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I'm 17 n a guy..well its been well over a year since me and my ex broke up, I still can't get over her! I find it really depressing, I can't seem to get the courage to find another girl to get with after my ex. I'm not sure if I can ever get back with my ex, but I want to try, without seeming desperate or anything. If I can't do that, can you help me find a way to gain courage and talk to and meet new girls?
Thanks, helps appreciated! (link)
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At seventeen, I wouldn't worry too much about it. You need to go out and have fun and be seventeen. There's no use in getting depressed over a girl, because it's highly unlikely that you'll end up with her in the end. Hang out with your friends.
Don't be stressed about it. Just ask her if she wants to get back together. If she says yes, then I guess you get to give it another go. If she says no, you need to just get over her and realize you are so young and have a lot of life ahead of you.
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I am so frustrated because I hate my school beyond belief. The rules are ridiculous, the administration is always up your as*, & I'm having friend issues.
My mom won't allow me to switch, though, because of a bunch of reasons. I keep telling her how unhappy I am at this school, with these people, but she says I need to cope.
What should I do? (link)
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I switched schools during my sophomore year of high school, and was very happy with it. I went from a larger school to a smaller school, and I liked the smaller school so much better. My grades went way up because I had more friends and got involved in student organizations. Because of this, I understand why you might want to switch schools. However, I see your mom's point, because your whole life you will encounter problems, and you need to get in the habit of dealing with them, and not running away.
If I were you, I would make a list of the reasons why you think a different school would be beneficial to you in the long run. For instance, do you think you would make better grades at a different school? Why? Be thorough, and be as grown-up about it as possible. Perhaps you can convince your mom with logic that it would be a better choice, if in fact it would
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ok so my hair goes down to my waist, sometimes a little longer but i cut it 1 inch about every 5 weeks. my skin is really white and my hair is darkbrown/maroon ish but some say it's black too. (it's not haha) like most people say it suites me and most guys and my friends seem to like it , other girls always try to get me to cut it but probably cause theyre jealous. it's naturally straight but i like curling it to give it more volume. so my question is, do guys like long hair like that?
(i know that i'm the one who should be happy with it and i'm NOT gonna cut it just because some guy doesnt like it, it's just a question :] (link)
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Your hair sounds gorgeous. I've always heard that a majority of men asked will say they prefer long hair over medium or short hair. I've seen several polls of men on the subject, and long hair is always the winner. So when asked, men SAY they like long hair best.
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Hey im 18/f and my boyfriend is 21/m. I've had sex with 2 guys in my life. Ive had sex enough times to know when it feels good so this isnt a does sex hurt question. Im concerned because my current boyfriend when we have sex it really hurts when it goes about halfway inside it like burns. (I dont have an STD either btw) When i first started having sex with him a couple months ago it always felt really good. But now it hurts really bad. Sometimes the left side of my vagina gets irritated and im not sure whats going on. Its like a burning. I know i get "wet" enough so thats not the problem. Is this normal?? (link)
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See a gynecologist or your regular doctor to have a pelvic exam, because you might have some kind of infection. A vaginal infection can cause painful intercourse, but has nothing to do with an STD.
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i am having a little trouble with my friends. it seems like they don't like me anymore. i don't know what happened but all of a sudden they didn't want to hang out and has kinda been ignoring me.
help! what should i do? (link)
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Just try to keep up your side of the friendship for a while. Invite them to hang out or do whatever you normally do with your friends. Call them. Talk to them. If they continue to ignore you, or are rude to you, they are probably not very good friends, and you might want to find new ones.
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so that my boyfriend doesnt "go" in me, he tells me when he is about to orgasm and he pulls out... but i feel stupid not doing anything after that point so my question is should i touch him or give him head after he says that? guys answer...
thank youuuuu
f/20 fyi (link)
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I'm not a guy and I know you'll probably rank me low for not answering the question you asked, but I feel this information is so important, and even if you do know it, you'd be surprised how many girls out there don't know:
If you are doing this as a method of not getting pregnant you need to know that the "pull-out method" does NOT work, and the mistaken conception that "pulling out" can keep you from getting pregnant is responsible for a lot of unwanted pregnancies.
Now that I've just put that out there, good luck with finding answers to your actual question.
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Hello,
I'm a 26-year-old male. I'm 5'5" and weigh 300 pounds. I live at home with my parents and I have no job. My daily activities consist primarily of eating, sleeping and smoking cigars. My hygiene is terrible. I shower maybe twice a week, brush my teeth once a month, don't shave and my wardrobe consists of a t-shirt with food stains, a pair of mesh shorts and sneakers with holes in them.
I wasn't always this way. While I was never Mr. confident, I was able to participate in a variety of activities growing up. As a kid, I took swimming lessons, trumpet lessons and played several hours of basketball a day. In high school, I acted in eighteen theater productions and was a member of the football and bowling teams. I was a good student and upon graduating, I enrolled at the University of Maryland at College Park.
I wasn't overly excited about continuing my education at college, however. I didn't apply to any schools until my father really got on me about it, screaming at the top of his lungs. I guess I wanted to take a year off to consider my options. I also wanted to try my hand at being a professional actor. Though it's a tough business to break into, I know people that did and I was quite good at it. It had become my passion. Looking back, I suppose I should have gotten a part-time job, tried my hand at acting and if need be, go to college later.
Instead, I went to college right away. Despite being part of some high school activities, I am rather shy (ironic, given my ability to perform on stage) and I never really made too many friends. I had some trouble with the roommates I was assigned as well and returned home following my first semester 55 pounds heavier.
I lost the weight when I developed a crush on this girl. The weight loss was unintentional. I just got so nervous thinking about her, I couldn't eat. I allowed this crush to go on too long without making my feelings known. Rather than get to know her better, my mind started imagining what she'd be like (all things I'd like of course!) and so my crush deepened. I was drawn to her confidence, something I lacked. I was so lonely and lost, perhaps I was looking to her to save me.
Needing to pick a major, I chose Marketing. I didn't really know much about it. It's just that the business school was well-respected and I was also steered toward it by my parents as well. The truth is, I didn't know what I wanted to do or be. I was supposed to figure it out those first two years and I never did.
In 2003 I suffered a mental breakdown. Over time, I had become increasingly bitter and angry. I began hating people. Then one day, feeling very angry and lonely, I snapped. I proceeded to fall apart in a very bad way. I began smoking cigarettes and cigars. I stopped going to class, stopped studying. The friends I had abandoned me. And so, it got to a point where I never left my apartment. I ordered food to be delivered three to four times a day, all junk, including a pint of Ben & Jerry's just about every night. I sat on the couch and smoked a pack and a half a day, leaving the butts on the ground outside on the balcony. It got to a point where there were so many cigarette butts on the floor, they doubled as carpeting.
I also developed several phobias, including a germ phobia. I couldn't open doors with my hand. Whenever someone sneezed, I'd hold my breath until I could leave the area. As a kid, I was always a bit obsessive-compulsive (e.g., having to name everything object in the room before I could watch TV) but this breakdown made it all worse.
I was living to die basically. I am not a religious person and so I didn't have religion to hang on to. I began asking why. Why am I here? What is the point? I figured that whatever I do doesn't matter because in the end I will die. Even if I impact someone else's life along the way, in the end, they will die. So, is life simply about packing in as much fun as you can before your time is up? What if you're like me and you no longer enjoy doing things? I wished I was dead. I knew I couldn't take my own life and so I focused on how sad I was that I had been born in the first place.
I beat up a 13-year-old kid who was successfully ripping into me with an onslaught of digs and insults. I was so determined not be bullied, not to take shit from anyone that I lost control. On several occasions, I lashed out at one of my teachers because we didn't see eye to eye.
There was some thought that perhaps my inability to avoid being overcome with this uncontrollable rage might be a result of two concussions that I suffered, one in high school and one in college. It could also explain why my OCD and mild depressive moods that I had as a kid got worse.
(As a kid, I ran away from home a lot and also begged my dad to kill me)
Moving on...
Returning home with a college degree after seven years of going at it, I couldn't land a job. I had a marketing degree but it turns out I didn't really like marketing and my major GPA was terrible anyway. I tried getting a job as a reinsurance accountant because I interned as one and its what my dad does but the lack of an accounting degree proved problematic. Though it's not supposed to factor into their decision, I would not be surprised if my weight also kept me from being hired.
So, here's the thing:
1) I don't know what I can do for a living
2) I don't enjoy very many activities
3) I'm not really interested in the American dream lifestyle
4) I can't afford to see a mental health professional
5) I'm unable to go to crowded places (i.e., the mall, the movies)
6) I'm too afraid to work with strangers
7) I have no friends
8) I'm slowly killing myself with tobacco, over eating and lack of activity
9) I can't let go of the past and stop regretting all of my mistakes
10) I have no work history to put on a resume
11) I've overwhelmed with guilt and feelings of worthlessness
12) I lack something I want, something I can use as motivation
I figure my time is running out. I'll either die from cancer or a heart attack. I certainly allowed myself to have many cavities and receding gums. This may be my last chance.
I need suggestions. I need ideas for what I can do as a start. How do I make a fresh start? Heh, can I give myself amnesia so all the problems go away?
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I am giving you this information because you say you are very unhappy, and it seems that you feel you might benefit from seeing a mental health care professional, but do not think you can afford it. I think this is a good idea, and I want you to know that there are other options for getting medical care without insurance.
I'm assuming you live in Maryland, since that is where you went to college. If not, I apologize, because some of the specific information I am going to give you is geared toward the state of Maryland. I hope it helps, because if you need to see a mental health professional, it is important that you find an opportunity to do so, and the opportunities are out there. You just have to put forth a little effort in order to find them.
First of all, you can call 2-1-1 from any telephone, nationwide. I'm not sure if you need to dial a 1 before 211, but try it both ways if one does not work. 211 is nation-wide service to help you find information about your community. You can start by asking them what your options are for getting mental health services without insurance.
Here is another resource:
If you live in Maryland, go directly to this web address:
http://www.dhmh.state.md.us/healthcare/index.htm
And then click on "Guide to Health Services for Low Income Adults without insurance". You'll find the link under "Hospitals and Clinics" in the lower-right part of the main body of text on the page.
This will open a Microsoft Word Document (I hope you have Word, because that is the only type of file provided) with a list of health care providers who offer services on a sliding fee scale or a reduced charge basis.
No matter what solution you choose, I hope that you are able to find a way to go to the doctor.
Another thing to consider since you don't have a job is that you may be able to receive some kind of disability income either the state or federal government. I know people who have, in the past, been put on disability simply for depression because it so severely affected them and their ability to hold a job. There is no shame in this, and I'm not saying you should take advantage of it in an unscrupulous way, but it sounds like something that might help you out-- at least until you are feeling better and think you can handle a job. I don't know if you would be able to do this, but it is something to ask about. Just let them know that your depression/social anxiety makes it impossible for you to even go to crowded places or work a job.
I think if you work with a doctor somehow you can get back to a place where you can figure out something you would really enjoy doing with your life. It is possible for you to go back to school for a second bachelor's degree if you would like. Being that you are 26, even though you live with your parents, you are considered independent and thus can probably get financial aid to go to college. If marketing makes you miserable, I see no reason for you to work in marketing. It's never too late to go back and do something different.
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Hopefully that will make a big difference.
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i have alot of stretch marks on my stomach and abdominal region from when i had surgery on my shoulder and i kept the same eating habits before when i worked out alot everyday and i ended up gaining around 30 lbs in 5-6 months, and losing some muscle mass too. I've lost a bit of the fat and gained alot of muslce back, but I have an abundance of stretch marks now and cant get rid of them. Im also starting to develop them on my pectoral area but only on the side where i had my shoulder surgery maninly because ive added alot of muscle there especially bcuz i lost so much during my rehab time. Does anyone know how to fade the appearance of stretch marks, i mean i had some before my surgery, but now they are really bad. Any creams or anything to use, and what not to use? (link)
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The best thing for fading stretch marks is cocoa butter. There is no miracle cream, however. They will take time to fade, but the best way to speed them up and improve the appearance of your skin when they do fade is to put cocoa butter on the affected area every day.
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Hey I just want to know how I can slim my legs down? I want them to be really thin. I'm 13 and 147 pounds I want to be atleast 120. So over the summer I want to lose about 30 pounds. What exercises can I do? Should I run alot during the summer? Bcuz Imma start running everyday for about 30 minutes til the end of summer. And like I'm drinking only water for the rest of the summer too! So any and all advice will help! But please dont leave anything saying that you don't need to be losing that much weight! (link)
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30 pounds in 5 months is 6 pounds a month, which is perfectly healthy and do-able, as long as 120 is a reasonable goal for you. Have you checked to make sure that you would be in the healthy range for your height at 120? Also, you need to make sure you are safe when you work out. You don't want to injure yourself.
First of all, don't run every day. You should always give your body at least 1 day (usually 2) to rest per week. Not only do you run a high risk of injury if you do not allow your body rest, but you also will not get the full benefits of the workout, because you do not allow your muscles time to recuperate.
Second, if you're going to be exercising outdoors in the summer, be careful. Make sure to stay hydrated. Drink plenty of water BEFORE, DURING, AND AFTER working out. If you're going out running, take water with you. Also, wear sunscreen to protect your skin.
Another important safety measure that you MUST do when working out is to WARM UP beforehand and STRETCH afterward. Don't skip these steps, because they are necessary to avoid injury and make sure you get the most from your workout.
I hope these tips help, because safety is very important when working out.
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Does anybody know any online site where I can buy
pants like Avril Lavigne wears.
Like the ones she wore in I think its the
Complicated film clip.
You know, back when she was cool.
Before she got the Hollywood make-over form HELL!
Like this: http://images.paraorkut.com/img/pics/images/a/avril_lavigne-4983.jpg
Help.
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That looks like a style of pants you could easily find at Hot Topic or online at HotTopic.com. Highlight this entire web address and paste it into your browser's address bar:
http://www.hottopic.com/hottopic/store/product.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374302028387&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524442196445&bmUID=1239262734603
These look like pretty much the same pants she is wearing in that picture, and the brand is Tripp. You would probably like a lot of their clothes if you like Avril's style.
Another cool brand for funky, alternative looks is Lip Service. I hope you find what you're looking for.
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Whenever I try to read or study for school, I get so sleepy that my eyes have a hard time focusing on the words and I can barely stay awake. I used to think I was just sleepy to begin with so I'd try to take a nap and then get back to studying, but when I quit reading/studying I'm not sleepy anymore. Sure enough though, as soon as I try to start up again I get sleepy! I've tried drinking a caffienated soda while I studying; I always study sitting up, never lying down or anything, and I've always got plenty of light, but none of that seems to make any difference. Does anyone know why this happens or have any suggestions to fix it? (link)
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I'm not sure exactly what will work for you, but I have this same problem sometime and what I do is work out for 20-30 minutes and stretch, then have a small snack before I try to study or do homework. I know it sounds a little weird, but getting your circulation going could help you think straight. I'm not sure why, but it works for me.
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18-female.
soo today i noticed these marks on like the side of my hip/thigh and i asked my mom what they were and she said stretch marks!! i couldnt believe it!! i dont understand, i'm only 115 pounds 5'5 tall and i've always been that skinny. how could i have stretch marks? i'm freaking out! (link)
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Perhaps you are getting taller, and that is why your skin is stretching. Whatever it is, don't freak out. It's just a little mark on your skin that will fade over time. You can help it fade faster with cocoa butter or a lotion with cocoa butter and shea. Use it daily on your hip/thigh, or your whole body if you like.
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Where can I get cheap, 34 (or 36) DD push up bras?
I'm just looking for plain black ones. (link)
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I've come to find that when it comes to bras, you get what you pay for... most of the time...
If you get a cheap bra, you're not usually going to get a good bra.
Frederick's of Hollywood (www.fredericks.com) has good push-up bras at about $24 each, as long as you buy at least two. This is a really good one for larger breasts that offers good support and makes your bustline look great:
http://www.fredericks.com/Full_Cup_Smooth_Sensation_Bra/51004,default,pd.html?cgid=bras%20-%20by%20collection-smooth%20sensationtm
However, if you're looking for something cheaper try to find a good deal on a good brand. Check close-out type stores like Ross or TJ Maxx. Often times they will have good brands of bras for under ten dollars.
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My Name is Mark and I am 29 and my girl is 26 we have a 1 year old son, for the past few months or so i have not been getting any attention for her i tried to talk to her about it a few times and tell her i need her but she takes it like i am complaining about her,I try to be romantic and try to get some alone time but i get i am to tried or the baby this or i need to do that and after that there no time for me and if we do have sex its not good she just doing it just for me and i dont like that so my question to you is what do i do because i am close to seeking time from anthor women but i dont want to i love her so what do i do? (link)
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Don't do it! There is absolutely no excuse for cheating EVER. Think of your entire relationship. Think of all the trust you have built up over time. Think of all the hard work you've put into the relationship, and then realize that if you cheat on her, your whole relationship will be destroyed. You may get over it, but things will never be the same. The relationship will never be as strong. The trust is gone. You may lose her forever... which if you cheat, you don't deserve a good woman.
All that aside, couples who have been together for a while often go through periods of not being intimate for a while. It's completely normal, although frustrating. Every now and then, you might find yourselves drifting apart a bit, but you just have to figure out a way to put a spark back in your relationship. Staying in a relationship takes work, but the rewards of a strong, lasting, loving relationship are worth it.
My advice is to stop thinking about your own needs for now and focus on her. Do something special for her. Buy her a gift for no reason. Shower her with affection. Offer to give her a full body massage, or something equally selfless if she wouldn't like that. Remind her you think she's beautiful and sexy and amazing and you love her. Perhaps you could plan a special weekend trip for the two of you, and hire a baby sitter for your little one. She will likely remember why she is with you in the first place and be more affectionate.
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i already asked a question about this but its making me go crazy.
thankyou to the people who gave me advice
and i talked to my mom on the way to the store
and she blew up on me. again.
im 16 years old. and its normal to have a boyfriend/friends who are guys.
and hse wont except that.
my boyfriend (who i told her is just my friend, but she told me she thinks hes more than just a friend) she wont let me drive to his house this weekend
she told me next time i hangout with him, she wants to meet him. so i was being nice and i said that i could go pick him up (he lives abut 25 minutes away) and then i would bring him to my house to meet my parents. and she started yelling at me and stuff. and she wont let me do that. so im like ok whatever then i guess you will never meet him.
hes not the richest person in the world and i respect that, so he doesnt have a car and his parents wont let him take there car and shes like why cant he pick you up and i told her that and she thinks im making excuses and im not.
i honestly dont know why she is getting so mad.
shes lucky i even told her about him. shouldnt she be happy about that?
but no shes not. she has to be a total you know what about it.
and she keeps bringing up the fact that he goes to a school for bad kids. im happy with him. im the happiest ive ever been. and i dont understand why she cant just accept that and be happy for me.
(me and my parents dont talk about love life and stuff like that. so this is like the first situation ive been in like this with them)
what should i do? im thikning aobut just telling her im going to the mall and out to dinner with my friend but then id just go to his house. do you think i can get away with that?
sorry this is so long. but thanks for the advice! (link)
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It may seem hard to believe, but your mom has your best interest in mind. You should be thankful that your mother cares enough to get upset when she thinks you might be in danger. She has a good reason to be worried... not that he's poor or goes to that certain school, but that she knows nothing about him and for all she knows he could hurt you in some way. It's a sad fact, but there are guys out there who will, so you have to be careful. For this reason, I would advise you NOT to lie to her and go anyway. Have you suggested to her that she ride with you to pick him up?
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Im almost 19, and saturday my boyfriend broke up with me. He's 20 and honestly he was my first love. I dont know what to do, we were both crying so much, and he kept saying how much he still cares about me, and how he just does'nt want to be in a relationship, at all right now, and that he could be making a huge mistake, but he just does'nt know. but that he just needs time, that he wants to still talk to me, and hang out with me. I am so lost. it hurts so bad, but im just going to wait it out and see what happens.
but can you guys help me out, what can i do to make him want to work this out again? to make him miss me so much??? please help out with any advice.
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You may think that what you need to do is "make" him miss you or "make" him want to work things out, but you can't "make" him do anything. Plus, would you really want him to be with you if he didn't really want to? I couldn't tell you what's going through his head right now, or exactly why he broke up with you, but chances are that he can't either right now. He's probably pretty confused and probably does need some time. Things may work out between you two, and they may not. You should get emotionally prepared for either possibility. In the mean time, do your best to not start fighting or being hurtful toward one another.
Honestly, I see two possible reasons for this, but that doesn't mean either are correct. They are only theories, and you shouldn't take them too seriously.
1) He is genuinely confused and needs time to figure himself out, get some space, and get his head on straight
2) He wants to see other girls for a while, because he isn't ready to settle down with one girl.
I know option 2 is harsh, but it's a possibility. I hope it's not the truth, though...
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So my best friend goes to a different school than me, but she doesnt have a date to prom and shes soo distraught about it :/ like she basically hates life just because of this. i do have a date so im afraid of saying something that will make her mad at me or somewhat resentful.
What can i say to her to make her feel better? Or what can i do for her? like bring her ben & jerry's with a note or something haha.
i dont know, i just feel bad because shes so miserable and i feel like i cant help her :( (link)
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If you want to be a good friend and help your friend have a good time, get a group of your friends together and go to the prom as a group. You can still go with your date, but get some friends that have dates and some friends that are going alone, both male and female. You could all go out to eat together before prom in your dresses (or before getting dressed up if you want). Take the emphasis off of having a date.
I understand if you don't want to do that for your friend. I understand if you feel like that would be sacrificing your good time... but if you think that sounds like it might be fun, I think it would probably cheer your friend up.
When I was a freshman in high school I wasn't going to go to the homecoming dance because I didn't have a date, but then a group of my friends said "Hey we're all going together and you're not the only one without a date!" I went with them (stag) and there were several of us that didn't have dates, and I had a lot of fun. Then junior and senior year I did the same thing with a group of friends. That time I had a date and some of my friends did not. It's just a suggestion, but I hope you'll consider it... especially if you don't want your friend to have a lousy time.
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before i start, let me begin by saying that i'm 18 years old, it's not like i'm some bratty teenager running away for no reason. but, honestly, i can't live in this house anymore. this is a mess. i'm not planning on running away forever, but these people have to miss me. i feel kind of bad about it, but i'm so mad right now, that i can't get over it. i'm 18 years old, i'm in college, and i don't even drive a car. i'm the only person in my family who doesn't drive a car. my mom drives a bmw and my family owns a lot. in high school, i was the angel of the class. i'm a straight A student, i didn't even go away for college. i've never gotten drunk in my life, never smoked. my best friend is literally my mother. i've never even slept over at anyone's house before. literally, i've been an angel. but, my family had other priorities than paying my insurance. they bought me cars, and then they never let me drive them because they hadn't put insurance on me. there is absolutely no point in that.... what so ever. so yes, i'm a little bit frustrated that my family keeps treating me like a child. right now, i'm on break and i wanted to go the gym to a spinning class at 12:15.... no one can take me. my grandmother is going to the doctor, and my mom and i got into a huge fight this morning and we're not speaking... plus she's at work. my cousin in 16 yrs old and he's the one i have to ask for rides. i'm sorry but this is ridiculous. my mother started the fight with me this morning and it just kept accelerating and accelerating and she left really angry, and i'm really angry. my grandmother won't even let me stay home alone. i know that i'm young, but i think i'm old enough to drive a car, and stay home alone, so that i can work on my term paper. so, yea i'm pissed. i need to find a way to run away for a little while... i can walk from here to the library... and at least i'll feel a little more independent that i can do that by myself. i just need to get out of here for a while... and i don't know how to do it without anyone noticing. i'm about to have a heart attack in here. it's a mess all the time, and no matter how much i clean, it's still a mess. i just can't do this anymore. can someone please help me?? and please don't answer if your answer is not to run away. i'm an adult, and i've already decided for myself. i'm just asking for advice on how to do it. (link)
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I hope you don't mind that this is a really long answer. I hope you read it though.
First of all, don't behave childishly if you want your parents to begin to see you as an adult. You may feel like you need to "run away", but to be honest, you're eighteen so it isn't really "running away". Try to calm down, even though you're frustrated, and figure out if you want to continue living with your parents or get out on your own.
Getting out on your own is hard, and it won't happen overnight. If you want to get out on your own, start by talking to your parents about it. You might be surprised, and they might actually be very helpful. If they are not, it doesn't matter because you are 18 and can move out if you are willing to take responsibility for yourself financially.
You need to know how much it is going to cost, and there are many options you can consider to live for less while you are in college. You will need to get a job, but you can make due on part-time work. Many college students do this. It's hard without a car, but you can carpool or take public transportation if it is available in your area. Also, you can get a bike.
Check local listings for apartments in the area. Find out how much they cost, and if you can afford it. You can get an apartment with room mates to save money. Usually the rent and bills of a two bedroom apartment divided by two is less than the rent and bills of a one bedroom apartment all by yourself. As a student, if you work at least 20 hours a week you can apply for government assistance with food (aka "EBT" or "food stamps") You can also apply for income-based housing. You will have to fill out a lot of paperwork to apply, but the rent is very cheap, and they are usually reasonably nice places. Look for "income-based housing" in your area. You can also move into the dormitories at your college (assuming your college offers housing). This is often more expensive than just getting an apartment, though, but dorm life can help you meet a lot of people and make plenty of new friends. Also, you'll be right there at the school, so you don't have to worry about getting a ride if you can't drive. AND you can probably apply for a job on campus. Colleges have student employment that is either under the Federal Work Study program or just a regular job. Then you don't have to worry about transportation to work.
I hope some of these suggestions have been helpful. Just remember that with freedom comes responsibility. With responsibility comes freedom. If you take responsibility for yourself and stop relying on your parents, you will have the freedom to live your life the way you wish. You are an adult now. You are in college. I know getting out on your own is very difficult, but your parents may never treat you like an adult if you do not do it.
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serious question and im looking for guys answers mostly. why cant you just like one girl? why do most of you have to been hooking up with alot of girls? i dont understand why one isnt good enough =( please help me understand. (link)
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I am not a male, but I hope you don't mind if I offer you my theories. I'm pretty sure this will change as you get older. A lot of young boys are like this because they are still learning about themselves, they don't know what they like, and they don't want to get in a serious relationship. They want to feel good about themselves, and for many boys and men alike, this means they need to feel like many women want them. What better way to prove this to themselves than to be with as many women as they can? Also, a lot of them want experience so they can feel like they have more to offer. These are just my theories based on observation.
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i just realized something about me, haa. i sometimes forget to eat for like a day or two, and then when i eat, like even when i'm full, i keep eating. and then don't go another day or whatever until i eat again. i know thats not the greatest thing in the world to do, but is that even a disorder? i'm not doing it on purpose. i just forget to eat or something.
& then we were learning about depression in health, and i had like 4 symptoms, but i think there kinda common. like i'm always really tired, and i sleep alott. & i don't do much. & i usually don't really know what day it is ever. & i'm usually really out of it. & i have mood swings, like i'm either really happy or sad & kinda just whatever.
is that bad? or is that normal? i'm 16? i've never really noticed it before. anyone get what i'm talking about ha? (link)
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You should go to the doctor and describe exactly what is going on. Loss of appetite is a symptom of depression, but it is also a symptom of a lot of other things. So are being tired all the time and sleeping a lot. If you go to the doctor they will probably do some blood tests. Even if they don't find anything, ruling out anything really serious can be a relief.
In the mean time, you should try to make yourself eat some nutritious meals even if you don't feel like it at the time. Start by making sure to eat breakfast every day. Hopefully that will help you have more energy. Also, you might exercise a little bit (but not too much, especially since you say you haven't been eating much). Exercise can help you have more energy through the day. The third thing you can try is making sure you get enough sleep at night. Shoot for eight hours. Don't sleep too little or too much, and try to limit daytime naps. Try your best to get on a set schedule, waking up the same time every day, and going to bed at approximately the same time every day.
But first and foremost, go to the doctor, and do what the doctor says to do. If you don't trust what your doctor says, get a second opinion from another doctor. Talk to your parents and hopefully they'll be supportive in helping you with this. It's not completely uncommon for teenagers to have these problems, but they could be related to something serious. Best of luck to you, and I hope you find a way to feel better soon!
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