My names Sam and I live in Georgia. I feel that I give good advice or I wouldn't be doing this. Sometimes I'm feeling sympathetic but a lot of the time I can be kind of blunt. That doesn't mean that I don't care, it just means that the truth isn't always what you want to hear. If it's a complicated question, about relationships and such, please IM me its a lot easier to work out that way. If you leave one in my inbox it will most likely be responded to by a question and a shot in the dark so include as much info as possible.
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I had asked a question about denial..and I thought I would elaborate to make it easier to comprehend the question. Just for your knowledge and information, I am a 14 year-old girl. Someone was saying I have muscle tone in my cheeks and I was like what!? Then he said "Denial is the first stage?" What does this mean? Thanks! (link)
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its just a saying. It means that if you deny something then you probably did it and are just avoiding the subject.
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I'm 13 and i'm havin a lil bit of guy trouble.Ok there is this really cute guy i know but we havent really seen much of eachother.Well the thing is when i was in 3rd grade i really liked him but then i moved when i was starting 4th so i never got to really talk to him again.Now it's summer '04 and im goin to start 8th.So one night i was stayin at my friend's house and he had told her to call well we were havin too much fun to call him so she gave me his sn and we started talkin to eachother online.It turns out that he liked me in 3rd grade also so he asked me out & i sed ok but then we broke up cuz we weren't sure if it was going to work out.But he always asks me how my love life is so the other day when i asked how his was he sed bad so i just went ahead and asked y is it....he answered cuz i broke up with you.is that really believable????He has also been talkin to one of my other friends and telling her that he likes me and everything but i don't know if he really does or not.I mean i kinda like him since we've been talking to eachother but does he really like me too?plz help. (link)
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If you like him then just say, well do you want to hook up then, thats the easiest to the point way to find out if he's serious or just messing with you. If you don't like him that much then just say, sorry im not that interested any more.
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i just got my report card!! it suks!! in maht i got a D3B and a D in the final exam and for the final grade i gotta D 2!! i got an F on the social studies final exam 2!! my parents are gunna c it wut do i do?!?!?! ahh!?!?!?! there gunna be mad they always want me to do better in school i will but this report card it wuz too late. wut do i do? i miyt just have to deal with the long annoying speech but i dont want to!! this suks!! try n help me sum how pleaz!! ah!! help!! (link)
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too late. Just be honest. I would just say yeah the grades are low, It's too late to do anything about it now. I do care about my marks though and I promise they will be much higher next report card.
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What would you do if you found out when you and your boyfriend broke up that one of your good friends went over to his house and they ended having sex and when you asked both of them about it they said no...then the next time you asked they tell you that they did and how sorry they are and they wish they could take it back... Please help me im really hurt about this because it happend just 2weeks ago and i found when i was back together with him..?.. (link)
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Well it was over so what can you do? I admit it's a little insensitive, but at least they admitted it to you. How much can you ask for. You can't say that you don't want to be with him and you don't want him being with other girls either.
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here i go:
okay my best friend...."Nancy"....well we have been friends for about 3 years and well we have a lot of fights about stuff!! we just recently had a fight and she said "we have 2 many fights" and she hasn't been talkin 2 me a lot usually she is the one approachs me and says "hi" but now i'm sayin "hi" only she won't talk 2 me!! i said 2 her okay u wanna b like that fine so i haven't talked 2 her!!! what should i do?? she is gettin on my nerves and she is actin like a child, i am 2 mature for this kind of childish behavior!!! Lemme Kno!! :)
xoxo,
.*.BeSs.*. (link)
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If you just had a fight she's still mad. Give her some time and hope she doesn't find new friends. In a few weeks she should be over it and try to figure out a way to hang out together, but with other people there too. You should have some time to talk somewhere in there and things will get straightened out.
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do girls like a guy to be to sensitive or not sensitive at all (link)
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I'm not a girl but this is the best advice I can give you. They like a semi-sensitive guy. Mostly a guy that can show them a good time, keep them laughing, and that they feel secure around, but if someone is saying stuff about them or messing with them, you need to be able to stand up and make sure that they know you won't stand for people treating her like that. Also, being insensitive isn't too bad most of the time, but with things that are really serious you need to act as sensitive as possible. Deaths in the family, Illnesses, and times before long seperations.
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if i am going to have sex with a girl that it is her first time how do i go about it with out hurting her? should i just go slow? (link)
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First off make her comfortable. The more she wants it and the more comfortable she is the more the muscles down there will relax. I thought how tight a girl was had to do completely with how many times she's had sex, but that is only a fairly small part of it. I recently had sex with a girl and was her 7th, shes probably had sex 20-25 times in the course of about 10 months, which is a fairly large amount, and she was really tight, I found out later it was because she was kind of nervous and more caught up in the moment than actually horny. Then later that month we were messing around on her bed and she was really relaxed and really really really..... wanted to do it, and she was pretty damn loose. Basically what I'm saying is that lubricated condoms, going slow, and fingering before will help a little, but the best thing you can do is make sure she's comfortable, relaxed, and positive that she's doing the right thing.
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OK, well, I wear glasses. I can see without them but not very well. THe thing is, how am I supposed to have sex with glasses on? Wouldn't it be a bit awkward? For those who wear glasses, do you just take them off or do you leave them on? ANy advice is really appreciated!! (link)
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There really isn't much to see. Sex is usually in a semi dark place. Its more about feeling than looking anyways, I know if when im having sex if a girl just stares at me it makes me feel kind of awkward.
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Well I'm going withtwo guys at the same time!!I love both of them and they don't know bout each others presence.But the thing is that I don't want any of them to come to know!!Could u plez advice me on how I can go out with both of them at the same time?? (link)
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I found out the girl I was dating was doing something similar. It really made me mad. I told her I couldn't see her until she made up her mind and in the few days in between I ended up hooking up with another girl. If you don't make up your mind as soon as possible, in the next ten minutes, you could lose both of them. Just remember, if you love them, then some other girl thats not seeing another guy could too.
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i kind of like my friends ex boyfriend. i would never ever do anything wiht him but i felt that becasue she was my friend i shoudl eb honest wiht ehr and let her know how i feel. She freaked out adn started yelling at me adn even when i tried ot explain that i didnt want to liek him its jsut somehting oyu cant help and that i would even block him off my buddy list if she wanted me to she still was really amd or something. was she right to be mad? and should i have jsut kept it to myself and not told her? also is there anyhtign i cna do? (link)
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It depends, if your friend broke up with him, then she probably doesn't want the guy back in her life for some reason or another. In that case just try to make time for both of them but independently and don't always tell your friend when you are going out with the guy, but make sure that you make plenty of time for your friend so she doesn't get worried or upset. If the guy broke up with her, then she is probably a little upset. In this case you should probably get with him anyways, because if you wait til she's over him and then get with him then it will reignite feelings and make her jealous again. Just explain that you like him and that you don't want your friendship to suffer as a result of it.
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Hey i just got back from a vacation and i met this really great guy well anyways he was so cute and i never got his email or anything. i dont kno how to get over him any advice? should i try to find him with the info i kno or give up? (link)
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You could probably find him in a phone book, I doubt you will be able to keep up a standing relationship with him, but you could probably have a pretty tight friendship. Just let him know that you are interested in hooking up with him the next time your in town or where he is.
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ok this is mainly for guys but i want to know what girls think about it too.
why is it ok for guys to check out girls and the guys excuse is "its in their genes" but if they find out that their girlfriend checks out a guy then they get all mad and jelous? its not ok if a girl does it but if a guy does then its just normal for them to? girls get hurt a lot easier then guys do... (link)
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It is instinctual for guys to check out girls. I mean technically we are all animals and guys are always looking for a woman. It's not ok, but we just kind of have an urge to look, its just curiosity. Girls can do it if they want as long as they make sure that the man in their life knows that he comes first. Also, girls don't get hurt easier than guys do. I get hurt all the time and Im a guy, guys just usually hide it or express it in anger while girls talk about it and get depressed.
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There is this guy I like and he likes me too. The problem: My parents are very strict and dont want me to see him (im 16 and he is 21). Do I continue with the relationship or back away? (link)
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thats a pretty big age gap. Do you think he could really be interested in more than sex? i mean your 75% of his age, its like a 16 and a 12 year old. Kind of creepy.
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can u get pregnant if u hav sex on your period?? (link)
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yeah, but damn, whyd you have to bring that up, thats pretty weird
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This questionis for the guys to answer:
I cant figure out what I am doing wrong....Im 17/female, 5'8", nice body, tan, Im not ugly (this is just f.y.i) I love sports, I consider myself to have a great personality and I dont act fake or anything. The thing is when Im in school guys never seem to notice me. What should I do or what am I doing wrong? (link)
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You should probably try to be more flirty. You describe yourself as almost too perfect, don't start getting an attitude and talking down to people though. Guys will notice you, if you see a hot one and your all up on him, he will respond, probably pretty good, but you might find out that your not as good looking as you think you are.
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ok this guy i liked mite have tickets to a concert of this band i just found out about that i like a lot...ne ways i wanna try to get him to like me so maybe we can go to the concert together....help please this means a lot to me! (link)
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Damn, your just flat out admitting to using him. Why does it have to be about you. Maybe he doesn't even want to take you. If I were him I'd already have some girl going with me that was gonna use the concert to get closer to me instead of the other way around.
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what is first base second base and third base..? not baseball eather! lol like kissing and that stuff
thanx!
xoxo-aSh (link)
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Theres always some controversey over that. Personally I use the 4 F's, French, Feel, Finger, F-sexual intercourse
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Hey i have a few questions. ok 1st of all lately alot of people have been telling me it seems like i have a low self esteem and im just now seeing that i do when it comes down because i always care about what people are going to think or what there going to say about me.I dont know this just started and i wanted to know if you could help me stop being like this.and 2nd of all i had this one best friend i mean we were always together and did everything and everyone even thinks were sisters but i messed up her friendship by doing something with her boyfriend and now she hates me and calls me a hoe and all this other stuff and i dont know what i can do to make her forgive me cause were going into high skewl this year and i dont know what im going to do i know i should have thought about that before i did that with her boyfriend.but i just wanted to know what you would do if you were me.?.Ok and now my last one. i had sex when i was 13 with the guy i have been with for 15 months now and i really do love him. but ever since i had sex people call me a hoe and all that but i dont think i am and i know im not cause isnt a hoe someone that does it with everyone? cause hes the only person i have done it with so i dont see how im a hoe. i mean yeah i kissed other guys and get finger but i still dont see myself as a hoe.So i dont know what to do.Please help me!!! I also wanted to know how far other 14 year olds have gone.so please write me back.Thanks! (link)
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I know many girls who have had sex. Most of them didn't start until they were 15 or 16 but some of them made a lot stupider decisions that a boyfriend of over a year. When I was 14 I had only fingered a girl, but now im 15 and im not a virgin, I've only had sex once, and I regret it an incredible amount. I do know another girl who had sex at 13 though. Its such a young age to be doing that. Anyways. I personally don't think anybody is a ho just beacause they've had sex. A ho is someone who can have sex without even caring about their partner, before and after. As long as you care about the person your doing it from your heart and not just for the pleasure of doing it.
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My 14th birthday is comin up soon and i want to get my belly button pierced for my birthday because i have a nice body and with my belly button pierced, it would look really good. My parents said i couldn't get anymore piercings cuz i already have three piercings on my left and right ears and one more piercing on the top of my left ear. I really want my belly button pierced and i dont know how to convince both of my parents to let me get it done. Can someone please help me out lol? One more thing, if anyone would like to tell me how you get your belly button pierced like how they do it and etc, that would really help so i can show my parents and maybe they would let me get my belly button pierced.
Thanks (link)
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Personally, I don't like the way they look. If a girl has a really nice looking stomach, then why go and put a metal ball, wring, etc. through it. They are a huge turn off to me and I think they look kind of trashy. I'm one of the very few guys who don't think they are really hot (about 15% im guessing), but personally, we're the better guys anyways. If you do decide to do it though, it will probably hurt a little, and it might get infected, most that i've seen do at least a little at first.
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im the jelous type and my bf and i got mad at this one girl for the same reasons and we both used to be best friends with her, but now hes not really mad at her. he says hes just happy to ignore her. but i have a feeling that they're going to be friends again because they go to the same school and i dont. i trust him...but also i think im going to lose him. he told me he checks out other girls and all and then he wonders why i think im going to lose him. i love him so much and i just cant help being jelous, but i dont know if i should talk to him about it or not. (link)
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He probably still likes you, though not as much as you wish he did. I know that no matter who I'm with I always check out other girls, nothing serious, just looking, it's only human nature, but if I'm really into a girl, she's the only one on my mind. Tell him how you feel, try to hang out with him more, and most of all make sure he's happy. Maybe he feels a little weird around you too.
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