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I can't trust my own family, and want to leave. Im only 15 years old.
My name is Michael, Im 15 and a freshman in high school.
I live with my mom, dad, and sister. My mom is emotionally abusive to me, and is psycho beyond belief. My sister helps me get through the tough times, but next year shes going away to college and won't be here. My dad feels sorry for me, but won't help me at all. Ive been dealing with it, but today just sent me over the top. I came home today, and was going out to dinner with my friends. I went to my stash of money, and looked at it. Well, i noticed that it looked off. I blew it off, grabbed a 20 and went to dinner. Well i came home and counted my money. It turns out im missing 80 bucks!!! I have had the stash of money, for a while, and i keep up with how much is there everyday. I have made no purchases with that money in a while, so someone at home, had to of stolen it. My mom yelled at me when i confronted her, and told me to stop lying and that i was a piece of sh*t for asking her about it. I can't take this anymore, and i dont know where to go, or what to do!!
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Accusing someone let akin your mom; who brought you into this world and provided for you is just wrong. Why confront if you could talk nicely.and why do you think it's your mom who did it? If you think running away will solve your problem, think again, or maybe it's the only way to realized that your life with your family is not as bad as it seems if you would only learn how to communicate as a family. Nothing in this world is free., do you think you can survive paying all the bills associated of being independent? At 15, I DON'T THINK SO! So I suggest to grow up and man up and start by talking like a civilized person towards your mother, did you ever think at least once of her problems.? I think not vuz you're so focus on bad mouthing and bashing her.
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IMO Adviceman49 has given the best answer but I say also try and catch your mom when she's in a good mood and have a private chat to her and let her know how she's making you feel. She might not actually realise if she's wrapped up in problems herself or it is the menopause. If she realises she's hurting you she may just seek professional help herself and talking may just help your mother/daughter relationship.
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Don't run away! that is deffinatly not the answer. i say you get a box or safe with a lock that has a combo that noone knows. that way if someone wanted to steal your money they couldn't. and for your mom what she is doing is wrong but the only thing you can do is wait until graduation and then your off to collage. i am your age and can relate to the situation and runing away from your problems never works.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
Let's take this one problem at a time. Stashing money never works as someone will always find where you hide it. Confrontation never has a good outcome as you are in actuality accusing someone of something even if you have no proof. You confronted your mother, what proof did you have.
Mark this up to a learning experience. Now go out and by a strong box or a small safe with combination lock to store your money and valuables in. This way if someone wants to steal from you they will have to physically break something to get at it.
Now as to moms' emotional abuse: It is almost a right of passage for teenagers and their parents not to get along. There are a great many teenagers that feel as you do. This is not to say you are wrong or that I don't believe you. There is every possibility that you mom is emotionally abusive to you and your father as well giving reason as to why he won't step in. Being emotionally abusive to you is a form of child abuse.
Is this something that has just recently started? If so it may be for hormonal reasons due to the on set of menopause. Menopause can come on as early as mid to late 40's and can be just as bad as puberty when it comes to hormonal imbalance and the problems it causes. If this is a possibility talk with dad and your sister and see if you can get mom to see her doctor. There is medication, hormone replacement therapy that can help her.
If this is not something new than you have another choice. As I said emotional abuse is a form of child abuse, just make sure that your sure this is what is going on. If your sure of this then go to one of the teachers you trust, your guidance counselor, or your school principal. Tell them what has been going on between you and your mother. Expect to be asked numerous questions. By law once you ask for there help they must make a report to child services.
Running away will not fix the problem. In fact it will only make it worse and you will have a juvenile record as a runaway. You don't need that problem. My solution of asking for help at school is the better way to handle this problem. Just be sure of what is going on at home.
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what kind of advice is that? running away wont fix anything dumbass. Anyway,Mike please dont runaway, if anything talk to your older sister about her getting an apartment and you getting a job to help pay rent. try talking to your mom too. but running away isnt the answer. good luck sweetie<3
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run away
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