but didn't. He was a pretty awful boyfriend, but he's turned into my best friend. We went through a very rough patch, thanks to his family (they hate me), and I kicked him out of my life, kinda. After a week, he called me, begging for another chance (at being friends), which, after much discussing and debating, I gave him.
Since then, he's been the sweetest, most appreciative guy I've ever met. I thought I had begun to fall out of love with him, but now all those feelings are rushing back. He hugs me, he cuddles me, plays me love songs (he told me once that the music he listens to tends to reflect what he's feeling)...I feel safe and right in his arms.
I said we couldn't be as close as we had been, but I can't seem to keep my guard up now. We seem to be growing even closer than we were, and I'm...well, scared. I don't know if he's had some serious epiphany or what, but he's like a completely different person now...more like, he's turned back into the guy I fell in love with the first time.
I keep telling myself it won't last, but the thing is it has lasted. I'm afraid to take it for granted, and to let him in like I can feel myself doing.
What's worse is I don't know if it's me that's changed or him. I can't tell if I'm just handling things better, or he's giving me less to have to handle.
How do I keep my walls up? Do I need to keep my walls up? How do I figure out if it's me or him?
Thanks, everyone. (link)
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it neighther of you ! i know tis hard to think some one changed i mean its REALLY hard but you have to give him the benifit of the dout that he has changed. because mostly NOBODY changes but if your heart tells you to its like i always say ''if you never try you never know (well in this case try again!!) so my advice is dont keep your walls up let em drop for the one you could've seen yourself being with.
good luck
Tatianna
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Kay, so this is going to sound like a stupid thing to say but i dont know if im bi or not.
I'm 16 years old and i mean ive always liked boys and still do, but in the past year or so i've been becoming more sexually attracted to females.
The thing is, i could never see myself having a proper relationship with a girl.
I was talking to my boyfriend about it and he's happy with me being bi because i just like boys more.
It's hard to describe but when i see a girl i can think "yeah shes pretty" or "hot", but i dont have any like deeper feelings, like wanting to be with them in a commited sense.
The whole idea of girl on girl action and things like that turn me on and i have this urge which seems to be more of a fantasy to do that with girls but does that really make me bi?
I mean, when i think of someone whos bi, i imagine they like girls and boys just as much and would want to have proper relationships with them.
Its good to be able to talk to my boyfriend about this stuff so he can make me feel comfortable no matter what, but i just dont really know if i am or not if that makes sense lol.
if someone can give me some advice that would be great xx (link)
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I dont think so b/c you can say a girl is pretty heck you can think anyone is pretty but that dont mean you like them
(but hey if you think you are ..........all im saying is follow you instincts!!!!! but i think your in a confusing stage)
hope you do whats right
tatianna
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Iam going to the technical college and there's this guy i like and that I think likes me to but he's 39 and iam only 19 and I think he's kind of old for me but I asked my cousin about it becouse I live with her and i wanted to see what she thought and she said that age is just a number. kevin bought me a coffee one day he offered to carry the coffee to the student lounge for me so i could drink it and he's always helping me with schoolwork so could anybody tell me if he likes me> (link)
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yea i know he like you go for it but in my opinon hes a bit old for you but love finds a way and it cant stop you
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ANYONE WHO ANSWER'S WILL RECIEVE A 5 because i thank you for reading my long situation!
im 18 years old and a female.
i have or USE to have a male best friend, whose now almost 17. we hung out alot and i secretly liked him but never told him and i think he secretly liked me too but then he got a girlfriend about three years ago and there STILL going out, without ever breaking up and they RARELY ever fight and are together pretty much 24/7 when either one doesnt have sports. recently or starting about a year ago, i go without seeing or talking to him months at a time. it kills me, but i feel like i shouldn't text him because if he missed me too he would text me right? keep in mind a few months ago he tried getting with me and i really wanted to do stuff with him, but i said i couldn't because it was so wrong but he's not like a player at all which shocked me. last time i saw him we were talking and he was like what happened to us? i was just like alot i guess..and he's like we're not like we use to be and i was like i know..and he was like i was always the one texting you asking what you were doing and i just smiled and he was like you know its true and i knew it was but i really dont see the point in texting him when he's always with his girlfriend... then my cousins and him we're gonna go back to their house and he was like i'll give you a piggy back ride :) then i was leaving my cousins and i see him outside his house waiting for me so i roll down my window and i was like.. what? and he gave me a hug and i was like i missed you... and then we just talked for like 20 min. and sometimes there were awkward silences and he just looked at me and smiled and i was like what are you thinking about...and he was like just random stuff :) and i was like, like what? and he just said ahh nothing. that night he looked at me like he wanted to kiss me and keep in mind we havent done ANYTHING physical, not even kiss. i havent talked to him since that and it's been about a month and i miss him SO much. but my friends feel it's best if i dont text him and try to keep my distance but he was my best friend... i dont want him out of my life forever but i still love him and wish every single night he could be mine. everyone in my family loves hiim and my friends do too and they're all like when is he going to break up with him girlfriend and go out with you? and i always say i dont know..never :(
i dont know what to do, i think about him 24/7 and its not an exaggeration. i think he knows im attracted to him and like him but he doesnt do anything about it. i dont think he would ever break up with his girlfriend because he's scared and also cuz she "gives it up" to him. any suggestions? i've tried moving on to other guys but NONE compare to him. they're nothing like him and i can't move on, i just cant.
ALSO, this was his first girlfriend and her first boyfriend. so there "first love's" which makes it worse. they both lost there virginity to each other too. and there both like the most popular kids in school. all the girls think's he's hot and all the boy's think's she's hot. and they go to the same school but i go to a different school....
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WOW YOU HAVE A REALLY BAD PROBLEM YOU SHOULD TEXT HIM BECAUSE IF YOU NEVER TRY YOU NEVER KNOW!YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DONT TELL HIM HE JUST ''WANT HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO'' YOU GUYS REALLY HAVE CHEMYSTRY BUT I THINK HIS HAS MORE WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND. BUT THATS DOSENT MEANS STOP TRYING DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU TO DO BUT IM SAYING TEXT HIM SO YOU COULD GET IT OF YOU CHEST I KNOW HE FEELS THE SAME WYA BUT I DONT THINK HE WANTS TO ADMIT IT. SO WHEN YOU TALK TO HIM BE ADY 4 ANYTHING NOT JUST THE GOOD STUFF BUT THE BAD STUFF TOO
GOOD LUCK TELL ME HOW IT GOES
Tatianna
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im 28 years old and i live with my parents due to being unemployed, but i have been looking for a new job for almost a year now. problem is if i do something good my mom never says shes proud of me. she likes to go on and on about how good my 21 year old brother is doing because he has a good paying job, a family, and has his own house. but if i try to bring anything up about my brother my mom accuses me of being jeolous which makes me mad because im not. i would just like to be successful like him because i admire him.i feel like i will not be successful because i have a learning disability that makes it hard to advance in my life. is their anyway to make my mom proud of me too. i feel like the black sheep of my family. thanks for answering my question (link)
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it seems to me that she is playing favorites witch is wrong but it dosent matter if she isnt proud of you as long as your proud of yourself because she isnt your pupet master if shes proud of you it gtill donsent change you life only YOU have the power to that!if you know you arent jealous of your brother and you admire him you are the only one you need to convince just be proud of youself because at the end
YOU are the one that matters
YOU are the only one that you need convince
and one day................
YOU ARE ALL YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE LEFT.
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okay lets start this off with im 14/f. and hes 14/m okay well he also has a girl friend. its very disapointing but any way last weeekend was our homecomeing were fresh man. and well i was dacening with my friends and he pulled me aside and said i looked beautiful and he loved my dress(aww how cute right?) so i gave him a hug and said you look dashing haha. well now hes on my mind at school sometiems . and monday i think it was i went to give my old boyfriend a hug because were still friends and the guy i like well alex well call him was there! so i gave um adam a hug then alex was like wow rachel way to give me a hug. ha i kinda was like oh im sorry heres a bigger hug for you then.! okay well everyday i pass him in the halls before 1st hour and before thirdrd and after school i see him because i have cheer practice and he has base ball..mmm. he gives me this crooked smile witch is really really cute. and he gives me a hug everyday now. oh and something eles you should know is ive dated some of his friends like adam and his friend scott and i almost went out with his friend edmond. oppps but i all ways thought he was the cutest out of them all. hes allways kinda been there in the back of my head. but hes moveing to the front of it know and im not srue what to do sence he does have a girl friend who he doesnt seem to close to but ive never seen them out of school together. but my questions are. does he have any feelings for me if u can tell should i back off sence he does have a girl frien? these are the things i need to know. (link)
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well it a fact that he likes you11 any body thats reads this can tell that but i dont think you should not back off ill admit it will start alittle drama but if you never try you'll never know you should only trust in love(and girl you are inlove even if you cant tell yet)bbbuuuuuuuuuuuuttttttttttttttt you have gone out with some of his friends and he has to see if it okay to go out with you (they still could have feelings for you and could ruin vhis friendship with them) but dont back off because if you do,this will be in the back of your head forever so take a chance
tell me how it goes!i wish you good luck!
Tatianna
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This year, being my freshman year in highschool, I decided to completely stay away from drama and what not. Of course, I some how got sucked in and spit out, losing my best friend and my personality in the process. It's not that I don't know who I am, it's just that life is so dull, I don't know what to do. I'm not making any new friends, I'm not interested in anyone, I'm just sitting here waiting for something exciting to happen. I used to be the person to cause the excitement. I feel so dull. I guess I'm just sort of thinking a lot. I read "The Last Lecture" the other day, and I guess, corny as it sounds, it go me thinking about life itself. Maybe I'm just spending to much social time in my head? It's just awkward around people now. I feel like I'm losing my friends because of this. I don't know how to snap out of this trance. It's not like it's always like this. I was grounded a few weeks ago for about 2 months from my comoputer, phone, and ipod, and I found that I'm much happier without these material items, but now that i'm ungrounded, I've gone back to being addicted to all of my things. I guess I just want to know what's causing this dullness inside of me...I feel like something really big is going to happen in my life soon but I'm not sure what it is or even if it will, so I'm waiting? I just don't see the point of life anymore (not in a suicidal way). Please help me snap out of this trance. (link)
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well if you do find anything or anyone exciting than YOU make excitement(im not saying do something that will get you grounded or something you will regret) youre just goind throug a really bad crises or faze if you thing something really big is going to happen then keep thinking that 9only if its good if its not forget about it)its not that you dont find people thats interesting,it's that you just HAVE to find something wrong with someone. see people PAST their flaws. instead of finding something wrong with someone think about the positives in someone. its going to be hard but it will pay off in a lon run
let me know how you are doing,
tatianna
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Im sorry that this is kind of long but i need help!
So last year, I was popular.. if you wanna say that.
Anyways , so me and this guy lets call Bob were reallyy close for about a year, talked 24/7. Wern't dating, but people thought we were, never kissed though.
Anyways, he was always there for me. This year I guess I got annoying to some people, like I guess
I say stuff, and me and this boy, we will call Jim were close, not as close , but anyways so I guess I started annoying Jim alot and he said I annoyed him because I always say im fat, but I really do think I am. Anyways Bob , always there for me. Said don't worry about it .. blahblah.
Anyways, about a month ago.. Bob didn't talk to me as much.. I asked him what was wrong? He said nothing, so I gave him space.. He started talking to my best friend.. And they talk everynight, and he only talks to me.. about once every two days.
I asked his close friend why he stopped talking to me... and he said because I was annoying.
I dont know what happend! Im really sad, cuz we had a really good thing going, and I like him..
I dont know what to do, but now latly Im ALWAYS like sad, and I'm almost always mad at my best friend, but not mean to her.
Someone Please please please help..
I really want him back
and im really sorry if this didn't make sense and was to long..
xoxo jessica
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dear jessica
i would say be youreself but in this case dont not to be rude or anything but give people lots of space so they be like... meybe shes change and you not fat thats low self estaem and eaven if you are you should be in the miror and say i look sooooo sexy today and say that every day and have some exersise tapes to help a little write me back bye
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okay, so heres the story. i broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. i just thought i needed a break and stuff. then one of my bestfriends liked him the whole time we going out. and today this kid i liked cause was over my ex boyfriend, asked me out and tonight at the dnace he broke up with me while my bestfriend and ex boyfriend are going out. i cryedd so much. i still love him and want to go back out with him. i dont know what to do. i don't know if this means anything but at the dance he kept looking at me and stuff and making sure i was okay. PLEASE HELPPP!!!! should i tell him i like him ? what should i do? i cant eat and i need to know fast before i start to loose weight... (link)
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well my modo has always been follow your heart and in this case i think you should REALY follow my modo if you love him you you should tell him and if hes feels the same than you know that he made a huge mistake by breakin up with you
and my other advice is leave him along let him go because uf he broke up with you (foe whatever reason) he ovolsly need time to think about a great thing hes giving up.....you dont let his mistake affect you.you go out have fun and try to 4get about hin but the first you do is EEEAAATTTT!!!!!! BECAUSE YOUR KILLING YOURSELF FOR HIM i know you love him but but not eating is not him going to com eback thats something you got to do youreself cause youre litteraly killing youre dill with it in a healthy way write me back bye
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My best friend has liked me for a few years. We've been close to dating before, but I got scared and thought I still had feelings for my ex and called things off. I've liked him again for a while now, so I'm considering trying it again. The thing is, I'm leaving for college next year. Seeing him won't be an issue because he will be at the same college, but is it a bad idea to start a relationship before college? I'm not going to spend all my time with him...I'm going to make sure that I make my own friends and have my own life, but does anyone have an experience with this, or even just any opinion? That would be great. (link)
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hey i been in that same problem my friend from elementry school like ,me and i liked him but it was before school so heres what you do if youre hearty tells you that you want to be with him you should and you guys go to the same school thats even better! that means youll be together all the time so take a chance and a risk and be with him cause if you dont youll realy regret it
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hey, how do you start modeling? do you have to pay money to do it?
i'm 14, five feet and 100 pounds. can i do it?
let me know how i can get started. (link)
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look up the parent book and find glamor ,odel talent im in it it cost$85.oo
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FYI: I am a 20 year-old recent college grad. Both men I am referring to in this question are only slightly older than me and finishing their degrees.
"Joe" and I began dating 2 1/2 years ago. Our relationship was generally good when last summer (1 1/2 years in)he decided that he didn't want a serious girlfriend. Nothing mean or ugly, he was just being honest. I tried all summer to change his mind but finally gave. (We remained close friends.)
After dating around for a little while, I began seeing "Michael". Our relationship was somewhat rocky because we had both come out of relationships and he had been hurt many times before. During this time, Joe began to develop interest in having a relationship. I thought it over and eventually decided to try things again with Joe. (I stayed in close contact with Michael.)
Joe and I have a really easygoing relationship, but he refuses to discuss a more serious commitment. When we discuss it, he says he doesn't see us going in that direction at this point but is always careful to avoid losing me entirely. In the past few months, Michael has attempted to see other people to no avail. He is convinced that I am the only one for him. We have been getting along beatuifully, and Michael has done everything he to prove to me that we belong together. (Both are fully aware of each other and the current status.)
Michael wants me to leave Joe and become engaged to him. (He's even looking at rings.) I am seriously considering this. I love both men very much (in somewhat different ways) and could she myself happily married to either (in 2-5 years). The difference here is that Michael is willing to commit and Joe is not. Both have treated me very well; although Michael is romantic (flowers) while Joe is considerate (fixs my car). Is there any point in continuing to wait for Joe or should I leave him and accept the proposal from Micheal? (link)
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gurl you can not wait on no man. you have to chooose the person who you willnot wait around for. he might take 5 weeks just to screw in a light bulb.
good luck
tatianna
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see this guy i have always talked online b/c thats how it is,has gotten grounded from the computer.
and i cant talk to him on the phone because it would be:
1)too akward
2)he always has the phone line busy
how else can i get to him [without giving him a letter]
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snaek on the computer when yo parents not there
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Hi, there's this boy who i really like ive had a crush on him since 6th grade how do i get him to like me? (link)
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well he probily like for you and you cant act like your not you cuz he will think this is not the girl i new in6 grade so ack yourself
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My second best friend told this guy (who's sorta my friend.. we're cool) that I just like flirting with (which I did often) that I USED to like him on AIM yesterday. He gave me weird looks and didn't talk to me all day. I am mad at my friend for doing this because hes in a lot of my classes and I'm afraid that it's going to get really akward and it wasn't her place to tell him, anyway. What should I do so this won't happen again? What should I do about my guy friend? (She's already done this 3 or 4 times to other friends this year).
Please help me! (link)
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ok heres what you do if your friend keeps doing this then she not your friend to hurt you like that to prevent this from happening again then dont tell her about who you like someone thats whet diary is for cause she probuly wats to date him and tryin to ruin you
best regaurds
tatianna
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ok guys her's the deal. i think i like my best friend as much more than a friend. I just dont knwo what to do because i know there is another guy that she likes and if something did happen between us, id be worried in case something happened our friendship would be ruined. i dont know what to do. please help me (link)
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ok heres what you do tell her because if you never try you never know dont let yor faer get into the way that you think is right
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Okay so my best friend is dating this guy... We'll call him brayden. And she is always telling us to have sex and she doesn't care. I've even gone down on him in front ohf her and she laughed about it. Last night he stayed at my ouse cause his mom locked him out of his house. and we had sex. And we both enjoyed it.. ALOT. and we tried to tell my best friend and she didnt believe me cause we always joke about it. He wants to do it again. and to tell you the truth i want to also... What shouldd we do. She says its okay with her. and we have even like done things like a 3 some together but no actual intercourse until last nnight. Im 17/f.
should we continue having sex? (link)
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well you should not be having sex at your age you are hurting your best friend that could end yall friendship she might have been ok with that on the outside but on the inside she might be hurting and is the boy ok with that???? he is going to end yall realationship and that boy might have HIV'S that can turn into aid's and all three of yall can die and thats really nasty what you are doing????????
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im going to try and keep this short because theres only 2000 max. well ive been friends with this girl for over a year now and have had many problems. shes a senior & im a sophomore in highschool. i met her through my brother who is also a senior.. last summer she screwed me over and made me believe she was alaways here for me and i could trust her and then talked behind my back and ignored me and hung out w other people but me. and then made me feel worthless, yes having me as her pet on the side only when she had no one else. then we became close again after 4 months of not talking.. and we became really close and really good. we tell each other how we feel and what bothers us; and wen we fight hardcore we always get passed it.. but shes always ditching me and with other ppl and i guess i get jealous but she says she does too. she doesnt even make an effort to ask me to hang out with her.. i honestly dont know what to do.. can people really change? is she lying wen she says she cares if shes lied in the past about things? do i continue being close with her? the honest truth is i cant see us not being friends... i dont know what it is but she always makes me happy-with little things she says or does.. i dont know what to do.. because then theres other times where she screws me over, makes me feel horrible and bad and i get upset alot about stuff she says or does.. i just feel like sometimes she doesnt care about us being friends beause of the things shes says and they way she acts sometimes. but wen were good and close im nothing but happy and am always smiling.. but theres still jealousy. and i dont know why because she has nothing i want? if anything, she told me she wants what i have... but i dont know what to do. i cant stand being hurt and fooled by her anymore... but shes the onlyone who always makes me truly happy. i could type on forever about our friendship but ill stop here for now... any ideas? (link)
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ok heres what you do if she keeps dissing you tell
her how you feel about that tell her that you cant be a pet on the side any more tell her that you cant deal with being double crossed no more
like the wise saying ''there are other friends in the sea well not exactly like that but you know what i mean
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best regaurds
tatianna
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I've been broken up with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 months now. I'm still really upset, he seemed to care for me so much while we were together, but the day we broke up he just stopped talking to me. I literally talk to him MAYBE once every week. I hate thinking about him everyday, and why he doesn't care, etc. I don't know what to do to stop thinking about him. I've tried hanging out with others, but there's still time once I get home to think about him. Any suggestions? I'm really hurting. I'm listening to the song outta my system over and over right now, because that's exactly how I feel. :/ (link)
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if you cant get over him then you get out of himand you should talk to someone who you can relate to like you can write him a letter about how you feel and dont send it to him to avoid embarrasmentso you canlet out all your feelings on the paper
goodluck
tatianna
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