Well hello kiddies...If you're in need of an honest advice then you've come to the right person... because I'll say WHATEVER I think is right whether you like it or not...
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OK THERES THIS BOY THAT I WENT OUT WITH LIKE A MONTH AGO(HIS NAME IS BEN) AND I MEAN HE WAAS GREAT AND STUFF BUT I LIKED MY NEIGHBOR EVEN THOUGH IM NOT GETTING ANYWHERE WITH HIM I LOVE HIM STILL BUT I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR BEN ,BUT KNOW HE HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND BUT IM THE TYPE OF GIRL THAT LOOKS ON THE OUTSIDE OF A BOY FIRST AND BEN JUST WASNT WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR BUT ON THE INSIDE HE WAS NOW YOUR PROABABLY GOING OT SAY LOOKS DONT MATTER AND THEY MATTER TO ME BECAUSE I DESERVE A HOT GUY LIKE MY NEIGHBOR BUT HE IS JUST NOT LIKE BEN IN THE INSIDE? (link)
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If you're not that hot yourself goodluck finding a guy who looks good inside and out. There are actually very few of them and most of them are already taken. May I also remind you that in the real world everyone has their own flaws. Nobody is perfect! You have to really decide what's important to you, good looks or a good heart. If you're neighbor has a girlfriend already and you said yourself you're not getting anywhere with him, why are you wasting your energy on him? Look around you and you'll see there's actually more to life than good looks. Sometimes the average looking ones are more fun to be with than those hot looking guys.
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does it hurt to have sex if it is your first time?i eman is there a lot of pain involed for the girl? (link)
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There is a bit pain but it doesn't really involved a lot pain. Sometimes you'll bleed a little but not all girls bleed on their first time....Most important thing is make sure you're mentally and emotionally ready for it before doing it!
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I have two beautiful Shih Tzu dogs who had puppies together. I adore my dogs and their puppies. I gave one of the little darling puppies to my friend and her daughter. Her daughter has health problems. I made it very clear if she was unable to keep the puppy, I prefer her to return the puppy to me. Less than a week after I gave her the puppy, she has given the puppy to her friend Heather, a woman I do not even know. She says that she gave her the puppy until it is housebroken because she does not want the puppy around her daughter. I gave her this puppy that I could have easily sold for over $500 and now she has given it away. How can I make myself clear that I want the puppy back? I made it a point to place these puppies with people I know because they are such important little animals to me. The parent dogs are like my children and the babies are like my grandchildren. I feel insulted, angry, and hurt that my friend went against the direct conditions of me giving her the dog and I want the puppy back so I can place him with someone I know. (link)
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I would call her up and ask her if it's possible to ask her friend to give you the puppy back. Explain to her how you feel but be sure to express yourself in a very nice way to avoid ugly confrontations. Since you gave it to her as a gift, it's actually hers now. It was however very unethical of her to give the puppy away. She should have declined your offer in the first place if she wasn't sure that she could not take good care of it. There is a chance that she might not be able to give the puppy back to you, in which case just thank her gracefully. I know it's infuriating but that's how life goes. Sometimes good things happen to you and sometimes bad things happen to you. Your situation is one of the bad things in life. Goodluck!
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If you're still stuck on an ex who has a new g/f, are you as pathetic as you feel? (which is very pathetic) (link)
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Definitely not! You're only feeling that way because you still have feelings for him and he doesn't. Time heal all wounds. Yours will heal too. Try focusing your attention on other things aside from him. Do fun stuff with your friends. The more busy and occupied you are the less you'll be thinking of him.
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I'm a 16 year old girl. Lately I have been really distant and detached from everything, and I don't know what makes this attractive or if the moons are aligned or what, but all of the sudden I'm getting all of this attention from guys at school. Any other time I'd be thrilled to death, but right now I'm just kinda like, "Eh." The guys that have professed their feelings, indirectly or through my friends, are great as friends, but I'm just not interested in them in a romantic way. A month ago I'd even be happy to go out on a date with whomever, but now I want to be boyfriend-less and have a good time hanging with my friends and concentrating on school.
The one guy I do have a little bit of interest in is currently into someone else.
How do I turn these guys down without hurting their feelings or making an awkward situation? I still want to hang around with them with my friends, just not in one-on-one sessions.
Ugh. (link)
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Good for you! I think you are on the right track. It's pretty normal to feel that way. Maybe you've matured up a bit and got your priorities straight. Now is actually a good time to have fun and just hang around with friends. There will be plenty of time to be seriously involved with someone in the future...You're only in highschool (assuming you are) once in a lifetime.
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Ok, I don't wanna sound brutal or anything, but my BFF (let's call her Emma) is so freakin' boring. I'm getting into going to parties, dances, and other fun stuff. Emma is the total opposite. She'll sit at home, watching TV, or sitting on her computer for 5 hours. I really feel like she's holding me back. What should I do? (link)
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Does she say you can't go if she can't go? If not, then you're the one who's holding yourself back. If it's not her thing, then I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you go out and party without her...but if she doesn't want you to go because she can't go then she's being plain selfish.
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I guess, any answer to this is just a matter of opinion, but here goes....Um...Ok, my ex b/f has a new g/f, and they seem to being going strong. But, in school he seems so unhappy. I don't know. I still really like him. And I'm not saying that I won't date other people for him, or not hang out with my friends to just sit around and wait for him. But, I don't know. What do you guys think? (link)
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I think you're in denial here my friend. You said it yourself they are going strong. Just because he may seem unhappy at school doesn't mean he's not getting along with her girlfriend. Maybe there are other things that's on his mind. Face the fact that it's over between the two of you and that there may never be a chance of reconcillation. If you catch yourself thinking of him, focus your attention on other things. Time heals all wound. Your's will heal too.
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I'm sure everyone's sick of hearing about these type of problems, but...there's someone at school who I'm really interested in. He has a girlfriend, and I'm fine with that, but I'd like to be closer with him friend-wise. He comes up to me sometimes and occasionally sits with me for long periods of time. The only problem is, I'm extremely shy and have a lot of trouble conversing with him. I usually end up staring into space, wishing I knew what to say, while he talks a little bit. Of course I don't stay completely silent the entire time, but I feel like my lack of interesting things to say is keeping us from becoming real friends. What should I do? (link)
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Who are you kidding here, girl? Deep down inside you wanted to be friends with him in hopes that he will find you interesting too...but don't worry that's completely normal. BE YOURSELF. Althought it's kinda hard being yourself when your major crush is beside you, but try harder. Pretend he is just one of your closest friend. Try to open up a conversation on a topic you're well informed of or something that is of your interest so you won't find yourself staring in space, but don't blabber too much. Most guys don't like girls who blabbers a lot. While playing this game, keep your eyes open. Who know's you might find another big fish in the sea. Goodluck!
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Alright, my friend liked this guy and so did i. It all looked as if he liked my friend, but when she asked him out she found out he liked me... then he was being all a jerk to my friend... but she still likes him and can't stop liking him... ummm... then he asked her out cause i guess he realized he was being a jerk... she said i don't know... he said all suprised "You don't know!?!?"... then she talked it over with her other friend and she said no... she still likes him and now knows i like him... should I go out with him... my friend said to me the other day "Why would u want to go out with him if you saw him be such a jerk to me?" and i though about that and can't decide, and i'm afraid my friend will hate me if i do but i like him. (link)
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If he asked you out, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go out with him...but if you're thinking of asking him out - forget it! Since you initiated the date it just shows that you're more interested in him than he is to you and there's a big chance that he'll be acting like a jerk towards you...but if he ask you out then it probably means that he likes you too and will most likely treat you with respect...I mean, why would a guy ask a girl out if he's not interested, right? As for your friend, if she is indeed a friend she would understand. Try explaining to her that you wanted to find out for yourself what he's really like.
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I have a boyfriend, David. His ex-girlfriend is my best friend. I made the mistake of allowing him to come over while she was over. I know that he has no feelings for her what-so-ever, but she likes him. She was hanging all over him. I couldn't get her to stop.Now she is saying how she wants him back, she won't get him, but how do I get her to leave us alone without being mean? (link)
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If she really was your TRUE FRIEND as you think she is, she would leave the two of you alone. A boyfriend is not "some thing" you could borrow or take back whenever you feel like it. That's just wrong. So if I were you, you and your boyfriend should try avoiding her. If you find yourself in a situation where you have to discuss this with her just tell her exactly how you feel but say it without being rude otherwise you loose. If she doesn't consider your feelings then she is not a friend at all...I'm sure you have other friends who's worth your while.
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My daughter is currently 13 years old. She's fairly mature and doesn't dress slutty. Now, she has liked this guy for about half a year. Today, he asked her out. They want to go see a movie with another couple their age on monday. I don't know if I should let her go. What is your stance on this? Is 13 too young to be dating? (link)
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I think you should only let her go if there are other friends going with them. Also, set a curfew and make sure she follows it. If not, then she should get some kind of punishment. Never let her go on a date alone. Not at this age at least.
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Ok, I still really like my ex boyfriend. But, he has a new gilfriend, that he supposedly really likes. *Rolls eyes* But, my friends and I have caught him SO many times staring at me while I walk in the halls at school. And I wrote my friend this hilarious note, and he read it and laughed. Like, a lot. But, he doesn't make any effort to talk to me or anything. My friends think he still has feelings for me, but he's with this other girl and he's afraid to pursue anything with me. My friends also think I should try making him jealous and "flaunt it". Any ideas on how to do that?
-Thanks. (link)
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Get over him, Girl! If he supposedly (rolls eyes) does have "any" feelings for you and he's with that other girl, doesn't that tell you something about his character? Honestly, I think you're the one who wants him so bad and not him wanting you so bad. There are lots of fish in the sea!
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Here's the situation:
I am a Baptist. My in-laws and my husband are Methodists. My husband and I attend a Baptist church. Under most circumstances, I don't pay attention to denominational differences, because I think we're all going to the same place anyway.
The problem is that my in laws, especially my mother-in-law, have made it clear that they don't like the fact that we're going to the "wrong" church. Earlier we even suggested that they could come to church on Christmas Eve with us, and my mother-in-law burst into tears and ran out of the room.
Evidently, the fact that I am not a Methodist offends them deeply. I don't want to join a different church just to please them, though. Any thoughts on what to do that doesn't involve hurting everyone's feelings? (link)
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You are in the right here my friend. You don't join any religion just to please someone and it also doesn't matter what religion you're into because we are all praising one God anyways. You should discuss your feelings towards this to you husband, HE should explain this things to his mom and NOT YOU. She might not take it very well coming from you but if it's coming from his own son she might look at things differently.
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One of my friends at college, let's call him Try, seems to have developed feelings for me. Isn't that great? Well, not really. As much as I'd like to see him happy, I like another guy, Catch for the purposes of this excersize.
I made a post on a messageboard implying I had feelings for a guy. I was referring to Catch. I didn't figure there was any way anyone could interpret it as being anyone BESIDES Catch.
Part two. I sign up for livejournal so it's easier to talk to Try while he's back in Taiwan, halfway across the world. Consequently, I can now see all his private posts on HIS livejournal. Turns out, Try was hoping it was HIM I was talking about. And there were also random outbursts about how it was [female name, let's say Throw] all over again. Now, I know of his history with Throw, and I don't want to be another Throw.
Now I feel like I know stuff I shouldn't, and I feel bad about making Try feel bad, and I still care about Catch more than anything. It's a mess.
RuntimeException! What's a girl to do? (link)
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You should make it clear to Try that you have no feelings whatsoever for him except being best friends. Maybe start talking to Try about Catch -hopefully he would be able to take a hint. Don't let him go on thinking you do have feelings for him or you'll hurt him more. Act fast, Act now!
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Hi i am a little confused i am a female and i dont have sex with my boyfriend untill a we hit 3 months so then i pleasure my self by finguring myself I am not sure How to do it the proper way do you think u can help Love,
Confused girl (link)
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There is no proper way. If it feels good then you must be doing it right. If it doesn't pleasure you then that means you're doing it wrong.
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Look I really love my boyfriend weve been together for 3 years and I want to take it to the next level(sex)and he wants to know if im really sure oh here's the catch im a virgin he knows of course so what should I do???????????? (link)
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If you're really ready to take it to the next level, why are you seeking for advice? Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to have sex. Even if the majority of the advice you receive from here will be not to do it, would you really listen to us? Anyways, if you ever go there make sure he's wearing protection or you'll be sorry.
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If you want to know the background then go to 'The best way to be a bitch'
Jon pissed me off really rather a lot since then because he would NOT give up at all.
Now Andrew has always been slightly involved in this saga but it just got more complicated.
When I first told him what Jon had said he said 'What would you have done if Bill or I had done it' in a weird way that seemed to be a hint.
Since then we have spent a lot of time sitting talking to each other,and according to some people flirting.We have loads in common and I like him a LOT so it could be true from my part but I'm not sure about him.
The other day he suggested that we should pretend to be dating to get at Jon and I agreed.
What do you think is going on?
What should I do? (link)
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I think you have too many guys involved in this thing. You shouldn't "pretend" to be involved with anybody so you could get even with some other guy of yours - It's too childish...unless of course "you ARE" still a child, then go on and play ring around the rosie. You'll soon realized when you've matured that what you're doing now is plain dumb.
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I have a friend who is a really good friend of mine and she has boyfriends like all the time but she is not a slut or a hoe.These guys ask her to do all these things withher like touch her and everything and she is afraid to say no cuz it would ruin there relationship so she does them with him I just dont want her to get hurt what am i to do!!!!! Love,Help (link)
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Just tell her exactly how you feel. Hopefully she'll listen to you.
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I really don't like this teacher at my school. She is mean to everyone and nobody likes her. I really want to pull a prank on her because I'm so angry but what should i do? Should I prank her, or just live with it the rest of the year? (link)
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Almost everyone hated a certain teacher at some point of their lives. What comes around goes around...Why give yourself bad karma by pulling a prank on her?...I'd say live with it!
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Once upon a time... I thought I had a really great friend. She and I really spent lots of time together after we graduated from university, we majored in the same programs. One night we went together to a bar, not to pick up guys but just to have a girls night out. During our girls night out she left me at the bar to dance with a guy she met (yes so much for girls night out). I had a drink with me but kept looking at the dance floor over my shoulder to make sure my friend was doing okay since the guy she was dancing with had had quite a bit to drink. I suppose that while I frequently turned to look over my shoulder a man that had been next to me (whose face I cannot remember or recall)had slipped the Date Rape drug into my drink. Now do not get me wrong I'm not a dumb woman, I would never get up and leave my drink and then come back to it, but it must have happened so quickly, just as I glanced behind me. I woke up the next day alone on the couch of a house I had never been to before. I was loosely dressed and can remember only having been at the bar and then waking up. I remember nothing of what had happened that night. I immediately ran out of the house and asked someone what street I was on. When I found that I was only a 20 minute walk from my apartment I snuck quietly back inside the house and tried to find my purse and cell phone. I managed to find my purse but all my money, credit card (luckily maxed right out) and cell phone were gone. I left without them because I was very frightened being where I was. I went home. I went to the hospital later after having discovered differences in myself. I feared the worst and I was correct. I was given a rape test and they found traces of the drug in my body.
I had been raped and knew nothing and remembered nothing. It was almost better that way. The only problem was that I could not remember the man who had been sitting next to me at the bar. I called my friend hoping she could help to identify the man. She immediately told me that she didn't value our friendship anymore because I had deliberately left her at the bar, and as she claims 'and being an embarassment since I was acting so slutty'. I told her about not remembering anything and she called me a liar. I told her that her opinion of me didn't matter, all I needed was to know the name or a description of the man I left with and then I would leave her alone forever if I had to. SHe told me she would have no part in my lies, claiming that she didn't want to be responsible for an innocent man being prosecuted just because "I wanted the attention".
I guarantee you, with the hospital results to support me, that I was in fact raped without remembering.
She continued to spread the rumour that I was a liar and when I had the police contact her she claimed to have never been there with me at all.
All that I wanted was for this man to be brought to justice and that he be unable to destroy someone else's life the way he destroyed mine.
I was never able to positively identify the man and my case remains considered unsolved. Those others in the club told the police that they saw nothing, I'm not really sure if they did or not and the only other person I knew in the bar was my friend.
This incident happened 3 years ago and since I have been able to recover and return to a somewhat normalcy. However, recently (within the past few months) this girl has been leaving messages at my house and work for me to call her. Finally I called hoping she had wished to tell me something she knew or reconcile things between us.
Our conversation over the phone consisted of her telling me that she knew the name and address of the man who raped me, but she still refused to tell me. Saying that she wants me to pay her money or else she will tell me nothing. I'm almost ready to pay her, I want to punish this man so badly. The poeple I have consulted about this told me that she could be prosecuted if I were to tell the police. But I know that if I have her charged or arrested that I will lose all hope of knowing this mans identity, she would never tell me anything if I am responsible for damaging her record.
My question to you is what do I do now? Should I press charges and hope that she will give up the information she knows? Or perhaps should I pay her what she wants and finally get closure? (link)
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I am so sorry for what had happened to you. It's good to hear that you've somewhat recovered from that very awfull incident. Press charges against her if you CAN PROVE HER GUILTY otherwise do you really want to go through all those trouble again? I know that it frustrates you not knowing who did it and that guy is still on the loose but you need to move on and face the fact the you may never know who did it. If this is still bothering you big time I suggest you go to counseling. Please don't be ashamed to go. If this is what it takes for you to move on then you'll have to do it. As for your former friend, please stay very very far away from her. She's bad news and will bring you nothing but trouble.
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