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My toes are hairy.. what should i do about that? (im a chick)

shave them, wax them, or leave them the way they are. everyone's toes are hairy, there's nothing abnormal about that.

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whats an orgasm?

an orgasm is where you're at the peak of pleasure. your muscles tighten and then release and you're in complete ecstacy. it's a great feeling, you just have to know exactly how you need to be touched in order for this to happen. hope that helped.

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hey im only 15 and everyone thinks i have done like eveerything wit a guy and i want out wit alot of guys and all we did was just kiss on the lips but no make out and my longest relationship was 5 weeks and we didnt do much but anyways my last bf was for 2 weeks and it was 3 weeks ago and he still likes me but i dumped him cuase i didnt wanan make out wit him cause i thought i would be bad at it and now i like him and i wanna make out wit him..and he told eveyrone he wanted to and i dunno wat to do any tips pelase help me

don't rush anything! you're 15! you are WAY too young to think it's time you have to do EVERYTHING with a guy. that's crazy. let things happen when they're supposed to happen. if you want to make out with him, make out with him. let him know why you dumped him though, or he'll get mixed signals. but like i said. take your time, don't rush anything. if it's meant to be, it'll be.

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how do you kiss please help and it would help if you could give me a time when you kisssed and explain it

you can't ask how to kiss. i mean, you can, but it won't help you at all in the long run! when it happens, it happens, and it's ALL natural. go with the flow when it happens. don't rush it. let it be right when it's supposed to be, and you'll do FINE. i promise.

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okay, i knew this guy sionce 8th grade, adn we are becoming seniors this fall. i used to date him, and we broke up because a freind made it heck for us, and now we are friends again. and i realized that i am in love with him...so we went to the crnival in our town together and we sat and watched the fireworks together, holding each other tightly the whole time. and we walked home hand in hand. we sat on my porch untill 2 am cuddling and talking. i asked him to our homecoming dance this fall and he said "well, i dont like to dance, but since you want me to go, i'll go with you". and he left and went home an hour later, adn i have not heard from him since. i have tryed to call him and i cant get ahold of him...no oen answers his phone. and when i leave a message, he never gets back to me!

so my questions are...does he like me back? did i scare him off? what is going on inside his head? if anyone could help me it would b eso so so useful!

i wouldn't think you scared him off at all. maybe he's thinkin the same thing as you; that he loves you, and he just realized it. he might just need time to think about it. this time period could be anywhere for a day to a month, who knows? just give it a bit and see how it goes. good luck.

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I am 17 years old and I feel that it is time for me to tell my friends and parents about me being gay. I have managed to tell a few friends already, and they took it easy. I don't want my other friends (guys in particular and girls that hate gays) to turn around and say that I am gross and never talk to me again. How do I tell them and my parents without it sounding so harsh? I am still the same person as before..

17/m

well for one, if they're you're true friends then they'll accept it. they'll have to, if they want to remain your friend, that is. you might have a really hard time breaking it to some of them, but you ARE still the same person as you were, you're just revealing a bit more.

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Ok I know this is wrong but Ive gotta ask!!!


My friend hes like a brow to me!! But my bestfriend goes out w/ him!! NOw shes being all weird and like if shes cheating! She doesnt deserve him but I really really like him like you have no clue!! He is so my type but I have the worst fear of regection! Plus I told mybest friend Id never go w/ him after they broke up. which seems like its coming soon. I cant get him out of my head and hes driving me crazy!!!!!! what do I do????

Live2luvu

well? you made a promise. you told your friend you wouldn't go out with him, and you need to take responsibility of it. if you tell your friend something like that, then turn around and do the exact opposite, what kind of person are you? you're only as good as your word. remember that.

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hi um this may be stupid by am a 13 yr old guy and i need help getting a girl i love dearly to like me how would i

be yourself. period. if you fake it, it won't ever work out. don't be something you're not. if she doesn't like you for who you are, then she doesn't deserve you, because i'm sure you're a great kid.

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now and its been great.But it seems lately thing have been different like friends of his say that he has been cheating on me and than i ask him and he swears he has not i have even asked him when i see him but when i am a around him it seems like he is keeping something from me and i do not know if he is cheating on me or not i just want to know how i can find out the truth so i will not get hurt because i have been hurt before.Please help me soon!~Kristen~

don't let your suspicions get the best of you. that's what kills relationships. if you think something's up and you ask, and he tells you no, then the best thing you can do is believe him until you come across some type of evidence. don't get sketchy because his friends say something like that. maybe they just want to break you up. don't try and fix it if it's not broken.

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I am going to the 8th grade and I did excellent in the 7th grade . I am so nervous, but I don't know how to feel because, I know it's only natural. So last year I liked this guy ALOT ALOT ALOT because, all I did over the whole year was obsess about him . I used to try to act perfectand all and I really lost my true self when trying to be perfect . Well over the summer, I know who I am and I feel great and all , but I don't want to be in any classes with him because, I know that these feeligs will instantly come back and I'll really want him and it'll be a whole repeat of the 7th grade again . Tell me what to do and how to deal with this because, I big time need you HELP . Thanx . I'LL RATE YOU .

well first off, i'd like to congratulate you on finding your 'true self' because that's awesome. if you can do that, you can do anything! if you do happen to be in a class with this boy, don't let him get the best of you. you have control over your mind, body, and everything else, so don't begin to think that it's HIM changing you. if any changes occurr, it's you letting your feelings get the best of you. just try really hard, stay focused, don't lose who you are.

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Hey!I am 14 almost 15(august 17)and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2months.And he says i am perfect and like the "one".And says that we will be together forever.And i feel the exact same way too.And he asked me to marry him and i said yes!But we are not going to get married till we are out of school!But did i do the right thing about saying yes???ill rate you if u answer!~Kristen~

You're 14, right? you're not even of legal age to decide whether you want to marry or not. you can think you want to, but you've only been together 2 months. give it time.

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My best guy friend wanted to kill himself. At least thats what he told me. He said it was because a girl didnt like him. He said that no one cared and that he had already tried before. It really worried me and I told him that I cared. As I was walking to the bus, it really hit me what he had said. When I got on the bus I realized that i liked him as more than a friend. The problem is, the next day he acted as if nothing happened. I'm not sure if he was telling the truth about wanting to kill himself. I'm only 13 but I have liked him for over 5 months. My question is ...........
Do you think you have to be a certain age to love?

Age is nothin but a number. You don't have to be 20 to know what love is, you don't have to be in a certain grade... you just have to know how you feel. love can come at any time. i first fell in love when i was 12 or 13! i kept telling myself it wasn't, but even to this day i know that it was, and i still feel it when i see that person. there's not a day that goes by without me thinking of him; i just don't talk to him anymore. so no, there's no age specification for love.

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Hey! OK, I'm really shy. Its not that I enjoy being all by myself because I totally hate it... I love to be with people... but it’s hard for me to just walk up to someone because last year in classes we got to sit around and talk for the end of each period. When I tried to talk to someone they would be like "uh huh. Ok" and then walk away. However I’ve talked to each of them individually and they seem interested in talking to me (No, they were not just being nice) I’m moving to a totally new country next year which means a new school. I want to redo myself… like not be so shy anymore. Could you all give me some tips for me to be less shy? And please no advice like "just talk to people"… that doesn't work. I've tried. Thank you so much everyone!! Any advice is appreciated!

in order to be outgoing and less shy, you have to really like yourself, and believe in yourself. you have to tell yourself things like "I can do this." "I'm good at conversing." "I look good today, people are going to WANT to talk to me." and so on and so forth. you HAVE to believe in yourself. you have to be confident. you have to take your chances also, because if you don't, then you won't ever make any friends. so just work on your self-confidence. that should improve your little bit of shyness by a great deal.

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im really sensitive at school...if some1 teases me, i take it so hard. then when they reply saying im so sensitive, i feel hurt...is there anything i can say to "my friends" if they insult me..like in a joking way?

yeah. if they're your friends, then tell them it hurts and to quit it. if they're not your friends, don't let it get to you. just brush it off, cause you have more important things to worry about.

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me and my BEST FRIEND EVER went to pre-school together and thats how we met. we go to different schools, different dance places, and just about everything else diff except for our moms work together. we were born 2 days apart (mine december 18th and hers december 20th) and if we were standing next to each other u would think shes my little sister. im a head taller than she is. in the summer we do a lot of stuff together bc we used to belong to the same swimming club... but she moved so now she goes somewhere closer to her house. when we get together we have a such good times. i just feel that were growing apart though in some ways. shes inviting me over less and stuff idk what to do should i just hang out with her more or just dont worry about it?

If you're best friends, then even the miles between you two will ever let you grow apart. you may see less and less of each other, but that's not what matters. what matters is that when you two are together, you enjoy to the best of your ability and you make memories.

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Ummmmmmmmmm when i dance wit ma period da flow comes out heavier is dat normal?????????????

if you put lots of strain or pressure on your body and you're on your period, then yes, it sometimes flows a little heavier.

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Hey This is really embarresing to say but Im a girl and I mean I think Im bi but Im not sure one time me and my friend thought we should show our bodys off a little to eachother and after I was done She satrted and I started to get horny and sweaty and I just wanted to like fuck something right then so I went into the bathroom and started fingering myself and my friend knows that I finger myself a lot but anyways she walked in on me and she saw that I was fingering myself and she was like why are you doing that right now? And So I stop and pulled my pants up and started to cry and told her the story and said oh and I think shes discusted...:/ Also another time I started to get horny (i do a lot kinda) I told her I was getting horny and she was like oh i see and I was like would you do me a favor and she said it depends and I said get your dildo and stick it up there for me because i really needed it right then but she wouldnt /: So yeah it was embarresing I really just wish one of my friends were either bi or a lezbo because I really need someone to be able to do stuff with! When I see pictures of nude guys i just say cool but when I see a girls thats when I start actually looking good! I REALLY NEED HELP OR TIPS ON ANYTHING! PLEASE HELP ME! );I WILL RATE YOU

it's normal for some girls to do stuff like that. lots of girls like the way other girls look, and it doesn't necessarily mean you're bisexual or a lesbian. it's probably just your hormones.

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this might sound stupid...but whats an orgasim?

when you reach your peak of pleasure. your muscles tighten and then release quickly, and it gives you an awesome feeling.

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If you wear a condom during sex does that mean you most likely won't get pregnant or do you have to take birth control pills too..?

condoms are only 80% effective. there's still the 20% you will get pregnant. if you do use just a condom and have prolonged sex, make sure you have a few condoms on hand (not just one) so you can change it every now and then. it's safer.

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This question may sound dumb but what does it mean when a guy "pops your cherry" when you first have sex? I just want to know.

Please answer my answer and I will rate ya :)!

(14/f?

It means that he broke your hymen with his penis. When you have intercourse for the first time, it tears. yes, it can be painful, and yes, sometimes it bleeds.

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