I have many girls as friends, and some of them are really close like siblings. When they get a new boyfriend, I act hostile and give off a pissed off vibe. All I wanna do is protect my friend from getting hurt, but am I getting in their way?
I think that you are. my advice would be to meet the boyfriends first and if you think that they are bad for them then you can get alittle protective. but don't get overly protective because then your friends are not going to want you to be around their boyfriends which could but a gap in your friendship. hope this helps! ;)
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18/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now. I'm in love with him. He's honestly the best person I have ever known. He's my best friend and I just feel so amazing around him :) We have gotten into many arguments and he is starting to doubt our relationship. He has considered breaking up many times but thank god he decided not to. I really really do love him, with all of my heart. Anyways, I was wondering if anybody had some ideas or advice on some ways I can show or do something to show him how much he means to me? I've done things like bake him a cake, made him a blanket, made him food, bought him some things like clothes and rings. But thats not what i'm looking for.. I want to do something or get something for him that will make him realize that he is everything to me. I want to do something for him that I wouldn't do for anyone else.. something extraordinary.. It can be crazy :) I am the type of girlfriend who loves to do things over-the-top and make his jaw drop and be in a state of awe with surprise and happiness.
If you have seen the movie A Walk to Remember, theres a part when the guy names a star (in the sky) after the girl. It was soo adorable and I want to do something random and extraordinary like that.
Another idea I had was this- I'm going to be spending a month in Europe this summer. Italy specifically. My boyfriend has never left the state.. so it would mean so much to him if he got to travel to a different country. I'm considering maybe buying him a plane ticket to visit me for a few days/week? But this idea is a little tricky because plane tickets are expensive and i'm only 18. Plus my parents are not too fond of him, so it might be a little awkward. But to be honest, I'm doing this for my boyfriend.. not my parents, so they can make it awkward as much as they want, but my boyfriend will still be happy. Do you think this is a good idea? (If i did this, I would obey my parents rules 100% because they would be doing us a huge favor if they allowed him to come with)
Oh and another idea was to buy him tickets to his favorite band's concert, but i'm not sure if this will show him my passion and love for him.
Besides these 3 ideas, does anyone have other ideas? remember- I'm looking for something over-the-top, extraordinary, something he won't expect or see coming. Something to show him how much he means to me and how madly in love I am with him. Thanks!! :)
Okay so you deffinatly have some great ideas here. if i were you i would go with the plane ticket or the ring. both are great and will show him that you love him! hope this helps!
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I'm 18/f he's 19/m
So basically I posted on here before about how I have really strong feelings for my best friend. And how he had a mystery girl and I wanted to know whether or not it was me. Well basically I decided it just couldn't be me and well I got pretty upset trying to accept it and move on...and that's when one of my friends I hadn't spoken into a while (also mutual friends with the guy I like) told me I have nothing to worry about and asked me if there was something going on between us cause she's noticed he treats me alot differently and whatnot. And that's when she called me to tell me something cause she could see how upset I was getting over him. She then told me that he told her anything, and that I'm not meant to know yet..but she had to tell me before I moved on. She told me that he does really really like me, but he wants to stay single for a little bit longer. And how if we end up together he's 100% committed to me and how the thought of me ending up with anyone else really upsets him. He also said he's scared of relationships because of his ex and is still struggling to get over her. He told her he will talk to me about all this and tell me he likes me in person, and that he wants to know exactly how I feel. I should be happy the most amazing guy likes me but I'm struggling to believe it...he hasn't contacted me for the last two days at all and now I'm worried...then today I read something I really didn't want to see...he said on fb how he wants to stay single and "doesn't want a girlfriend for a long time cause it only leads to heartache and fights" I was hurt by this because I want to be with him and I know I'm alot different to his ex, I would never ever hurt him like that, ever. I understand his lifestyle and whatnot and I wouldn't ever dream of hurting him like she did. I just feel like giving up, maybe we weren't meant to be after all... :(
don't give up! your friend told you he likes you and that he would be upset if you end up with some one else. i think he just needs sometime. give him sometime to get over his ex. he is hurt and needs a little time. you never know maybe the day he wrote that he was having a bad day. so just give him a little bit of time and just remember he does like you. hope this helps! :)
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Okaay, so I met this kid one night when me and my friend were sneaking out. We just randomly talked to them and we were hella flirting and laughing but like my friend said i ditched my cousin by himself at home, so the guy got kinda weird out or mad so I think that turned him off but we were still laughing after that and flirting. So, I gave him my number, and two days after he prank called me using his friends. I called that number and tried getting info about the guy i like from that friend but the friend gets mad and so now i think that friend likes me! So, I wanna just ask the friend for the other guy's number but im afraid he'd stop talking to me if i do because he might think thats the only reason why im talking to him. BUT! I found the guy i like on facebook, but im scared to add him because he'd probably think of me as a stalker? HELP!!!
Okay so you have two chooses you can either add him on facebook or ask his friend for his number than get the friend mad. i say you add him on face book because he won't think your a stalker but he'll get the message that you do like him. i hope this helps, good luck!
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I kno that people ask this question all the time but, which guy should I choose? I usually think that the people who ask this question are weird but now that I'm in this position.....
Guy 1- really shy but if you get to kno hm he's hilarious and talkative. He really likes me and we are currently going out but I feel like I'm cheating on him b/c I dont love him as much as he loves me.
Guy 2- one of my brothers best friends and I think he's HOTT but my friends are completely repulsed by him. He's hilarious and really flirty with me but I dont kno if he likes me.
Guy 3- really talkative and hilarious and all my friends agree with me when I say he is defiantly cute but I also like his best friend.
Guy 4- guy 3's best friend. pretty shy but super HOTTTTTT. He's always making jokes gets super jealous if he sees me with my boyfriend.
Please give actual advice and tell me who you would date if you were in my shoes. I know it's up to me but still it really IS hard to decide!!!!!! I am hiding their identitys to avoid embaressment on my part or their part. Thank you so much!!!!
when you have to chose a guy its not about the way he looks first of all. it also depends on you. Ask your self these questions:
1)which guy are you most comfortable with?
2) which guy's personality matches yours?
3) which guy do you see yourself with?
The guy that you can answer all these quesions with is the guy you should chose. I hope this help good luck!
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14/f
I have a once great 'best friend' whom I was very close to, but lately she's been a bitch and baby, honestly, and flipping on my other friend and me over nothing. I can't take it anymore. Should I stay her friend?
i say if you are close to her and think the friendship is worth it then keep being her friend. But talk to her and ask her why she is acting this way. Because you never knoaw maybe there is something happening at home that is upseting her or my be shes just having a bad week. talk to her and then decide what to do about the friendship. hope this helps :)
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In order to understand this situation better I should probably give you some background.
Im 19, female, and have been dating this amazing guy since the beginning of March, although I met him in December when I was home for break. He's everything I ever wanted in a guy, not to mention he treats me amazing and he worships me. However, my previous relationship was a two year one where I made so many mistakes by staying with the guy it turned verbally and emotionally abusive to me. Whats strange is that a week after I left my ex, I met my current boyfriend.
Thing is, after a long relationship last thing I wanted was a new one, so when I met this boy at a party I just shrugged our encounter off as a hookup, even though we exchanged numbers. He continued to contact me through out december and january, even when I went back to school, to hang out or go out but I would always blow him off. My university is close to home so distance was not the issue. Then, around the end of january he invited me to hang out with him and his friends one more time, and for some reason, I accepted.
What followed was almost a miracle. Not only was this boy perfect in every way for me, he thought I was perfect. He treats me incredible and would always say how amazing i am and how lucky he is to have found me. It's really insane how perfect we were together and how much i fit in with all of his friends as well. We continued to hang out and hook up throughout february and eventually he asked me to be his girlfriend. Because i had just ended a bad relationship, I said no. However, two weeks later after we kept going out and his friends pretty much considered me his grilfriend and after I kept seeing how amazing he was to me, I accepted. That was early March, it is now mid april and the experiences I've shared with him are priceless. I haven't felt this loved ever in my life and he truly is an amazing person. I think I've fallen for him. I say this because sometimes I get the urge to say "I love you" when were together but I always abstain myself.
Two interesting things happened, one, I was using his computer one day while he was showering and when I went to the internet, recent pages came up, and it showed he had researched "when is it too soon to say I love you". That sort of melted my heart it was very sweet.
The other interesting thing that happened is that we were laying in bed one night, we hadn't done anything, just cuddling, and we fall asleep. At one point though I wake up a little bit and he is hugging me so I turn over to face him and look at him and he is awake and whispers softly "i love you" and i couldn't be sure that he had said it so I asked What? and he repeated it, again softly. I wanted him to really say it so i said what a third time and again he said it very faintly. So i closed my eyes and hugged him and "went back to sleep". I'm not sure what this means, because I definitely think I heard him say it, three times, but it was so soft I'm not sure and he hasn't said it since and then I was not at a point where I felt like saying it but now I am and I want to but am very scared to. Idk when or what the right moment would be or what if he hadn't said it that night and I end up saying it first, I don't want to freak him out, I also dont want to say it too soon since it's only been a few months of dating but I just feel it, or at least I think I do because why else would I want to say it so bad? it always come up in my mind when I look at him.
My question is, should I say it even if he hasn't repeated it since then? Whats the best time and should I just be random about it or make sure its a special moment or what? What do you guys make of the situation? Does it count if he said it softly when we were "asleep" because I feel like it doesn't but I also have a feeling he thinks that since he said it he doesn't want to again until I do...I'm confused about this whole thing.
I say you say it. if his looking up when is it to early to say i love it means his feeling it too. maybe when you said it faintly he didn't hear you and thats why he hasn't said it. so just say it when you feel like saying it it will come natrally. good luck! :)
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My man is in prison and he wants to know how I feel about being commuted to two men? I know he wants to make sure im taken care of physically but how would you respond if you were asked this question?
This depends on how you feel about it. Are you comfortable with being with another man? It is obvious that all he wants to do is take care of you, so it is about how you feel about it.
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My dad used to smoke and I know he still does because he has about 1000 lighters and he always smells of smoke. I love him so much and want him to be around for a long time. He doesn't know that I know. He also is overweight and doesn't go to the doctor. What do I do? I can't stop worrying about him!!!
Talk to him. if you are worried then talk to him and tell hem that you know that he is smoking. tell him that you love him and you are worried about his health. and ask him to please stop smoking or to at least go to the docter and see if everythings okay for you. let your dad know what your feeling.
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Okii so theirs this guy i really really like, my ex asked me out and wants to knoe by friday (tomorrow) i wanna say no but i think that will hurt him, but i also wanna use it as an excuse to ask the guy i like if hes ever gonna ask me out, or if im just waisting my time, please help me come up with something to tell the guy i like.
tell your ex no if you want to make the other guy jelous it is not gonna work at all.
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All my friends say that I'm beautiful (I just recently dyed my hair red) and that I don't need to date. But every time my friends start talking about awesome it was to hang out with their Boyfriends and their plans for the weekend with their BF, I feel left out. I am the only one of my friends that is single. Is there a way to feel less like an outcast??? I'm only 13...
I know how you feel, but don't be in a rush to get a boyfriend ur still alittle younge and when its the right time you will know. and plus boy ur age are imature.
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Okay I dated this guy for the 3rd time. We lasted longer than the first two. He broke up with me cause I was having a really bad week and it made him think that I didn't want to date him and made him think that I didn't like him. To be honest I was kinda losing feelings for him, but now that we're over all my feelings are back and there 10x's stronger. He said we would be best friends, but he doesn't talk or look at me. I'm thinking he's talking to this girl cause they comment on each others walls on facebook all the time and hungout today. She's not a virgin too and he probably likes her for that reason too. What do I do? Get over him? Its not really working, I like him a lot now.
I would tell you to get over him but i know that never works. what i can tell you is that if you were starting to lose feelings for him and then getting the m back after you guyz break up says that it might just be a infatuation. the best thing i can tell you is get a ditaction, a rebound. this will help you to try to move on. and if you think he likes that girl because shes not a virgin then it show that he wants sex from you. my opinion is try to forget about him and don't listen, do, or look at things that remind you of him.
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Whenever my mum sees me she points out everything that is bad about me. For example, I have just had my hair cut, and when I got home, she said she hated it. She said it was too thin, not long enough etc. I just feel so upset about my life and I want to die.
Tell your mom that it is hurting your feelings what she is say to you, because you never know she might not realise shes hurting you. and if she keeps doing it then just ignore her. if it helps make a list of all the good, positve things about yourself and when you feel this way again read it to yourself and it will make you feel better.
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My name is Michael, Im 15 and a freshman in high school.
I live with my mom, dad, and sister. My mom is emotionally abusive to me, and is psycho beyond belief. My sister helps me get through the tough times, but next year shes going away to college and won't be here. My dad feels sorry for me, but won't help me at all. Ive been dealing with it, but today just sent me over the top. I came home today, and was going out to dinner with my friends. I went to my stash of money, and looked at it. Well, i noticed that it looked off. I blew it off, grabbed a 20 and went to dinner. Well i came home and counted my money. It turns out im missing 80 bucks!!! I have had the stash of money, for a while, and i keep up with how much is there everyday. I have made no purchases with that money in a while, so someone at home, had to of stolen it. My mom yelled at me when i confronted her, and told me to stop lying and that i was a piece of sh*t for asking her about it. I can't take this anymore, and i dont know where to go, or what to do!!
Don't run away! that is deffinatly not the answer. i say you get a box or safe with a lock that has a combo that noone knows. that way if someone wanted to steal your money they couldn't. and for your mom what she is doing is wrong but the only thing you can do is wait until graduation and then your off to collage. i am your age and can relate to the situation and runing away from your problems never works.
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14/f
My friend, a 15 year old girl, is sometimes like a bratty little kid. She gets upset if she can't have her way and if someone asks her to stop something.
For example, my other friend has a notebook which we all write stories in. I'll call her Lydia. The childish friend, let's say Jen, gets it more than anyone else and throws a little tantrum if Lydia won't give it to her or asks for it back. She also ripped out several pages which nobody can use now.
She also thinks it's ok to write on other people's things without asking. She writes all over the notebook in Sharpie just because she felt like it (which she said) and on Lydia's shoes (WTF?!) and when we tell her it needs to stop, she gets angry and ignores us. She came over to my house yesterday and had the nerve to write on my brother's Legos in Sharpie. Her excuse? He 'always' hits her on the head. He's a little kid!
What do I do? She's being a baby and a brat and lives in her own little world, complaining about everyone else. It needs to stop. Any advice? Thank you!
This girl needs a wake up call! don't put up with her tantrums. she is 15 she sould not be acting this way. when she throws a tantrum simple ignore her, stop talking to her and if you keep doing this hopefully she well get the message that she is driving her friends away with the way she is acting.
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i'm a 17years old girl and all my life i have been dealing with 'haters' as friends, i've have never had a friend that care more about being there for each other than how i look. I have always been the one to make friends, but somehow its hard to get along with the girls than the boys...and some of them hate me because i get along more with the boys than the girls...My so called girl friends always try to make me feel bad about myself and one of them went as far as telling people that i have 'white liver' this in the caribbean means someone with mix culture sleeps with a lot of guys...what more can i do to let them know i'm not the enemy...please help me!!
This people are not your friends. Real friends don't treat you that way. I say you don't have to prove anything to them. There is nothing wrong with having guy friends, its less drama and hate. If these girls treat you this way then don't even bother with them. Friends are sopposed to be there for each other not to bring you down.
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