19/f in the university but living at home. The university that I go to is a university, it isn't a community college and the reason I point that out is because they do have a student center, dorms, and fraternities and sororities, and all of that stuff. I want to explain a little bit about my situation but the bottom line is that I'm SUPER SUPER stressed. I live at home with my mom and my grandparents and I'm telling you that it's an absolute nightmare. I want to cry and I'm just really, really unhappy.
I went to a REALLY prestigious high school. It was a college prepatory school and everyone graduated going to nice universities. My university is really nice, it's just the fact that I'm living at home. Anyway, most of the people I went to high school with went away for college. I was planning on transferring to another school after completing a summer term at my university, but it didn't really work out because that summer I found out that I was adopted. I recently found my biological family and have kept in contact with them also. It wasn't something bad to find out... but I'm just saying. I also fell in love with my school. I started to really like it and everything they offered. I met different people who aren't from Miami... where I live and I actually really love my school. However, I really, really hate Miami.
Ever since I started school, I've had to work... really really hard. My mom does not work and the only income that she gets is the income from the house that she rents. My dad brings me money sometimes... but I feel bad always asking for money. My grandparents own a car dealership... but it's not as if they make that much money. I've had to work for the things that I've wanted and to have money on the side for my own things. But, I'm not complaining about working because I don't mind working. I took a semester off because I really wanted to focus on school and I was taking important classes. I wanted to resume working this semester, so that I wouldn't feel as if I had no money. I'm stressed because with the money I will be making when I'm working, I have money for absolutely nothing.
I do not have a car. My mom and I were sharing a car and she had to take me off the policy because it was too expensive. I cannot rent my own apartment because any money I would be making wouldn't cover an apartment. If I did have my own apartment, I would not be able to pay a phone bill or any insurance on a car. I'm really stressed because no matter what, I know I can't handle a full time job. School is a priority and I see more and more when I'm applying to jobs that a college degree is needed. I also cannot take part time classes because I am on scholarship and I need to be a full time student to maintain it. I am extremely stressed and sometimes I feel that I shouldn't be going through these financial troubles because I'm a student and because I'm living at home.
I wonder sometimes if I made a big mistake staying home for college because if I were away, I wouldn't feel all of this. Maybe my parents would have even gotten me a car. In Miami, everyone needs a car. You really can't do anything without a car. My mom just picks me up and drops me off everywhere, even parties and dates!!! It's a nightmare! And it's not as if I'm not working and I'm a brat. I've been working since I was sixteen and working lots of hard hours since I started college.
There has to be something I can do to feel less stressed and be able to feel that independence that i need at my age... even if I am a student and living at home.
I hope you guys can help me and offer me any advice. It would be so helpful.
Thanks. xoxo
If you want you can apply for housing at your college. If you are as smart as I think you are you could apply for scholarships, their just not for 12th graders. You can not reach your full potential until you get out of that situation.
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What do I do if a guy is about to kiss me for the first time???
If you like him kiss him. If you don't stop and spill something.haha joking. But really enjoy your first time. Its only your first once.
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so i'm thinking about getting a tattoo. either on my ankle or on my hip. i was wondering which one hurts more. my parents are completely against tattoos but i just turned 18 and i really want one. i know i can hide it easier on my hip. but i really really want a short quote on my ankle. what should i do? and which one hurts more?
Depending on how much you way. Your boneist area will hurt the most, so probly your ankle.
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Weird I know. It's not like I mind the touching, it makes me glad people feel comfortable around me. I'm just curious as to why people touch me.(not badly, but just light skinship) Okay, examples: 1) I was in art class drawing, and minding my own business. All of a sudden this guy sitting beside me just abruptly grabs my hand. I look up at him, surprised that he touched me (for no real reason I may add), and even HE looked
surprised that he touched me, he pulled away and said "Uhhh". 2) I'm sitting in class again, minding my own business and this other guy SITS on me and then says "Can I sit on your lap?" I
shoved him off and told him no and he quickly leaves. 3) this gay guy who I sit with at lunch was complaining about his day (he's bitter, cinical and normally doesn't touch me at all) and
he just grabs my hand and lays his head on my shoulder, I gave him a look like: "Um, what are you doing?" and he sits up and says "why did I do that?" Those are just SOME of the things, so
why do people (boys and girls) like to touch me and why do they act so surprised when they do?
To tell you the truth I don't think anyone can answer this one. But you might be one of those people who just seems friendly in the touching way. If you don't like it, just be aware of your surroundings. haha
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the title really doesnt explain my problem, but its the closest thing to it that i could think of.
so after 8th grade last year, (im going to be a sophomore) i switched high schools, along with many other friends of mine. but, one of my bestfriends, stayed. now, we have been bestfriends since 5th grade, and we used to hangout every weekend. now that we are going into our second year of being at different schools, i feel like things are changing and we arent hanging out as much. maybe its because shes spending time with her sister thats going to college in the fall? i dont know, but thats really not my issue. we are making a plan to hangout, but im just scared that it will be awkward when we do hangout since we havent seen eachother since her birthday in june. tell me your thoughts.
I don't think so. If she has been your friend for that long, yall will always have somthing in common. It might start off slow, but trust me it will feel like old times. I'm going to be a sophmore to,(out of my friends ithe only one that goes to a different school)and me n my friends hangout less. But when ever we get to gether its like old times.
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Hi :)
I just got a dance team started at the middle school I work for, and we have 11 girls who made the team.
I was wondering what I can do for them on a very limited budget... like I really want them to get little trinkets and whatnot... little gifts here and there for working hard... but I have no clue what to get them.
Being that we are a NEW TEAM, like we have no money. (Uniforms are self funded). So I also need really good fundraiser ideas... but I can already tell you ideas that are out:
-Selling Candy (Can't be sold during the school day).
-Carnation sales (Another organization is doing that).
-Car Washes (Pending, depending on approval)
Any other suggestions... I just really want this to be a succesful program which is why I got it started in the first place, these girls need to be involved and I felt I needed to something. Another reason why I am on such a short budget is because I am only a teachers aide (not making teacher salary), and a full-time univeristy student with BILLS. SO yeah...
Any ideas or suggestions would be GREATLY APPRECIATED!
I not sure where you are but where i'm from we have a Micheal's and Joan's, which are art stores. You can make little trinkets and bows from there, and have a nice bonding experience with the team while making them. And other than the ones you listed, you can have the parents donate. Do stands of lemonade, cookies, and others to raise money outside of school. Hoped I helped.
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ok so my friend recently got a bf at the beach like a summer beach romance...and she wanted me and my friends to meet him. so i did at first when she wasnt there at the beach and i was like ya he\'s cool, whatever. so the second time i met him feelings grew inside of me and i cant help it. this is soo bad becuase my 2 of my friends did the same thing to me like they basically cheated on me on the guy i was with. but lastnight they broke up and i\'m like im so sorry! like comforiting her but she said she didnt even like him that mucha anyway.. but anyways this is so long...ok so when i was in 1rst grade there was this guy me and my friend (the one im talking about) and he asked me to go hangout with him...sorry if this is confuseing..yes 1rst grade idont know why i remember...anyways so i\'m pretty sure it\'s him! but i feel so guilty for even thinking hes attractive...becuase i know how it feels for ur friend to do that but i don't know... and i know even if she doesnt even like him shed be mad that i would go after him. what do i doo =[ i don't know how to stop the feelings...i have a feeling i m gunna be seeing alot at the beach since we go alot like everyday ...thanks
If you really want to go out with him, tell her your feelings for him. If she really wasnt into him it reallly shouldnt matter. But something tells me that she was saying that to say it. But tell her that you want to go out with him. If she sais no respect that. she has been your friend longer than youve known him. I dont know how old you are since your talking about first grade. I hope your not in second haha. But good luck.
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i was with a boy for a year, and then we broke up. we never told each other we were in love, knowing that's a huge step.
when we broke up, we admitted to it. he said he was in love with me & i said it back. we dont even talk anymore, but i know he was my first real love. i just dont know if i was IN love, you know?
is there a difference between your first real relationship, that person being your first love, but not being in love with them? when it came to him, being my longest relationship, i never felt this way about anybody else. i was only 15 at the time. i lost my virginity to him and although we're broken up i do not regret it because i know i loved him; he was my first love, i just dont know if i was in love.
im not sure what im asking. but any input would be nice.:)
Ofcourse he was your first serious relationship. So you feel love for him for that already. Whatever you did inbetween that just added on to that. You may have not been in love with him, but I'm sure you really love him.
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13/f
Some friends from school told me that having sex will make your boobs grow. I have really small boobs and I hate it so I thought I would give it a try. I'm not sure I'm doing it right though. I just dunno but I want my boobs to be pretty big.
I had sex with 7 boys from my grade at school but nothing really changed for me and my boobs were still small. I was talking to my dad's friend on Facebook and he said he thought sex made breasts grow only if the girl had sex with a guy older than her. So, we ended up having sex, obv.
It just seems like this is taking foreverrr and I just want my barely A cups to go to like a DD. I know that's a big leap but it's what I WANT. After having sex w/my dad's friend I think they seem to be a little more full but not much.
I went on and posted some match ads online and there is 4 guys who say they want to do it with me so my boobs will grow. My first thinking is that if I do it with them all at once then my boobs will grow faster all at once. They're all up for it but I want to know if it will still work that way. I don't want to like have sex with them all together and then my boobs don't grow at all. Does anyone know if you have sex with more than 1 guy at a time if your boobs will still grow? They're all a lot older than me so that shouldn't be a prob.
((And before you start answering don't worry about me getting pregnant. I know the guy has to cum in you for this to work but I haven't started my period yet so I can't get pregnant anyways.))
I read all the other people so you should know what Im going to say. but you can get pregnant before you get your period so take that into consideration too.
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How can I get attention in class and outside of class in school. I'm not an attention hog or anything. I'm actually really shy and I'm just sick of being a wallflower. Last year people didn't even notice that I was in their grade. They thought I was new and I've been living in my town for years! So how can I be noticed?
If your into it. You can join a club or sport to make friends that are into what your into. Or you can just meet people in your school by going up and talking to them.
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There is a guy that works at the same store as me but in a different department. I always catch him staring at me. I've seen him stare at me from upstairs, at our morning briefings, even he has come in on his day off once and I saw him staring at me. He seems nice but on the shy side. The looks I get are not lustful but more puppy dog looks. I have also noticed that he seems more cheerful around the other workers since I have been smiling at him and saying hi. He used to be a lot quieter and looked a bit down. Also he is taking better care of his appearance. Do you think he's interested?
I'm pretty sure he's intrested. unless you have this thing on your face everyday haha. If he looks at you like that a lot he sees something.
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i think I'm falling in love with my classmate. and i don't think he will not love me back
I don't really know what asking. Though I will just say go for it. And if he doesn't like you back, thats better for you. you have one boy that you dont need to date.haha
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I'm 18 and my bf is 19, we are planning on getting married, is it the right thing to do?
Only you and your partner knows its right. But just don't do it because of love. You also need to think about your living situation,Your money situation,and is that going to withold with your future.
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So, to make this short there is this boy who my friend dated while ago, prolly over 5 months ago. She got over him, and she now has a boyfriend. Well, her ex, "Paul" and I have been talking quite a bit, and have been harassing each other for a long time. We both decided that we didn't want eachother, and that we were just friends because ALL of our friends said that we acted like we were dating. So, I went over to his house, and he and I kissed, and it was like a fire was lite in my stomach! I was in a state of euphoria for about 2 days after we kissed, and it was just amazing. He agreed and said that it was equally as amazing. Now here is the hard part, he keeps going all weird. Like, not talking to me and acts like he wants nothing to do with me. We dated for a day, and he said he couldn't do it becuase he was still in love with my friend, his recent ex. So I said, fine I respect that, and then he said he really likes me, so we are "complicated". He keeps wanting sexual things, to which I say NO, and he is persistant! Its annoying, but I like him SO much I dunno what to do. Do I just wait and go with the flow? Or do I assume he just wants me for sex? If you need anymore info, just comment and I will fill in any holes! Thanks!
The way your explaining things are very clear that he only wants you for sex. He doesn't wan't to be in a relationship but he want you for sexual things. The kiss was nice but not after the fact.
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K so I'm 13, in 7th grade, (girl) and all my friends (girls) are like all prude, but I would like to grind and make out with people that I'm not dating but all my friends would judge me. We have parties all the time so there's a lot of grinding going on. I didn't grind at the last party because my parents were invited but in school today my friend and I were joking around and I ended up in front of him against the wall and he started grinding me without holding my waist and now everyone is making a huge deal out of it and calling me a slut and I feel horrible but I really want to do stuff like grind! Am I being a slut and should I feel bad???
Grinding at a school is not cool because thats showing dudes that your easy to persuade(if you know what I mean).But at a party, it has to be at the right kind of party. You are young, and these are young parties but its not that slutty. But the making out with strangers yes is slutty. These dudes mouths have been god knows where. Plus if you like making out, so do other girls so you wouldnt be the first one.
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Any chance of getting pregnant by getting fingered? With the guy being fully clothed?
Sorry im just very parinoid with this stuff..DX
haha. Its good to be cautious. NO!
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There are these two guys both of them recently broke up with their girlfriends. One of the let's let's call him b I have liked for a while and I thought he seemed interested. Now though I think I am wrong he told me right now he dosnt want a gf but he didn't tell me he dosnt like me. Yet he still fliers so much with me. Goes to where I am before class and talks to me when Im not around his ex he walks with me. I really have feels for b. My heart says to go to him but my brain says no that he will only hurt me. Then there is guy c. He seems interested in me. Since he broke up with his gf he sits with me at lunch. He texts me sometimes and gangs out with my before school and whenever I see him. My brain tells me to go for him he is a really sweet guy but my heart isn't their. It's thinking about guy b. I'm so confused and what sucks even more is that all my friends hate guy b because his ex is one of my close friends and they are upset about the break up. Idk they are wired like that. On the other hand they see guy c as a cool friend. Ugh I need help what would you do?
If your real close to guy b's gf, and consider her a close friend. You need to talk to her about going out with him. Never lose a good gf for some boy, haha not right.You said for yourself that he doesn't even want a girlfriend right now so.... And for guy c dont even try with him. If your hearts not in it why bother. You would just be blocking another girl who really does like him.
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Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I have been together for practically 3 years. And he watches porn. Now, I feel horrible whenever I find out he's been watching it. I have low self esteem and feel that when he watches it it's because I'm not pretty enough or whatever. I've told him how his watching porn takes its toll on me, and he promises to stop, which he always ends up breaking that promise :/
I satisfy him in every way possible, my sex drive is up to par, if not, even higher than his! But he just won't give up porn. He'll stop, and go back eventually. This frustrates me so much... What should I do? Should I leave? Thanks in advance :(
You have invested 3 years into this. The question is can you live with this. If its no then he has to make or real change or you have to end it. But if the answer is yes just compromise. In a relationship thats what you have to do.I'm sure theres some things that he doesnt like you doing.But if you think this is somewhat of an addiction. You might need to get him some help.And P.S. Never think that your not good enough.
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sooo my ex dumped me in a text and then two days later starts talking to another girl. I didn't want to break up. I knew we should but I just didn't want to. And I want... well wanted him back so bad. But now I don't think I do. Te thing is I'm just so hurt right now... I gave him a BJ a week before we broke up. I did it because I trusted him and I wanted to make him happy and he broke my heart and I regret it so much. He doesn't even care. He doesn't care about me one tiny bit... but he's already gonna be hanging out with this new girl tomorrow. How can he do this to me?? He's my first bf, my first kiss, my first everythinlg. I put so much of myelf into this relationship and it just hurts so much now and I don't know what to do... Please help. I sent him a text last night saying I don't want to get back togethere anymore and that I was done with him. But I want to hurt him like he's hurt me, even though I know that's not a good idea. I just don't know what to do... I have great friends but I still feel so lonely and horrible inside. How can I et over him??
The best way to get him back is to first,get over him. Boys like that love to see women fall all over themselves for them. So don't. Do what you have to do to getover him cry, scream, whatever just dont let him see you sweat. Second when you over him and good with your self show him that you dont need him, walk around with your friends like you dont have a care in the world.Even go back out there. He was using you, but thats a lesson learn. You can do much better and you know it! Do your thing, dont let him control you. It wont be easy, but it will be worth it.
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why my bf just recently only always get mad at me he never listen what i have to tell him? he never love me anymore?or maybe he have someone now? sometimes im so scared to tell him about how i feel because he suddenly get mad at me and then he never talk to me for 1 week or so.
If its getting this way you can only have two choices. You either try to have a personal talk with him about what you want out of the relationship or time to break up.Because obviosly he is over this whole thing.
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