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I think i may be losing my company car soon so i am on the look out for car, does any1 know what is the best sites for 1, looking for used cars and 2, guide to what prices i should pay for a particular car.
many thanks

www.vehix.com
and
www.carfax.com
there is another one, but i can't remember... sorry :( good luck finding a car though!

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erm...ok, I'm 13/f/ca, and next year I'm going to be a freshman in Highschool, I'm wanting for hopfully some...encouraging words. I"ve heard this kid saying I'll trashcan me cuz then he'll be a seinor. Do Seniors really make your Freshman year a living hell? how bad is it really? I need the truth really, cuz some people say you're never trashcaned in highschool, and others say Seniors are made to make Freshmans lives year a living hell.

pleaaaaaase help!!

signed,
Paranoid

that's funny. High school really isn't like that. The only "trashcanning" i've seen is among friends... and usually sophomore guys that are playfighting. Just don't super-piss off someone who is a Junior or Senior... that's really the only reason they might do that. But stuff like that really doesn't happen anywhere besides movies... unless he's a retarded loser. lol. don't be afraid of high school.

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i posted a question a couple weeks ago... and thanx to everybody that answered it... ok so here's another one for ya'll... so my last question was about me kissing another guy and do u think my boyfriend would break up with me... and how do i talk to him about it... well we talked and we are still together (yay!) so ne way... another boy problem question.... about ben... ok, i really really really like ben and he is the first boyfriend that i have had that i really truly like... but for some reason i cant get this paranoid idea outta my head that he is going to dump me... i think it's because this is my first real boyfriend and i am worried im gonna mess it up but i dont kno... this is really unusual for me because i am really a live by the moment-dont over think it kinda person... so i guess the question is... how can i stop worrying? i dont kno y this happening tho... he is really sweet to me and always says happy 1 week annaversary! and just stupid cutsie stuff like that... he treats my really well... and i mean... he told me i was the first girlfriend he really truly liked since his first.... i really dont want to get hurt... so i guess if u understand this at all... please help... lol...
...claire

okay tell him how you feel about him and ask him if he feels the same. Don't make him think your mad at him and don't make him think your "not good enough". Go to him calmly, honestly, and with confidence and just spill it.

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Well, there's this guy in one of my classes and I like him a lot. I've written him two notes now. The first one asked if he wanted to hang out the weekend of halloween with me and some friend and I gave it to him on a Tuesday. He never wrote me back so on Friday, I told him not to worry about writing me back because I guess he didn't want to hang out anyways. Well, then he told me that he didn't write me back because he was busy this weekend with some friends. Well, he started talking to me more since then. Last week I gave him another note saying that I didn't think he wanted to hang out with me or just be my friend or anything like that and he never wrote me back. I'm not sure what's going on, but since that note he talks to me a whole bunch and will just start random conversations with me. By the way he is very shy and doesn't talk too much, but now he talks to me a lot. I'm not sure what to think about all this. Do you think I should just confront him and tell him that obviously what I said in the note was true? Please give me some great advice! It would help a lot!

ur crazy! what's really happening is if he's shy, he probably likes you as a friend but your notes are a "guilt motivation" to speak to you. He feels guilty and that makes him get over his shyness so he talks to you. All I can say is you need to ask him "do I make you feel bad, and are my notes the ONLY reason why you speak to me? I like you as a friend, I was just curious..."

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hey every1.okay i know ALLLL the diet tips and the right fo0ds to eat and the excerise plans, etc, alllll of it... Im about 126-127 lbs, and im 5'2..I want to go down to 120 but I dont know how to STAY on the diet..I need motivation..Like sometimes Ill just be like aww screw it and just eat w/e, then right after i eat it i feel really depressed, etc..Any tips on how to STAY on a diet and STAY motivated?? Thanks!

Get a friend to do it with you. Tell everyone that you are going on a diet and ask them to motivate, encourage, and support you. Put up signs on your doors saying "you can do it... resist the urge to eat! Stay healthy" and if you get the urge to eat... think about what you will look like if you keep gaining weight and what you will look like if you start losing weight.

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Why is it that everytime i want to really express myself to my boyfreind he acts like he really dosent care what i think and then when i asked him how does he feel about me he said what does that have to do with anything thats going on and it has a lot to do with it. HE is the type to hurt your feelings . now he said all this stuff when he was MAD. When he is mad i do not like him. he was mad because he said i hung up the phone in his face when i didnt. so i told him what happen and he still acted the same. I cant leave him because im 15 in love and he is the best thing that ever happen to me in a long time. HE actually came and turned my life around and i dont think i can do it without him. I am a Black FEmale

Oh chica... you can get way better guys than that. It actually sounds like he's cheating on you or using you.... or he could just be a jackass. BREAK UP WITH HIM.... besides, when you are a teenager... it almost always feels like love. It could take you a while to get over him, but you will... he's not that great. :) Good luck!

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Hey, does anyone know how to put one of your own pictures as your advice column's background?Or can you do it?Thanks!

Paid accounts only i think.

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I have these dark circles under my eyes. They're huge though, and I can't cover it with makeup! They go from my nose (by my eyes), and go down in a round motion (which lines up with the end of my nose). They fade as they go down. How do I get rid of it??

There is surgery that you can get. It's a little pricey and you have to be over eighteen.
there is also specific creams/medicine that can minimize it. And there is make-up made for those circles... it's like yellow or something. Just google it or something.

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13/f i have just moved in my 8th grade year which is still hard for me to get over but my parents rly don't seem to get it that i'm miserable in my new town. my grandmother lives in my old town and offered for me to live with her. and it sounds rly good sometimes my parents and i disagree alot and i know most teenagers do but they still treat me like i'm 5 and its hell forme to live with them. i don't know what i should do. all my true friends are in my old town and i'm there every weekend. if you think i should live with my grandma please tell me what to say to my parental units! please help i have been lingering this for a long time and i have def given my new town a chance i've been here for 5 months

i'm going through the same thing. You really have to go and live with your grandmother. Your just going to have spill your guts out to your parents, maybe cry... I used a story to tell my parents how I felt but they didn't care. Umm... you gotta sit your parents down and tell them you are extremely unhappy, you've given the new town a chance, and you really would like to live with your grandmother because that is where your true friends are. Try not to hurt their feelings or make them mad but tell them like it is. :)
Good luck!

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Okay, picture this.. if you look at your teeth not the two front, not the next ones. but the next ones.. i haven't lost yet, their the only ones i haven't lost and i have an extra tooth growing out of my gums and its like way up there, and you can kind of see it when i smile but i think its grown to its fullest. but i dont wanna get my two teeth removed because i am 14, and I'll get picked on really bad, would u get them pulled?? or would u just wait for them to fall out?? please help

I had a friend who had that... and it looked really weird and stupid, she was so beautiful and it was her only fault. Then again, I almost had that and I messed with my teeth until they fell out and I had two missing "vampire" teeth and it made me look like a retard. But that was over the summer and they grew back by the second semester. any how... choose between having a fault or "retarded toothless smile"... or if you get it pulled you should do it over the summer.

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I just moved to arizona from texas.. my best friend cried wen i left, and said that i would always be her best friend.. but its a couple of months after i moved, and she doesnt seem to pay much attention anymore.. She never calls, writes letters, or emails... we talk to eachother on AIM sometimes, but wenever i talk to her im so happy! but i feel like she is forgetting about me even though she says im not.. i get so depressed about it, and i cry.i would do anything for her!! she is soo important to me! we tell eachother everything and anything.. wat can i do to get her to relize wats shes doing to me without hurting her feelings?

cest ne pas possible! :(

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im a 15 yr old chick and i absolutely love this guy (whos 18)with all my heart, and he likes me too we hook up all the time and its like were in a full on relationship except for he wont 'go out' wit me, he says he doesnt want to make it official because he doesnt want a hardout relationship. we recently had a fight and he said he didnt want to see me anymore, a day later hes saying im sorry im sorry i made a mistake will u forgive me!? but the thing is i have got really sick and i wont b able to 'do' anything for a couple of weeks, so then he says well.. were just friends then hey? im all better now and i still love him he came over last night coz were 'friends' now and before he left i told him how i felt about him and he said he still liked me too. i dont know if it should b like it was because every now and then he treated me badly, he stuffed me round all the time and i never knew where i stood with him, he wont commit but im not allowed to see other people so long as were seeing each other. im not happy with those conditions but i cant live without him, i wish he would change but he never will what should i do?

just stick with him and wait it out.. older guys that give you at least that much are hard to find. but he better be hot to make up for his being a slight jerk.

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OKay i no this guy who really likes my friend and my friend was leading him on saying she loves him. My friend doesnt actually like this guy at all she thinks hes weird but she made up this whole story and pretended to break up with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend meanwhile is really sad and i'm trying to comfort him. Then my friend finnally tells the guy she doesnt like him. Then the guy is like saying he is going to kill himself. He slit his wrist and swallowed 13 extra strength aspirin. Thats were I am now and I don't know what to do because the guy doesnt go to my school and i dont kno him that well and I'm not going to see him tommoro. I am talking to my friend and she is saying its not her fault. Im not sure what to do. Plz help me

tell your friend she needs to commit suicide. or kill her. oh and you can always call the police and ask them to look him up.. .they'll have him on record and they can stop him from killing himself. if not that, you can always just join the club and threatento kill yourself too! but seriously... go to a police station if you think the kid is really serious... otherwise you and your friend will feel really guilty if he dies./

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I am a 17 year old female and my exboyfriend is 16years old. My ex-boyfriend which is the 2nd guy I ever dated is my first love and he told me that I am his first love. Ever time we see each other we end up making-out even if one of us has a boyfriend or girlfriend. He also like to irritate me alot and he like to play a lot of stupid little games and its annoying. I tell myself that I'm over him but every time I see him I fall in love with him again. What can/should I do?????????

that's the funniest thing i've ever heard. it doesn't really sound like love, but if you think it is... tell him how it is. OR you could just go out with other people and randomly make out with this guy. the only way to solve it is to go out with him or tell him no making out or dating... we're just friends. otherwise you'll complicate things too much.

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ok, so heres the delio, i had been waitin for this guy to ask me out for 4 months, he had told a bunch of ppl he was gunna and we had been flirting and stuff, well he finally did on halloween, and i said yes , well 3 or 4 days into the relationship he gets in a fight with my friends, see hes christian and he believes no sex beofre marriage and no abortion and that kinda stuff which is what i believe too, but my friend dosnt, and so he called her a prostitue, well i stuck up for my friend, and was pretty much you dont have any right to call her that, you can tell her what she believes is wrong but thats crossing the line, and he got mad and is now ignoring me because i "took their side" over his, he has been ignoring me for the last 5 freakin days! and i have apolgized like 3 times, even though i feel like i did nothing wrong, and today i finally said we either need to fix this or break it off, because i dont want to be in a relationship where my boyfriend ignores me, even though i really really like him, but im sick of it, what should i do? should i try and work things out, or break it off with him?

Your fifteen... there are plenty of guys who will give you the attention you deserve. If he's going to ignore you after you apologize, he's not worth your time. Especially since he expects you to take his side after 3 or 4 days. When you've been going out for like more than 3-6 months, then he should expect you to take his side, but he was out of line with what he said anyway. break up! :)

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I'm going to get a piercing this up coming weekend, but I've never been to a "real" tattoo and piercing parlor. My piercing should be about $90 Canadian at most, so I'm wondering how much is it customary to tip? Does it vary with service, or is their a flat percentage of cost that most people tip?

okay one, I did answer your stupid question. and two... I was trying to help you... I read the damn question ... and i gave you that website because they have a whole page on how to tip piercers. so shut your f***ing mouth.

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i was staying after school waiting to be picked up and the 1 guy that ive liked ALOT with me. (he kinda had feelings for me but he is so hooked on his gf) well my dad called my cell and said my Aunt DIED, and he'd pick me up in an hour. so i started crying histerically, and Tom just came over and comforted me and i layed there in his ARMS crying. he literally wiped my tears and layed with me the whole time. Once i stopped crying he leaned over and kissed me. and then... we started making out for minutes straight, it was the most amazing/beautiful thing EVER. eventually i had to leave, & later Tom called & said how perfect that was & never had anything special like that. well he asked me what to do about his gf cause theyve been together for a year & he doesnt know if he should TELL her or NOT. hes really confused. so what should he do about his gf do you think he should tell? i dont want her to be mad at me and have all her friends threaten me and stuff. please help i dont know what to do about the whole situation, this is too much... (DONT TELL ME ITS WRONG WHAT WE DID CAUSE no shit I KNOW THAT ALREADY!!!)

it wasn't wrong... you two are friends who have feelings for eachother and you were vulnerable. He needs to be honest with his girlfriend but he can't say it was you... the best thing for him is to break up with his girlfriend, probably because if he doesn't it could ruin your friendship and get a lot people hating both of you.

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Hi can anyone help, I'm 26 yr old male and generally my complexion is ok, a few random minor zits but nothing terrible. However I have 2 reoccuring super spots. They flare up about every 2/3 months in exactly the same place (either side of my chin) and always both together. They start off as hard, sore, lumps under the skin and over a few days they become enflamed and red. Unlike other spots they don't eventually get a 'head' they just eventually die off, usually after 7 - 10 days. I wash with an antibacterial wash twice daily and use 'quinoderm' cream which is effective on most of my smaller spots.

Any ideas would be very gratefully received?

Thanks

Go to a dermatologist. You have reocurring acne, and it's likely that you won't be able to get rid of it without prescription medicine. A dermatologist can give you acne pills that will help to keep the reoccuring spots away/to a minimum and he can suggest other face washes that are right for you.

I recommend ProActive, though.

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I'm an only child. Through my childhood, I spend a lot of time at home. I didn't have THAT many friends at school, and I didn't have any friends in the neighborhood, so I was at home a lot, and I spent a lot of time being with my parents. When dad was at work and mom had to go somewhere, I would go. When I was a little girl, I spend SO much time with my mom. And my dad. My friends and other family members would say that I went everywhere my mom went. By 7th grade, I started to get a little...crazy. I got very moody around them, and every little thing they did would bug me. I felt like I needed to get out of the house and get away from them. I got to the point where I would go to my room and cry because they bugged me so much. They weren't abusive, they weren't mean, and they gave me everything I needed and more. But just having them around and nagging bugged me. I disliked them so much. But I didn't tell them, because I had no reason to. They just thought I had developed an attitude. Now, I'm in the middle of high school, and my mom has threatened to leave before because I treat her mean and I get mad at her all the time. And I really shouldn't, I know that. She's a great mom. But now, its like she's always nagging at every little thing and calls me like every 5 minutes (not to 'check up' but she has to have me do something for her, or she has to tell me something that I already know). She doesn't understand anything. And she's nosey. God, I just don't know what to do. I do have an attitude towards my parents, they've given me everything I needed, etc. I just spend way too much time around them. I even told that to my mom one time, and she was crying and yelling at me, saying "Well then from now on, I don't even want to talk to you! You're always so mean to me! From now on, you find your own rides and I just won't have nothing to do with you!" When she told me that I started crying too. I don't totally want her out of my life...I'm so confused. What am I supposed to do?

same things happening with me... eh. all I can say is tell your mom you have to tell her something. Sit her down in your room when you know she has time to listen. Tell her you love her and she is the greatest mom ever and you love being with her BUT sometimes you are getting older, becoming more independent, and you need a little time to yourself and you need her to start treating you as an adult and stop nagging you so much. Tell her your not angry with her and you don't want her to be angry with you, but you just don't want to end up fighting with her. If that doesn't work, start crying, tell her you can't take that she won't listen to you and drag her over to the computer and make her read what you wrote. good luck!

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I made some muffins the other day, and sprayed some Pam on the muffin trays before putting the batter in. Whatever butter was not covered by muffin batter burned onto the pan. I've scrubbed it three times in a row, but it will not come off, yet it still feels slightly sticky. Does anyone have a trick to cleaning burned butter off of a pan?

what a stupid question.

soak it for an hour in hot, soapy water.
then scrub it off with a hard sponge and some soap. rinse that off, then use a scraper -(if it is still feeling sticky, buy a metal scraper at Wal*Mart) - and scrap off whatever is left on the pan. If it STILL feeling sticky, it's a cheap quality pan and you ought to buy anoter one that is non-stick and good quality.

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