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Does he like me back?
Iam going to the technical college and there's this guy i like and that I think likes me to but he's 39 and iam only 19 and I think he's kind of old for me but I asked my cousin about it becouse I live with her and i wanted to see what she thought and she said that age is just a number. kevin bought me a coffee one day he offered to carry the coffee to the student lounge for me so i could drink it and he's always helping me with schoolwork so could anybody tell me if he likes me>
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It doesnt matter. You two cannot work.
"I asked my cousin and she said age is just a number"
No, age is not just a number.
Stages of life, sweetheart. As you get older, age matters less than it did the year before, but it still matters. Why?
Because, at 40 he has experienced alot of what you will experience for the next 15 years. He's pretty much a fully formed person who (if he is even moderately mature for his age) can relate to you far more easily than you can relate to him.
Basically, there is no equality in relationships like that. You cannot ever be on his level, he's got 20 years on you.
You should look for guys 1-3 years older than you at 19. Younger won't be attractive, most girls don't have the patience to date a younger man until much later in life, but you shouldn't skew too much older. Simply put, if a guy is 5+ years older than you and relates to you directly, thats a problem. A 24 year old shouldn't be on equal terms with a 19 year old, and if this guy is 40...
If he is pursuing you (I dont know, from your information) then you need to recognize that there is a reason someone his age goes for 19, and its not good.
If he's not, then let him go about his business. Just realize that the sex appeal of a 19 year old girl can override reason and rationality in men who don't want to resist it. For him, its flattering to have a young woman interested because it means he's still "sexy". For you, its flattering to think that you might be mature enough to relate well to a 40 year old man.
You arent. Either he is less mature than he should be (which will become a problem as YOU mature, because if he's that far behind at 40 in two years he won't be much farther and you likely will) or hes more mature and just going for the closest thing he can legally get to jail bait.
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19 and 40 is a huge age gap. You're barely legal, can't get into a bar or club and he has very real adult responsibilities and problems and the mindset of one.
You're still figuring the world out as well as your life. He has more maturity, life experiences and would be criticized and perhaps ostracized if he went out with you. Also your world, tastes, interests etc. won't appeal to him.
He bought you a coffee as a friendly gesture for a classmate as far as I can tell. I don't think he likes you beyond that. Even if he did what would your parents think or do? How would people react? You both would wind up with constant negativity around you. Bottom line, keep him as a friend and find someone closer to 19-25 for yourself.
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yea i know he like you go for it but in my opinon hes a bit old for you but love finds a way and it cant stop you
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