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Q:
I'm looking for a good shaving creme, one that smells really nice and thats gonna make my legs feel soft and silky. Also,looking for a good lotion.Thanks

I suggest Skintimate in whichever scent you like best. Also, I think Satin Care works pretty well.

For lotion I love using the Jergen's Naturally Smooth because it's made to help you shave less often if you use it daily. It always makes my legs really soft and then seem to stay less prickly for longer.

Q: how can you ask your boyfriend for money without him thinking you are a golddigger?

Well, I would only ask him for money as a last resort. If you really need something and no friends are willing to help you out, then go to him and explain what you need the money for and how you will pay him back. Make sure you really talk it over because money can be a touchy issue in relationships. If you just want the money for something simple that you don't need right now, I'd wait it out until some money comes along and get it yourself.

Q: okay, i dont understand why i feel like this, but it happens in my relationship sometimes. well like sometimes ill feel bad for something i did (or didnt do) even though i probably shouldnt.. so i apologize for it.. then after i say im sorry.. i feel bad again and feel stupid like why did i even apologize for that? and i also feel like apologizing for stuff even when i dont even know if it needs a "im sorry" that its gonna push my boyfriend away.. or cause problems for spilling my heart out or saying sorry. so then sometimes ill tell him "well im sorry for apologizing, i thought i needed to" I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY IM LIKE THIS!! i hope it makes sense, it was hard to explain. and i know that if i said sorry at the time.. then it was obviously how i felt and nothing is wrong with letting your boyfriend know exactly how you feel or what is on your mind, is there? like i dont wanna push my boyfriend away by always being musy & sweet or apologizing.. but that kind of stuff won't push him away will it? i dont know, im confused. oh and no.. my boyfriend has never said anything like he doesnt like it when i say im sorry for stupid stuff or being sweet/mushy or anything.. but maybe hes just not telling me. someone just help me please!

I used to do that a lot but my boyfriend would just tell me that I didn't need to say it. I just made an effort to not say it all the time after that. I know that I don't need to say it all the time but it was just a habit of mine.

I suggest just trying to take more notice of when you'd usually say it and then you can hold back and it won't happen as much. If there's no need to say, then just choose not to say it, so when you actually need to say it, it's more important and not just something you say all the time.

Q: wut is sex feel like??

It's like a hug but better!!

Just kidding...actually, it's kind of hard to explain...on the emotional level, it feels good to connect with someone and on the physical level, if they tend to the places they are supposed to tend to, it should feel good...I think it's just something you have to experience though to really understand it but I'm sure you will. :)

Q: does anyone know any good dance music thats hiphop and gets everyone crazy?? thanks ;)

"Let's Go" (Lil Jon)
"Yeah" (Usher)
"Shake" (Ying Yang Twins)

Q: i know this sounds weird, but can a girl have sex when she has her period?

It is possible to for a girl to have sex when she is on her period, and some people have sex during that time because it's less possible to get pregnant. Unfortunately, it can be a little messy and though the girl will obviously have no problem with lubrication, it could be weird for the guy.

I suggest doing it towards the end if at all, so there will be less messiness. Also, make sure you both agree on being comfortable with it.

Q: Does anyone have any guidelines to get my eyeliner straigh and thin on my top lid. Not the bottom, but top. When I do it, its too think.

Well, you can always make sure that the tip is nice and sharpened, because the wider the tip is, the wider the line on your lid will be.

A great way to get a straight line is to pull the outer edge of your eye lid towards your ear so it looks like you're eyes are slit. It creates a straighter line for you to draw across instead of a curve.

If you have any more questions about how to do it, just ask. =)

Q: I really feel awful right now so I'll sum it up. When I got to my last class today a friend told me I was really stained. I went to the bathroom and i had blood on the back of my pants. It's so embarrasing. I feel like becoming a hermit crab. Share your experiences with me please.

I'm sorry to hear that, sweetie.

That happened to me my freshman year. I was going to biology class and I had this nice tan skirt on that day, but then a girl came up behind me and told me I had a stain on the back of my skirt. It was really embarassing, especially since I had to ask my guy teacher for a pass to the nurse. I called my mom, I got upset on the phone, and she came to bring me a new pair of pants and take me home. I was embarassed for a little while after, but I think most people around had easily forgot.

I'm a senior in high school now and I'm sure that's not what I'm remembered for especially since I'm sure no one even remembers that day. Just try to stick out the first few uncomfortable days and eventually anyone who knows about it will get over it.

Q: i have this boyfriend, and he's my first, but sometimes it feels like i see him as just a friend. i like him but i dont think i like him enough to be in a committed relationship with him. i really dont know what to do because i'm not happy about this but i also dont want to hurt his feelings

I understand what you're going through...it's happened to me before.

The hard part is if you're great friends with the guy, you don't want to lose him in your life. I suggest thinking about this a little before acting on it. Try to decide how hard he'll take it. If it's still possible to have a friendship after breaking up and he won't be too devastated, go for it and break it off. If you think he might take it a little hard though, try to stick it out a little bit and let him down as lightly as you can, reassuring him of the friendship you want to still have with him.

If you think that someday in the future your friendship with him might blossom into more, just tell him you need some time before commiting yourself to someone (kind of giving him some light at the end on the tunnel).

But hands down, it's about being honest to yourself and trusting your feelings. It might be hard to let down a friend, but it's not worth you suffering a relationship when your heart's not in it.

Q: what do you do when a guy you dont know and its like a internet relationship and like you're not even that close and he just pops and asks wil you marry me??????????? what should i do?????????

You say 'NO!' and then you block him and never talk to him again...he could be twice your age and gross.

Q: hey you guys. im wayyyy over stressed and i really cant seem to find anyway to take my mind off things and just relax? does anyone have any tips? also, i cant seem to sleep anymore are there any tricks you guys use to get to sleep? please dont say go by some sleep aid or whatever cause my mom wont buy them for me. thanks

oh and im 15/f if that means anything. thanks!

Sneak some liquor from the liquor cabinet and get yourself a nice nightcap ;-)

If that won't work for you, maybe writing down what's overwhelming you in a journal might do the trick.

Q: is it true that if you want to get pregnant, that the best time to have sex is right after your period ends?

Everyone has a different ovulation period but most women ovulate in the middle (about 2 weeks after your period begins or 1 week after it ends). If you are really interested in when you ovulate, there are tests that you can buy in the contraceptive aisle of any store and find out.

Q: I need to get my upper lip waxed... but the thing is, what happens if you get it waxed a couple of times and then you stop waxing it? Will it grow back even worst? I DO NOT want to just leave it. If waxing isn't that good of an idea, what other options do I have to make it unnoticeable?

Bleaching is a great solution that doesn't hurt and won't make hair grow back thicker. You just rebleach everytime you notice the hair again.

Q: okay well my mom just bought crest white strips and i was wondering do they work better on dirty or clean teeth? my mom said she heard they work better on dirty but i wasnt sure

They do work better on fairly dirty teeth. Make sure you don't brush your teeth right before you put them on, but you don't have to let your mouth go all day without a nice burshing.

Q: ok so i'm sending you this and it might be the second one you get but just incase the onther one didnt work.....ya well i did what you told me to and he likes it but he still dosnt look all that into it.......the reason why i think i'm not good enough for that is cuz his ex was pro ho at giving head cuz she gave head to anyone who wanted it......do you have any really good tips like things that you found worked the best that i can try?

Well, I think it's just something that comes easier with practice. Whatever you do, just remember to use pressure with your tongue and suck hard. And start off slow then gradually work your way to getting faster because one speed isn't good enough.

Basically, all I can tell you is maybe you can ask him what he specifically likes if none of this works. Some guys just aren't big on getting head, but maybe if he tells you the places that are most sensitive to him, you can cater to those spots.

And don't feel awkward asking him. Once you find out what makes him feel good, you'll never have to ask again and you'll be able to do it much better.

Q: Please answer this is you're a dude aged 16, 17 or 18.
I'm a dude.
I have a friend who says he might want me to duct tape him to a chair. Is this wierd?
Btw, I know he's straight and so am I.

Well, I know I'm not a guy, but this question was too interesting for me to pass up.

I guess that isn't too weird if it's all in good fun, but you should ask him what the intentions are after he is taped to the chair. Like is it just for kicks and giggles or is it for some kind of fetish or even some kind of self-impailment thing?

If it's just to mess around, I guess there is nothing wrong with it, but if he expects something afterwards that you are not comfortable with, just tell him that.

Honesty should be first in friendship.

Q: Last year my Pre-Cal teacher told me that if I went on to take Calculus AP that I would flunk out by first report card. I knew that I wouldn't and the only reason I decided to take the class was because she said that about me even though I kept an A+ average in her class. Well, it's coming around to the end of the semester and I now have an A in Calculus AP. I was wondering; if this happened to you, would you tell your old teacher about your grade?

Personally, I would not go to visit her, but if you happen to pass her in the hallway say nonchalantly, "Oh yeah. I actually decided to take AP Calculus this year. I'm doing pretty well actually..I got an A for the first marking period." and then just walk away...don't give her a chance to say anything more, just let it sink in for her that she was wrong.

Q: Ok,so, my best friend and I tell each other everything, so I told her who I have this HUMONGO crush on, and its been a while since then. She suddenly flounced up to me, and said,
"Mia! Jake just asked me out! And you know what? I said yes!"

And she walked off with a 'Ha ha he likes me and not you' smile on her face. So, what am I left with, ya know? What am i supposed to do?

I think that is the rudest thing a 'friend' could do. I personally wouldn't call her a friend any more. I'm surprised that, knowing you liked this guy, she didn't even ask you before saying she'd go out with him.

If you talk to her, explain to her how you don't understand why she acted that way, and if she doesn't have a good explanation for it, I would distance myself from her.

Q: okay...my boyfriend's mom buys me stuff all the time because he's an only child and I'm now like her adopted girl or something haha, but anyways, I wanted to get her and my boyfriend's dad something for Christmas because of this. My boyfriend says that their anniversary is just before Christmas and he suggested that I, or maybe even we, get them something to count for both occasions. Anyways, I have no idea at all what to get them, shopping for my own parents is hard enough and I've know them my whole lives. Um...his parents live on a farm, his dad works at a golf course, they make maple syrup, and they have a little dog. Any suggestions would be great! They don't have to do with the stuff I said either, original ideas are good too. Thanks!

How about something like a matching pajama set and slippers or robes or something? Something comfortable that they could each have a set of their own.

If you want something not along the lines of clothes, maybe a movie they both like, with popcorn, candy, and soda to go with it.

Hope that helps.
Good luck! I know it's tough!

Q: I have a question about my friend. Well I guess you could say she is one of my best friends.
Well we had made plans tonight to rent and movie and then watch it at her appartment. She told me to arrive by 8 o clock. Well she phoned me at 5 and I wasnt dressed or anything yet. She asked me if I could do her a favour. I said "sure" before I knew what I was in for. Well it turned out she had put an add in the paper to sell two of her cats (she has 5). She told me that the girl buying the cats needed a ride home and could I do it because she (my friend) doesnt have a car. I was a little annoyed because I wasnt ready and she needed me there right away. Well being the loyal friend I was I showed up and one of the cats had escaped from its carrier, and then my friend made me chase around the house for the cat instead of her doing it! We finally caught her and then I had to load up my car with both the cats and their toys. Now heres the kicker: After I loaded up my car with all the cats and toys, I said to my friend "your'e coming with me right"? After all I didnt want to drive a complete stranger somewhere in my car all by myself, I would want my friend to come with me. Also, we still needed to rent the movie. Then she says "no, I'm not coming! So I had to drive this person to her house (who was extremely rude to me by the way). Then I had to rent the movie by myself!! When I finally got back to my friends by around 6 and all she could talk about was how sad she was that she had to give up her cats!!! She finally noticed that I looked upset and asked me what was wrong. I told her the girl I had to drive home was rude (but didnt mention I was more angry at her).
My question is, I am overeacting, or was that a really shitty thing that my "friend" did to me?

Wow, that is definitely a situation that a friend should not put another friend in. At least since you agreed to do it when you weren't ready, she should have definitely come along for the ride. Also she should have either asked the other girl to chip in some gas money or given you some since it was a favor for her. Personally, if I was your friend, I would have said that the night was on me and pay for the movie, popcorn, and gas money. That's a big favor!

I think you should talk to your friend about the things she expects from you and tell her that a friendship is give-and-take. It's better to get it out in the open.

Good luck with your friend!