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Hey Im Sam!!
A couple of my friends say that im good for giving advice and sometimes am motherly :\(JOE) which could be good in certain situations cuz im very responsible and try to make people feel good about themselves.So i figured id give this advice thing a shot. So if it turns out good you guys can ask me anything you want i wont reject anyones question i promise. AsK AwAy!!

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im 13/f
what should i do if my crush would ask me out or something, but my friends realllyy like him too?
(i have this one friend, she likes the same guy that i do. she says she loves him and everything. but she doesnt know that i've like him since like 5th grade.) i have an idea that he kinda likes me too. i hear that he talks about me to his friends, and whenever im around him he asks me for hugs. im not sure if its just playful, or actually something. im not sure how to react if something happened, and he asked me out?? nfsap idk. im really confused. any tips????
-stuckkkkk

Well if this guy does ask you out i say you go for it, but explain to ur future bf and your frined your feelings and your frineds feelings. Itll probably tunr out that your frined really only tihnks hes hot and just loves the idea of him, because she cannot possibly love him. In the end she will realize that you like him so much more than she does, and deserve him so much more.Plus, she sounds like the type of girl who gets a new *love of her life* every other week* If im wrong im not trying to be rude or offend your frined either. I hope i could help. Sammerz

My dad died when I was ten and I acted wierd. I didn't cry very much at all. I only cried once or twice. Now I'm 13 and I don't cry about it still. It makes me feel guilty, and I don't know why I can't cry. It also makes me mad because everybody thinks I'm over it, but I'm really not. The last time I cryed about it was last night. But the wierd thing is, is about a month ago I whent to these family riunons, and just started crying for no reason. So here is my question: Am I a freak because I don't cry, and how can I make it so that I don't have the sudden outbursts? Can you help?

No youre not a freak. When i was 11 i lost my greatgrandfather and i was very very very close with him. I bawled my eyes out for a long time when i found out and i was so sad forever. But people deal with their pain differently than others. As long as you know that you love your dad nothing matters, and the reason why you cry now is because your still not over his death, and thats understandable. The family reunion probably made you think of your dad and thats why your were so sad then. Its ok to have sudden outbursts, and only time can heal that. I know that your dad wouldnt want you to feel guilty now, and you dont deserve having everyone tihnk your over it. Everyone handles this faster than other. If you wanna talk just IM me at Sammerz619
Im sorry for your loss, i hope i can help

this guy found me on myspace and said i was really cute. hes really cute too and he said he just moved to my city. and he told me where he lived by and its really close to me. well he was like can i do a mapquest? cause im not sure how close u live. i wasnt thinking and i gave him my address and stuff for mapquest. now hes always like we should hangout and stuff. and hes like just turned 18. and he always talks about how much he drinks..and smokes...and i dont know im worried. what if he like comes to my house or something?.....

Well this isnt good. The internet is so unsafe u never wanna give out information like that!!Im not critizing but he may say hes 18 and put in a hot picture and stuff and they could really be some like 60-year-old sex offender lesbian!!!Im sorry to scare you but this is really serious. I tihnk that you should tell your parents about this they would kno whats best to do. Also you could try saying that your boving but that might not work. Another thing, if all else fails go meet that guy see what hes really like, but bring soem big macho tough guy friends with you. I hope a helped a little. Sammerz

i've been best friends with this girl since 6th grade. and we've always had good time together. but ever since march she's started to hang out w. different people and we've been talking a lot lessand sometimes i feel like i hate her. i'm in florida rite now and i didnt tell her that i was comming down here. and she's on AiiM alot and i havent talked to her...should i talk to her on AiiM? or shood i let her talk to me first?

i'll rate 5`z

Well i think you need to let this girl know how you feel. If you guys are as close of friends as you say, she will understand. Sometimes at this age people feel like they need to do things and hang out with certain people in order to be cool, but they dont realize in doing that they are hurting the people around them who care about them. If you ever wanna talk for more advice or anything just IM me at Sammerz619. I hope i helped

Dear Sam I am the sexiest person you know and u still want me terribly!!!!! GUESS WHO

IM GONNA GUESS THAT THIS JOE! haha who else is that conceided

ok my bf (lets call him ed) was talking about running away. then i was talking about running away. we both have some family problems that we want to get away from. and his friend(lets call him bob)is just a huge risk taker. and one night i was talking to ed and he said that me and him should run away together:-\ and then he said bob would go with us. well, its been about a month now and we sarted talking about how ed didnt want to do it anymore because he is even more sad. and now i dont know if were going or not. i dont know what he means by he is too sad...do you think that means he wants to kill himself or something?
please help me

Well for starters running away to begin with isnt too smart or safe. Im not critizing but its very irresponsible and will just mkae things worse. Now about *ed* I think you need to talk to him about how you feel and how scared you are. He needs to know that he has someone to care about them and will always be there for him.I hope i helped. IM me anytime at Sammerz619

i have a car and someone keyed it... also, they egged it and put ketchup and sweet n sour sauce on it! ugh! i cant believe someone would do such a thing! also, they put a used pad on it. it had blood on it and everything. SO GROSS! Also, they put a used tampon on top of it. My windows are broken and everything. What should i do?

Well im VERY sorry to hear about your car. After you take it to the auto place and figure out a way to pay for the damages, try to think of if youve ticked anyone off lately, whether it was a close frined who u hurt, or someone u may have yelled at before going home or going wherever you were going before this. Also think if anyone saw you getting out of your car when this happened. Again im really sorry what they did was disgusting. I hope you get your car fixed soon. Sammerz

okay so basically my dad said he is moving out .. him moving out = me moving some place else because my mom cannot afford this house we live in .. what am i going to do .. im leaving my friend jen if i move and she is basically my only BEST friend right now .. because i dont hang out with any of my other friends because well i dont know why but i feel like im losing all of my friends and that all i have left is jen and now im probably going to move away .. this is so hard for me because i lost my aunt on christmas and she was my best friend and i cant deal with this anymore and i dont know what to do.. please help me ..

Ok well im very sorry to hear about your parents and your aunt, but maybe you could convice BOTH of your parents to stay in the same town when they move. That way, if your staying with either parent you can still be close to your friends. Also, say your mom gets full custody, your dad would still have to pay a monthly child support to help you guys out...The thing is to remember to always stay positive ok. Keep in touch with Jen by like having her stay at your house every weekend or something. If you want anymroe advice IM me at Sammerz619. Hope i helped.

I still bite my nails & i just can't help it! i wanna get a manicure & all that stuff. do u have any advice for me?

Ok well i pick my nails when im really nervous and it bugs the crap out of me! so what i do is cut my nails pretty low but not too low that its dangerous. So when u get your nails done just be like can u make them short so that when i look at the palm of my hand, i cannot see my nail tips over it. Just mkae sure you get them cut frequently so there wont be any temptation to bite away! I hope i helped. Sammerz

I have black Features in my face [[eyelashes,eyebrows]] My hair is very light and my eybrows are JET BLACK.. i want to know is it possible for me to dye my eye brows brown? [[so it will blend in with my hair more,they are kind of bushy..not really though.]] 13/f

Yeah i've seen it done. I think you just have to dye it once a month cuz i know eyebrows grow fast....so i hope i helped! Sammerz

ok so i really want to know if this guy likes me.i swim and he is on my swim team, and like when we go underwater he always smiles at me and waves, and when we do drylands he always pats me on the back or playfully hits my arm, and when we kick and stuff like that we always talk the whole way. i mean he is great, he is nice to me and everyone else, he is actualy my height and everyone likes him. whenever we go to swim meets he tells me to cheer for him because he wont do well unless i do. and he asks me to hold stuff and he just goofs around w/ me and he talks to my friends a lot. does he like me?

thnx! 5's for everyone!

Well it depends on the kind of guy he is. He seems like either the Big Flirt or Big Crush..Big Flirt means hes really good friends with you and likes hanging out with you and enjoys flirting and having a good time, but he might not want a a commitment. However, he could be a Big Crush and really really likes you and is doing all this to get your attention. you have a 50/50 shot so my advice is flirt away and see what kinda repsonse you can get outa him. I hope a helped. Sammerz

Lately me and my mom have been fighting about EVERYTHING. We cant even tlak to each other without getting into an arguement. But a few days ago, she found out im more than likely clinically depressed. Now shes being all sympathetic towards me and i dont like it. She is never sympathetic towards me for anything until she found out about my depression. I wish we could stop fighting, but not because of depression, because i dont wanna keep keep fighting after im treated. We have already tried a psychologist person, but she doesnt listen so does anyone have any ideas on what i could do get along better?

I rate!

Well to start off...do you know if the depression was caused by the fighting? Either way, your mom is probably scared shes making it worse and doesnt want to fight with you, and probably feel guilty about the whole thing, saying to herself that shes the cause of why you feel that way. I think you and your mom should have talk about how each other feels(without yelling)And if she doesnt want to listen you have to get straight to the point and make her realize whats happening.Say something like "mom, im depressed and i want to do something to change it. But if you wont listen to any ideas i have on helping this then i dont know what will happen." She will give in to that, shes your mother and she cares. I hope i helped. Sammerz

It seems that now my friends are friends with this girl cait that im going to be left out. There all gunna be tight and im just..there. I think im the least outgoing one there and that makes me sad. Cait it just going to have fun with them and im going to be all left out and stuff. Cait changed and now its like she fits in so perfectly and i just cant. Im trying to fit it,be loud,nice,awesome..but im just a small girl. Befor i moved here i was outgoing,popular,nice,and cool. Now that i live here i changed and i wish i didnt. I REALLY wish i didnt change. I wish i never moved. And why? All because this one person is friends with my other friends now.
I missed out and im miserable. How can i get through this? I just want to be outgoing nice loud and cool again. I dont know why but not that Cait is friends with Taylor and Carry its like there going to be calling people,going to the movies,all this with out me..and i get sad. I think of Cait as a threat and i wish i didnt. How can i just not think about Cait as a threat? and How can i deal with this situation?
[[how do i become loud,outgoing,cool,and nice again?]] Please help.
Signed,
Miserable. :( :'(

...Well this kind of reminds me of something when i moved in 4th grade. At my old school i was like really fun,outgoing, and i had a lot of friends too. Just try to fit in and make more friends. I really think you might want to get to know this Cait girl. If your friends really care about you they would never leave you out no matter how many more friends they have. Just try to mkae yourself feel liek shes one of your friends and act the same around her as your would around anyone else. I hope i helped a little. If you want more advice you can IM me at Sammerz619
:(

every time i eat, no matter what i eat, i feel really guilty. what is wrong with me? some of my friends say i am anorexic because i skip meals sometimes (not a lot tho) and i am always on a diet. help!!!!!!!!!

Well do you feel like you have a weight problem? If your not comfortable with your weight try exercising like sit ups or if you have a dog walk your dog a lot and eat healthy foods. Theres no need to feel guilty, everyone eats!I hope i helped....if you have any more questions just IM me at Sammerz619 !!

P.s.***pounds is not heavy!!!! Im 5'4" and i weigh about 10 pounds over that

I am 14 years old and I am self-conscience about my breast size. Is there anything that I can do to reduce my breast size?

Well there physically isnt anything you can do until your older, but you can try wearing sweatshirts or baggy upper body clothing. If you r really that self-conscience then you might wanna talk to your mom because mothers usually have the best advice! I hope i helped a little

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