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Periods and fingering, I'm only 12
So I got fingered 7 nights in a row by my bf, and I haven't noticed my period in like 2 months and I'm too scared to tell my mom my problem so I'm going to you guys! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
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First of all calm down things may just be fairly normal as you are only 12 years old. Fingering should not cause you to miss your period as you cannot get pregnant from fingering unless the boy has sperm on his fingers and then the chances are still very small.
You have written so little yet there is a lot I need to cover with you in answering so we will start at the top.
Your period: Being 12 years old I would have to believe you are in the first year or so of your period. During the first years of your period it is not uncommon for your period to be irregular as the hormones released by puberty become related within you.
Stress is another reason why women miss their periods. You don't say how long you have been allowing your boyfriend to finger you. If it has gone on for any length of time and you are stressed out about getting pregnant you can and most likely will miss one or more periods. As I said there is no chance of getting pregnant from being fingered unless the boy has somehow gotten his sperm on his fingers and his fingers go far enough in your vagina for the sperm to find an egg.
Fingering: Let me tell you something about boys your age, having once been one myself. They are the biggest gossips there has ever been and they cannot keep a secret. He has to tell someone, most likely his best friend swearing him to secrecy. That friend tells another and before you know it by the time school opens in the fall you will have a reputation you don't want and will find very hard to live down.
Why are you allowing this boy to put his hands down there? Is this boy your age or older? If he is older or not did he say something like; "If you love me you will let me do this." That is a line many boys use to get their girlfriends to have sex with them. "If you love me you will have sex with me." Proving your love for a boy is no reason to allow a boy to finger you or to have sex with him.
Boys and girls have different definitions of love. A girl’s definition is more like in the dictionary. A boy’s definition of love fits the dictionary definition of Lust. It is not love that they have it is lust and in general once they get what they want it is off to someone else for they have a game they play to see how many points they can score with each girl they date. They get points for feeling a girl up, fingering her and the big prize is having sex with her. They get the most points if she is a virgin which is why so many older boys go for girls your age as girls your age are more likely to be virgins.
Letting a boy feel you up, finger you or have sex with you to prove your love is not a reason to allow or to do so. This type of intimacy is a result of your love for someone and should be reserved for when you are older and more mature. Not for a 12 year old who is battling with the new hormones in her body.
Talking to Mom: Understand one thing about your period your period is not sex it is a bodily function unique to the female of our species. The person who can best answer question concerning problems you may be having is you mom and in some cases your gynecologists.
Will mom get upset if you go up to her and say, "Mom I haven't had a period in two months?" She shouldn't unless she suspects you are sexually active. If you think she will over react and start with questions about whether you have had sex? Then start with; "Mom I need to ask you a question, please understand I am still a virgin but I have not had a period in two months." That should keep mom from thinking the wrong things.
There is probably nothing wrong with your missing your period. As I said in the beginning it happens to girls your age. It has been known to happen where girls your age have had a period or two or longer and then their periods stop for as long as a year. Probably 99% of the time there is nothing wrong. It takes a doctor and a specific blood test to understand if this is normal.
Since you are too young to make your own doctor’s appointments you must go to mom and tell her. Then she can decide when and if you need to see a doctor.
Most importantly after everything I have written the most important things are:
1. Talk to your mother
2. Stop letting your boyfriend touch you as you have let him. If he is more than a year older than you, he is too old for you and wants more from you then just fingering you.
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Honey, I know you won't want to hear this but at 12 you really shouldn't be this intimate with your boyfriend. If this boy really likes you then he should be willing to wait until you are older for any type of sexual activity. You are moving way too fast! You could really end up in a bad situation if you let this go on. I know you feel like you are all grown up but trust me, you're not. I am sure this boy makes you feel special and loved but the truth is boys will make you feel that way so you will agree to sexual acts. Already you are scared that something has gone wrong. You are in over your head here and you really need to talk to your mom! Tell her about your periods and let her get you checked out. I am only saying these things because I am very concerned for you. Please have a good heart to heart with mom! Good luck!
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I agree with BoogeyLady. You need to see a doctor. Is this the first year you've had your period? Sometimes young girls can have irregular periods. My cousin had hers for seven months straight. I'm not sure if your boyfriend fingering you is the direct problem but you NEED to see a doctor/Gynecologist. Don't be afraid to talk to your mom, she is there to love, support and protect you. Good luck dear!
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Hi sweetie!!
Okay,calm down!
Sweetie,you need to tell your mama!!
Your period is very important and your body is not able to have it at this time.
You need to see a doctor or Gynecologist immediately. If you are shaky and dont want to tell your mom about boyfriend,although I dont advise it,just tell her your period hasnt come in a few months
Don;t let this slide,you need to see a Doctor
Be blessed!!
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