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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance. (link)
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It should not matter to you any more. You two have separated. It's okay to care about her, but what she does in her spare time is her business and her's alone.
Kissing is innocent. And when ever she has oral with other guys, as long as its consent it fine. It's none of your business.
Also, please stop using words like 'slut' and 'whore' that's really offensive and girls hate it when guys use the words, around us or not.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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a couple months ago I stopped talking to my best guy friend.it's because two girls I used to be friends with hate me, and he has a huge crush on the one of them so she was able to turn him against me. My friends say what he did was wrong, just believing her over me. His birthday is the day after mine andI wanted to send him a text at midnight just let him know that I didn't forget. I don't know if I should apologize or just keep quiet until something happens. But it's already been a while and I really miss him. My friend say no and I kind of think that I should have but then I want to. And if we do become friends again that I'm going to have to worry about them still talking to him. What if it doesn't go right because they are still friends with him. I really don't know what to do and I really miss him and none of us like each other. Help? (link)
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I would text him at midnight on his birthday, it will show him you care, I would talk to him, be honest with how you miss him and apologize. Honesty doesn't hurt. Good luck and I hope you get your best friend back.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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Okay long story..
So I've always had a small crush on my best friends brother and I found out about a year ago that he likes me back. The problem is my friends all make fun that he likes me and they always tell me never to date him. So for the past year I haven't done anything about it and then I recently entered my first relationship with a guy I really like. (I'm 14) I thought all the stuff with the other guy was over, but it isnt. All his friends keep telling me he likes me and I see him almost every day. He's so sweet to me and always tells me things like "Hunter (my boyfriend) is a lucky guy" and "You look beautiful today"!! My boyfriend, however, is so shy that he never compliments me, has only held my hand once (We've been dating for 3 months) he never flirts with me or hugs me. We hang out a lot and I really really like him, but I dont know if I want to wait for him to make a "move." I really want to progress our relationship, but I don't want to scare him. I don't know what I should do about my best friend's brother either. Help me!!! (link)
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ok so you and your boyfriend have been dating for a few months now, first relationship. But- another guy likes you. Well, I would ask yourself. Do you like this guy? If so how much? Are you willing to end your relationship for him? I would make sure of where your feelings lie with both guys at this point.
Now let's talk about the boyfriend part.
I'm your age and I got into my first relationship this year. He and i liked each other for a while now, and i had NO idea when he was going to make a move. He seemed really interested, flirted with me and showed he really liked me. So i kissed him at a very sweet and nice time.
You say your boyfriend isn't being really warm, touchy. That can be a little troubling. I would talk to him. Ask him: Hey do you like where things in our relationship is? I would be honest, ask him if he really likes the relationship.
Just be honest and initiate the conversation. I hope things work out well, Good luck!!
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I'm a 20 F and he's a 36 M. I'm cognizant of the age difference--my parents have the same one. I work in a drug store, not an office or anything, and I'll be leaving the job in several months.
Anyway, we've worked together for three years and I've liked him for almost the whole time. He was always rather distant with me but when I came back from school this past semester he started acting different.
He teases me constantly. He mocks my voice when I say something; ANYTHING and smirks at me when I whine about it. He puts price stickers on me, stands in my path so I'll push him out of the way, etc. We weren't very physical up until recently. Now we try to trip each other, he (gently) poked me in the kidney, and he did the same to my arm. If I stand on a piece of paper he's trying to get off the floor he'll bend down and grab my ankle to pull it up, and I grab him for balance.
He mimics weird tics I have, like pressing my nails together and rubbing my stomach. I kick at his feet when he does and he steps lightly on my toes.
I started texting him a few weeks back. Nothing pushy, just initiating conversation. He talked a bit at first but now he's starting to really open up and the past two days he started the conversation with me. We texted for six hours last night and made plans to go to the movies together.
We went to the movies last weekend with another coworker and it was good. Nothing happened, of course. But he offhandedly mentioned he wanted to see a movie and I said 'Movie date!' and he replied "you want to go??" I said sure and asked if we were inviting other people. He said we could but I said 'ehhh, they smell, though' and he agreed and said "well then, just you and me."
There have been other isolated incidents over the years. Last year before I left for school I was sitting in a room that bridges the store to his office. I was on the counter and he was passing through and I made a teasing comment that I was almost as tall as him. He's 6'1" and I'm 5'2". He stepped close to me, almost to my legs, and smiled, shook his head, stared right into my eyes, and said, "No, you aren't."
The only other major incident was also before I left for school. We were going into the office where another manager was and he was kicking at my feet or something. She threw the door open and said, "Why don't you two get it over with and date already!" I was sort of flustered because that's what I wanted so I only managed to mutter something about killing him if we were to date. And he didn't get uncomfortable like I figured he would. He laughed but didn't say anything.
So didn't know what to make of that... I don't know if he thinks of me as a friend or if he's actually interested in me. (link)
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That sounds a lot like a guy who has a crush. One time I wsa sitting at lunch (high school) and this guy (who i was starting to like at the time but wasn't sure) grab me from behind so i would squeak. I wasn't sure what to make of it, he's not a real touchy person. and then i found out we liked each other, he's my current boyfriend. It sounds like your boss likes you. I would go for it, just be careful :) have fun and good luck!
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So this may seem silly, but I've spent the last few months getting over a 5 year relationship and everything seems to have changed in the dating world.. Feeling old >.<
I've been seeing this guy for about 2 weeks now (we got to know each other on online dating website for 1-2 weeks prior to that), we've been on 5 dates, and he's coming to my place this Saturday evening for diner. He's been here before and we've had a few intimate makeout sessions on our most recent dates, and we've mentioned sex in passing in previous conversations, but also briefly mentioned waiting for 'the right time'. We've both mentioned that we really like each other and that we'd like to keep seeing each other since the first official date. We've touched on exclusivity but it hasn't been a full on topic. Whatever, I don't really care at this point.
Finally, the actual question: Is it weird for me to ask him if he wants to stay over, without specifically 'asking' him to have sex. As in, I would not be asking him to have sex, but just to sleep over. I mean I wouldn't be totally opposed to it if he tried to make a move, but I don't want to be "that girl" and lead him to think that this happens all the time with everyone, or imply I just want sex. Honestly, I kinda just want the excuse to spend the next day with him before I go on vacation for 2 weeks.
It may also be relevant that I've only ever been with one person before (the 5 years guy was my first and only).
-Female, 24 (link)
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To be honest. I would just straight up ask him if he wants to spend the night. Make your intentions clear that you don't want to have sex yet. Just be honest.
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I'm Male, 19 years old. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 16 months. We're both virgins. Lately, since I started working, I've had the temptation to just go out and cheat. I'm always super horny and fantasizing about doing stuff with other girls. I love my girlfriend and I feel super guilty for wanting to cheat. We never really do anything besides kiss. I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want, and I don't pressure her. But she'll do stuff that hints that she wants to do something, then doesn't do it. Like sometimes we'll be sitting and she'll grab me and/or stroke me for a few seconds then stop. Sometimes she'll put my hand on her crotch so I could rub, but we never go any further. I work at a busy place in nyc, so I'm always seeing and meeting nice attractive girls. I always fantasize on my train commute too. Like everyday. Sometimes I even wonder about calling an escort, but I don't want to mess up. (link)
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Okay, have you can your girlfriend actually talk about moving forward? If not you should do so, make it clear you won't push her to go further. Just make sure you don't come off too desperate or persistent. I will be up to do somethings with my boyfriend, and then one day he'll be a little to insistent, thus making me not do anything. Just talk to her about in a calm and polite way. Communication is key. Now for the "Fantasizing yourself cheating" part, there are two options/theories.
1) You are just horny, because you haven't gone very far with your girlfriend, you're fantasizing about completing those certain acts.
2) There might be an actual problem out of being just horny, so if so i would contact a psychologist for a professional opinion.
I hope this helped you somewhat. I wish you a lot of luck! JUST TALK TO HER!
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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He did not make me feel less pretty than her, I put this on myself. I don't think he knows that I know how she looks like. I don't think he was aware that we went to the same school and that's how I know.
I've been dating this guy for two months now and every time I see her, every time he mentions her, I can't help but compare myself to her. My friends and siblings have seen her pictures and the first thing that comes out of their mouths are, "wow! she's really pretty!" And they look at me and say, "it's okay... You're cute?" And it makes me feel worse about myself.
I know that she worked for a dog rescue, etc and I sometimes feel like he brags that he has dated a Brazilian girl... and that doesn't make me feel any better. He's told me that I'm cute and that I'm pretty, but I can't help but compare myself to her. I keep thinking that maybe he won't like me as much as he liked her or how he maybe comparing me or thinking that his ex girlfriend was prettier.
Majority of the time I'm satisfied with myself and how I look but this time it bothers me. How do I stop myself from thinking this way? (link)
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I've had my moments of "doubt/jealously" whatever you want to call it in my relationship. My boyfriend's ex though, is my best friend. It's normal and expected to feel threatened by someone your partner has had a romantic relationship, but that's in the past. You shouldn't dwell on it. If it really bothers you, you should just talk to him. Maybe he doesn't know that it hurts you. Good luck! :)
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So i deleted his facebook account off my friends and unfollowed him on instagram so i wouldnt see any of his posts esp the one or two with girls. And a few days after i deleted his facebook within a week he deleted my number. Can this mean that he checked my facebook to even know that i unfriended him and got mad so he deleted my number? Because when we were together before and if i turned off wifi while we were in a fight so kinda like blocking him he would be furious and be mad at me. (link)
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He's your ex, you don't have to stay in contact with him. You don'tn owe it to him.
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I am from South Africa 16 years old..I recently lost my virginity last month. So during that month weekly me and my boyfriend would have sex .Since I lost my virginity I never gotten my period, however , every time we had sex we would use a condom AND before he would cum he usually pulls out and gets rid of the condom afterwards.. there was one day when we were doing it and he was gona cum so he pulled out the condom broke ! ..but I don't understand because the condom only broke when he WAS NOT in me anymore ..however just for precaution the next day I took an emergency contraceptive ..and its the 1st of July and I'm still waiting for my period ..I'm afraid to get a Pregnancy test ..PLEASE HELP what do I do? (link)
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Yes there is a chance you could be pregnant. There always is. I don't want to alarm you. it's good you have been using protection and that you took an emergency contraceptive. I would go to the store and get a pregnancy test. Always have to be careful which you seemed to be doing. Good luck! I wish you the best of luck!
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So I got fingered 7 nights in a row by my bf, and I haven't noticed my period in like 2 months and I'm too scared to tell my mom my problem so I'm going to you guys! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!! (link)
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I agree with BoogeyLady. You need to see a doctor. Is this the first year you've had your period? Sometimes young girls can have irregular periods. My cousin had hers for seven months straight. I'm not sure if your boyfriend fingering you is the direct problem but you NEED to see a doctor/Gynecologist. Don't be afraid to talk to your mom, she is there to love, support and protect you. Good luck dear!
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My boyfriend has a 9 year old little sister. I would love to speak to her on the phone someday but I dont know what I would say to her. Any advice? (link)
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I'm going to just assume that you have not talked to her prior to this. If so I would ask her: about her hobbies, her interests, school what she wants to be when she grows up. Nothing serious, but show that you have interest in her. Good luck!
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I'm a freshman , and I've been searching online for good colleges and i just need someone who attended or have seen CUNY : Brooklyn College to tell me is it good or bad ? , and does it have Computer Science ?
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I am a Sophomore in High school, So i honestly cannot help you. I looked it up. CUNY does have Ph.D program in Computer Science. I would just look into it, make some calls and see if it would be something you would want to pursue that particular college. Good luck dear, the future is bright!
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yea that's true. Im just going to create this fake text messages pretending im another girl. If he starts flirting im just going to leave him. (link)
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That\'s a very interesting idea, but why throw him out in the dark? IF you\'re worried about him getting interested in other girls you should talk or just observe his behavior. If he does flirt wit other girls, he\'s not worth your time.
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What are the best EVER birthday presents to get your boyfriend? What present do you think your boyfriend liked better than any other one you got for him?
Anything you can do to help me make this birthday extra special and wonderful after he has had such a hard year would make me really grateful to you!
THANKS BUNCHES! (link)
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Hello! Actually, I have a really cute idea, For my boyfriend's birthday (his first one with me) I got him a "LoveBook" it was a small little book that you can list the stuff you love about who ever you're giving it too. It can be silly and cute or a little more serious. For example I did a name poem in it. You can go to "Lovebookonline.com" Or just google "Love Book online" It's very cute and I HIGHLY recommend it!
* Hardcore-Band-Geek
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She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her? (link)
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She was a Disney "child star growing up" and the exposure from a young age usually corrupts them up to some degree. Growing up on "Hannah Montana" she had to be a certain way and stay looking a certain way. Since stopping "Hannah Montana" she had the freedom to changer; her hair, her looks, her behavior and mostly her music. That power went to her head. I don't know why she's made the decisions she's made, but it does not help her image. That's my opinion at least
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She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her? (link)
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She was a Disney child star. Growing up with that kind of exposure can really wear hard on a growing teen. The fame and money went to her head. Being the star of 'Hannah Montana' growing up she had to play it cool outside and be a certain way. Since finishing 'Hannah Montana' she has freedom.That's usually what affects them the most. I don't know why she's made all of these rash decisions, but it does not help her image.
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but d thing is dat y m i nt getting my periods
although i jst kiss him (link)
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Just going to state right now, You cannot get pregnant by kissing someone. Even if you where to swallow sperm, it would go into your stomach and be digested. You can only get pregnant if you had sexual intercourse. You're fine.
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I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...? (link)
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I'm not sure, it could be genetics. Some times its your ethnic back ground as to why your skin is the color it is. You can to talk to your parents and family and find out about your ethnic background and culture, that could have a role somewhere. It's not a bad thing, just who you are :) I hope this helped to some degree? haha Have a nice day :)
P.S IF you want to be tanner, spend some time outside! haha just make sure you use sunscreen!
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There's this guy that I think is really cool and cute. I first saw him working at this restaurant I go to often and was going to let it go but I recently found his Facebook because we have A LOT of mutual friends and he was tagged in one of the pictures. So I added him and just so I could talk to him I was like "hey you look so familiar and I've been trying to figure out where I know you from did you go to ____High school? and he was like yeah and gave me the year he graduated. so I was like oh okay that's probably where I know you from. Sorry if I came off as a creep or anything lol. and he said its okay :) and that was the end of the convo. now Idk how I could begin talking to him again or if I should even try to talk to again. SO I need advice. should I let it go considering I don't know a lot about him and he doesn't know me at all. or should I try talking to him? I am a 21 year old female and he's 24 (link)
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Well... You could try and strike up a conversation with him at the restaurant and see if there is something there. If he seems interested, message him. DO NOT grab him at a time when he is extremely busy.
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i have been told that i won't be able to get pregnant by the usual way because of PCOS and that i would have to do ivf if i wanted a child. i guess i reacted badly and stormed out of the doctor's office. :( since i am too embarrassed to go back to the doctor could you please help me understand the way ivf works and the whole process of getting pregnant that way? thank you! (link)
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Ok, So i did some research. From what I have read: "The IVF treatment cycle involves taking fertility drugs to stimulate the ovaries to produce several mature eggs. The eggs are then retrieved, along with the sperm, and then the eggs and sperm are fertilized in a laboratory." So it seems that if a woman wants to have a child, but can't create one the natural way you can have them fertilized in a laboratory and then infused into the uterus.
Is it you or your partner who has infertility problems? because it can go both ways. There is a consultation center in LA (you did not specify where you live and or age) where you can go and see if IVF is right for you. Also age could be a factor, but I'm going to assume you are around late 20's early-middle 30's.
You deserve to have children, while I am not an expert in this field, it is worth looking into. I wish you all of the luck in the world, and to a wonderful future of hopefully having children. Good Luck Dear :)
One last thing, You should NOT be afraid or embarrassed to go back to the doctors. They can help!
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