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is it too late to confess my feelings?
I'm going to get straight to the point. I am interested in this kid in one of my classes. We have full on conversations and text sometimes. The only thing is it's towards the end of the semester and at my college, I'm a first year and he's a second year. So in the fall he will be headed to another college. I really am interested in him and have strong feelings for him. It's difficult to tell if he's interested in me or not. Anyway's, should I tell him how I feel? Or should I just forget it and move on. I just found out he was a second year.. and I am really upset because I really wanted things to work out with him.
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There is body language to clue us in sometimes whether a person is interested in you. Does he smile often, laugh at your jokes, find reasons to be near you and stand close? Does he seek you out first or do you have to go looking for or calling/texting first? He could still be interested if he doesnt show any obvious signs maybe due to feeling intimated regarding you being a year older.
My best way to take a current friend and check to see if it can be something more is to phrase it something like this: Phil, we seem to get along great as friends and I enjoy spending time with you. So naturally, I am wondering if there might be a possibility of us being more than friends. I am very attracted to you and would love the opportunity to check out and see how we do as bf/gf. So what do you think?
Use your own words but make it sound like an idea to try rather than a fact that you are professing to have strong feelings. Those feelings can be explored if he's game which he would be if he felt the same...its a given. But asking in this way will get you an answer to whether he's interested or not without making him feel put on the spot or awkward about giving you the truth if he feels differently. If he's interested, you'll need in person time together to build the relationship, even if going to another school. If close enough to do the travel and spend some weekends together, there's a chance for it to work. If your only choice will be to do the LDR thing, those rarely work out, as chatting on line hooks your emotional self in but the sexual part of relationship is missing and it is too easy for you or him, no matter how strong you feel to turn to the nearby interested person to feel held, cuddled and kissed... But in the end, it is your decision. Just know that no matter what why you go, it will be a battle to keep a brand new relationship going, however you have a few months here before Fall, so if serious, I'd make the best of them and spend lots of time together bonding the relationship if he's interested. Good luck
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I say go for it! There is no better time than now, and the longer you wait, the less possible it could become. If he isn't in a serious relationship or anything, then definitely! You got this!!
Hope this helps~
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