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I have a friend who is a really good friend of mine and she has boyfriends like all the time but she is not a slut or a hoe.These guys ask her to do all these things withher like touch her and everything and she is afraid to say no cuz it would ruin there relationship so she does them with him I just dont want her to get hurt what am i to do!!!!! Love,Help
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You need to comfront your friend and ask her if she likes it. If she says no, then tell her that your scared that shes going to get hurt and that you really care abuot her. If she says that shes scared it will ruin there relationship, then tell her that she can find another guy that doesn't want to do those bad things! :)
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Explain to her that if saying no to something that will demean her will ruin her relationship, then she never had a relationship to begin with. Tell her that even though YOU don;t judge her and never will, explain to her how that type of behavior may appear to others, and THAT is enough to ruin more than her relationship, that's enough to slay her REPUTATION ( which follows you a lot longer than a relationship ). Tell her that you care a great deal about her and don't wish to see her perceived in a way you KNOW to bew untrue. She may be allowing such things to happen because she feels a little less about herself than she should. Try and reinforce alot of the good things about her and see if that will raise her esteem enough to realize that she doesn't have to engage insuch activity to get the praise she feels she deserves. You're one hell of a friend.
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Just tell her exactly how you feel. Hopefully she'll listen to you.
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A guy touching a girl doesnt exactley mean she is to get hurt. Though if she keeps letting guys take advantage of her that is the position she will be in. Telling a guy she doesnt want to be touched will not ruin a relationship and even if it does she shouldnt be with guys like that anyways. Tell her that and you are a good friend to be watching out for her like that. Good job!
-shay :-)
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