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friends who change so much
ive been friends with this girl since 1st grade, on and off (little elementry school fites seperated us`during elem. school) and 5th grade everyone hated her, even my new best friend hated her too, and i almost went against her but didnt. Ive stuck by her side for the longest time, but then 6th grade came and she became freinds with everyone, and she hung out with everyone else more and more, and me less and less.
I felt betrayed, like 'what am i not good enough'. we still hung out but not alot. Then 7th grade came, and we were in differant clusters (other schools mite use teams, groups,...) and she made friends with so many differant types of people, most hated eachother. from the preppiest happiest girls, to the bitchiest wanna bees, to the 'punks' of 7th grade. and so she hung out with me even more less than last year.
We went on a summer vaca together and i thought things would be differant, or well thats what she said.
Then 8th grade came and she narrowed down her friends, and i was 'one of them' but i didnt really consider myself it. We attempted to become best freinds again like 7 times, I would send her random long notes throughout the year saying, things have gone bad again, we'd hang out, then i wouldnt speak to her for like 3-5 weeks...then id send a new note.
now 9th grade has come,in the begin, of the year, we didnt talk much but she would atleast say Hi. and talk to me alittle. then she asked me if i wanted to come over and we went through our busy sceduales (she always says shes busy) and i stayed after school with her, and she hung out with like other people and basically ignored her, then at her house we watched some boring movie, and i fell asleep. then i havent talked to her for like.....4 months. then i found out 3 weeks ago that she is always high and smokes pot, and that she isnt usually really busy, but is hanging out with potheads. geting high.
i dont know what i should. she hasnt been a good frend since elementry school, but when i needed her desperatly, she was usually there....idk.
its long but you can just skim it if you want.
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Ino your probably thinking wel she hasnt been a good mate to me so why should i ? but just remember..she was always there for you when you needed her and true friends never abandon each other! It soounds to me like she did want to stay friends with you and she did try..but she just got caught up in the wrong crowd. I think you should just wait and just be there for her when she needs you..she will soon realise that shes made a mistake :) Good Luck x x
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ok well i have been in the same situation. she changed. she hangs around so many kinds of people that either she is like them or the leader so she changes to fit in. she seems to not have any time for you any more but when you need her most she id there. you say that she narrows down the people that she hangs around ive been hurt so becareful you may be next. im not saying she will do that to you but just in case she does. all i can say is that she will end up becoming a distant friend.
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Well hunn, people change over the year. You can still be friend with her but that doesn't mean you two can be the best of friend. She can be one of your good friend. Since she's always there for you when you're in desperate need. But I don't think she can be your bestfriend. Because a bestfriend is someone you can trust, someone you can talk to, share everything to and no secrets. Someone you can depend your life upon. Someone who gets you or can predict you're emotion without you telling them. I think she has none of those.
So I say you can keep her as a friend but not a close friend. It doesn't seem like you trust her enough to be close to her anyways.
hope I helped. good luck with your decision.
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Okay girl, well it sounds like you've always been a true friend and she hasn't been. Not spending as much time with you because she has 'new friends' isn't acceptable. She has to realize that if you guys are going to stay friends, she'll have to change her ways. You obviously value the friendship, because you've been trying for years to get it back to how it used to be. I say, ditch her for awhile. Hang out with other friends, keep yourself occupied. I promise you won't think about her as much, AND you'll have new friends who you can talk to when you need them. Yeah, maybe she's been there when you needed her MOST, but think of all the times she hasn't. She ditched you for other people, and now she's smoking? Wtf. I'd really say just all out quit trying to be friends with her, and find some new, better ones, that will respect you. If you keep wanting to try to be her friend, then just wait it out. Hopefully she'll come to her senses.
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