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Well i am a very friendly girl and love to help people! i wil try my best to give you the best advice possible and we'l just hope everything works out for you ;)
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my good friend of mine is moving soon and she said this to me"life's unfairr its complicated,
it works in was we wish it didnt but don't be sad, i can feel youuu trying to drift away....makes parting away easier, but then could u really stand the fact of separating knowing htat youuu guys are distant or parting knowin u guys had last good memories together? but makes going away harder.." what is she trying to say?
I think she is sayin that would you rather her leave when you two have grew distant from eachother (shes saying that would be easier)or would you rather her leave knowing that both of you had good memories together ( shes saying that would be harder but comforting in a way). I think shes just askin you what you would rather be like with her before she left =)x x x
I now have a daughter N Law that doesnt like me. We are oil and water. When she comes to see her dad, she ignores me...even at my birthday party..she came out of duty but didnt even say hi. However, when she wants her hair cut, she asks me to save her money and do it. I sacrifice my husband being home every Friday to go to spend time with his grandson (her son) and we also watch him often overnight to help her out...however I am tired of being taken advantage of. If we talked I would have no problem with it, but her blatent rudeness has gotten on my last nerve. She takes advantage of her dad too but he loves her and its his daughter so he doesnt seem to care...but I DO. What should I do? Do I tell my husband I dont want to be taken advantage of and I dont want to be her hair stylist anymore? I have known her for 2.5 years and it is getting steadily worse.
I think you should talk to your husband about it..tell him exactly what you have told us and make sure you let him know how your feeling! Maybe he will have a word with his daughter and if she loves him then she will see that its affecting him aswell as you and she should change. :) Good Luck x x x
15/f
aight so like there are a lot of things going on in my life right now that i really need advice on so if you have even just a lilttle input that would be awesome. I have 2 problems((this could be long))
Anywho...((friend problem)) me and my best friend are like really close but sometimes she gets annoying. Like she tries to flirt with guys and they'll be nice nice to her n stuff, but then they will like totally talk behind her back and say shes annyoing n stuff. Also a lot of other girls say shes annyoing and they dont want to be friends with her. This girl is like one of my closest friends ever and i cannot justr stop being friends with her and i dont want to! She gets mad over little things and gets her feelings hurt easily so i have no idea what to do!!!
((boy problem))
so me and this one guy have had like a thing goin on for a lil while. But we arent and havent been going out. He is known for being a player and i know not to trust him but i like him a lot. I cant stop my feelings! Its not i get to choose them. Im obviously not the only girl in his life but hes the only guy in mine :(
Please dont tell me there are are "other fish in the sea and whatever because there is like no one good at my school. All the guys just want sex and they dont care about your feelings like your not even a person. I know im about to get screwed over(for like the millionth time) but i cant let go of him i donno what to do!!
I dont feel happy with myself anymore like nothing is going right for me and i know it souds lkie im just sitting here feeling sorry for myself but theres nothing for me to be happy for anymore!! i hate it.
Well for your friend problem...ino it sounds si ple but you shud just talk to her. I know u said her feeling urt easily but your only being a good friend by telling her. If she is a good friend to you..she will listen to you :)
As for the boy..it sounds like you like him alot and most people would just tell you to leave him alone because he's a player..which is a good idea but obv u dont want to do that. So if i were you i would just go with the flow for abit..like flirt with him ect. but dont get to serious and dont show him your that bothered about him! You never know..he might realise that he likes you alot more than the other girls ;) Good Luck x x x
My boyfriend has already popped my cherry by fingering me. Last night he was fingering me and this morning I noticed more blood in my undies; (I also had to go to the doctor to get a post-check on a UTI I had and they found blood in the urine, which I'm assuming is from my popped cherry)
Is it okay that sometimes it still bleeds?
I'm sore today, so I'm thinking he just over
did it too much.
Yer thats totally normal :) It happened to me too..dont worry bout it :) x x x
i've liked a guy named .. dan, scine i was in 2nd grade, we went out when i was in 4th through 5th grade. but then 6th through 8th [until now, im in 8th] grade, i was over him. we went out in march through april. i broke up with him cause i thought i liked his bestfriend. then i relized i didnt. and he wouldnt take me back. may 10 he started going out with another girl. im still .. missing him. i dont talk to him anymore, but hes my next door nabior. so when we were going out we hung out everyday for a long period of time. i keep thinking of all these memories. he wasnt a mean guy at all. we talked for hours after we broke up cause i was so sad. i really cant stop thinking about him. is their anyway i could get him back? should i wait until him and his new girlfriend break up? should i talk to him, but about whatt? .. im so confused.
You probably just want what you cant have..because when you has him you broke up with him so u obv didnt want him..and now you dont have him and he's taken..you want him back. I feel like that all the time! If you think this could be true then just leave him :) Otherwise..i think you should wait untill he finishes wth his gf unless you would feel guilty for breaking them up..and then you should tell him exactly what you have told us..how you are missing him ect. Then if he still doesnt want you back then try and get over him! Hiss loss ;) Good Luck x x
this one's for the guys
14/F
There's this boy, James. He's pretty much my best guy friend ever. Our history is kinda complicated... we've both liked eachother at the worst times and all. I was in love with him earlier this year(and I guess I still am, because I don't believe that you ever truly fall out of love). But I'm moving on because my friendship with him means the world to me, and when most relationships end, the friendship ends with it. I spent the last few months trying to get over him, and I finally did it.
I think that he still likes me though. I thinkkk that he's liked me since about November. I mean, he's liked other girls in between, but mainly I think it's been me(I hate to sound conceited like this, but I know him really well and all and this is what I think). He sort of made a move this winter, when he told my friends that he liked me, and they said I liked him, and then I yelled at them because I truly didn't like him then, and they took it back. So I feel really bad about that. He hasn't made a move towards me or any other girl since then.
So here's for the guys:
If you were in a situation like that, where you liked someone for a long time, made a move once and got shot down, would you ever make a move again? Because I really want to clear things up with him and tell him how i felt and how I feel. But I can't make the first move.
wel if yu nva liked him then u wudnt be askin for advice wud ya !:@ nd dnt tlk to me like tha i wus uny tryna help!!
This question is mostly for the guys bc I need a guys opinion but feel free to answer even if ur girl and u have anything to say that might help me. Well a few weeks ago my boyfriend really had to do well on some tests and I didn't talk to him for like a week. But after his tests, he told me what had happened. But last monday and tuesday he tried calling me but I fell asleep and then the next day I talked to him for a little while . Our finals are next week and I noe he's prolly studying but I'm really worried about him. I call him but his voicemail comes up.. I just want to know what's going on were very in love and I just wanna talk to him but I want him to answer. I dunno what to do.... any suggestions? We go to different schools.. He goes to an all boys school and I go to an all girls school so I cnt ask him at school. I just need some suggestions to make him feel less stressed this week..??
It sounds like he is just using as much time as possible to study..after all it is his future :) i wouldnt worry about it for the moment but if he is still like this after the exams then talk to him about it :) Good Luck x x x
i get angry with little things really easily now i didnt used to be like this only been like it for about 3 weeks now. lets just use this as an example i play a game i die once its the first of my deaths in any game i played so far. i get really pissed and slam the keyboard... sad i know but i cant help it i just feel it. i get angry real easy now like the other day i was asked to do sumin by a freind and i got well shitty and was just being an asshole now i dont like her at all fer no reason and i got no idea wtf is up or how i can at least fix it and get back to normall and get some freinds back. i'm not a stubborn person i will admit when i am wrong but at the moment i just feel like hell and angry with anythin that doesnt go right
Dont worry bout it..its stages of teenage life :P u'll get over it :) x x x
i have just discovered that i dont like my bf
but i like having Å bf
and i dont think thats fair for me to do to him
to keep going out with him
i want both of us to move on
but how do i brake up with him? 13/F btw
my first boyfriend so i havent done this before
by text? over the phone? in person?
im texting him now. how am i suposed 2 act?
like normal? like somthings wrong?
please help!!
thank you so much!!
I felt exactly the same as you did a while ago..i didnt really like my bf i just liked having one. I think its best to tell them in person and just say that u think you should jus be friends. Or if your to shy to tell them in person..then do it over the fone..whatever your do..dont do it over a text! :) Good Luck x x x
ok well i have alot of friends but i dont know if they truly like me.. because they will be all nice to me one sec and then ill hear one of my so called freinds telling me something that my other friend said about me. i have even witnessed it.. i was pretending to be somebody else and i was talking to my friend and all of a sudden my friend start talking s*** about me saying i stalk them and im ugly and she doesnt want to be my friend. and its way confusing because then she come up to me and start hugging me acting like i dont know what she did.and huh *sigh* i want to be her freind but i dont know if they want to be mine. help me please
Well from what your saying it sounds to me like their not your friends at all :S I meen friends dont act like that to eachother..i think yu should consider hu your friends really are !:) Good Luck x x
I've been with this guy for 1 1/2 years and i really do like him alot. But you know the saying that the bestfriend always wins... well i guess tat kinda happend to me... or iss in the process of happening. We dated like 2 years ago for a few months and broke up to be friends... well now we hang out ALOT and i guess that you could say that im falling hard for him. But IDK what to do about my boy friend. I like him alot but im really starting to like my friend too...
what should i do?
please help me
Well i think you should wait for a while..i mean do u know for definate your friend wants to be more than friends..yer u 2 are hanging out alot but to him that might not meen anything. You should talk to your friends before making any decisions. Also..you have to think about the friendship with your friend..would you reck it by dating him ? Also..if your with your bf you can stil always hang out with your friend..but if you start dating your friend..could you ever see your bf ? Just make sure you think about it carefully before deciding what to do =) Good Luck x x x
16/f
I'm really very confused.
I love my boyfriend and he knows it. We've been going out for 4 months or more. I've liked him for over a year.
There is also another boy. We will call him Brian. Brian knows the right things to say to me. I've fallen for him, and it kills me inside because I know it's wrong. I'm in a relationship. Brian always tells me that he likes me. He gives me presents at school because we have classes together. My boyfriend doesnt go to my high school. Brian has liked me since November. And I liked him before I started going out with my boyfriend, but it was never enough.
Things have been going very badly with my boyfriend. I still care about him a ton, but he is constantly unhappy. We get in so many fights and I always end up crying and he is always upset about one thing or another. I dont think I do anything right. And then there is Brian. He likes me for all of the right reasons. He likes ME and my personality and doesn't care if I look like crap.
I dont know what I want right now.
Should I break up with my boyfriend?
Am I terrible for considering it?
If I've picked my boyfriend every time before, does that mean something?
If I'm always thinking about Brian, does that mean something else?
Once my boyfriend kissed me and I thought about making out with Brian. (which I've never actually done)
Well it sounds to me like you want to be with brian..not your bf. You might think its unfair on your bf for liking brian..but its actually unfair on him if you stay with him when really you want to be with brian.Also if this brian is still giving you presants ect. when your with somebody else..then he must really like you :) And if you and your bf are always fighting..then maybe it would do you both some good to spend time apart with different people. I think you should see how things go with Brian..if things dont work out then u will know it was your bf who u loved :) Good Luck x x
ok so i like this one guy
and when i talk to him online and on the phone and stuff
hes always so cute and stuff
hes like i wanna cuddle with you
or give kisses
or like whenever i talk to you i cant stop smiling
and he gets speechless when he talks to me
and then he says i love you
but idk if he just saying that to lead me on?
or just a flirty kind of way?
or a liking kind of way?
because before we got like this he said he likes this other girl
and i asked him about her hte other day and hes like yeah i still like her but she likes someone else
so im like oh?
and then one day i asked him what he was doing and hes like nothing on my trampoline with some girls
and he was kinda being an ass
so i really dont know whta to do!!!
help!
Yer i agree with Andrea..this guy swnds like a propa dik ! It sounds like he is tryin to make u jelous with this other girl..so show him your not bothered! ;) And i totally fink u shud goo for som1 else :) x x
Ok so I have these two friends, "Jessica" and "Holly". Well, a few months ago, Holly told Jessica some of her opinions on how she acts and Jessica didnt take it very well. Basically now they both hate each other. And even though I dont want to say anything, I agree on a lot of things Holly said. But anyway they both hate each other and they both expect me to hate the other. They are both close friends of mine and I dont want to choose sides. Ive tried to stay neutral but they both keep trying to drag me into it. Ive tried to explain to them that I dont want to take sides but they still insist on it. Any ideas? Thanks ♥
You should just keep telling them that your friends with both of them and your not picking sides! Eventually they will realise that your not going to get involved! And im sure they will sort things out with eachother evetually =) x x
13/f
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months. He has been asking me if i could go places with him over the weekends. But the big thing is i CANT! i am not allowed to go anywhere with any guy until im 16! Its a religous standard. But i dont know how to break to him. I am afraid he might break up with me. I dont know what to do! He keeps suggesting going to the movies, hanging at his house, watching a movie at his house, or going to a relay for life walk. i feel like crap for canceling. Also i dont even want to go, im to scared it would be completly akward and stupid. But also im not aloud to. Im scared and lost. haha
thank you for all the advice.
it really helps thank you :D
You should tell him you cant hang out and why! If u dont he is gunna think u dont wanna hang out with him :/ If he wants to break up with you over it then he's clearly nothing special :) Gd Luck x x
Hey. I'm 13/female. I was wondering if there is a reason why I have a lot of trouble sleeping late, and staying up late. And why is it that I'm always tired? Also, most times I wake up a few times throughout the night/ very early morning, seemingly around the same times, and it takes anywhere from 5-20 minutes to fall back asleep? And, usually atleast once every 2 weeks I end up staying up very late because I can't sleep? It takes me on average atleast one hour to fall asleep, no matter how tired I am when I lay down. Is there something I can do to help this besides taking medicine?
Thanks!
This happened to me a while back =] I found that either reading or watching tv helped me get 2 sleep lol :) Good Luck x x
Hey i was just wondering..
What`s it like to get your first kiss?
Cause i haven't gotten it yet. =[
Well most people say its really special bla bla bla..but to me..wel it wus just a kiss :\ i think for it too be special it has to be the right person..so if u do want it to be special..then wait for the riht person :) x x
ive been friends with this girl since 1st grade, on and off (little elementry school fites seperated us`during elem. school) and 5th grade everyone hated her, even my new best friend hated her too, and i almost went against her but didnt. Ive stuck by her side for the longest time, but then 6th grade came and she became freinds with everyone, and she hung out with everyone else more and more, and me less and less.
I felt betrayed, like 'what am i not good enough'. we still hung out but not alot. Then 7th grade came, and we were in differant clusters (other schools mite use teams, groups,...) and she made friends with so many differant types of people, most hated eachother. from the preppiest happiest girls, to the bitchiest wanna bees, to the 'punks' of 7th grade. and so she hung out with me even more less than last year.
We went on a summer vaca together and i thought things would be differant, or well thats what she said.
Then 8th grade came and she narrowed down her friends, and i was 'one of them' but i didnt really consider myself it. We attempted to become best freinds again like 7 times, I would send her random long notes throughout the year saying, things have gone bad again, we'd hang out, then i wouldnt speak to her for like 3-5 weeks...then id send a new note.
now 9th grade has come,in the begin, of the year, we didnt talk much but she would atleast say Hi. and talk to me alittle. then she asked me if i wanted to come over and we went through our busy sceduales (she always says shes busy) and i stayed after school with her, and she hung out with like other people and basically ignored her, then at her house we watched some boring movie, and i fell asleep. then i havent talked to her for like.....4 months. then i found out 3 weeks ago that she is always high and smokes pot, and that she isnt usually really busy, but is hanging out with potheads. geting high.
i dont know what i should. she hasnt been a good frend since elementry school, but when i needed her desperatly, she was usually there....idk.
its long but you can just skim it if you want.
Ino your probably thinking wel she hasnt been a good mate to me so why should i ? but just remember..she was always there for you when you needed her and true friends never abandon each other! It soounds to me like she did want to stay friends with you and she did try..but she just got caught up in the wrong crowd. I think you should just wait and just be there for her when she needs you..she will soon realise that shes made a mistake :) Good Luck x x
Well I cant sleep at night so i go on advicenators, but i get pretty board on this one website, what is another fun website to go to, that isnt porno or myspace?
www.habbohotel.com or www.habbohotel.co.uk theres a few small differences but not much.All you have to do is make a person and go explorong all the different places..you can also make a room aswell and meet a load of people and stuff. Its really good :) xxx
Ive liked this guy on and off for 3 years.
Just last night, he RANDOMLY started talking to me, he was mad at me for about 3 months.
He was trying to make conversation , i could tell.
He told me him and his girlfriend were going to break up but then he was asking me about this other girl, he claims that he doesnt like her though.
Then he brought up the past things we have done together, then today i figured he would talk to me but he didnt ,, unless he does later but i doubt it.
Whats going on here?
15/f
Maybe he just wanted to talk to someone that night and didnt meen anything by it. But then again..he could be waiting for you to talk to him..because he has already spoe to you once. Hope i helped :) xxx