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Q: I haven't been answering my best friend's texts or calls since what she did the other day but I might be overreacting so will you please tell me if I think I should've gotten creeped out by this?

We were at the mall and went in to use the bathroom, and we both went in the same stall. I guess they had just cleaned the bathrooms because for some odd reason the toilet seat was up in the women's bathroom. Since it was a women's bathroom I didn't check and just sat down. My butt fell into the water, and then I started a tough time getting back up because I was too short to get my feet on the floor from that position and also my butt was big enough it kinda slightly wedged into the bowl. It was a nightmare! Then rather than helping me, she turned around, pulled her skirt up a little and starting making jokes about using the toilet on me!

That really, really, really gave me the creeps and she did eventually help me out of there...but only after she laughed at me a while, took a couple of phone camera pics of me in my predicament and texted the pics to our friends. So first she was creepy in my opinion, then she was really insensitive, I think. Do you think I am overreacting or being unreasonable about this?

hey
although i have always been the one to say ignoring someone is wrong, in this case i don't think its an over reaction.
you say shes your best friend then y would she take photos and send it to other people it was embarresing enough?
i beleieve you should still act poliet around her, dont act as if you hate her, just keep your carm. go up to her and say something, be direct. then simply walk away. if shes a good friend she'll say sorry.
i can see why you got the creeps dont worry, but she just took it as a joke. is she lesbian or "experimented" with someone befor, that kind of made it more creepier for you.???
hope that helped

Q: What are some really good snelling perfume and body wash that will drive a man crazy by how good you smell? Hahaa nothing to overpowering but something that is really good smelling and will make him be like "awww you smell sooooo good!!!" lol :) and no to expensive eaitherrr! :) thanks!!!!

~Kai

okay this is going to sound strange girls hate this smell but it drives boys nuts (in a good way) look for an idian oil, but only a suttle one. they sell cheap but last for ages. any time i wear it boys always give me complements

Q: Why do all the weird not very attractive girls get boyfriends? I'm in high school and it seems like all the guys like are these annoying girls. They are not even pretty. I just don't understand it. I feel like I'd I have to act differently to get a guy. Seriously, why is this?

this is because they are being who they are, there not trying to be perfect or impress any one else.
dont change yourself for guys they see this a fake and are defentantly not attracted to it.

Q: what jobs can a 13 year old do and if it is working in shops which ones can they work in ?

hey for kids under the age of 14 and 9 months go to family companies like donut king ect .
or even woolworths ( i work there and im under age, you just got to get your parents to write you a letter of consent

Q: If you and a friend were interested in the same guy what do you do? Do you go for it or back off? Thanks!

how much does this guy really mean to you and your friend?
talk about it with ur friend and maybe agree to lay off this guy for a while and if your feelings continue then go for it with ur friends ok.

Q: so there’s this guy that i’ve liked for the longest time - and he likes me too. we’re not going out - mostly because i’m really unsure of wanting a relationship + i’m also really insecure and never really stable about what i want. there would be, and there still are, times that i don’t think i like him... but recently it’s been mainly liking him. anyways, summers in about a month and he just found out that he’s moving... forever.

when he told me, i didn’t know how to react. of course, i was sad but i just stood still for about 45 minutes and didn’t do anything. anyways... point is he’s moving. and we haven’t even kissed - but we both like each other and our relationship means a lot to me. i have the perfect upcoming opportunities to be alone with him, and besides the fear of awkwardness (because we both know what we’re waiting for... a kiss), what i’m mostly scared of is the fact that he’s moving. it’s happened to me before... falling for a guy and he leaves and leaves me so broken for such a long time. and i don’t want my summer to be a sad one. obviously, whether or not we start a relationship now, i’ll still end up hurt either way because he’s leaving. i’m just scared that if what we have gets any better than it is already... it’ll make me fall harder.

for the longest time i’ve been trying to figure out what i want:
a. to have it better than i do now and expand our relationship BUT get even more hurt when he leaves
b. keep things the way they are now, still get hurt at the end, BUT not as hurt as i would be if i chose option A
c. push him away, distance ourselves so it’ll hurt less when he leave (but this is debatable because i might regret)

i just don’t want to regret anything but i also don’t wanna get hurt in the end.
what should i do?

okay forget about 'hurt' when he leaves. Have a good time when hes with you and make alot of happy moments. When he leaves you will only have good memories to fall on. You guys can still talk and be friends once he is gone so it doesnt have to hurt so much.
hope this helps
:)
xgabiiex

Q: what do girls like a guy to wear

okay this is going to sound taky but girls like guys with there OWN style. just dress in what makes you comfortable. no point you going around looking like an idiot pulling of someone elses look. if you need help on finding your style look at what sports you play your favourite colours the type of music you like ect .it helped me find the clothes im into.
btw if its a date go casual just with the little extra effort. ;)
gabiie

Q: What does it mean when you dream of meeting a celebrity and they're so nice to you but they're so mean and rude to your sister that they are sad and miserable?

Not sure if it means anything but that was my sister's dream and I'm just very curious =/

this is the webstie i use to interpret my dreams
hope it helps
www.dreammoods.com

Q: I have a simple question that could have a lot of answers. What is a girl's favorite scent on a guy? Specifically, please.

okay specific, my boyfriend wears John Varvatos and i love it , even my friends tell me he smells nice lol.
other good ones are
HM by Hanae Mori
Calvin Klein's Obsession
Cartier's Declaration

Q: well im 15. and i had sex for the first time. im wondering..could i be pregnant? i mean..i havent gotten my period yet..so..idk..could i be prengnat? thanks.

okay first ask: did i use contraception? When was my last period, How regular are my periods? ect
ok some signs of pregnacy are:
Morning Sickness
Breast Soreness
Headaches
Bloating
Vaginal Discharge
You may want to consider the pregnacy test or blood pregnacy test.
good luck

Q: wat is mastaurbating?!

ok, so masturbation is when a person feels sexual tension and has an urge to releave it without having sex

Q: what does it mean for a girl to "put out"?

Usually the expression "put out" or "puts out" means a person gives out sex. He or she, usually referred to when speaking of a female, has a reputation for having sex on a first date or often, and not with the same person.

Q: this can get tricky so listen carefully.
okay, i am bisexual and i have a gf, i love her but i would rather be with a guy. but she doesnt know it yet. meanwhile i like this guy in school and he is so cool, i would love to get with him but i dont know how to tell my gf that i would rather be with him. later in life my ex-girlfriend calls me saying she loves me and she wants to go out with me.i told her i was bi, and also i would rather be with a guy but she does not want to accept that, she is crying saying why cant i be straight and stuff like that. I am so confused right, i dont know if i should stay with my good looking gf, go back out with my ex-girlfriend who could help turn me straight, or go with the guy i had in mind??? i really need ya'll help this is sooooo confusing!! if it helps i am 15 yrs old. i would rate really high if you give me a good answer!!!

hey
okay to start off with im not bi but i have many friends who are, dont go back out with your ex-girlfriend just because she could help turn you straight. First because you would be using her and second because true feelings are not there, anymore.
It seems asthough the girl you are with now, you still have feelings for.If you breack up with her you may feel regret later; but this should not stop you from being with the one you WANT to be with, the guy.
Tell your girlfriend you still care for her, but you care for someone else aswell.
good luck hoped this helped

Q: 19/female.

I'm just wondering if any of you girls have had GOOD outcomes of sleeping with a good/best guy friend of yours that you were sexually attracted to? What was it like - was it weird, was it uncomfortable, was it great? Are you still close friends, or did it ruin your relationship?

Just a thought for me to dwell on, i've head people say DON'T sleep with your best friend, it will just ruin the relationship so i'm curious to see if any of you girls have had good experiences. thanks!:)

I have had much experience with the topic related to this question, you may get emotionally attatched to him, and later on when he has a girlfriend you may grow jealous, keep things at a friendship level, if feelings do develop on both sides, you may want to consider a relationship.

Q: if a girl likes me how would i know

if a girl likes you
she'll make eye contact,smile, laugh, enjoy your presence, hug you ect.
But some girls are shy; and need you to make the first move befor you can really know if they like you. say hi, walk up to her and her friends and start joking around (dont be to cocky) be poliet.
If the girl has never dated anyone before, you may recieve some mixed signals, don't worry, just attack it as it comes.

Q: I need to now some good books for school [ 7th graders] the genre fantasy or historical fantasy

when i was in year 7 i read "Tuck Everlasting" by Natalie Babbitt (Fantasy). Still to this day i love that book.

Q: My younger sister has always straight A's on EVERYTHING. While I on the other hand make A's through D's. I never used to make anything below a C+ but this past school year was hard for me. I had other responsibilities that distracted me from my school work and deprived me of sleep. I used to stay up for hours every night doing my homework and projects. School owned my life. Ive NEVER seen my sister do homework, study, or do ANYTHING school related. And when it comes to common sense, she's pretty stupid. My parents are disappointed in me and always compare me to her, and I hate it. I think there's something wrong with me thats making it so much harder for me to learn. I always zone out after a while, or take much longer to realize things that most people get RIGHT AWAY. My parents say Im a failure, even though i havent even failed anything yet. Something is wrong with me because my GPA has dropped tremendously. Any suggestions?

Its great to see you WANT to learn. Dont let words get to you, do YOUR best and gradually your grades will pick up.
To focus more in school try things like:
- Sitting with someone your unlikely going to be distracted by.
-Making brief notes during class (will help study)
-If no homework is given take this as a time to study.
-make a time table, this helps planning your time; make sure to include lesiure time ;)
With your parents, let them know your doing your best; show them your acheviements and your progress.
good luck

Q: So i met this guy, and by his looks he is definitely not my type. Infact, i dont go for guys out of my race. (He's still half white though). But he has an amazing personalility, all the qualities of a guy im looking for; he's beyond perfect. I want to ask him out, but the looks are bothering me. I know looks have nothing to do with anything, but even though i like him, i dont think i could do anything physical with him like kissing. Do you think its just because its in my head? And do you think a relationship can last even though you arent sexually attracted to them? Do you think i should just be friends or go for something more?

For a good healthy relationship, you need some physical attraction and plenty of mental attraction. The fact that you aren't 100% sure, is a bad sign; if you dont see yourself with him them you probably better off as friends. You have given this guy a chance which shows you are not shallow, but you have to ask your self : Can i see us together? Can i overcome this physical barrier?......
Good luck

Q: Ok, so i recently had a HUGE fight with my best friend. (Sorry this might be long) Well she was at my house and she was on facebook and she made her status "F*****g around with molly (Molly made me put this as my status grandma)" i didn't realize she was making a joke so i asked her to change it. then she got mad and i got mad, and she has stopped being my friend, along with calling me nasty names, and saying that she has been wanting to say that for a long time, she seemed like a true friend before so i don't know whether i should believe her, she also said people were talking about me behind my back, but i don't know whether to believe her or not because she has lied before. i have tried to talk to her and apologized already but she won't take it. She lies and says that she tried to talk to me casually when that "talking" to me is really just telling me that no one likes me and that i am a horrible person. I really don't know how to deal with her, she is pulling others of my friends into the situation and lying to them to make them hate me. I try to ignore her, but she just tells her mom that i have been insulting or being mean to her so her mom confronts me about it, and i have been taught not to argue with adults so i just go along. I really don't know what i can do, i am losing my friends like polar bears are disappearing, and i don't know what to believe, i am sooooo confused. Is there any way i can get her back on my level, or get her to be my friend again, and has anything like this happened to you? And, why do you think she is exploding like this all of a sudden? Why do you think she made such a big deal out of her facebook status, when she almost never made a big deal out of anyhting before?

Thanks!!
Molly

i have been in this situation many times befor.
If your friend is being nasty and unforgiving, let her be; if you comment back or let it get to your head it will make matters worse; but saying this dont let her push you around and make you uncomfortable. It may be a good idea to mingle with someone else for a while that makes you laugh and be happy. Casually it will stop; until then if she continues to bag you out and lie say "and! what are you trying to prove." then simply walk way, be the bigger person; and dont get caught up in drama.

Q: So, I've been friends with this guy for three almost four years, he and his friend are my two best friends in the whole world. Well, I broke up with my boyfriend for a year and I recently started liking this guy again, I liked him before I started dating my ex. Well The other day we were hanging out I was playing with my sisters phone and I read a text from him that said he liked her [I know I shouldn't be snooping] I got really sad but I was dealt with it. Well two days later me him and our other best friend went up to an amusement park because they both got jobs there and one of them had orientation. Well we waited for an hour for him to finish up and he kissed me. I was so happy. We had a camping trip coming of for spring break so I was pretty excited. Our friend came outside after orientation and caught us kissing! He pretended like he didn't but he told me later he saw us. Well I was so happy I liked a guy and he liked me too! :] Well the camping trip came and we shared a tent and while I was falling asleep he woke me up and asked me out. I was so excited. When I got home I went and told my sister. She laughed so hard then said "He's a slut he kissed me like three days ago." I had never been more upset, but him asking me out counts for something right? Well since then everyone has been giving me crap about it. He came over and my brother came downstairs and said. How do you like your sister's sloppy seconds, my mom said she doesn't like him because he kissed my sister then me, and my sister said she doesn't even like him so i shouldn't care. Do I have a reason to care. It makes me so upset :[ I don't know what to do.

the fact that he kissed your sister and then you, is a bad sign. This starts your relationship off on a bad foot, and will cause later problems. Talk to him about it and find were he is on a mental level. By the sounds of things, he isnt ready for a commited reletionship, and you shouldnt start a relationship your not 100% certain of. Remember there are plenty other guys out there, dont waste your tears on just one.
good luck