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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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Trying to get people to follow Christ can be tricky business. Often you offend people and can maybe turn them even further away from it. A lot of people are just too ignorant and closed minded, in my opinion. So that is why I suggest the subtle approach. I'm guessing you go to a church, and if so, they have a youth group that does different events and such. Invite some people you know to some events that your youth group does. That can get them closer. You could be one of those people that just messaged random people like "hey you know Jesus?" But that isn't always the best thing to do. I believe that you can see someone's Christianity through their actions and the way they act. If you are super caring, loving, non-judgemental and stuff to the people around you, they can wonder what makes you such a good person, and you can tell them it is your religion. So I definitely suggest trying to be the best version of yourself to people, and invite them to your church/youth group and gradually work your way through them.
Hope this helps~
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So me and ny boyfriend had unprotected sex 3 days before i was supposed to start. I was supposed to start may 2nd but i havent started and he didnt cum inside me but were not sure if he was precumming..could i be pregnant ? Because i had been on medication the week before and ive been super stressed for about 2 weeks already (link)
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Honestly, the odds of you getting pregnant from precum, are very slim. So you should be fine. Give it a bit more time, and if still nothing, then get a pregnancy test (but not a super cheapy one). And if you're still not content after that, then get checked up by the doctor.
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Help! My bestfriend's birthday's almost here, I'm planning to sing him a special song. Any ideas? (link)
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Bruno Marz- Count On Me.
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I have really bad anxiety. I self harm partly because of it. My mom is thinking about homeschooling me or doing half days. Do you think this is a good idea? (link)
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Few kids get that opportunity when they have problems like that due to various reasons, so I say go for it. It could help your situation/condition, so you should try it. You can also try medication or therapy. There are all-natural meds out there, too. I am on all-natural meds for depression, and they work for me. You can just try the homeschooling or half days, and see how it goes for you.
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When I try to use my headphones, it works fine. When I try to play sounds without my headphones it does not work. When I push my volume buttons no volume bar pops on the screen, it just doesn't do anything. When I go to the apple music app, it shows the song playing, but the volume bar has disappeared. Please help, I really don't have much money to fix it with. BTW it's a Apple 4g IPod. (link)
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Try going into settings and see if anything looks off, like maybe your sounds are locked or something. Try changing things in the Sounds setting and see if it helps. If not, it could be something in your music app that you might've accidently pushed or something, so try looking into that, too. If you're using AssistiveTouch something in there might've caused this. If all else fails, your speaker might've just broke.
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I am f/25, he is 30.
We met in November. This guy was super super sweet but I had no idea whether he was interested in romance or friendship so I stuck around hoping it would develop into more. Well, it had been over a month and it still didn't progress past friendship, but since I could really start liking him, I said something. Turns out he did like me romantically (hurray!) he just likes to take things super slow. Fair enough.
We became exclusive in February. Whether it was done on purpose or not, he made a point to passively mention every time we hang out things like "wants to keep his independence and have different interests", "moving in no sooner than a few years after meeting", "one date a week is good enough", and similar slow-timelined things. Whatever, no big deal, I'm not really in a rush, and I kinda assumed as much when it took more than a month for him to even hold my hand! But at the same time, I had some slightly different views, like wanting to see my 'boyfriend' more than once per week, but since most other points were pretty similar I decided not to say something and let things ride their course.
Since then everything seems to be on fast forward. Not in a bad way, but very much different to how it started. We see each other a minimum of 2-3 days per week and we've had numerous deep conversations about marriage, kids, religion, life goals, financials, and living together. I assumed most of these were simply "need-to-know" conversations in order to gauge the relationship direction in terms of compatibility. I've mentioned my whole "want to be married to have kids (ps: i want kids!)", "want to be married for a few years before starting family", "want first kid by age 30", "want to be engaged before living together", etc. Since then, we've said I love you (took me longer to say it back!), we've made love, and we can't not talk to each other every day. I love this. It's great. But so different from what he said in the beginning. He's mentioned (in passing of course) that he wants to move this year because he's getting bored of his apartment (rumour has it that it was a shared place with his ex) and then keeps saying things about how great my place is, and if it weren't so far from his work he'd stay over more. Part of me is excited that he's [potentially] thinking about that, and yet I still can't help but worry that I don't want to be living in a dreamworld only to find it shattered because 'things are moving too fast' and he walks.
Is it normal to move this fast as you get older? My last relationship took over 4 years before any mention of 'future' didn't get him all up in [angry] knots! And is it super weird that I would totally say yes if he proposed, yet not-so-much to the idea of him moving in? It's not a commitment thing, because he's basically perfect and I know he genuinely loves me to pieces. I often imagine our life together (house, wedding, kids, the whole bit!), but the idea of him moving in with me scares me to death. I mean, he hasn't even met my family yet! (link)
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It is normal to move that way, and that's not weird. What is weird is that said 4 year relationship you mentioned. Things need time, but not that long. If you're not cool with moving in together, then just don't mention it and if he asks, then say you need more time. If you can wait for all of his little waiting rules, then he can at least do that for you. And if you want him to meet your family, then talk to him about it. It is normal to feel the way you do, him and his stuff, not so much. He should understand if you want to wait for anything, or if you want something to happen.
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Hi im 12 and I need help with my social issues. I had a group of friends once who I was sort of close with but not really, but we were together alot. Then I joined another group of people who I became really close with so I left my other group. Then after a while, my second group of friends( the ones I was close with) disbanded and we each joined different groups except for me, I was left alone because I was too shy to ask to return to my old group. What should I do? I'm too paranoid that I'll be rejected to ask. (link)
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Swallow your pride and ask to come back into the group. Apologize for what you did, and make sure they know you mean it. If they don't accept you back, then at least you tried. But you should definitely go for it.
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So my period is around 28 days late. I took 3 pregnancy tests since then (all of them in the morning even tho it wasn't necessary) so my urine wasn't diluted and they were all negative.
Each time I had sex it was with a condom ( the whole time).
I should also say that I stopped taking the pill about 3 months ago, I had 3 periods since then and each cycle was different (27-28 days).
And I have PCOS.
So what are the chances of me actually being pregnant?
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The most accurate way to tell is to go to the doctor and get it checked up. That will definitely be able to clearify it. It is not normal to have that big of gap, so you should seriously get looked at.
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How do i tell a guy i like him without it being so weird (link)
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You could give casual hints, and be obvious about it and such. Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with being honest about it. Like, hey, I'm into you, wanna go out for coffee sometime or just chill? There is no better time than now, and you don't have anything to lose. So I say just go for it.
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Should I call her?? Or text her??
If I call her she might be asleep at midnight so she might not answer her phone or if she answer it she might get annoyed at me for calling late at night . This is the first time I'll do this to a girl I have a crush on...so bear with me (link)
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Calling is way more personal. If you're gonna do it twice, then only call once and then text the second time. But calling and singing happy birthday to her would be TOTALLY cute. So I say call, and if she really is gonna get annoyed by that, then that is her loss.
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Hey Guys. So I was wondering should I call her or text her at exactly 12 midnight on her birthday?? Or should I do it in the morning? Oh and this is the same girl in my previous question.. (link)
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I'm not sure what your previous question(s) were, but I say that would be super sweet to do it at 12 midnight. You could even do it twice if you like; to make her feel special and stuff. So I say go for it!
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I work with this lady in the restaurant all indication that she's single the positive sign that she's attracted is there whenever I talk to her a.k.a boyfriend never comes up but it seems something is holding me back I hear she's gotta boyfriend if you do that is the last thing that I would ever wanna get in the middle I've been in the restaurant for almost 5 years not ones or ever that I have ever dated or hangout so she knows I am real I've learn ."patient .challege. Self control" is a must question is should i ask her out or just let it be I know I am gonna ask her out but the fear of I have a boyfriend just seems to get in the way (link)
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Well you could try to do more research on her. Like ask some people, look her up on Facebook or something like that. You could also try casually bringing it up. Like slipping in the boyfriend card in conversations. Like, "what's your boyfriend like?" Or something like that. If all else fails, you could just ask her anyway. No better time than now, and if you really want, then just go for it.
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OK...so when you put the tampon in and push it in...do you pull the plastic out and leave the cotton stuff in? This is my first time using a tampon and I was just nervous. Got any stuff that might help?
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Yes, make sure the thing clicks before you put it in, then put it in and push the thing kinda like a shot, leave the cotton in and pull the plastic out. Don't leave it in for longer than 5 hours, probably 4 to be safe incase of heavy blood flows. If it is left in too long it could cause problems.
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I'm going to get straight to the point. I am interested in this kid in one of my classes. We have full on conversations and text sometimes. The only thing is it's towards the end of the semester and at my college, I'm a first year and he's a second year. So in the fall he will be headed to another college. I really am interested in him and have strong feelings for him. It's difficult to tell if he's interested in me or not. Anyway's, should I tell him how I feel? Or should I just forget it and move on. I just found out he was a second year.. and I am really upset because I really wanted things to work out with him. (link)
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I say go for it! There is no better time than now, and the longer you wait, the less possible it could become. If he isn't in a serious relationship or anything, then definitely! You got this!!
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20, female.
I have been chating online and texting with this guy I meet on a dating site for months. We have a lot in common and I googled him to see if he was not catfishing me. He seems to be who he says he is. We plan on meeting soon and I am completely nervous. Recently, at school one of my classmates asked me out. I said maybe and we left it at that. We are working together on a project and I don’t want drama to affect my grade. Also, I don’t feel that it’s okay to say yes when I am seeing someone else. We have not established a relationship status yet and don’t want to lie and say I have a boyfriend already. I plan on telling my project partner about the other guy after the project is over. We became friends and I don't want to hurt him.
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I say you go on that date or whatever and see how it goes, and if it works out and you individuals become a thing, then great, and just tell the other guy you are seeing someone. If you don't hit it off, however, then I guess you should give the other guy a chance? But I don't think you should tell the guy in your class about the other guy before you two even become a thing, because then the guy will feel like a second choice and may not even want to go out with you anymore, and then if the date doesn't go well, then you lose both guys. But yeah, see how that goes first!
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I'm 20 and female and the guy I'm talking to is 22. He is a former US Navy Seal and while I do really enjoy his company and talking to him at work, I feel like his feelings are growing while mine are diminishing. He has been diagnosed with PTSD and therefore could not reenlist back into the Navy to get placed back into being a seal. He came home back in November and is pretty distraught that he could not reenlist due to his PTSD but he's coming to terms with it. Which is one of the first red flags for me, I study human behavior and the mind as a major in college so I know when you get diagnosed with PTSD, there is a very slim chance you only get that so I asked to which he told me he also has depression and anxiety.. he tried to kill himself 25 times and barely ever gets sleep due to night terrors. So, if I do want to take things further, that's something I really have to keep in mind that if we ever spend the night together or something, he won't sleep and I have to worry about him wanting to take his life over something. I know it's selfish of me to not want to get involved in that but I can't go into something when I know he's not only tried to kill himself, but tried to kill himself 25 times in 22 years and when I asked what his suicide tendencies are causal to, he texted me back "....." which is fine if he didn't want to tell me but he could've texted me back that he wouldn't rather talk about it instead of periods so I got a little irritated and didn't text him back so he texted me maybe an hour later and said he doesn't want to tell me because he doesn't want to lie. But then he goes to tell me that he thinks his night terrors are starting to go away and he said they started getting lesser when we started talking more which makes me feel horrible.
Anyway, we only talk at work but we have each other's numbers so we do text sometimes but one thing that kind of bothers me is that he only texts me when he's working, like that's the only time I'm good for him, when he has to stay awake to work his overnight shifts. I have trouble sleeping sometimes due to my stress from finishing my junior year of college so he knows I'll most likely be awake when I text him and he's flirty during that time but if I fall asleep and wake up and text him back, it's usually one to maybe five words so I just never answer him.
Another thing that definitely turned me off is his mother. She used to work where the both of us work so I knew her long before him and she was pretty cool when I knew her first. But she came into my work the other night to drop him off....that's another thing, he's 22 and doesn't have his license and doesn't seem to be making any effort to change that...and she immediately began with "you're friends with me on Facebook and didn't even tell me that you were talking to my son?" so I told her I didn't even really put two and two together until about a week ago when another girl I work with told me his last name. She went off about how this girl that told me his last name used to have feelings for him and when he didn't reciprocate the feelings, she apparently got mad and started rumors about him and continued to say "I don't get involved in my child's relationships but if you start pulling that shit, I will f*ck you up." Like, she's a mother talking like that about an 18 year old girl to another 20 year old girl that could've potentially been a new girlfriend. Then she continued on with saying "What's this I hear you want to take him to Kiwi?" --- Kiwi is a frozen yogurt place, I go there with all of my friends, it's kind of a local hang out for all of us --- so I told her that I really liked it there and I thought he would too and she told me, didn't even ask me, "I'm going to Facebook message you my address, he's off all this weekend, come pick him up and take him." I was shocked, like I'm in my last two weeks of my junior year in college and she's telling me to take her son out, all while I'm trying to write these end of the year papers and study for exams and research internships I need to apply for in my senior year and work my part time job every night for four hours.
Another thing he likes to do, now I'm not sure if he does it on purpose or maybe he does it subconsciously as a symptom of his depression and PTSD, but he'll put himself down all the time and I always have to tell him that he isn't what he says he is. I feel like his mother. The other night he whatever'd me and I told him I hated when he did that so he said he won't do it anymore and I joked and told him that he told me that before and he said "I really won't now, I forgot, I'm retarded" and I had to tell him "stop, you're not retarded." to which I replied the morning I woke up and his response around 8 am (when he finishes work at 7 am) was "yeppers" so I didn't even answer. Or he'll tell me he's fat all the time, anything to put himself down almost like he expects me to dote on him.
Another thing he does that I'm not a fan of is he never really asks me about me. I always ask him about his time in the military and his issues coming out of it and he has no problem sharing stories to which I really have no problem listening to because like I said, I study this stuff so it is intriguing to me. But he will never say something like "oh we talk about me all the time, how are you?" Or he'll never ask me how school was or how work is but yet, when I'm up at 4:30 in the morning texting him while he's at work, I always ask how it is. I have issues with my family, so I told him one day that I had to drive about an hour away even though I didn't want to because I sometimes just dread being with my family because there's so much going on. He asked me why I get stressed when I have to hang out with my family and I told him "if only you knew some of the stories" and he just blatantly said "yeah, I don't want to, lol"
Now don't get me wrong, there are good things about him. One night he walked me to my car because there's another over night worker that hits on my but he's much older than I am so it freaks me out sometimes so he walked me to my car so this other guy wouldn't catch me and hit on me on the way out. He also has his own nickname for me to play off my how he says "bubbly personality" which he uses all the time. I like his funny personality and how hard he works at work and how gentlemanly he is to people that I know he doesn't like.
What do I do? I can't really cut contact with him, I see him every night at work when I'm leaving and he's coming in so I have to still talk to him and be civil with him but he keeps asking me to hang out and I don't know if I should because I know he might try something. Or am I being irrational, do you think I should give him a chance?
Any input is much appreciated. I'm twenty and only had one boyfriend because my mom claims I'm just way too picky, I just don't know if I can deal with him or not on a romantic level when all of this is going on with just a friendship happening.
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Yeahhh, I had a boyfriend like him once. It seems he has a lot of maturing to do, and isn't boyfriend material just yet. Sometimes it takes someone to mature them, and sometimes they just need more time than the average. And the whole mama's boy thing is a red flag. They need to detach before he can be ready for a serious relationship. So I don't suggest getting into a relationship with him at this time. If things don't work out, his mom could go all wack on you or something. So probably just stay friends for awhile and see if any maturing or huge changes happen, and if not, then it may just not be meant to be.
Hope this helps~
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I have about 5 gray marks on my iPod screen, one of them in the lower left gets a circle of orange on it when I touches anything white. I don't have that much money so is their anyway to fix it at home for under $50? (link)
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Honestly, I've had those spots on my iPod several times, and they eventually go away. Some more may appear in different places, different sizes, etc. but they eventually go away. Some might stay for awhile, but otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it too much.
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My classmate's friend ask for my number but i didn't give my number for a reason that i'm only have landline and replying would be too expensive. After that I still see my classmate's friend but he didn't approach or talk to me. 3 weeks or so.. he added me on facebook and i accepted it... but again, after that he didn't bother to message me.... few days past he likes one of my photo albums. but until now.. he still don't talk or approach me. His friends seems to know about me 'coz they tease him to me. I'm confused and don't want to be played anymore. Please help me.. what should I do? what is he really up to? Does he like or want to be in a relationship with but shy? or he's just playing me? Thank you. (link)
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He definitely seems to like you, he could just be scared because he could've seen you not giving your number as a rejection or something. But either way, he does seem to like you!
Hope this helps~
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Im 16 and a female. My ex and I have been on and off for about 2 years. We were so in love and I still love him and he tells me he still loves me. When we broke up 2 years ago, 6 months into our relationship, he had sex with my ex best friend. We started talking again and I found out after we started back talking. I let it go cause we weren't together and the girl was a backstabber anyway. The next year we got back together for 1 month. I got a guy's snapchat name and he accused me of flirting with the guy. We stopped talking and then started back, he even bought me a Valentines bear. I found out he got oral sex from a girl day before Valentines. We stopped talking. Now he's telling me how much he wants to change and he has. I don't want to look like the dumb girl. He never did this stuff while we were dating though. What should I do? (link)
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I personally don't think you should. They can say they changed, but you never really know. If he did it several times in the past, there is nothing stopping him from doing it again. But that's just how I see it. It sounds like a very unhealthy and unstable relationship, and I don't advise it. I say move on.
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I like a boy he is goring out with my friend how do I tell him how I feel or if I like him its really really hard (link)
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Uh well that could get really messy. I suggest telling your friend about it before you go begins their back and tell their boyfriend. See how that goes, and what she says and feels. But definitely talk with your friend first, and then see what can be done after that.
Hope this helps~
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